What does it mean of someone keeps joking that they are in love with you? This girl I know through mutual friends keeps making jokes about marrying me and stuff like that. Does she actually like me or is she just mocking me?
When does she do it? When you two are alone, around others, both? That can be a pretty big indicator of whether or not she's dropping hints about anything.
>>17258097
Im mostly in a group setting with her, and the only time I've been alone with her she didn't make a joke. She also tags me in stupid relationship memes on Facebook.
>>17258083
Have you tried asking her privately? Worst case scenario she has new ammunition for making jokes. Best case instant gf. Anything in between seems not terrible either.
My gf and her male friend make inappropriate sexual jokes to one another.
This has happened in front of me and happens outside of my presence.
How do I deal with this without looking like I'm a oversensative killjoy?
Tell your GF it worries you. No reason to lie about it. If she doesn't understand or gets defensive then maybe something else is going on.
>>17258050
Her reaction was
"We are just friends and it's totally fine"
Similar situation here OP.
I knew my GF was on the flirty side when I began to date her. She and I are both bartenders, it comes with the territory.
That being said, you have to set boundaries. Either keep living uncomfortably with it or tell your SO what is and (more importantly) what isn't okay.
Her and I got into it one night at a party after I felt she took it too far with another guy. She had never had a boyfriend nut up and tell her to calm down in the past, so it was new for her. Took me a while to realize her nature, and it took her a while to realize she was overstepping boundaries. We're still working on it, but we're much better off now that I told her.
My gf has a short and unpredictable temper
Sometimes I'm just cracking a joke suddenly she becomes super angry.
For example we laughed at a story about how a woman spent so much money shopping. It was all laughs until I jokingly said she was like that at one point. Suddenly she bursted out in anger and said some shit about me tarnishing her dignity then she sold the iPhone and iPad I bought her and was planning on giving me the money. wtf? I was confused the whole time
Other times I'm doing something in the kitchen then I notice she glances at me with a hostile look, then ignores me for the rest of the day.
Wtf is this? Is it normal?
Fuck no it isn't.
>>17258054
She's the only gf I had so I have no one else to compare to. I was thinking maybe this is the part where "men don't know what they did" in a relationship
>>17258035
She sounds a bit bonkers man. I'd watch out if I were you.
My shoulders were extremly narrow in my teenage, i used to hate my body, it was big problem for me then someone suggested me swimming and i started swimming regularly everyweek.Today i have really wide shoulders and alpha male body.
but in my mind there is still doubts about what would happen if the girl i will mary had seen my old, genetic body, this thought really hurts me
What do you think, will my wife or gf care it? Or is it sensible to think this way?
>>17258027
>alpha male body
No, just no.
She probably isn't as vain as you, just show her how you were.
>>17258033
Why did you say no? It was just for instance, i am not saying i am the best huha....
You have not answered my question exactly....
>>17258042
Because you believe this alpha bullshit and have a checklist of how you should be to be alpha.
I answered you question. She is probably not as vain as you ergo she won't care.
Hello /adv/, ever since High School, I've begun to pay attention to the fact that I'm 5'4 more and more,I always wanted to be like the alpha jock in school but couldn't because people realized how much of a manlet I was and didn't take me seriously.
I've become more and more withdrawn from my life ambitions because I always have this feeling that whatever I go on to achieve in life is moot when someone else taller would be seen as better.
I got fatter since and I have this inner dilemna within me of whether or not I should even care anymore.
When will I ever learn?
>>17258022
I'm not going to give you some bullshit or anything. I do t know what it's like to be short.
However, I do lift.
At the gym, I see these short guys.
Guys who aren't even as fit as me.
But they're short.
And it makes them look jacked as fuck. It makes them look like a fucking iron monster. I would never fight them. Too dense. I think that's one of the pros of being short.
>>17258022
We had a similar thread yesterday. Basically, there's such a thing as limb extension surgery (but it's risky, painful and expensive) and you can move to a place with lower average height.
