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>>17237893
Should you? I'm not a mind reader.

>>17237893
Sure. Make sure to livestream it

>>17237893
If you are looser enough, sure.

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>>17237807
I did the same thing as you for the last 3 years, I fucked up my schooling. I'm now working out everyday and considering to join the army..

I don't normally post, but I saw your post and figured that maybe I could help!

My best advice to you would be to focus on the small steps rather than big changes. Small changes and steps add up to these large changes. It's all about the individual choices you make each day.

Maybe this small change is buying a couple of Dumbbells and just curling them and moving them around throughout the day while sitting at your computer. Perhaps this leads you to getting a bigger weight, and as you begin to see some results (if you're body isn't used to physical activity, you will at least see some) you become more inspired to move around and do different things. The biggest part about the mental block comes from it seeming to be such a large hill to climb. If you look at it as steps rather than a hill, it becomes much more manageable.

Don't try to make all of these changes at once, or you'll revert back to your comfort zone. Make small changes. You have so much time to improve and grow as a person, I recommend reading some books to inspire yourself such as:

The first half of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
How to win friends and influence people
How to stop worrying and start living
Leading an inspired life (Jim Rohn)

Good luck, there's a great world out there that you can get that much closer to experiencing in a fulfilling way every single day.

from a guy who was in a bit of a similar situation my best advice would be to put yourself in a situation that makes you uncomfortable. For instance start paying for bills like your phone at the least. Next step would be to get yourself an income. So if you are unskilled and unexperienced welcome to minimum wage. It sucks but I can assure you working an awful job is an invaluable learning experience and stepping stone. Next step is to raise your standards in life. Instead of making your standard to do things half assed do everything 100-110% even if you despise it. Not everything in life is fun or interesting and next step is to move towards being independent. not only will it make you feel better that you are in control of your life but people will take you far more seriously too. I can offer more advice if you request.

get him swatted

>>17237758
Make a fake email address and set up loads of accounts sending mail, food, services etc to their door.

>>17237782
I'm fairly certain he does meth. Are broken windows patched with duct tape and cardboard a typical violation of a property code?

>>17237744
>Why the fuck was it so much less fantastic than everyone insists it is?

everyone told you it was ok

you were the one who hyped it up so much

>>17237744
It's the "Is that all there is?" syndrome.

Very few things in life are as wonderful as you imagine they'll be, especially if you've been imagining for a long time.

But that doesn't mean they're not pretty good. Now that you have a more realistic standard to measure sex by, you can appreciate it for its pretty-damn-good-ness.

Ancient joke:

One salesman to another: "How's business?"
Other: "Business is like sex. When it's good, it's fantastic. And when it's bad, it's still pretty good."

Actually, sex is amazing. These are the criteria it needs to meet to be amazing:

1. All parties involved are completely uninhibited.
2. All parties involved are genuinely physically attracted to one another
3. All parties involved can partake without feeling guilt
4. All parties involved are sober enough to fuck
5. (optional bonus) All parties involved feel an emotional connection to one another

Good sex with a girl you love is not overhyped. That shit is incredible and highly addictive

>>17237729
No, but it's not particularly appreciative or sentimental.

No...yes....idk

>>17237729
Depends. What is it?

Good thing she realized now what a massive insecure faggot you are. Seriously, you are throwing a fit because you're not her first bf?

>>17237696
this

get a therapist bro

always remember this, OP: you're in charge here.Tell her about the guy, why does he make you feel uncomfortable and everything. Call it in and if nothing works out, just crash the relationship altogether, with no reminders of her at all. Not even her friends; you don't get to keep her friends no matter who they work for.
May the fires of a relationship rises for you, OP.

thats pretty fucked up

>>17237663
So she has acadently kiss someone...

>>17237663

Jesus Christ girls are stupid. she's obviously hiding something from you because she admitted it. But she's too stupid to realize that you could see her post. that or she is feeling guilty and too embarrassed to tell you directly, and was hoping you'd see it.

Either way, it appears something is going on.

>>17237639
Liberal amounts of moisturiser and a steroid cream. Go see a derm.

>>17237639

If you actually want this to get FIXED.

Go see a Dermotologist. I get so pissed off seeing threads here with people bitching about acne and skin sores, but don't want to go see a Specalist.

