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I'm very comfortable with this boy, i never want to have to lose everything we have... I wish he cared about me as much i care and love for him. I do some stuff for him to, i give him massages if his back hurts or if he needs a nice massage. I'd do anything for him and its makes me sad because i know loving him isn't warm and sweet, it feels like heartache and i don't know why i even stick around anymore.. i feel like I'm not even good enough in his eyes and I'm having bad times everyday and i feel like shit all the time, i get panic attacks, i stop eating sometimes i get so depressed with what he puts me through.. how can love be so fucking painful when all you want to do is make someone happy and you get tossed to the side like you are worth nothing.. sometimes he makes me feel like i deserve it. I am at the point where i don't want to be around cause i can't deal with it anymore but i don't want any other boy.. if it comes down to it, it'd take me long time to meet another boy because i have never felt this way about someone before, I'm still young and i have a whole world to explore and many people to meet just he was the first love that i fell hard for and i keep falling hard for him.

First off, it's bawling.

Secondly, he does not care about you - he cares about fucking you. DROP HIS ASS. You will not regret it. Leave him and never look back. You can do better. This kid just wants to fuck you and be able to go out and fuck other girls too. Don't let him use you like that.

>>17235299
Lol you fucking tool
You know what needs to be done. Why are you here? So we can tell you the obvious?

>>17235294
>>Been friends with a girl for 3 years,

Stopped reading there.

You're a cuck. Stop being a cuck.

>>17235294
Nope. Blow her off this time and wait till for her to ask you again.

>>17235294
>PS: she might be muslim
Drop it like it's hot

Get over yourself. Saged.

>>17235228
It's not fucking easy when your reputation around the campus depends on your clothes and my friend dragging me down really doesn't help. Bumped.

Talk to him about it if

LDR's always fail for this exact reason. When one person finds other people they enjoy who are physically there - and not just a face on a screen - they realize how much better it is, and lose interest in continuing the long distance thing. This is why it is almost always a mistake to try and force LDRs. They just don't work.

Your girlfriend's coming out of her shell and becoming more social and having a life outside of you, and it sounds like you haven't caught up.

>>17235178
this may be the case, as my circle in university is signifanctly smaller but it exists. but the difference is, that i've always tried to introduce my friends to her or invite her to activities with them. she doesn t do this and never did. but before it wasn t really a problem, as i shared my local circle with her and she really hadn t had one besides from her school friends.

>>17235176
also thought about this, but we are currently 400 miles away from her hometown. and she s determined to return to our mutual home region next year, so i doubt that she intends to settle with her new circle.

>>17235126

No, just extremely stupid.

>>17235126
Not per se, because Islam is not a race. Religious bigotry is a strange reason to learn a language, though.

>>17235128
I actually believe this family is terrorist and reported them to FBI. They are very rude people.

I can't give any advice but I can sympathise. Seeing my boyfriend this weekend, was due to come on my period two days ago, absolutely nothing yet but I'm sure the flood gates are going to open probably when I arrive through his front door.

Fucking timing man. Thanks Mother Nature.

You're a pathetic whore with zero self esteem imo for having a fwb that probably doesn't even like you or has a girlfriend.... I'm a female BTW..but nonetheless I'll help because I don't judge lol... Anyways, take at least 600mg of naproxen...I can't remember if its advil or aleve, but just look at the back of the boxes and find the one with naproxen as the active ingredient. Anyways it stops period bleeding for some reason....Google it. Naproxen stops menstrual

Just lay some towels down. Oral is asking a bit much but if he's a real man it shouldn't be a huge issue, should it?

>>17235030

The same way you'd make them anywhere else. Meet people, talk with them, find a few who piss you off the least and hang out with those.

>>17235048
What if I'm not really good at speaking in their language?

>>17235056

Then either learn the language or find people who speak a language you can understand. Generally meeting native speakers and actually talking with them improves language skills quickly.

>>17235010

Have you actually tried to initiate sex or just talked about the lack of it?

Also, is she a virgin? If so, she might need more time to get there.

>>17235018
OP here:

I have tried to initiate sex but she said wasn't ready so we just talked about it.

Here she told she is a virgin. I explained that I'm not a virgin and she asked me about previous sexual experiences etc.

Do you have experience any experience with girls who are virgins? If so what advice would you give me?

You're going to break up with your girlfriend, who you know is a virgin and is not ready for sex, because she won't sleep with you?

What site was that that forces women to make first contact?

I would also say, if you haven't had luck online, stop trying online. I've always had better luck with doing recsports and hobbies meeting people than dating sites.

>>17234956
thanks for your input.
.
I'm afraid you're probably right, but it seems like I'm always looking for a shortcut.

I never did sports, I don't like to dance (It's really a bad idea. I hate those places and loud music). Hobbies, I was told this... problem is that I've tried that in the past. But, as I said, I can't reach the point that everyone seems able to reach where you exchange whatsapps or emails for a group project or homework (Be it a course, language, whatever).

What makes me mad, is that when I'm around friends and their girlfriends; or among coworkers, I'm usually funny and it's easy for me to make them laugh and chitchat. Now, when I am to introduce myself or "get things started", I'm usually cold as stone... -OR- maybe a little too tense.

About that site... well, I know they have mirrors for every country. I speak spanish
https://www.adoptauntio.es/ (spain)
https://www.adoptaunman.com/ (colombia)

You basically create a profile. You may browse women. When you like them, you can "poke" them (you may poke a limited ammount per day, but you can browse them all anytime). Any women (among poked ones or not) may contact you. If they want to message you, they must choose:
a. "you may contact me..."
b. "I'm interested in you"
One way or another, once they messaged you, you may message back.

