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My girlfriend and I went out for a meal with friends the other day and at one point I went to the bathroom - I was away about two minutes. Anyway, whilst I was gone a male friend of my gfs who was out with the group started talking to her about some art project he's working on. Mid-way he just goes "So, how's your relationship with anon?" My gf replied "Great", but the dude just went "OH, that's surprising. Really? Wouldn't have thought that" in a non-sarcastic tone and pulled a :/ face before leaving.

We're dealing with a slightly mad beta-orbiter here, it seems. My gf told me about it when we got home. I just said "That's a fucked up thing to say to a friend, really. Seems like a dick move - he's odd". I didn't want to overtly call him out as liking her, but I feel like I wasn't strong enough in deterring her away from spending any time with him or letting her know his true intentions.

How do I deal with beta-orbiters better in future? I know you have to tread a fine line between showing what they are, but also not insulting her friends. Usually I just ignore them, but this one got under my skin.

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>be 22 with gf 19
>live with parents
>gf lives with borderline abusive mom
>moves through a bunch of roommates, and tries living with her sister, but she kicks her out because she spends too much time at my place
>gf moves in with me eventually
>it's been about a year and my mom is growing more and more resentful of her
>can't afford to move out, will probably have to drop out if I tried
What the hell do I do?
I can't kick out gf on her own, but fuck, I'm lost.

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Hey /adv/, I'm 23 now, but I guess everything started when I was 3. I was abused by my dad's at-the-time-girlfriend. She would beat me, lock me outside or in my bedroom closet for hours at a time, always called me degraded me by calling me bad or worthless, etc., and at one point she almost drowned me when my 3 year old dumbass over filled the bathtub and she got super pissed. When my dad found out and left her he never talked to me about it, my mom didn't either, but my whole family knows. I've asked about it before when I was still young and my parents were just kind of quiet about it and didn't say anything relevant.

The past few years I've been looking back on my teen years and especially my youth I really held onto that, and things that people did or said. I used to draw a lot and make comics as a kid. I wanted to be an artist or an animator, but my family and friends would tell me its not a real job or its stupid. I started writing a lot when I was around 8 and was really exclusive about it. The one time I showed one of my parents a short story they grimaced at the fiction/fantasy of it and told me how much they despised it. Around 11 I started to play guitar and especially bass guitar and I would feel a release of pressure in my chest I'd never knew I had, but when I told my parents that this is what I wanted to do they told me that so does everyone else and I should start focusing on real career choices.

It seems like all of this negativity has come from women, which has really affected my view of people, especially women in general. I don't find the joy I used to in music or art or literature. I get anxious like years slip away just because I spent 15 minutes playing my bass or drawing a bird.

Does anyone else experience these feelings or have a history similar to me? How do you cope? How can I move on from this?

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Hi /adv/
So I started to seeing me friend's bigger brother secretly ofc.
We always had this tension between us and now we started having an affair and even slept together. Should I tell my friend? Is it wrong of me to do this? I think he will get angry at me because he is HIS brother and not mine.. But it's a free world and he can't rule over us! It's really hard to keep something like this a secret..

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Alright /adv/, the fuck is on my leg? This has been there for a couple years now and it's starting to look nasty

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Serious question here

I love my 22 yr old gf very much and I can't imagine being without her, but I fantasize about her sleeping with other people and enjoying great sex. It turns me on like nothing else. I'm not into humiliation or chasity and whatever. I just want her to freely enjoy sex with others.
When we have sex she likes to tease me with dirty talk, saying to let her go out to night clubs and going home with other guys. But she seem to get a little annoyed when I seem too enthusiastic about it. It seems like she only brings up this kind of stuff to tease me, but has little interest in doing so.

Why do I have this thought?

Is it best to hide it or to talk to her about it?

