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I keep trying but my results aren't changing? 2017-08-11 02:17:47 Post No.18609778
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I keep trying but my results aren't changing?
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I am having horrible luck with women. I got really hyped up because I managed to get into contact with a woman on okcupid and things were looking good, she was out of the country in ireland but coming back in the next week. Had been chatting with her for like a week.
Then I get a message from her saying that she met some irish dude and isn't coming back to the states.
Now, I am not peeved at her. I am more discouraged that I just CANNOT catch a break. My dating life seems pivoted on whether or not fate will smile on me or not. I never feel like I am in control of my own dating life. Its always basically just me praying some girl answers my message and then says yes to wanting to date me.
I have actually never had a girlfriend primarily because some sort of fate interjection shits all over my plans.
I am really bothered that relationships are basically just gambling. You just roll the fucking dice over and over and over and over until some girl finally decides to want to be in a relationship with you.
unfortunately I have been rolling snake eyes forever.
Help me understand. Is there even really any skill involved with dating? It seems like as a male, my only chance is just to "carpet bomb" and try to meet or talk to as many women as possible. I hate that idea though because when "carpet bombing" the quality of personality goes down I feel.
Maybe I am wrong.
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>>18609778
Stop taking it seriously and/or focusing on results.
It might not improve your chances, but your failures will hurt less.
Mix things up abit. Turn it into a game.
See if you can get a woman to agree to meet you, using nothing but movie quotes (and post the screenshots on 4chan).
Try to sneak baneposting into a conversation with them.
Create the most ridiculously off-putting profile you can and try to at the very least keep a conversation going.
Tell a woman you'll "trump" them, then elaborate that you'd grab 'em by the pussy.
Spam "ayy bby wan sum fuk?" to a shittonne of grills are see if you get any biters.
Basically, change your end goal. The goal is not to get dates now (but if it happens, then great), the goal is now to have lulz and provide 4chan will screenshots because it will be funny.
Again, it won't increase your chances, but from the sounds of it, it can't hurt them either, and it'll improve your outlook.
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>>18609791
I have never felt more helped and more hurt by advice than I do right now. I feel euphoric right now.
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>>18609778
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>>18610982
>Its always basically just me praying some girl answers my message and then says yes to wanting to date me.
Don't do the stupid games that Anon said above.
Look, I took your quote for a reason: You can't "make" people like you. Either they do or they don't. You don't have control over that. BUT you have control over your own life. You can do things that you enjoy and meet people that are good for you even if they don't put out or are interested romantically. And you need to hang out and interact to meet women.
Also, even if you can't "make" her like you, you can improve your chances. Being thirsty plays against you, a lot. So you have to shift your focus, find things to enjoy about lie and about yourself, and let dating happen. Don't force it. Don't take everything to heart.
This woman was interested, sure, but she didn't sign a contract with you to give you a date. It sucks that she met someone else, but it happens. You have to let it go and meet more people.
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If I'm getting better, and things are getting better, why do I still feel like shit?
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>>18609759
Stop being a fat loser obsessed with her.
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>>18609845
That's not what I was asking.
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You're still you. Change takes time.
Also don't tripfag.
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Greetings Advice,
I want to start by saying I have the next major app idea. This is no joke I am not here to waste anyones' time, including my own.
This is the one to rule them all.
It is so bullet proof and so guaranteed to succeed, people wont want to have it, THEY NEED TO HAVE IT.
My question is which celebrity, entrepreneur or tech person would you personally contact and go to and give a large share of the royalties to as long as they funded the whole project.
Also what are proper steps for getting a patent on the idea.
Please Advise.
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>>18609758
Don't bother. Rich people wouldn't even loan Kanye money when he asked what makes you think they'll help you?
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>so a while ago i started to really like this pure hearted woman. most adorable girl you will ever meet
>I finally grew the balls to tell her. she rejected me but I knew what i was getting myself into so i never felt any anger towards her
>i tried talking to her later that week but got no response so i thought she needed a break from me because i confronted her so suddenly
>This was actually like 2 weeks before i had a big trip planned to california. was there for 3 months
>i come back and see her again but for some reason i feel so empty as if i really want to talk to her again.