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>>17235028
> I speak spanish

Ya que hablas español te lo cuento así que me cuesta menos.

En Internet es poco probable que encuentres nada, al menos no en webs/apps de contactos; ya que esas páginas al fin y al cabo están hechas para ganar dinero y siendo hombre lo tienes imposible porque el 99% de los usuarios lo son también.
No es que sea imposible conocer gente por Internet de todas formas. Yo conocí a varias chicas jugando videojuegos online con las que acabé teniendo relaciones más o menos duraderas, pero a menos que quieras relaciones a distancia, las mudanzas siempre han acabado siendo un incordio en mi caso.

Lo que funciona al final siempre va a ser lo de los hobbies que ya te comentaron. Si no sabes cómo llegar a algo más cuando conoces gente puedes leer libros/blogs que ayudan mucho. Aunque al final siempre te van a decir lo mismo: practica, practica y vuelve a practicar. Una vez que hayas hablado con 300 chicas habrás conseguido más de un teléfono por muy autista que puedas parecer.
Tienes libros como The Game (es una novela autobiográfica, no ayuda mucho pero sirve de inspiración) o Day Bang (éste es de los que más me han ayudado a mí) y miles más por ahí que puedes leer para al menos tener alguna pista de cómo avanzar cuando te bloqueas o darte cuenta de qué es lo que estás haciendo mal.

Espero que tengas suerte y no te rindas.

PD: Deja de buscar el camino fácil ya que al final sólo conseguirás dar vueltas en círculos sin llegar nunca a nada. Por lo que has escrito no veo que tengas ningún problema de timidez serio, y eso es lo único que podría impedirte conseguir citas a muy corto plazo. Aunque los tuvieras se pueden superar.

>>17234925
Unless you have your own car/transport this relationship is going to be a waste of time

it sounds like she's busy and with 3 hours traveling distance, you will very rarely see each other in person.

>>17235022
I can drive. She can drive. Plus there is trains.

I've known this girl for years and we're getting closer and closer. I think next time we meet we will probably fuck.

I just don't want to sound stupid on the phone. Just got to have topics to go with.

What do you talk about when you're together? Talk about that stuff

>She's been going through a tough-time with stress and stuff so her life isn't going great at the moment, so asking about her day too much doesn't lead to a good conversation.
No, but talking to you will lent her vent a little. A problem shared is a problem halved.

Did you hear about that teacher dating a middle schooler? Something Vera? I think alexandria vera?

nope, that sounds like a sane healthy relationship

>>17234907
bruv lets flip the tables
imagine ur lil sis finds a 30 year old on the internet to bang innit
would u be cool wit it?
no.
on the other hand if this 30 yr old bitch is givin yunn man dome n shit and its all good maybe u could keep it a secret

>>17234904
Post pictures for an honest answer.

most definitely
if he doesnt compliment you within the first 10 mins you're ugly/fat

>>17234904
This is common problem with online interactions:
The other side stopped responding.
Possible cases:
>battery died
>internet connection died
>his mom almost died and now he is in hospital with her
>he got what he wanted and didn't even bother to say bay bitch

Rare cases:
>all his blood flowed from head to other regions of his body and now he is unable to type / think
>he felt asleep
>his mom forced him to do something
>he is spammed with so many photos of so many girls that you are just in queue to get a reply

Solution:
Use texting only as a means to get contact in real life or try live-chat with voice and or video, where you see reaction immediately.

>>17234899
I'm in the same boat.
Don't worry about it, is all I can say.

>>17234958
It's kinda scary because I'd say most girls expect you to at least know how to kiss by now. I'm on the same boat as OP so I'm also bumping.

>>17234899
>>17234958
>>17234973
tell her the truth instead.

It's very simple.

>>17234888
Try weaning yourself by fapping to some 3D Japanese schoolgirls and then gradually go more normie mode from there. Eventually you should get off porn altogether and just get a gf to bang. Focus on getting a good job and getting fit first though if you haven't done that stuff already.

>>17234914

I'll have to stick with porn. I don't want a girlfriend neither do I want to get married. I'm fairly fit and have an okay job but I suppose I could do better. I've been letting up on my jogging recently. What about the Christian thing? I think it would really be really beneficial if I were to become a Christian as it would give me the driving force necessary to become more normal than I am now.

Regarding those Asian girls I think I should just skip over to white girls. Asian girls tend to have similar body types to anime girls and the whole weening process won't work if I start comparing them.

Murder yourself with a hatchet.

?????

>>17234882
cont.
>But her and I were eye-fucking all night.
Fast forward 3 weeks.
>She calls me out of the blue late on a Saturday night, drunk and distraught, and asks if she can come see me. I said sure.
>She comes over and tells me she had a fight with cube boy.
>She all crying and we embrace for a long time and she tells me how much she misses me and how we're soulmates and shit. We talk alone for a while, then my friend comes home. We smoked some weed and she left. I walked her outside. She tried to kiss me. I told her not while she has a boyfriend. She left. That was two weeks ago.
Fast forward to last night.
>My friend I went to Colorado with and I have made amends now. It's just a girl. Whatever.
>We've talked about how she's only dating this dude because he's safe and she wants safe in her lift right now after all the crazy shit she did after Colorado and when I was in jail.
>He messages her last night, after watching on The Office where Phyllis tells Dwight that Angela's not really a risk taker and Andy's not really a risk. So he texted her that. Except about cube boy. And that she should take a risk.

>>17234882
So what the hell is your question?