Is it rude to ask for a girls medical records before you fuck?
Yes.
>>17240227
Literally yes.
Although I can understand why.
Just be safe and use protection, christ.
>>17240227
No, at least it shouldn't be.
Hey /adv/. Lately I've been experiencing some existential issues and a friend brought me here saying that maybe you guys could shed some light on my issues. So I'm going to a private boarding school (I'm not a fag, just shitty public school system in hometown) and my life isn't at all bad in anyway, my parents are really successful and I live a great and fulfilling lifestyle with lots of good friends and extraordinary opportunities, but I can't help but constantly contemplate stuff like life after death, the meaning of life in general, the theory of an afterlife or a greater being who created the universe etc. etc. I don't know if it's just puberty (15, yes, still a faggot but I'm desperate for help) or if I'm not alone, but I'm stuck in a rut here and I need some guidance. Anything is appreciated, hate is fine too because I'm a newfag and a child nonetheless. Thanks.
Underage band
>>17240210
Also underageb&
>>17240212
>>17240214
Underage yes, in need of guidance also. Thanks.
I've share my first and last name, my occupation, my home town, cell number, and a face photo via email with someone on Craigslist via email. How fucked am I, and what do I do to protect my privacy?
Why would they care about you at all?
>>17240164
Chances are this craigslist person is an idiot.
That being said, practice layers of ambiguity and false information from now on when needed
Indeed I am. I more or less forgot the internet isn't a safe space, and was desperate to find love. I'm usually more guarded but got dammit I fucked up.
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about a year and six months, but we've never really done much sexual stuff together (Abused, feels she is ready for it now) This weekend we plan on it, but not full on sex. Basically anything else goes, tips anybody? Kinda nervous, she is too.
pic unrelated
Lol what the fuck ? What do you even do with a woman for that much time without having sex ?
Touch her, pull down her pants and fuck her
>>17240132
she was abused, and she just didn't feel ready/comfortable with it.
>>17240132
Shit advice.
Anyways just do what feels right and makes you both comfortable. First times are always anxiety inducing, but when you get into the heat of things it will work out fine. She may realize she's comfortable with more than she thought or maybe the opposite.
Either way, once you start kissing it will go naturally from there on
Is depression and psychiatry a meme?
Not at all
Yes. People who say it isn't just like to pretend they're unique in their suffering.
>>17240110 the "oh my gawd im sooo depressed" kind
Otherwise No
How the fuck do I get more views on my OK Cupid profile? Only time I ever seem to get any views is when I post a link to my profile on /soc/
I've tried staying active as possible by updating my profile, answering questions and adding photos
I've tried boosting (which is complete bullshit and a waste of money)
I've kept my profile visible
And I've made a lot of improvements to my profile where I don't seem like a complete piece of shit anymore
Is it really just about looks and nothing else?
>>17240064
Pretty much ye.
Looks are an important first impression. I remember years ago, I passed over so many girls profiles and even ignored their messages based on looks. I'm not shallow like that in real life, but on a medium like okcupid I think it's easier for a lot of people to become a lot more shallow and judgemental. Are you just an uggo?
Not Op
But I could use some critiques
anyone care to help a bro out?
Do prim and proper aristocratic type girls still exist. I'm 18 and I've yet to see one in my life. My stadards are so unrealistic that I've turned women down because I didn't see them as attractive. In short, where can I find classy, polite women (you know, the one's who actually have manners)?
Pic related is close to my ideal
How do you know she's prim and proper? Are you talking about style or personality or both?
Aristocrats hang with other aristocrats. You'll find these girls at ivy league schools and debutante balls. IE.. you will never find them because you're not one of them.
>>17240030
Both pretty much. I've seen polite women of course, but they were either hipsters or sluts, and I'm just really turned off by that. I don't know why but I can't help it.
Why cant i talk to her?
Im tall, attractive iv had 9/10 girls come up and ask for my number, i have lots of friends, but whenever i see the quiet shy girl who im totally out of her league i cant do anything. My stomach goes butterfly mode my hands shake. I tried twice to go up to her and ask for her number or just to talk but i couldnt even walk over before i panic and just walk past her.
What is wrong with me /adv/ iv had gfs but every single time they came up to me and initiated, i have no idea why i cant talk to some chick thats not even that attractive to other people, im literally the only one of my friends who thinks shes above a 6 or 7 out of 10.
So you and your friends categorize women based solely on a 10/10 attractiveness scale? No wonder you can't recognize why you feel that way about her. Because people are more than what they look like.
>>17240023
That was just to show that its not like shes stunning and way out of my league shes not popular by any means and i shouldnt have any problems asking her out.
>>17240004
If you can't approach her she's out of your league. There isn't is "prettier is higher," "uglier is lower" for leagues. You also have to account for social skills, status, wealth, intelligence, blah.
None of that matters, you not being able to approach her means you're on a lower social skills league than her because any awkward nerd can drum up the courage to ask out the girl he likes, you're an outlier.
