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>>17125020
Whats your name?

>>17125026
anon

>>17125032
Just tell me is it Alex?

>>17125008
Nope you've already lost her.

See she's not the only one

She's a giant cunt for kissing her ex

Her bitching about your hobbies is bs

She has segregated you and is feasting on your cash and social life.
Look bro your a gopher trying to date a puma it isn't going to work

You let her get away with to much shit.

Talks to ex ( dumped)

She kisses ex ( dumped)

She bitches about hobbies (dumped)

Lies about pregnancy ( dumped)

I can't kick it with bros ( dumped)

All of this bs just for some tits and good sex

You got your priorities all wrong

This is all your fault for being weak and letting her woe you and trample your dignity and integrity

>>17125008
don't be a cuck mate. theres plenty of other chicks out there like her. You sound young. Cheaters don't change and if she is kissing an ex boyfriend now, she'll be fucking your neighbor while your at work 5 years from now and the kids are at school in the house that you paid for in the bed that you bought. Seriously, have some self respect and punt that bitch to the curb

>>17125008
>The truth is that I think I will never find someone so beautiful and addicted to sex like her

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It doesnt matter about her physical appearance. If you feel she is too good for you because of her looks, that won't help you in the long run.

As you type this out, conflicted, just know this, she IS fucking him. She will NOT stop fucking him. When she dumps you in a few months, she will STILL be fucking him.

She got into a relationship with you and knew what the deal was. PLEASE, PLEASE dont be another man too afraid to stand up for himself when he KNOWS he was done wrong.

I was dumb like you and let it slide when my ex kissed her previous, I regret it. I regret being dumb, but that's done with.

TL;DR: GET OUT WHILE YOU STILL HAVE SOME SENSE

Be smart man, If she wants to kiss her ex? Leave her so she can kiss him full time.

Dont let any tumblrinas tell you otherwise. DROP HER

YOU think you can get away with it. Everyone else begs to differ...
Start with showering once a day and brush teeth twice a day. Wear clean/fresh socks and underwear daily.

>>17124997
If you want to become something. You have to surround yourself with things that you want to be. Be around well dressed, hygienic people. Put soap and multiple toothbrushes in the bathroom you use most to poop and pee. The best way to become hygienic is to be around an individual that is hygienic. They rub of on you with habits and techniques.

>>17125027
That's actually what inspired this thread. My best friend has been living in my apartment this week and his hygiene is impeccable.

Made me jealous (and actually try to keep up with him).

I'm in the same boat you are so I'm probably not someone who should be giving an answer.

But if you don't put in all that work then things will only stay as they are.

I'm a weak person and my odds aren't good, but even if it all ends up horribly I'd rather be able to look back on a life with experiences with other people than a life spent alone.

But to be honest, yeah, I don't know how other people do it.

>>17124973

>is it really worth it

define 'worth it'. it depends. not all relationships are created equal. all relationships end, but if you can go in knowing that then you can enjoy what happens while it happens.

>the massive amounts of wokr is needed just to get into one let alone maintain it

nope. in my opinion if you have to put in any serious 'work' into starting one, then its not worth it. you are manufacturing a relationship. i understand putting effort into going out and meeting people but this should be done in relation to some sort of activity you enjoy regardless of whether or not you meet a 'worthy lady' that night. you cant meet people staying home and reading comic books, but you can meet people going down to the comic book store during their weekly events.

>changing ones physical appearance to completely changing hteir personality.

appearance is worth changing regardless of who sees. call me vain, but i love to look good, and look good to me. but what looks good to me isnt good to other people. i LOVE my messy-esque hair style. but a lot of people give me shit for it saying i should brush my hair. i think it looks best this way, so i maintain it as such. on a slow day at wokr i may go in looking pretty and never once meet a single person that day. and i dont really mind cuz its just nice that when i look at myself in a mirror i can feel proud of that. as long as your looks arent the only thing you care / feel proud about, then its fine.

especially hwen you put in a lot of effort, such as by working out. that goes beyond appearance and goes to just being physically great, which i believe all people shoudl aspire to.

>change personality

depends on what you mean. if you wanted to be a certain way are oyu really changing your personality? my advice is generally to stick to activities you already liked, just reverse engineer them to meet people (comic book events, book clubs, or whatever your hobby is, but in a public setting).