I'd at least take the advice of working out and suggest taking up a serious martial art (no flashy moves bullshit) so that you develop self-confidence.
Finally, learn to reframe shit in your mind so that you're not defeated by your own games.
If you haven't yet you should make sure you have good posture. I got about 3 more inches of height out my body from fixing my slouched spine/overly-tilted pelvis. Went from 5'6 to 5'9 in a few months
>be friends with a girl for two years while knowing she was in love with me
>led her on very much, despite my saying I didn't feel the same way
>she's leaving the country and will be gone for a while
>made me realize how I took her for granted this whole time
>about a month ago, we get drunk and I kiss her; we've had sex a few times since that night
>don't know if I'm developing feelings for her, but going in, our feelings would be very unequal (budding romance vs in love)
>don't want to lose her from my life but realize that this friendship is not sustainable
>we've always talked daily from good morning to good night, I care about her a lot, done very date-y things when we hang out, and have chemistry in general
>at the same time, still can't resoundingly say "yes, I like her" to myself
Please advise
You're a dick for leading her on. She clearly deserved better. Let her go and forget about you
>>17258049
I definitely don't. She tried once (we didn't talk for two weeks), but she came back because it was too painful for her to leave. I don't know what else to do, anon. I don't want to lose her but it's wrong to stay friends with her and keep her in this limbo.
>>17258109
Stop being selfish. You're clearly leading her on and making excuses not to cut her out of your life like you should, since she can't do it herself. You can't have your cake and eat it too. If you stay with her she'll fall into depression and go crazy with you being wishy washy towards her. And you can't even say that you like her...
Do broken/cut nails grow back? I was shaving my balls and accidentally went with the razor over it.
ouch.
>>17258004
nah it didn't really hurt but it looks like an ugly cut of 1mm.
I'm wondering if it's permanent or it will be growing back over time. Google only shows results for "damaged" nails, not broken.
I crushed my toenail once, it turned blue and fell off and a new one grew back. You've already seen a doctor, right?
I'm pretty much fucked
I got in an accident yesterday that was my fault. There was hardly any damage on the other guys car but mine wouldn't drive afterword. The car got towed and I find out my registration was expired. This happened when my insurance ran out, I got new insurance but I didn't get it in the time frame to keep me from paying a fine.
On top of this the tow is charging me everyday my car is in their lot.
I owe so much money and I can't afford any of this
What do I do?
Is it worth it to take out a loan to pay the stuff off? Loans aren't ideal but it'll.probably be cheaper than paying for lot space in the towing yard.
>>17257989
I applied for one but I doubt I'll get it my credit is shitty
>>17257974
You're a retard. Your insurance doesn't just "run out" you stopped paying, also you should know your vehicle registration expires every year, in the same month. It's really not hard to stay on top of these things, they're required to legally be on the road, and the fact you got into an accident while illegally operating a vehicle on the road is just karma.
Pay your taxes, you fucking nigger. I hope you never get your car back, and have to bike to work at McDonald's for the next 4 years to pay for all of this shit.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for some time now. An to make it short there's been a lot of drama in my family and with random girls he'd text. He admitted to asking for some girl to get naked over camera when he was drunk. He stopped using his phone and his kik. But I still get very paranoid and I don't know what to do..
>>17257933
Drop him, or anyone who does shit behind you back.
My ex girlfriend treated me poorly, and did shitty things while we were talking before we started dating. Never waste time on someone who doesn't understand your worth. If they're willing to do that shit, at all, then fuck them.
"I was drunk" is a shitty excuse, because they put themselves in that position and can't handle their alcohol. Find someone new.
>>17257945
I already dropped my 'friends' and everyone else who treated me badly.
All I do is work and talk to him mainly.