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>meet a girl at work
>she's genuinely funny, interesting and cute
>she seems interested in me but refers to me as the cool/weird guy when we hang out during work
>don't see her very often due to differing shift schedules
>might have a boyfriend outside of work not sure also feel i might have missed my chance

nevertheless im gonna end up asking her out in the next few days but im wondering how should i approach asking her out? should i flat out ask her out? or hint and lead to the idea of going out? perhaps make up some excuse and see where it goes? what should i do if she says yes or no? is it a good idea?
Also the other issue is i have avpd and overthinking anxiety issues so im damn nervous as shit just thinking about it. I've never been with any girl that's gone further than a close friendship before so i have zero dating experience. will post update if req. pic unrelated

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I really need advice lads, about my girlfriend. Shes currently at uni taking illustration and she has massive self confidence issues and insecurity about her art and talent. She thinks that she hasn't made enough progress for the 10+ years shes been drawing and thinks she draws like a child/teenager. Her stuff is good, not the best but its a lot better than she thinks it is, and I tell her this.

I'm really at a bit of a loose end with her, I've got no idea what to say to her any more apart from "your work is good" & "don't worry". I am currently talking to her about getting therapy and she wants to but I imagine she just won't go through with it.

Does anyone have any similar experiences with this kind of thing? I fucking love her and want to support her as much as possible but sometimes I advice her and she just gets more upset. Or I don't know what to say.

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how do you cope with everything being so temporary?

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Hello, I have had gingivitis for at least 15 years now (I'm 22) but I didn't knew it. I always struggle with little lip ulcers and mouth bleeding when brushing my teeth and because of that I never ate much, was very insecure and never had a gf. So I discovered I had that and got checked, doc said I was critical and injected me something etc. now I can brush my teeth without bleeding and thus be healthier. This girl has a crush on me (I'm a 6.5 - 7), she spoke with me yesterday and I really wanna give It a try, to expierence how it feels to be cared (other than from a family member, sadly I take that for granted). I really really need help with how to deal with my ulcers. They mostly appear when I bite my lip by accident and heal in 2 weeks. Is there any tip at all anyone can give me? This is eating my life, consuming me like a Dorito, I need help... I'm even a little depressed.

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Long story short , my bf is really cool and my car is broken so he came to pick me up from work but he was late and I really had to go aaand I didn't make it to the toilet but in his car and I actually made a mess because I was wearing a skirt and it was diarrhea. He dropped me by my house while him being dipped in awkwardness and me dipped in embarassment and literally shit. What to do ? I love him but this is the most embarassing thing ever and I don't have the courage to reply to his texts . Dear god help.

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Hey /adv/,

How do I turn my one time hookup into a fuckbuddy? He use to text everyday before the hookup, and he texted me the same night after the hookup. He told me how great it was, and how great it was talking to him. Both in person and in text he asked if we I wanted to meet again and I agreed. But I texted him two days later (yesterday and first time I initiated), and he didn't seem as as interested in the conversation. In the hookup I wasn't able to cum, and I was rough which is what he specifically asked for. He implied he was sort of disappointed that I didn't. We fucked for like an hour, before we decided to try again some other time.

When and what should I text him?

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Hello,

I am moving from my current apartment soon and my landlord will be coming to inspect the house before I leave. The problem is I have a rabbit and when we just moved he chewed on the walls and I don't really want to pay for renovating. (self financing college student)

So how do I cover up these chewed out walls? I will upload one more picture where he chewed A LOT, and it'll be probably harder to cover up.

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So that pic is my legs currently, I never really noticed how ugly the leg hair looks so I want to trim it down and make it alot less thick. What are my choices here? I don't want to get rid of my leg hair just control and trim it down, make it less ugly

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I will tell a little about myself~ I'm a girl, 26, blonde with green eyes, I love alternative fashions (tattoos, colored hair etc) and I'm vegan...
After reading /pol/ and getting redpilled more and more, I kept losing friends because most of them are lefties, theists and most of the girls ( alternative like me) are hardcore feminists, at a birthday party they all talked about wanting a black boyfriend and only after being redpilled I understood why that is.

Not long ago I met a nice vegan german on League of legends but he was a Bernie lover to a point that he lost his mind and started raging over me supporting Trump, as if I did something so so bad to hurt him :/
How do you meet new friends when even on facebook everyone try the best to be politicly correct and scared to be called a nazi or racist :/
Idk where to even start looking for people like me, usually if someone has the same political views as me they hate vegans or believe in god.