How do you develop self-esteem when you objectively know you don't have anything to offer?
Manipulate people into thinking you do or go get something to offer.
>>17013036
You improve yourself to the point where you feel you have something to offer.
also as you said yourself
>objectively
>>17013036
Resign yourself to God's will and spread chaos
You will find purpose as an instrument of doom
>Started dating girl
>Know she has a promiscuous history
>Date her anyway cause she's cute as fuck and Im lonely as fuck
>Fast foward 4 months
>Practically everyone including her family is calling her a slut in some way or another
>Close friends and some family warning me about her
>Just now she denied having sex with someone I know before we started dating, even though I know for sure she did.
I know for a fact she's lying, but she keeps denying it. I don't know what my next move is. I don't care about her past, but it's the fact that she's lying about this that's getting to me.
>>17013026
>Date her anyway cause she's cute as fuck and Im lonely as fuck
This is never not a recipe for disaster
>>17013052
>double negative
What's the point of that, other than the fact you're a double nigger?
>>17013026
How do you know that she's lying?
We've been dating for a year now and get along great--same political views, same stance on firearms (love 'em!), on children (gross little money pits), religion, finances, similar enough tastes in weird sexual habits that it's neither boring nor approaching hard limits--but there's an eleven-year age difference between us. This has never bothered either of us although I've gotten negative responses from acquaintances.
We're serious enough to have discussed something more permanent than just dating with each other and our respective sets of parents and they're fine with us getting married, although they think we should wait a bit longer (which we're both fine with doing).
The age difference doesn't matter to anyone who matters to us but maybe we all have rose-colored glasses on...
Anyone want to share advice or opinions about this topic?
>>17013015
Google Dan Savage campsite rule. Depending on how young the younger partner is (Is is 20 and 31? or 40 and 51?) the older partner has a higher bar to clear to show they are not taking advantage of the younger partner. People may judge, and you should not worry about it, but at the same time the older partner should put in a little extra effort to prove that the younger one is safe.
>>17013015
11 years is a little steep and you will really feel that difference in the later years.
>>17013045
It's actually the opposite I think, less of an issue as you get older. Some people are just old souls. Also seems be less stigmatizing when the woman is older. I'm 32 and the last girl I dated seriously was 21. I had to turn down a seriously awesome 16 year old because of the stigma.
Introverts which have gf or had a long-term relationship,
What's your story?
>>17012999
Nice trips
Been married for 20 years, should have stayed single & watched porn
Have to watch porn 9 times out of 10 now anyway
Would have been cheaper & had more time for myself & hobbies
The end
>>17012999
>glued to girl I liked
>friend of that girl did her best to help me get her
>get her
>have a great time with her, love her and have great sex
>lasts 1 year
>she becomes pregnant
>my son is born
>she doesnt feel like playing mom
>becomes a super whore that wants to party and suck random dick in clubs while I work my ass off for our little family
I left her and our son lives with my exgfs sister now.
Got married to a young woman who didn't know any better. Lasted for 5 years, then she realized she could pull out of the top 20% of men who I am not. It was nice to be loved for a couple months, definitely worth the crippling financial losses. I'm lucky though.
Guys holly shit. I just came while I was sleeping. What the fuck do I do?
>>17012988
Have a shower, maybe put on some clean clothes
embrace the puberty
>>17012988
call the police
you've been raped in the night
I'm really racist and I need to get over it.
any help to getting over my racism?
>>17012936
There really is not much to horribly dislike besides Blacks desu
Stop going on 4chan and other sites that feed your hatred
Go outside and talk to people
There's good and bad to be found in every race. Every prejudice I've ever had has been proven right MANY times, and then proven wrong enough times that I've learned not to jump to conclusions about people. Trust your first impressions, but you shouldn't really have a first impression before you've talked/interacted a bit
>>17012936
Maybe date outside you normal sphere
How do you write that you have feelings for her
without making it look like a robot wrote it
>>17012884
Study poetry and practice writing poetry. Poetry is becoming a lost art.
>>17012884
Only betas write it out
Go out and show her your hard dick and tell her you're going to fuck her harder than a Syrian immigrant at a girl scout convention
I already wrote something, but it sucks more everytime I read it again
>Be Mexican
>6'3, light skinned
>8/10
>Have social anxiety issues, extreme introvert
>Never had a gf
However, lately I've pumped up my social skills and I've been a lot better.
I have many female friends who I'm very close and comfortable with.
Though, those are all platonic relationships and they make clear of that.
I don't care anymore. I'll clear the point of this in a bit
Anyway,
>meet girl in Computer Science class on finals week
>cute brown Mexican girl
>introverted as fuck too
>pumped up my alpha game and made her laugh and shit
>this is totally not me but goddamn it felt good
>Facebook friends now
>find out she's a complete video game nerd outcast that totally catches my attention
>literally have essay conversations with this girl about our interests that happen to match in every way >she randomly brings up things I said/did in CS class that she thought it was funny, and says she thought it was funny, though it's not relevant or connected with the conversation
Does she like me?