>>17124973
you gotta find a girl who is also a social recluse so you dont have to change your whole personality. Finding them is difficult, look through local facebook groups thats how i found my boyfriend I was happy to find someone as socially inept as me. Dating sites are a bit risky because there are some crazy people on there use them as a last resort.

Ignore her, you don't owe her anything.

If she threatens to kill you or something that's when you have to stop ignoring her and report her to the police. Either way though, don't even acknowedge her

>>17124981
thank you most of the advice i got is just ignore her for a month at least, the only thing is i do care about her she is week and i just have to stop from feeling guilt of ending things with really bad words she always threw her bad words and shit in my face i did it on the last msg, i always left a door for her to come back and text me because she is like a kitten you need to guide her she needed my advice in many ocasions but after she left and met other guys who treated her bad she becomes a bad person again i should not feel guilty about what i did, shes a psycho she always blamed me and called me a cheater while she did it many times and i never met another girl since i knew her, she says am a loser while i lead a successful life and shes a mess, shes says everything she is but say it to me, it have been a very unhealthy relationship, i know, even thought shes a bad person , i still dont want to hurt her somehow

It's not that because she's a "cheater and a liar" that you should ignore her. You should ignore her because she is obviously trying to bait you into some kind of stupid argument or a fight and there is no need for that kind of drama.

If she is baiting hard enough to send pics like that through a cousin, you could simply post a non-directed ambiguous facebook message basically saying "let's end this in peace", it will reach her, and how she reacts to that from that point onwards you can wash your hands of.

youre a nice guy arent you?

>>17124914
I mean I love her
Is that sarcastic?

Don't be friends, move on with your life and find someone new to fall in love with

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>>17124908
Thanks mate

>>17124863

>should i feel upset

does it matter? you either do or you dont. you say you feel horrible. there is some conflict becuase you do get that ego boost but you are leaning towards feeling bad.

so yes, feel bad. you werent strong enough to say no. but neither was he.

the best you can do in my opinion is find him, talk to him, apologize for what happened and try to dig into their relationship, see if hes just unhappy about this or things with her in general. then just comfort him, explain that he doesnt have to marry her if he doesnt want to and maybe they rushed into or settled into this instead of really wanting this, and the threesome was proof of that.

say you love him to death and only did the threesome cuz it was for him, and hes your best friend and wanted to share that exciting albeit totally weird 'no homo' moment with him. say you understand if he needs his space but you're his best friend and you hope to stay that way for life, and you'll support him no matter what he chooses.

then let him choose. and maybe suck his dick too so he can understand why his girlfriend loved your mouth so much.

>>17124876
Solid advice, but where did you get the mouth part I didn't go down on her at all. If I'm gonna suck dick it would have to be a super good looking successful guy that looks and acts like Ryan Reynolds with an footlongs.

>>17124884

i was just making a joke.

>ryan reynolds

i know that feel.

what advice are you looking for exactly?

My mother died of cancer too.

Same thing happened to me at first.

It will eventually hit you hard and cripple you for months and then completely change your personality forever

Everything about life becomes a shade duller after your parents pass

Spend as much time with her as possible while you still can

>>17124837

do you live with her? if not how long have you been living on your own? how often do you visit her?

>>17124833
>whenever I go to actually talk to them, they're annoying as fuck
I've got bad news for you if you think going after regular busty blondes is going to fix that...

>>17124833

do you find busty blonds to be inherently/generally appealing personality wise?

I personally think you are stereotyping a little too much. i have too. i am intimidated anytime someone too muscular seems to be into me cuz i cant imagine them wanting a skinny little dude like me, but it does happen regularly. a majority of them wont give me the time of day. some will chase me. its weird.

point is that not all blondes are just nice and into you. not all androgynous girls are rude and hate you. perhaps the biggest issue with your thread is that it operates under the assumption that you are hella desirable, and that one type of woman just happens to be cunts, and the other just happens to be 'ugly' to you.

is this true? can you post a pic to lend it any validity? or maybe you can just admit that the real issue is you are just like everyone else, a normal perhaps slightly above average lookign guy and girls in general wont give you the time of day.

regardless of your type, you have to play the field. going for hot busty blonds wont give you anymore success than tumblrinas. so keep hitting on tumblrinas til one has that strange spark of chemistry with you

>>17124847
I often find the regular girls that I'm not really attracted to are actually way easier to talk to. I guess I don't mean busty blonds in the literal sense but just as a representation of regular girls as opposed to tumblrinas. I also wouldn't say I'm above average. I'm slightly overweight but don't have a bad looking face. I'm a 6/10 on a good day. You're most likely right though and I just had bad experiences

>>17124824

time and distractions. consider looking at porn of men who do not look like your brother.