Be honest, are you an autist? Or do you have another sort of mental deficiency that prohibits you from communicating properly? Everything being handed to you must've been pretty nice, but it won't help you succeed in life, you're seeing the early problems in this situation.
Hey, /adv/, my girlfriend of a month now (though we were talking for eight because distance made it difficult) is super angry at me.
The reason is because she found out I was talking to other girls in the time before we started dating, and she found out I sexted them at one point. If you have any other questions, please ask.
Am I a cheating asshole or no? What do I do to "gain her trust back?"
>>17239970
This is either bait or you're a future cuckold.
Talking to other girls and even sexting one before you guys started dating isn't cheating. It's reasonable for her to be jealous and annoyed as a result, but you shouldn't have to do anything to "earn her trust back", this is her problem.
>>17239993
It's not bait, but I had told her that I was planning on dating her at the point that these things happened, it was just that I wanted to wait until we saw each other in person again. Not only that, but she's been cheated on before, so it's a little bit of that insecurity showing.
Bump. She's currently sleeping, so I'd like to know if there's anything I should do before she wakes up.
I fucked up. I'm an EMT and a new emergency vehicle operater, driver. Tonight on my duty shift I am driving for my partner. We just had a CPR in progress from a vehicle roll over. Crushed the guy. He was dead dead and pronounced on scene. En route to the call I passed the driveway the address was corrected to. Delayed us about 4 minutes. Should I be driving? If this was a cpr where time mattered I cost 4 minutes. I'm a good EMT. Now I'm unsure about driving.
>tl;dr new at emergency driving and made a mistake.
>should I be driving? Time matters and I wasted 4 possibly critical minutes
>>17239918
You have a responsibility on the street aswell so i would say don't give it much thought and just try to improve by learning.
Here in germany no one has ever died in a emergency vehicle, officially ofcourse, because otherwise they would have to fully clean the vehicle afterwards so they just say the person died in the hospital.
>>17239918
Fellow EMT and oldfag. You're fine. Quit freaking out. Mvc head crush injury? Cpr in progress ? Guy was gone before you'd get there or be pronounced in the ER and you know it.
I once had to do cpr on a fat fuck who had 10 minutes of cpr in progress at his home. Me, the station chief, and 5 other paramedics had to get this poor bastard down 2 flights of stairs. He was already cyanosis when we got there. I had to ride in the back with my paramedic partner and do compressions for 15 minutes while she bagged and pushed meds. Guy was dead and it was called 5 minutes after the ER, but by law we had to do what we did. You know this. My arms were heavy as fuck afterwards
Here EMT can pronounce patients dead on the scene. As was the case here. It's just I can't stop thinking what if this guy needed us. That hangs on me. If there ever was a cpr to mess up on it guess this was best case. I'm timid to drive now. I won't make that same mistake but how do I lose this timid feeling?
When I fuck my gf and we talk dirty, I typically say things like...
You're so wet
You're so tight
Take this dick
Take every inch
Take all of my cum
..and basically just variations of those. I feel like that's pretty vanilla. What are some better things I can say?
>>17239903
Is she into kinky shit? Is she asking for better dirty talk? Does she have triggers? Ask your fucking girl if you're worried, communication is important.
Ask her.
If she doesn't mind it doesn't matter.
I used to have the same problem, but turns out it wasn't a problem.
>>17239913
She hasn't specifically asked but I just feel really boring going through the same 5 phrases over and over. I asked her what I could say and she didn't have anything specific for me..
The only thing she DOESN'T want is to be called a "slut". Whore is okay.. I think something happened in high school with teasing
Anybody with an anxiety disorder deal with months-long periods of time when it seems really bad?
Been having to deal with bad anxiety for about the past two and a half months, basically since about march22nd or something. Started after a month or so of drinking too often, not sleeping enough, and not eating enough.
Was improving until I took a trip out of town about a month in and barely slept all weekend and got fucked up one night. Thought going a month sober/taking it easy would help and little by little it was but it got really bad again the week before last to the point where I was afraid to leave home. While it's improved significantly since than I'm still kinda shady about drinking again or doing anything really physical since that makes it worse too.
I know it takes time to get over these things as it'd happened to me before but I don't remember feeling this shitty two months in. Also this time it seems to be coupled with this weird depressed feeling. Its kind of like deja vu but it feels a little more intense. Like random shit will remind me of an ugly feeling in a dream i had or some nonexistent childhood memory.
I know "see a psychiatrist faggot" and all that but I'm just curious if anyone else goes through this.
>>17239891
I also have fairly consistent derealization all the time but the past few months it's gotten really intense. Especially with that deja vu feeling thing. It sometimes feels as if I'm a completely different person living a completely different life than my own.
I also don't regularly take any meds for anxiety since it's normally not that bad although I have been taking alprazolam the past two months, mostly when I have a bad week. Been a week since i took any.
>>17239891
Also feel free to just vent because I know this shits frustrating as hell and it helps.
