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does the idea of actual sex get you turned on? or is it just porn?

Don't stop. But try and find somthing else you can do with your time

It's possible you formed an habit of masturbating only because porn is available. What if you add a condition: what if you decide you can masturbate anytime you want except without porn. You have do it in bed without using any material other than your mind, and if it's not working out then you give up and wait until you're hornier.

Do you have any other problems? Maybe see a doctor if it's really bad?

Set an alarm with different noises for every hour. Go outside and get some fresh air.
Go for a walk

>>17209395
Its pretty bad to lose a whole day and not realize it. But no I don't have any other mental health issues. Though I have long suspected I am deeply depressed.

>>17209402
Yeah that is what I did today.

GO TO A DOCTOR

>>17209299
Given your likely age, it's probably a subconjunctival haemorrhage

Pretty harmless and may very well get worse before it gets better

Nevertheless, there's a thorough examination docs like to do and I'd recommend visiting one

>>17209308
Oh wait... It's painful

Yeah, just go to the docs

Especially if vision is affected

Over two years ago, I met A. Online. Within 5 months she flew out to see me and we hit it off. She grew up overseas (she's Asian) and so I showed her typical redneck American things. She loved it, I loved it, we have been spending long stretches of time together as schedules will allow. We both love each others' families and she has career goals that may keep the LDR happening for several years more - but I tell myself I can abide it.

That being said, my career just changed in a great way. I have found the perfect job for me, and it's with one of the best companies out there. To top it all off, I am now roommates with G as a stop-gap, but neither of us is in a hurry to end the situation. It's cheap for me and it's a good situation for him - we live well together.

The thing is, B goes to college in this town. A couple weeks ago (when I moved here) she was staying with us and we spent some very late nights sitting around having serious talks. Yesterday she and I went driving around in search of ice cream (I'm getting familiar with the place) and we talked some more.

I'm convinced, I love her. I care about her quite a bit, I miss her when she's not around, and she and I have some very good conversations and generally enjoy each other's company a lot.

> TL;DR

1) I am 25/m engaged to a foreign girl (also 25) I met online ~2 years ago, who is guaranteed to be long-distance for at least one more year, likely several more if she gets into a good medical school.
2) I am good friends with a buddy's little sister (20yo) and I have feelings for her (and have, for a little less than 3 years)
3) I am now roommates with the buddy, and we live in the town where his sister goes to college.
3) I have no idea how to reconcile this situation.

Any advice is appreciated.

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I just want to let you know that Johnny Depl said that thing in your OP. You know what happened to Johnny Depp? He left the hot French, love of his life for a hot piece of ass who is currently trying to destroy his reputation and get $50k a month from him.
Just sayin'

It took me the whole summer to get back on my feet but I still wasnt myself and I put my whole life on hold for her, i was so behind in school its not even funny cause i couldnt focus when i was with her. September comes by and she texts me she needs to make things right with me cause she knows she did me so wrong. I accept her back in my life and she atones for all the wrong he did. None of my friends are happy and i hide her from my family. October comes by and shes moved into my place completely rent free, but i was happy she treated me like a human being that i deserved to be treated like, i felt like a king. Now our arguements evolved from where are you to why are you dressing with no class, her tits were always out if she moved the slightest her nipples were practically showing and she practically would flash my roommate he pussy cause she just didn't care. drove me insane but again i put up with it cause i loved her so much. So december comes a long and i have suspicion that my roommate is growing feelings or at least lust for her. But i ignore it completely. I go on vacation to visit my family for Christmas and i get a call from her saying my roommate had told her i had sex with my ex while we were broken up. Causes a huge three way argument and long story short we broke up and she moved out. IM devastated cause my best friend did that to me and still swears he never told her, so im was being lied to my gf and best friend about the whole thing. me and her agree to remain friends and she moves back to her old place. few weeks go by and she calls me telling me she need to talk, she comes over and tells me shes pregnant with my kid, and that when my roommate comes home, after she leaves he says he doesnt care why she was over but if i talk to her ever again i will lose all of my friends. So i never told anyone that she was pregnant.

I want to abort it she wants to adopt it. I see her a few times a week with out telling anyone just to be on her good side so i dont get fucked with a kid that i dont want. 2 months pass and its like we are dating again. WE agree to try again. Keep it a secret from everyone in my life. Month passes and she has a miscarriage, feels weird man. Relationship continues but she has a whole life im not allowed apart of she wants nothing to do with my friends. I support her, lend her money. feed her. Lose all of my sanity in the process. She realizes that she killing me and agrees to try and not be a cunt anymore. Things are finally starting to work out, but then one day a complete stranger agrees to pay for her to move out of her place buy her new things and help her start a business that she literally clones from her current employer. Is sounds so sketchy to me but she tells me not worry cause she wants me to be her business partner and it sounds great cause i feel like a complete fuck up in life cause i put everything on hold for her. We have plans to go out one night and she bails last minute to go clubbing, of course i get mad. The next day she says its my own fault im mad and then ends things with me over the phone.

so here i am now 8k in debt cause of her, should have graduated a year ago but failed so many classes cause of her, and beyond depressed with the herpes she gave me. We are gonna meet one last time so i can get my stuff from her, a part of my wants to fight for her cause for the last 2 and half years all ive known is trying to make her happy. My life feels pointless, i fucked up in school, im in debt, hate my roommate, put my whole life on hold and i just dont know what to do anymore. I feel like i just exist and kinda wanna kill myself. She ruined my life and still love her, I want to be me again but dont know how. I dont really expect anyone to read this but i needed to let this out cause ive been hiding ti for so long. But i want help, but im far to scared to ask for it.