>feel love for this girl now
>don't want to say shit in fear of rejection
The thing is, with every relationship I had with a girl (as in friends), we get close and comfortable fairly quick. But it's the the point where they don't see the value of being in a relationship, so it stays strictly platonic. I like this girl, though, and I feel we moved from 0-100 really quick.
Will she feel it's too fast and not see the value? Or would she be interested in me due to her lack of social skills and I'm the one she's comfortable with at the very least?
How do I approach this?
Oh, and I forgot to mention that the beginning details of myself are things that are generally attractive to a girl, yet, I never had someone reel affection for me.
Of course, this has to do with social issues that totally kill the physical.
But with the case that I'm being more social, I'm getting friendzoned and I accepted that, I don't care. But I feel the reason this is, is due to the fact we love on too fast.
How do I approach this appropriately?
>>17012894
>due to the fact we love on too fast
I meant to say
>we move on too fast
>>17012883
Hire some alpha beefcake to ask her out for you.
> print out picture of your face.
> put on mask
> he puts it on
> he asks her out
> ?????
> profit
>friends with a guy since high school
>we were both outcasts I was a weeb and he had the reputation for being "bad"
>would skip class, fight and just generally be really strong willed when it came to authority
>we were still pretty close
>grow up
>I'm still 2DPD garbage
>he's still rough around the edges and not on the up-and-up when it comes to social graces
>boxes now instead of fighting all the time
>never seen him show attraction to anyone
>could never really picture him in a relationship with anyone
>confessed to me out of the blue yesterday
>confused as fuck
I don't want this to destroy our friendship, but at the same time, I'm conflicted as hell.
>>17012868
If you can fuck him or be fucked by him pursue it.
If not tell him you are not gay tell him you are not gay.
if you have interest, then I'd say go for it. There is always risk in a relationship between friends. If things dont work out, most likely the friendship will end as at least 1 party won't be able to go back to just friends. At the same time, he obviously has feelings for you right now. If you turn him down, he may not be able to keep being just friends with you now that the feelings are so strong hes confessed.
If you like his as well, try it. If you dont have these feelings, tell him and it's up to him whether the friendship is salvageable.
>>17012893
I've always kind of avoided relationships irl and have been pretty bitter about it in the last. I just stick to porn and make myself not think about being attracted to real people.
A lot of people think I'm gay, though. But I'm pretty sure I'm not. But if I'm honest, it worries me sometimes that I self-insert as the girl in the porn I watch.
>>17012902
That's what I'm afraid of. I'll admit I'm kind of tired of being a hand-holdless virgin, but I don't think he'd just be up for screwing around.
First date ideas?
>under 21
>relatively cheap
>around evening/night
Worksafe board g
damn pham, but just go with the classic dinner and a movie, minigolf, or going bowling maybe?
>>17012864
how cheap?
I am a loner who has no friends and was rejected twice, my parents want me to go to my prom, should I? I hate nearly everyone at my school.
>>17012838
I didn't go to my prom. Hated everyone, sure I could have gotten a date though. Was too afraid to ask anyone.
Not a big deal if you don't go. You'll do cooler things. I ended up joining the military and partying and fucking all the time anyway.
>>17012838
>No friends
>Hate everyone at my school
Don't go to prom, you'll probably be fucking miserable. I urge you to make some friends though.
>rejected twice
Who gives a fuck? I've been rejected about as much as I've had girls who reciprocated.
Talk to a girl for a little while, then see if she's taking someone to prom. If not, then ask her. If you ask a complete stranger (I don't know if you do this but this is 4chan and people here are socially retarded), then you're extremely likely to get rejected unless you are very attractive.
>>17012838
Just go bro, it's a rite of passage and you'll regret it later in life. When you're on your deathbed, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the things that you did. It's just a few hours of your life, suck it up and at least show up.
I have a friend who I absolutely terrible at keeping appointments. He's a great guy and all, but when he says he's going to be coming over at one, he is three and counting hours late.
He messages and tells me he's helping his parents do shit around the house, but I've got a creeping feeling around me that he's passively trying to sod off.
Of course, I'm the type of person who falls for the confirmation bias really hard. What should I do? I don't want to rip on him for being absolute shit with time, because supposedly he does this with the rest of his friends, but I dunno. What can you recommend me /adv/?
Stop expecting him to tell the truth. Then there's no disappointment. The corollary to that, however, is that you also don't make accommodations for him. If he says he's coming over at 1, he's not going to be there at 1 and you don't have to be there either when he does arrive. If you feel like taking a nap at 3 then you answer your door, say "Sorry dude but I'm gonna take a nap, see you later" and close the door.
meeting at 5. he is always an hour late tell him to be there at 4.