Throughout all the problems he's been there. And the girls he'd text were trying to break us apart
>>17257951
Verbatim "the girls he'd text"
He would text
HE WOULD TEXT
are there any lawyers/ lawyers on?
my mother passed away very recently. and my brother as well (4 months ago). my mom had a life insurance policy in my brothers name, and she was named the beneficiary. i do not know if she named a secondary beneficiary ( i had hoped she had named me), so now we have an unclaimed policy that my step father thinks he's entitled too (he already got the house and the rest of the estate)
it is my understanding that in a life insurance policy that it should go to next of kin if the claim was not processed before the death of the beneficiary. however my step father is named trustee of my mothers estate and became executor of any policies and such.
halp?
Sounds like its going to the Father, does he like you?
>>17257922
well considering i was suppose to get half of the estate and im left paying for my mothers unused car not really
If you get half of the estate, you should get half the policy.
Lawyer up.
Do you just walk in any random wal mart/restaurant/gas station and ask if they need help, or do you apply online, or what? I want to move to the Los Angeles area and get a job ASAP.
>>17257872
>go to store
>'hi are you hiring'
>'yes'
>give them your résumé
>>17257878
How long does it take to actually start working?
>>17257881
Well depends on the store mostly, if they need people you'll get hired fast, just look the part act the part and you should have no problem. Also sometimes they drug test
Pic for attention.
Kk, so I'm a 19 yr old dude in Texas and I'm on the run for violating deferred probation for 3 misterminor charges and I'm currently still actively fighting a DWI charge against me.
My charges: Unlawful carry of a handgun (misterminor in the state of tx), 2 counts of possession of marijuana 0-2 oz, and the DWI.
My question is, how much jail time could I be looking at for violating probation ?
>bump
I laughed at your spelling of misdemeanor.
>>17257837
Misdemeanors aren't life altering like felonies, you shouldn't have violated your probation.
Hey /adv/,
I don't have a problem with starting conversations with girls and have always been a conversationalist.
When I start talking to girls (or anybody for that matter), I tend to see what they are interested in, hook on to that and subtly steer the conversation into that direction. I have interests in many things, from music, art, science, etc., so most of the time, as long as I find something to orientate myself toward, I can keep the conversation up (even if i know fairly little myself, i adapt and learn).
Mostly letting the other person talk, if possible. If it works, the conversation becomes a self-driver. The other person gets to talk about their passion and i learn things about them (as future reference).
This has worked well so far for general networking purposes.
Yet I feel that when I talk to girls (especially on a date / one on one), I have the tendency to go too deep too quickly. Not personal, but deeper (i don't ask for political opinions...).
For example.
Girl likes shopping:
>1. Where do you shop?
>2. What is your favourite designer. What/Who is your inspo? ... (or what is your favourite instagram?)
Girl likes music:
>1.What genre?
>2.What is your favourite artist and why? (implied: What makes them special in your eyes).
Girl like reading:
>1.What is your favourite author?
>2.What sort of books and why?
And I feel that this has not worked too well for girls. There are girls who react well to this form of talk, but they are rare and most of them usually don't grab my interest or aren't interested themselves.
>Is it me? What am i doing wrong?
>Am I hanging around the wrong girls?
>Am I aiming for the wrong girls?
Women are designed to talk a lot and not convey important information. With guys, it's easy - you just ask for the information and they give it to you. Steering away from this formula makes you lose out on male friends. With girls, what is "important" is actually "what is important to them" - so you can never really get anything relevant or objective from them (here come the feminists). Girls don't really operate well outside of emotion and selfishness.
That's always a good thing to keep in mind - to consider not only WHAT the girls think, but also HOW they think it. Play off the HOW more so than the WHAT - because by getting absorbed into the "WHAT" of girls' minds, you then get submerged in their bullshit interests and are completely averting from anything related to sex. HOW they think means how they act - which is infinitely a better measure. Never judge a girl on what she says, always on what she does.
>>17257865
Thanks.
>Getting to know the personality they say.
I often hear from girls that personality is important. But how is personality and interest conveys when you don't ask 'substantial' questions?
>Never judge a girl on what she says, always on what she does.
