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if you change masturbation for sex you will feel the same. And sometimes you will still want to masturbate

If you just stop masturbating, depending on your level of adiction you will feel frustration. You will feel something like a need to chop a tree with an axe or something. You might become good at sports or something... distrations

About social security. No it doesnt have anything to do with it. Just try to improve your conversation skills everyday

>>17124662

people unfortunately are not robots, and doing one thing does not equal another. you can raise twins in the exact same household and they can come out vastly different.

what i mean to say is you might become more motivated. or, like a lot of people on this site complain about, you might just end up sitting around feeling bored with nothing to do.

if oyu want to get the most out of this you have to
>think about what you REALLY want
>write it in a list
>then actually schedule time to make that list a reality.

not masturbating wont magically make you show up at a random bar and talk to a girl. you have to plan a night, write it down, hold yourself to it, know what bar you are going to, and go.

im the most motivated person i know, but when i dont make a list i have no idea what to do.

as for 'socially insecure' stopping your video games wont have anything to do with that. not masturbating may give oyu some testosterone / horny man boost that makes you more motivated to talk to women, but it doesnt magically cure the social aspect. thats learned.

that being said, go learn it. there is no magic button or trick that will make you suddenly 'good' at being social. i think your issue is likely thinking too much about being social. you've already labeled yourself as some lonely awkward 'introvert' (guess what, you're not an introvert) and even when you think you're going out to make a positive step, you do so thinking 'GOD IM BAD AT THIS' instead of just 'I WANT TO DO THIS'.

and that is why you fail.

I know I wrote a wall of text but if you anons could help me I'd appreciate it, bump.

If she didn't seem into it, she might have been doing it more out of obligation, thinking she should since it's prom night.
She doesn't sound that interested. Might have just been making the best of the prom date.

Ask her out

>>17124621
what if it's a man pretending to be a man hating girl pretending to be a man pretending to be a girl?

why is she "man-hating"? i'd point her towards a therapist's website, try to get her into therapy and cut her off. you don't have to tell her you're actually a dude, maybe, just say that all of this is too heavy for you, because it is true.

Just tell her the truth.

its easier than any alternative.

shes already a cunt and blames men for all her problems most likely. so why treat her with any decency

She feels awkward, does not want to reject you and (obviously) doesn't want to have lunch with you.

I'm telling you this before you post your whole conversation, because it's either that or you were unbelievably cringeworthy in asking, resulting in above.


tl;dr; "Learn to take a hint"

Why does that matter? You seem to be insecure about nothing. Do you want to learn another language? Do it. Who cares about the odds of another Chinese faggot speaking it. It's still a good feat to be able to speak multiple languages, and a lot of people can't.

>>17124617

every race has many many many many many fucking people that speak antoher language. there is no man in a cloak in space keeping track of exactly how many and punishing those who are the most behind.

literally no one has ever said
>A CHINESE MAN THAT KNOWS SWEDISH? PSSHHHHHH KILL URSELF FAGGUETTE

no one cares.

>>17124617
Who cares about languages ? Petty people probably. Only maths, physics and your lifts on the big three matter. If you're bad at those, you're not a man.

bumpidty bump

>>17124615

if you want to do it and it wont be a forseeably unhealthy experience, do it.

if you want to do it and it will be a forseeably unhealthy experience, dont do it.

if you don't want to do it, dont do it.

>>17124615
why? for exhibitionism? why not tell them to camwhore?

if you can't defend your political ideology from attack then maybe you should reconsider your political beliefs

what's been a stumbling block?

Well you're on /adv/ so.

My advice is not to debate politics with friends if you want to have friends.

>>17124599
I'm not the one who brings it up its always them

>>17124553
Why do you feel like shit about any of this? You didn't do anything wrong. Just deal with your shit and move on.

Judging by her behavior, someone like her doesn't seem ready for kids anyway.