I had shit acne, and always was depressed because I couldn't get it to go away. I finally got fed up and went to a Dermotologist. And she fixed me. My face is clear now.

Do it

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If it's a mild case:

>wash with Chandrika soap- you can get it online or at health food stores.
>Use Palmer's moisturizers- that's an excellent brand, and they're all good.
>Use Selson Blue to control itching under your hair or beard

If it's more severe, your doctor can prescribe steroid creams and medications.

Being cold to women. Saying bad things about most women. Making a lot of sexist, crude jokes. If you blamed being single on women instead of problems with yourself.

>>17237642
I don't do any of that except maybe being cold, but I feel like I'm cold by nature to everyone. What do you think of as being cold?

Manipulating and controlling women you have relationships with, making women miserable with gender based language and violence, blaming all women for your problems in relationships or life, not viewing women as individuals, not giving the same respect to women that you would to men, inability to have a civil working relationship with women in work and school (non-romantic), getting irrationally angry over the concept of women's rights especially when it goes against the "perceived" rights of men (see sjw topics re: rape, domestic abuse), viewing women as complaintive or "bitchy" over innocuous things, being upset by women who engage in stereotypical masculine behaviors, being upset by women who are open about their sexuality, not listening to women when they speak, addressing women based on their perceived attractiveness, ignoring or being violent toward women who don't adhere to your idea of a good/attractive woman

>>17237588

That can't be true. I have huge feet yet my dick is only 8 inches.

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No

>tfw big feet but average penis ;_;

I have small foot and have a tiny penis ;_;

Id suggest counselling, it is available online but it'd be better for your condition to do it face to face. Just coming back to normal myself after a violent assault in the winter thanks to cognitive behaviour therapy from my counsellor.

>>17237552
I am sorry for what happened to you.

Where can you get counselling online? Does it really help? Isn't anxiety a physical brain chemistry thing, like depression or PTSD?

>>17237545
Most people would tell you to do breathing exercises like focussing on the breath, the idea being when you're anxious, your breath is in a disarray.

Essentially how it works is

Thought > Feelings > Physical reaction.

If you can train the body's physical reaction to anxious thoughts back to a normal state (normal breathing in this case), it kinda works like how it would in reverse.

Normal breathing > Feel restful > Anxious/Urgency provoking thoughts lose their hold.

Needless to say, it always helps to scrutinize them with a little more sincerity like putting them down on a piece of paper, identifying the illogical/unrealistic distortions(kinda like going "oh shit, that is just silly of me"), after realizing them, replacing them with more realistic/apparent thoughts.

>>17237509
Totally normal, don't worry.

You don't drink enough water.

>>17237509
How does it taste?

I feel the same way currently, so I can't help you.

>>17237500
Have you broken up with someone before?

If so, why is it so difficult for you now? Have you had this before? And if so, how did it end up?

>>17237475
I had a gf for 2 years and half, more or less like you.
We both were very diferent (I can see cleary now), but on the moment I never saw it.
I was glad to had her around, she was an awesome perter (smart, inteligent and sexy), but like you, we argued a lot due our very diferent opinions and visions, so we sit one day and decide to break up because isn't really going well.

This is not an advice, it's just my experience in this situation I had. Mabe your case isn't necessary to end like mine, but it will gave you some ideias.

>>17237426
Send her nudes to her family, the more degrading the better.

>>17237426
dump her and go on to live a fantastic life

Make her gain weight and tell her how sexy it is.

People will tell you it's a horrid idea and "hell never change", but you know him best. If you think he's legitimately changed and regrets what he did, then that'll do. Do what you think is right. If you think he's being totally honest with you, proceed.

>>17237418
always? no. in your case? maybe. people do change, but they don't change much in 3 months.

if you do get back together, give it a couple weeks to see how it's going, then sit down and have an honest discussion about how committed you both are to making things work this time around. if you're both extremely serious about the relationship, get into some couples counseling or some kind of support for struggling couples as soon as possible. if you're not both serious about the relationship, then most likely one or both of you won't be serious or diligent in your efforts to change.

remember that if you get back with him, you will also have work to do - on your anxiety, on learning to trust again, etc. it is very hard to be in a relationship with someone who no longer trusts you if you're doing your damndest to become a more trustworthy person.

tl;dr you can try it, but you both have to want to make some changes for the sake of the relationship.

You both are troubled people, it's time for your round of therapy.