>everytime i am near her i assume she doesnt see me and i want to throw up from the fear that i will humiliate her any further
>i want to talk to her so bad but i end up pussying out, ive become an asshole because not only did i unintentionally ruin a friendship but i think i lost connection with her because of my douchebaggery.
>i dont know what to do
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>>18609752
Just cut contact, I guess. I've been hurting for the past 3 years in the same way, but it goes away if you just don't really think about her
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I need help with my girlfriend!! 2017-08-11 02:01:51 Post No.18609727
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I need help with my girlfriend!!
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So im 25 years old and i have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 7 years. She has a daughter with 8 years and i've been the closest thing to a father to her. Her real father disapeared without any worries.
My problem with my girlfriend is that she is really jealous and im the type of guy that loves to please everybody. She doesnt want me to have any female friends wich at first I didnt care and I alienated all my female friends to the point where i have none. Only girls i talk to is either mutual friends or co-workers and even then she sometimes complains about it. She doesnt want me talking to co-workers and 90% of them are woman. I feel stuck and I always tell her that i dont talk to them.I have been feeling like shit because she is always saying she doesnt like me working there. I want to breakup with her and this time for good but i cant help but keep thinking what about our little girl?! Im positive she wont let me see her ever again. And how will the breakup afect her growing and personallity. She's the only reason this relationship has lasted so long. WHAT THE FUCK DO I DO HOW DO I BRING UP I WANT TO BREAKUP WITH HER l?!? And what about my little girl? I dont want her to grow up hating men...
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Im in my last year of high school and 18, and ever since I started high school, I've gotten all As on my grades, except for foreign language. I go to a really good school (Hume fogg) and I've always been pretty smart, I just have trouble in foreign languages and idk why (it's required btw) how do I do this
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Trying to get a Class B CDL in Texas without having to go to the school for 3 grand...
I just picked up a book at the DMV and I just figured I'd study the shit out of it and take the test... Anyone here have any practice tests or anything else that could help narrow down my studying?
Also any tips n hints or any helpful advice for this kind of thing is appreciated. pic unrelated.
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someone do my summer shiy 2017-08-11 01:49:55 Post No.18609685
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someone do my summer shiy
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anyone wanna do my algebra i summer course? or at least give me a boost?
no real reward, id just really appreciate that shit
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Someone wanna gargle a bucketfull of dicks? No real reward, I'd just really appreciate it if OP quit life.
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How do I stop being so self conscious and harsh of myself?
Whenever I fuck up, do a wrong decision or do something cringe worthy, I will review and bang myself constantly for what I did the rest of the day or even for several days. How do I stop this habbit? Even if I analyze the situation and recognize it's not a big deal I will still go on about it in my head. What is this and how do I stop it?
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>>18609668
we ride on the same boat, fuck why do i have to cringe for even not saying hi to a random co-worker?
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Accept that you are who you are and life isn't about others opinions be proud of yourself you've survived for how ever many years you are and accomplished many things important or pointless
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>>18609792
Yep, this
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I'm in a coop doing some sort of full stack web development. I have experience in the arts, so I agreed with my boss to help with some elements of the front end/ui design in the interview with the idea that I'd still be programming for the most part.
However after working here for a bit I've learned that the company seems to be lacking a front end designer, and I'm beginning to fill that roll more and more. This has been making me incredibly depressed, since it's not what I want to do as a career, but I'm having a really hard time breaking away from it.
The developers so far have been creating the front end with almost no direction or planning. No thorough sketching, no wireframes, no prototypes, no style guides, no comps. They wouldn't get real feedback from the client until they made something close to the final product. And since I know how important these things are for developing the front end smoothly, I'm finding it hard to let go and follow the other developers' process instead of implementing these methods myself (especially since my boss is wanting me to help with this sort of thing).
At first I was a bit excited, because I was filling a role that was sorely needed, and could potentially use it as leverage to get an actual job at the company. It's not that I'm doing design related work 100% of the time, I'll still work on some assignments related to client and server side code, however it's not as thorough as it'd be if my coop were completely focused on the programming aspect of things. I might be running the risk of wasting too much of my time doing things that probably won't help me much if I decide to do anything beyond front end development, if that.