>>17209226
you have a shit hair line. same start happening to one of my friends, he nearly has a nest head now. sorry.

Been there
Shaved it
No regrets

>You will have to start going to the gym though

>>17209226
Cut it really short, if you try to hide it then people will think it's pathetic.

>>17209216
This is some next level bait.

Oh you

>>17209216
same op. im kind of a new fag. i have started to learn what triggers people though. some people on here use it as an opportunity to get pissy at
people because its anonymous etc

>>17209209
I also used to drink green tea to lose weight in the past but I cannot consume caffeine because it gives me heart flutters so that is out

>>17209209
Exercise when you're depressed. Boom, no more depression plus you lose weight.

Could it be an oral fixation? Try putting something else in your mouth: water, gum, dicks, etc.

>>17209201
you should be fine. women love older guys (obviously to an extent). and you will be fit and well disciplined due to your training, women should be causing tsunamis over you, dont worry.

At the age that they run out of money.

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>>17209201
>I'll be 30
>lost my youth

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KcdSWfWSqGE

>>17209177

A delusional fantasy.

>>17209177
Life. You're gonna make it.

>>17209177
A comeback.

>>17209176
>seriously considering contacting someone you met on the bus
ishgydgy

>>17209176
Ate you a girl?

>>17209176
Want to date or fuck?
Either way:
When and where?
Busgirl

>>17209168
Hey buddy, been there myself. What youre going through is partly chemical and unconscious. You had sex and enjoyed the pleasure/warmth of a female. Yhe animal part of your brain rewarded you for mating by making you feel good. Now that ita been taken away, ita punishing you for losing it by making you feel like shit. Normally this would spurn you to take back what you wanted but we dont live in a world like that anymore. Best i can say is dont make a descision while those shitty chemicals are circulating through you. You need a detox until the hormones wear off.
Litterally speaking: its just chemicals dude.
Youre actually much better off in the end.

>>17209229
I just don't get why the loneliness is killing me inside. I really wish i was dead right now. Everyone says: you ll find another one. It's bs. I don't like most girls because they lack so much in personality. It's been 7 years from relationship to relationship and dating all together. I am feeling so helpless right now.

>>17209274
True, women can be lack luster. But most dont even share their true personalities.
Let me tell you about the last 3 girls i was head over heals for:

We'll start at the most recent, tall, thick blond with blue eyes, wide hips, and the most perfect breasts/nipples ive ever felt. Big beautiful lips, round cute face. Geeky, loves all the nerdy shit i like, loved to have sex, cums quickly. Her teeth were bad, she was over weight, and she loved taking pictures of herself too much. She sucked at communication.

One before i was ga-ga for. She was insanely intelligent, we like all the same thing, she played MTG with me, and WON.
Brunette with a very conservative feel.
Glasses, beautiful straight hair.
Pear shaped. Wide hips, gigantic tight ass. Slender, petite upper body. She was perfect for me. We talked for a while. Had sex once. Then just kinda kinda talked it out and realized we were too similar and gained nothing from one another.

But this one, this one fucked me up hardest. Redhead, southern tenesee woman, older than me. She was skinny when i met her, very willing to be affectionate and sexual. We spent months together. On nights we were apart we would skype chat to sleep together. She fell in love hard and it was genuine. After she had a foot surgury to remove a bunion she stayed home alot and gained a little weight and her ass and tits blew up. She went from skinny to curvey in two months. She had a deep southern accent, and a bit of a manly voice except when she was with me, then for some reason she softened up like butter. We even planned on having kids. But that ended, painfully.

>>17209087
>How should I interpret this?
>she wants to bang, but doesn't know if i like her,and also isn't ready for another relationship but would want a friend's with benefits thing.

>>17209087
duh. She said exactly what she wants. Fuck with no attachment. That means fuck with no attachment. She likely knows you have a crush on her so it complicates everything.

>>17209119
It's not as simple as I let it on to be. Her bf and her ended < a month ago, and she is really vulnerable, emotionally and physically. I don't wanna seem like an ass hole and take advantage of her. Because we are really good friends and I don't wanna fuck anything up between us. But at the same time, crush

bump nigga god damn

>>17209074
What position are you applying for?

If you applied for a minimum wage job you're going to get minimum wage pay.

>>17209074
At a shitty job like that wages are usually non-negotiable. There are plenty of people in line behind you that will gladly take the job if you refuse it

>>17209025

If looking at peopels feet in a photo is considered cheating than you cheat everytime you talk/touch a man in non-business related situations.

>>17209034
No it was in personp

>>17209035

then just scratch the photo part.

My statement still applies.