>>17124578

Well, I mean, the relationship breakdown was just as much my fault as hers. I also am allowed to feel bad about her being infertile even if it was because she cheated on me.

I fucking hope I don't have an std man. That makes me feel bad, that idea.

>>17124553
Are you comfortable telling her that a doctor said that you might have the STD? If you care about her welfare like you said you did it would be good to tell her right away so she can get treated

>>17124552
LOL MANLET Xd

>>17124552
>Is being short that much of a disadvantage?
Some disadvantage is documented, but there is no evidence for the difference being major or insurmountable.

>>17124552
>I see alot of short hate here..what is that all about?
Most of it is just the bitter unfuckables seeking desperately to find something inherent and immutable about themselves to blame for their failures with women. Anything to avoid the idea that they could have prevwnted, or could change it even now.

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>>17124552
>I see alot of short hate here..what is that all about?

Short answer is memes.

Long answer is some men who are short feel very insecure about it. Some celebrities like Robert Downey Jr. wear big platform type high heel shoes to appear taller, and one notorious Hollywood midget would make his ex-wife crouch if the paparazzi found them so he could maintain the illusion of appearing taller than her. Then there's shit like set photos of scenes where the male hero leans in to kiss the girl he's just saved, and he's standing on a box because otherwise she'd have to kneel down. Their insecurity about it and the lengths they go to to hide it is amusing, which popularised it from /fit/ shitting on each other for genetic dis/advantages, and then the manlets themselves jumped on the bandwagon because as >>17124566 says it gives them an excuse for why they're sad and lonely rather than it being their horrible personalities and general retardation.

do your own thing and fuck what people think.

you'll find some like minded people eventually.

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>>17124467
the moment you stop trying to fit in is the moment youll be yourself.

and whatever comes of it will be you.

>implying the scene people follow is black and white
Anon people aren't polarized in one group, they're a collection of different styles. The same way one of those faggots could see you as a fit/jock fag, you see them as hipsters. Sure you might lean a bit more one way but perception is everything. If you want to befriend people I'd say don't make excuses on why you aren't making connections and try to find the small things you do share in commen and don't look at what you don't share in commen negatively because that's the fun of friendship, learning and incorporating each other's lifestyle.

bruh just buy fresh veggies some lean meats..ie chicken etc...chic peas and lentils and stuff the next time you go shopping...just look up recipes and stuff man its easy

Always shop around the periphery of the store, don't eat processed stuff, count calories if you want to lose weight

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>>17124464
My grandma won't buy anything to cock veggies with. I have to get the frozens.

I don't hate you anon. :( Cheer up, I'd give you a hug if I could...

>>17124407
Nobody will like you until you learn to like yourself.

If you can't manage to do this through your own willpower then that's fine, see a therapist, there's no shame in that. The only shame is in giving up.

>>17124407
>depressed, anxious, friendless, hopeless, probably on the spectrum.
You're among friends!


Although, it's 4:30am and I really need to get some sleep, so you're among friends -1.

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Bump?

>>17124327
Do you have any kind of signed contract with the agency?

>>17124343
I think so, I didn't read what I signed. And it was so long ago.

Don't do it. It'll fuck things up in the long-run. Doing this now for some short-term satisfaction isn't worth what it could ruin.

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Do it faggot! Search for your happiness and love

>>17124488
The rational side of me thinks that, but it also is really hard to fight feelings for someone that I know likes me back. The obvious choice would be to cut all contact, but I don't want to because we just graduated college and I will lose her as a friend if I don't keep in touch. The other thing is that I somewhat believe that my relationship with my girlfriend will permanently be like this. We are past the honeymoon stage and I doubt that that feeling is ever going to return. Her fiance is a douche and she's unhappy, so I don't really care about their situation. Also, it'd be stupid to leave my long-term relationship for someone who is married. It's hard, man.

>>17124320
My knees hurt when I get high

How about you stop getting drunk then you fucking degenerate.

>>17124334
Fuck you I love alcohol