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Okay, so me and my friends have finally gotten our hands on some hash (yeah i know green is better but whatever), and we have really looked forward to smoking that dank, you know? Well, a really toxic friend of ours says that she's going to report it to the police. Not even joking. She says that it's a part of her deontological ethical views. She also says that we have a big chance of getting into heroin and other heavy drugs. I think she sounds absolutely ridiculous. But she is still threatening to report it to the police. What should we do?

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If a mother of a small child is being abused by her boyfriend, who happens to be the father, and is also on the child's birth certificate, can she go into hiding and take the child with her to another state? The father of the child never established paternity and the small child was born out of wedlock. Can he ever take her to court to get split custody, which she doesn't want to happen? Will the government help her for the first couple of months or so until she finds a job? Or does this require money being saved up? How does witness protection program work? Please help. Thanks.

Just need to know what needs to be done. Don't have any good friends and no family to rely on.

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Hey /adv/

I had a friend for two years in highschool. We were pretty close but eventually we parted ways. Since then I deleted my social media and have kept very much to myself. In my final year of college (2013) he phoned me saying we should meet up over Christmas, but I had to move homes and I also changed phones at the time and lost the few numbers I had. He was always a popular and outgoing guy and I assume he's doing well for himself, so it's not as if I "abandoned" him or anything.

I've found an old email address he once used in my inbox and was thinking of sending:

"Hey X, I'm not sure if you still use this email but I hope you're doing well. Anon"

Does this sound cringey?

Does it sound dramatic or something?

Does it seem like I'm being pathetic by contacting someone from years back, as if I need his help or something?

Do people move on and hate it when people from their past bug them like this?

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My boyfriend doesn't seem very interested in sex most of the time, and I want to approach him about it but I need help on how to go about it.

A bit of background: live together for 2 years, I'm mid 20s and he's early 30s. Almost certain he's not seeing someone else, and isn't gay. I work office hours and he works evenings.

I would have sex with him almost every day if he'd let me, but it seems like he only wants it once or twice a week. When I indicate I want it at night, he'll not reciprocate and state how we should sleep. In the morning he's usually fast asleep, but sometimes after he rejects me he'll promise morning sex instead, and maybe half the time he'll keep his word.

It's really destroying my self esteem, and I want to discuss it with him but I don't want to make it worse by putting pressure on him.

I can either just say "wouldn't you like to have more sex?" But I'm doubtful anything will change, based on on a past attempt.

What I really want is to ask him "why don't you want to have sex with me?" And tell him it's making me feel unwanted. I'm dying to know the reason.

What should I do? Anyone been in a similar situation?

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I have visited both Japan and Korea but tbqh japan was better.

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I hate how high and nasal my voice is. I feel like I still sound like a teenager, but I'm in my mid 20s. Is there any way to change how my voice sounds; for it to be a bit deeper and richer? It sounds so...dry. Like there's no resonance or depth. I've been a smoker for years but not even that seems to have changed my voice. The ideal would be to sound like Mark Sandman, but I know that'll never fucking happen.

Link for reference. http://vocaroo.com/i/s0kEpdYtS4yF

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tl;dr hard to speak and write coherently on exams and in general. I study and have ideas but can't elaborate or put them in sentences them because they're mostly abstract or just keywords.

I try to understand what I read and always revise before the exams, but I seem to store information in a rather abstract and chaotic way. It's very hard to extract coherently and elaborate on ideas even when I have quite a few. Sometimes, even after studying and pondering a subject a lot my head is empty.

Actually, it seems almost impossible to put my ideas on paper without wasting reasonable amounts of time on thinking up, formulating and arranging information in an intelligible manner without using drafts - leaving aside oral exams, interviews, etc. Yet almost everyone else seems to have no problem and can write tons of pages without stopping, it just seems to flow for them.

Should reading books help because I'm doing that and improving vocabulary but my head is still a mess?

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I'm easily influenced, I read leftwing propaganda, I become lefty; I read /pol/ I become extreme right-wing, I read /r9k/ I get depressed, I read wizchan I think humanity should be euthanized. And other than that I get manipulated by others easily as I get all butthurt whenever I recieve even the slightest offense,critic or refuse.
How do I stop being so volatile?