>>17239891
Bump
This is me. Should I just go ahead and kill myself? How can I make myself desirable?
Femanon here
Grow your hair out
Cover that forehead
You still have potential
>>17239887
Buy a wig
Acquire eyebrows
Work out
Plant yourself in the sun and water occasionally so you don't have such a ghostly complexion.
Trying smiling, that face drives even the nerdiest of girls away
I've done well for myself -- I'm attending a good American university, majoring in engineering, have a 4.0 GPA, and I'm thinking of going to medical school. I'm popular, and relatively athletic.
So why do I feel so fucking dirty inside?
I had a violent and bloody childhood. I fought tooth and nail to get out of the shithole where I lived, and away from the people who hurt me. I thought things would be better now that I'm out of there, and they are, but something's wrong.
I have flashbacks. The roar of guns. The recoil. The screaming. Blood.
I'm scared to be around people that love me. I listen to my dog's heartbeat when I wake up at night, just to make sure his heart is still beating. This new life of mine is so frail, so delicate. What protects it?
And the blood on my hands. I don't think God would blame me for what I've done; everything was either forced or necessary. Even so, I still wish he would strike me down so that I don't have to live with myself. What could the creator smile upon inside my wretched mind? My soul is lonely structures hidden in a fog of remorse, if it is even there.
Most of the time I am happy. I cuddle, I do my homework, I teach kids from the ghetto math. But when I'm alone I can't stop screaming in my head. I think of killing myself every day, sitting there curled up in the dark. For whose sins am I being punished?
How do I forgive myself, /adv/? How do I live with this rotting inside of me?
Sorry for the writing style and for the silly post. It's probably pretty cringe-inducing, and my English could be better. I don't know if I'm even going to post this. I've never posted anything here before. Help me.
>>17239846
Have you considered therapy?
I ask because these are thoughts associated with common mental health issues, often resulting from traumatic incidents. But also because I know people from backgrounds with more urgent problems than their emotional well being internalize a lot of shame and dismissal of their mental states. My girlfriend is first generation Croatian-American and her parents were still in "escape war and genocide" mode when they raised her and even she, who has known peace and economic stability all her life, doesn't know how to work out her problems or address her feelings because they seem unworthy compared to being killed. Her parents, who were put in a concentration camp once, are the same way although even more so.
But this is no way to live. Just as running away from a killer will make you forget the pain of starvation for a short while, dealing with extreme stress will fuck up your compass for what is a normal and happy state of mind. It can be so much better; you don't deserve to feel this way (although thinking that you do is an extremely common symptom). Having someone you trust to remind you to doubt your self-destructive mindsets (as I can tell you're already doubting them on some level) will do a lot of good. It doesn't have to be this way.
>>17240200
Thank you. I will look into therapy.
I'm sorry to hear about what has happened to you. If you don't mind my asking, were you a child soldier?
Therapy is a good suggestion. You may also want to look into the works of rapper Emmanuel Jal. He escaped being a child soldier too, and speaks of it often; you may find some comfort there.
>Sorry for the writing style and for the silly post. It's probably pretty cringe-inducing, and my English could be better.
Your English is quite good. I wouldn't have known you weren't a native speaker if you hadn't said so. I mean, I might have guessed it from your situation, but not from the way you write.
I love my wife, she loves me. Despite any issues we've had in the past, we have a nice house, two children, a white fence, and a happy marriage. Except for our frigid bedroom. My monthly allowance of sex varies between bland to focused entirely on her pleasure. Any hesitance from me to have her selfish sex when she wants to have sex is met with the same old "you say I never want to have sex..." and so on.
I digress. In walks Coworker (CW). CW is someone who actually wants to talk to me about me, listens to what I want to talk about, didn't turn away when I told her I was married, and has even been a friend to vent too and has vented to me. She also looks like my wife did before we got married, but blonde. (She let herself go before the kids, no amount of begging or pleading that I don't want to be a 50yo widower has helped) CW broke the physical touching barrier first, though nothing sexual.
I have a very big crush. But I promised myself I would never cheat. Wife has flat out refused an open relationship because she says she can't have sex with another man unless she loves them. She also threatened me to never see my children again if we divorce and that my young daughter would grow up thinking I wasn't her dad.
I'm miserable. But I can't leave or cheat. How do I bury these feelings?
>>17239834
See a marriage counselor.
>>17239834
Wife sounds depressed and insecure as hell. Honestly, she can't just up and decide she gets full custody though. Anyway, you guys should probably see a marriage counselor asap, if she refuses, you should see a counselor alone and then possibly a divorce lawyer so you know your rights.
Do you truly love her?
If not, prepare the money for a good lawyer, one that will help with getting custody...when ready bring up the divorce. Before you do so mention how you will always provide and be there for her and the kids (just the kids if you realize you care nothing for her)
But this depends on one thing...does this cw love you? Does she want to be with you..this needs to be known first. All is lost if she doesn't.