>things that never happened.txt

>rape

>>17124760
do your parents really want you to end your life? furthermore, if you don't get college, you can step up the ladder through hard work.

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>>17124760

>be 18
>kill myself if i score low on a test i can retake

i dont have a good enough reaction image for this. pepe will have to do.

>litearlly the only thing i have going for me is my grades

and in 3 months your grades will mean almost nothing. i mean its may, and assuming you are 'smart' you've already applied to college. you choose which SAT results get sent out and can retake it if you want. you're threatening to kill yourself over a test you probably did fine on.

>i suck in social situations

today. but in terms of social situations being an 18 year old in highschool is to us like being a 4 year old scared of preschool is for you.

highschool has so little to do with the real world its actually terrifying that its considered important in any sense. there are no prom queens in the office.

>only have a few friends who actually care about me

ONLY A FEW? AS OPPOSED TO THE MILLIONS AND MILLIONS THAT GENUINELY CARE ABOUT EVERYONE ELSE?

thats how dumb you sound. again, highschool. in 4 years you might be good friends wiht one of your friends on facebook. if oyu're smart you'll have gone to college or a legitimate career opportunity and have left your friends in the past.

>need at least a 1300 to get a scholarship

again, im sure you will do fine, but agian, you can retake.

>my family is poor so if i dont get a scholarship im basicallyfucked for college

arent you supposed to be smart? if you managed to absolutely do abysmally bad at this SAT business you can find other ways to do well in the world, and even get to college. there are options. just combine smart with hard working and you'll conquer the world.

>>17124760
>>17124789
>the one hting my parents wanted me to do

stop caring what your parents wnat you to do and what hoops they expect you to jump through. you're 18. you are about to learn that your own happiness is the key to a happy life. going to college on scholarship may do that. but doing it just cuz its what oyur aprents want wont.

my dad hates what ive ended up doing with the last two years of my life. but i like what i do and im damn good at it, so fuck him.

>id rahter kill myself than be a failed child

killing yourself is a guranteed fail. re taking hte test or just finding a different path to happiness is not.

there are also lots of other scholarships out there. the world doesn't revolve around this SAT score. if you are taking it so seriously then you should have studied harder. and if you studied hard enough you shouldnt be taking it this seriously.

you're not gonna kys. chill dude.

Yes it's shitty. Be patient

>>17124741

if your wife is okay with it, its fine.

if your wife isn't okay with it, its not fine. if you are keeping it a secret from her, then you know its not fine.

>porn doesn't do it for me anymore

yes it does. if you can cum, you're fine. yes you want more, but you'll always want more. despite this you could still just masturbate to porn for the rest of your life.

there will be frustration. there is always frustration. decide now whats more important.

>>17124745
Just keep watching porn? Gets boring and tiring, miss having that spark per se.

If you're really that worried just get tested. It's unlikely that you have HIV unless she's like a mega whore. (I'm talking about someone who has slept with 50+ people.) However, you could have been in contact with bacterial stds that can be gotten rid of, but oral stds are rare. Just go to the health department and get tested to make sure you're okay anon.

>>17124720
You could've also possibly came into contact with the herpes virus, but it's unlikely if she didn't have an active outbreak.

>>17124685
get tested. but you have to wait 8 weeks minimum after contact.
do you know how many partners the girl had in the past?
as far as i know there are no registered oral hiv infections. but it is definitly possible to get it that way, its just not likley. i think youre overreacting. but take the test just to be sure

Op here, she also said she's not leaving me for the coworker. Because she's not sure she likes him. She didn't cheat or anything. She just doesn't want me to keep being like this.

Op again, basically I just wanna know how fucked I am and what I can say to fix it.

Shit nigger be honest and apologise and don't act like an asshole. There's no secret pass that'll factory reset the bitch and make her forget anything, you fucked up, you gotta go face it like a man.