>don't ask me to go to psych take meds or similar, been there done that

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There is this girl that have me a bit fucked emotionally, but to understand it better, heres the story -
>be me age 19
>work as cashier, its ok.
>one day I look up from the register, and before me stand this grill
>10/10 in my eyes
>I am stunned for some seconds, went full retard
>she smiles and laughs
>leave work later that day, realising ive fallen in love
>never been in love or had a crush before
>some time passes, see her now and then at work.
>we talk and get to know eachother, become friends
>invite her to a party, she says yes
>we have fun, get closer friends
>time goes by
>my birthday - never liked celebrating it, she convinces me to drink with her so I wont be alone
>drink enough to get enough balls to confess my feels
>get rejected, shes seeing someone else - older drug addict with life in shambles
>fucking devastated Feelsbadman.jpg
>start doing stronger drugs to take pain away
>fast forward to today
>she broke up with older druggie, added me as friend on social media
>begin talking, tell her wat she did to me
>she says sorry and tells me she was in love with me too, but would feel bad for other druggie
>im in rehab for drugs, depression & anxiety

What do, /adv/? She broke my heart once, yet I still want her.

Pic related, its her.

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Me and my GF:
>4years together
>we are each others first partner

The Situation:
My Girlfriend is into music and playing guitar. She recently got to know a guy who works at the local music shop. They probably have a good chemistry togehter, you know, like, when you can just talk and have fun with someone with ease. She went to two concerts of him and a month ago I checked her phone. She was flirting with him on instagram, and on facebook his name was the most searched term in the last month. I also read a chat with her best friend where she asks my gf if that guy wants something from her, and my gf answered that he probably does. A week or so later when we didn't see each other she was on her phone the whole day every 20-30 minutes or so.

I confronted her with everything and asked her if she was texting with him the whole day, she answered yes. I told her she should fucking stop it. She said that i'm too jealous and don't want her to have male friends and that i'm insecure just because she doesn't know him for that long. I confronted her with his romantic interest, with the secret meeting, with the flirting, with the facebook search. I told her if that was what she regarded as a normal friendship with a male that she should give me the OK to do the same with other girls. Well, she didn't want that and started crying

The last three weeks after that she's practically been on her phone 24/7, wich she usually isn't. Yesterday she acted really strange and I couldn't help but check her phone again.

She was texting with him the whole three weeks from morning till evening and bought concert tickets so they could go together next week, just the two of them.

So I read their chat, and talked to her best friend this morning. I think my girlfriend isn't interested in sex or a relation with him, but in the thrill of meeting someone and getting to know them in that way.

Cont.

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So my father passed away a month ago and a few family members that managed to get themselves on the of the house told dad they wouldn't try and sell the house and would take care us.

The past week they have been coming over and even ringing about selling the house or getting me to take loans out to buy then out (which I can't afford). According to solicitors they can't sell the house due to my mother be his wife and until she pases there is apparently nothing they can do (according to solicitor)
How do I get over the emotional state, should I cut my family off!??

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Is it legal in any country to have a surgeon alter your brain so you don't have emotions anymore ?

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Hey ya'll.

I'm curious if anybody here has had any experience with dating in another country/adhering to their rules/social customs/etc.

Context: I live in Japan. I speak pretty okay Japanese (in comparison to other expats, which doesn't say much I guess). Well enough to be conversational and if I don't understand a word, can understand the explanation in Japanese.

I've tried my hand at dating several times but can never really get it right. Either guys are too into me (talking about marriage and how my 'existence' is 'angelic', which I imagine they're completing basing their attraction to me on my looks) or they act really interested, but once they figure out I'm not gonna fuck them for a while, they fuck off.

Adhering to Japanese dating customs is so hard as so much of it is just unspoken. I've kind of stopped dating around and sort of focused inward on myself but I still think about it from time to time.

Does anyone have any experience or advice?

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Hey anons.
Me and gf -> almost 4 years together
21/21 yo
great relation, ASIDE from sex.

She never even once in all this time managed to satisfy me really in bed. I always have to work it on myself to come to climax or even to start enjoying it. The fact is that she never managet to make me cum, not with her mouth, not with her hands and neither with her hips. i gotta do a lot of pounding (good for her, not for me) before i can climax.

that wasn't a big problem within the first years, but now I'm getting kind of bored and unwilled to always offer all my power to her and she's not. We talked about it 1xx times, she talks about insecurety and this typically bullshit...
I was patient and gentle... a long time. But I dont wanna handle it any longer like this xD

Do you have a trick to just let her forget about everything and let her inner bitch out?
Will it get better maby? Shall i dump her?

Thanks anyway anons!
btw. pic slidly related, ex.

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What options are there for someone who has failed out of university?

I am terrible with my hands and feel no attraction for trade-schools.

What other options are there?

Is military a legitimate career path for someone who is practically a NEET?