I'm not so sure what to do anymore. Should I start playing ignorant so I get more programming assignments vs design ones? Am I doing the responsible thing by helping to fix the team's workflow like this? They might extend my contract to a full year; if they offer should I just decline and leave?
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This is an easily solved problem. When there is silo'd knowledge/experience, you spread it through the team. This involves a process change. First, it sounds like you guys need to change the way you capture and assign work. You should have a card wall with dev tasks broken into appropriately sized chunks that can all be played in parallel. Now normally with card walls you have columns like "Refinement", "Ready for Dev", "In Dev", "In QA", "Accepted", or something like that. The trick here is that you have to get devs assigned to cards in the "refinement" step and require that UI design be done as part of the refinement step, including mockups and maybe even client sign-off. The same dev/pair then walks the card through the rest of the stages until QA gets it. Or something like this. You can fill in the blanks, I don't know your business or team.
tl;dr: You forcefully distribute design work across all devs by making it a part of the regular development process.
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This seems like pretty solid advice, thanks. I need to find a way of going about it though. The biggest issue is that I'm the most junior person on the team, so I can't say what their reaction would be if I were to ask for that kind of change to the process (via something like cards). They also seem a bit reluctant themselves to pick up on the design process, however maybe I can sway them a bit if I can prove how useful it is to do things as I'm currently doing them.
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Went on a few dates (three) with a girl and we fucked. How do I nicely tell her I'm not interested anymore? Also, we haven't seen each other in two weeks and haven't texted in almost a week. Is it already too late to say anything and I pretty much ghosted her? Or should I send a courtesy text just for closure?
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>>18609589
I don't care
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>>18609589
>haven't texted in a week
She's already been with 3 other guys
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>>18609684
Okay, well I could honestly care less. I was just asking for advice on if I should text her to break it off or just ghost.
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If anyone has found themselves and knows how to or wants to find themselves as well tell me.
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Get crushed and and seecwjat remains?
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>>18609563
Generally, when I need to find myself, I look deep down, and from there, I can see my feet, thus finding myself.
If that fails, I know myself, normally hides behind mirrors, so I'll look in one of them.
Finding myself isn't very hard. Hiding myself is.
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>>18609563
Where did you last leave yourself?
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Is it normal to become dumber because of mental illness? I feel like I used to be so much more intelligent and I used to understand things much easier but after I fell into depression and anxiety I feel as if I cannot understand anything and everything is really difficult. I'm not as depressed anymore and I've basically recovered but I feel as if my brain doesn't work as good anymore. When people say things to me it takes me a long time to understand even simple things. Is this normal? What do I do?
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do you get enough sleep? yes being depressed will make you have less clarity
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>>18609555
It is perfectly normal to feel dumber during a period of mental illness - likely a combination of low self worth, low motivation, lack of sleep and brain burnout. (E.g - you are slightly slower but it feels worse than it is).
It is not normal to continue to feel slower *after* healing and coming out of a period of mental illness. See a Doctor, because that implies an actual physical brain injury above and beyond a serotonin imbalance
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>>18609606
Really? I don't know how I could've had a brain injury. I do feel much slower and I'm having a hard time comprehending things even video games. I don't remember how to write like I used to and my grammar/spelling is worse. I used to be able to write essays and things easily but now I'm just lacking the thought for it.
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how to create discipline? I really need to learn new things and dedicate myself to college, but every time I get out of college, I lie down in bed tired, I'm doing math and I really enjoy the course, but I get pretty exhausted mentally, any tips for me to end this?
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discipline is the search for pain, till the pain becomes desperation. Till the desperation becomes the most powerful engine.
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Hey, what's up /adv/ I need some help with a situation I'm in.
>be me
>have crush on girl
>a good 8/10
>I have interest in her and I know for sure that she has interest in me (told by her and my friends)
>want to move from friends to a couple
>don't know how to do that
the problem is that both of us are socially awkward fucks who can't communicate. Whenever we are together with friends around, I always end up doing something stupid and make her uncomfortable.
So how should I move into this? I plan on hanging with her alone this weekend.
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