How does this work, if when on the first date, or casual conversation?
>Talk about nothing substantial
How would this look like?
>Did you watch the recent....movie in the cinema?
>I think it was awesome too, it reminded me of that other director...
>Too Deep already.
>What am i not getting?
>>17257874
> But how is personality and interest conveys when you don't ask 'substantial' questions?
Body language, RSVP - Rhythm Speed Volume Pitch (Tone (VP) Cadence (RS)). You convey your personality in how you talk and microexpresivley move, not what you talk about. A women knows only two male personalities: one to fuck and one to not.
>How does not caring about what a girl talks about work?
It just werkz
>>Talk about nothing substantial
>How would this look like?
Like you're talking to a little kid in terms of intelligence and material. Like you're in front of a class of children and you have to tell a story and keep them captivated. Like you're doing a paper on pathos rhetoric and have to bold every emotionally positive word and double-bold words relating to sex.
>What am i not getting?
Probably nothing is wrong with you if you can analyze the situation like this. You're introspective enough. You're probably just a nice, average guy :^)
What are you supposed to do if you got two days off work with a doctor's note and just miraculously feel better two hours later?
I was absolutely sure I could not go through eight hours on my feet, I threw up in the car on my way to the clinic and everything, I wasn't faking it, but now I feel fine.
Can I call in to work and show up anyway? Will they think I was going to skip and then changed my mind?
My family will never let me have peace if they think I was faking sick to skip work on purpose.
>>17257802
You probably threw up whatever was making you feel bad. Maybe take one day off and go back.
>>17257805
I threw up the glass of water I'd gotten down, and some fragments from yesterday's lunch it seems. And more water later. I was mostly shitting like crazy.
>>17257810
Are you sure you're completely fine? You might start getting the shits/vomiting again. I would give it at least a day before going to work, you don't want to shit yourself.
Everything in my life is sour. I try to make lemonade, but life keeps breaking the pitcher and pelting me with more lemons.
1) I didn't get into any phd program, and though I only applied to high tier schools, I applied to so many, and not one took me in.
2) An ongoing problem since I broke up with my ex 4 years ago: I am a sexual failure. All I had since then were 2 random hook ups with a thirsty fat chick. Wasn't even hot-fat. So in the last year I've started trying, and it works for a while until something goes wrong. First girl this year, my friend said is into me, pushed me to go for her, only to have him sleep with her. The rest of the 5 girls I struck out on so far this year, it can be summarized as me waiting too long/not going in at the right time when it was obvious.
3) like I said, I am abroad, and all my friends I made here went home for the summer, so here I am alone. This is getting to me a bit.
4) I have a huge piano performance at the end of June that I am preparing for. I can't get the pieces to be as smooth as I want, and this is a lot of stress.
5) My downstairs neighbor (in a n apartment) told me that my piano is bothering him like 4-5 months ago. Hasn't said anything since. Today, he banged real loud on my door and almost yelled at me to stop and that he would report a noise complaint to the maintenance or whatever. I was really tempted to yell back, but held it in. Instead of trying to calm him down a bit and talk it over, I gave in. This just happened a bit ago.
Now, I just cried for the first time in about 6 years. I feel like such a bitch for crying after just having gotten yelled at, but my anger at the guy just turned into that. I am so sick of everything. I'm not one to give up on life, and I am still giving it my all, but I am so emotionally exhausted.
All this failure after I try so much, it's getting to me. I try to bring up my esteem, and it works up until something or someone brings it crashing back down. What do I do?
>>17257790
By "almost yelling" I mean that he wasn't full on screaming. But he was speaking with a shit ton of aggression and loudly.
Op here, sorry for wasting space on this board. I should be posting on r9k
>>17257790
take a short break, do something you really like that will bring your mind far away from all this. maybe take a walk, hike, cycle around the park. basically pull back. once that is done sit down and reevaluate everything that you are planning to do and try to see if it's really worth it and see what you can do to improve.