Eventually they catch on to whats going on and get better.
>>17012841
Is a dick move a good response tho? Seems like a straight road to ruined friendships
So here is my question. I fuck a lot of women, some my age (late 30s) some are mature mothers, wives etc. During the summer I usually fuck them in the back of my pickup, usually late night after their husbands/kids go to sleep. I like having the pussy I'm licking, eating and fucking clean. Like just showered clean. Now when your fucking someones wife etc, its not always possible for them to jump in the shower before they leave their husbands to go fuck. Over the last year or so I have been using cetaphil to wipe down/up lol their pussy. Just cleaning it up and leaving it smelling fresh. I like using it because you don't need to use water with it, just work it in and wipe if off with a cloth. So my question, have you ever needed to quickly clean up, what is your favorite method?
>>17012819
If not a troll....
You are one of those people that mysteriously disappears and nobody really knows what happened too.
But your a troll
I've never used cetaphil but pretty much everything about your post is making my pussy want to detach itself and go hide somewhere
>>17012835
>>17012892
absolutely not a troll. Simply asking what people use when they need to clean up their junk quickly
So I need advice about MDMA
I bought two hits and it'll be my first time taking it
Should I take one hit or a half? Also how should I consume it ? Also can I drive within 3 hours?
I'm going to be going to a 80's themed club with some buddies and I want to have a good time
The guy said it was 88 pure crystal MDMA
>pic related
>>17012805
your plan sounds bananas
>new drug
>new place
>driving
Don't drive and make sure at least one of your bros can get you home.
>>17012805
What the fuck is a "hit"? Molly is sold by weight homie, and I wouldn't recommend more than like 30mg or so for your first time.
>>17012805
>the guy said it was
Means nothing. Just take one "hit" and have a good time.
Get a milligram scale and test kits if you want to be not too stupid about it.
So a bit of back-story: I am a 26-year old female who grew up with extremely judgemental and unloving parents. In addition to shit home life I was bullied at school because I was the best student in class, and a little chubby. Due to the bullying I developed pretty bad social anxiety and a deep fear of men. Because I was getting no love and support at home I shut off from other people emotionally. I have some friends of course and we are pretty close/everything is good but I've never opened up to them on an emotional level because I just don't know how.
The thing is that I look completely normal and I can fake being a regular person pretty okay by now, but on the inside I feel anxious and like I would rather just be invisible. I'm in great shape now and most people would never guess someone like me as as pathetically insecure as I am. I was in full blown shutin mode in my late teens and like the first year of my 20s. I'm faking a semi-normal life now but I really have to force myself to go out and socialize, which makes new meeting new people nearly impossible.
cont
I've only been in 2 relationships: an online one in my early 20s and a “real” physical one only recently. The real relationship has recently ended due to completely different personalities and lack of understanding, and probably due to my self-esteem and fear of abandonment issues that stem from the lack care from my family. Since I had no real experience with dating or men, I got into a relationship with the wrong guy. A part of me feels betrayed since he said he would love me and care about me no matter what but I realize it's naive and too much pressure for one person. I felt truly happy and accepted for the first time in my life in this relationship but when our personalities started to clash (he's extremely social and outgoing), my problems surfaced and it all went to hell.
Long story short I'm wondering if anyone can relate and provide some insight/help. Right now I feel like the thing that is missing from my life is a romantic relationship but sometimes I think maybe I just need normal connections with people. Do you think I can just date around and eventually find the right person? Or should I try to deal with my issues professionally before I get out there? Would therapy even work or do I just have to go through the coming of age phase which I missed as a teenager and things will fall into place?
Is this even making sense? I'm pretty sleep-depraved.
>>17012750
You need to realize that your story and background are not a big deal and don't define you. My wifes Mother knocked out her retina hitting her so hard, today my wife is a loving mother of 3.
I suggest you avoid the "romance" trap. Make friend and hang out with people even if you don't want to. Eventually you will make a connection with someone. It is usually friendship that evolves into romance. And are the greatest of romances.
>>17012750
Are you me?
I'm 28, and I've had a very similar upbringing. I too have social anxiety/general anxiety like crazy. All my life, I've felt like I can never fully connect with people. I always manage to be the odd one out, especially in a workplace setting. I'm always nice as shit to people too, I don't get it. I'm not a sperg, or at least I don't think I am. Kek
I'd suggest that you try cognitive behavioral therapy. It's helped me, although it's not a magic pill. Are you or have you ever been on an anti-depressant or anxiolytic?
Somehow I managed to get married. But part of me wishes that I could have worked on myself before I met him, it would've prevented a couple of the issues we've had over the years.