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Should I stop going to the therapist? I'm not getting anything out if them anymore and it feels like I'm not achieving anything by going to them.
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No. Therapy is a lifelong treatment.
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>>17258753
There are many different approaches to therapy. Talk to your therapist about the possibility of changing approaches.
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>>17258755
Not true. I was cured of severe depression over the course of a year, no relapses after nearly 10 years.
However, don't just stop. Therapy is something you need to see through.
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At work today I was talking about the haircut I got this weekend and my boss told me I had a few grey hairs. I thought he was kidding, but when I got a chance to inspect myself in the mirror I found I had dozens and dozens of little silver lines all over my scalp. I'm only 25! How is this happening? Is this common!?
It seems to be localized to the top of my head, my beard is still obnoxiously orange, but what should I do in the future? Should I dye my hair to keep from looking 50 when I'm 30? Or should I just let it take its course?
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My cousins are 23 and 29 and they have salt and pepper hair. It looks pretty cool, to be honest. I wouldn't recommend dying it, but then again, I'd be too lazy to keep touching it up
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>Is this common!?
The same happened to me and my uncle as well. Idk if it's common but it happens. Hey at least you aren't balding in your 20s, that can happen too.
Your options are to dye your hair, cut it short, or just accept it.
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I started getting gray hair in my beard at 23. I have a few in my scalp at 30 now. Get over it.
I'm a janitor at a hospital and one of my co-workers is an older lady, maybe 62-63 years old. We'll call her Janet.
Anyway, she's generally my partner on our floor (each floor gets assigned 2-3 workers for the day), and instead of just taking care of her agreed-upon sector, she follows me around and is constantly micromanaging me.
>did you do x yet?
>why did you do that instead of doing this first?
>you should do xyz
>don't do that!
>blah blah blah etc.
For the first couple of months I didn't mind it because I was a newbie and thought she was just showing me the ropes, but it has continued. I know what I'm doing and don't need someone breathing down my neck. It's extremely annoying and I have to bite my tongue in order to not say anything to her for it.
I tried to ask her in the nicest way possible to just leave me alone and let me do my job, since I know what I'm doing now, but she continues to do it.
I didn't know what else to do so I went to our supervisor and asked to be moved to a different floor so I wouldn't have to work with her, and one of our other co-workers (we'll call her Linda) overheard me (most workers there are women, and all they do is gossip, talk shit, 'he said-she said' etc.) and told Janet that I was shit-talking her to our boss and trying to get her in trouble.
Needless to say, this blew up in the break room and now all of my co-workers are furious with me. When I went back to work, Janet completely went off on me. When I tried to explain she called me a "fucking liar" and proceeded to cuss me out for about 5 minutes before I finally walked away since I clearly wasn't going to be able to defend my case.
What should I do? Everyone completely hates me and makes my job hell at work.
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>>17258736
>most workers there are women, and all they do is gossip
its never gonna get better anon
find a new job
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Sounds like a terrible work environment. I think you should either man up and tell her very firmly that she is overstepping her bounds and needs to stop, or quit. I'd probably just quit
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Working with women is terrible. Try looking for another job.
If you want to do damage control on your current job, then get your supervisor to call for a meeting and straighten everything out.
What do you do if someone you care about is being abused?
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>>17258710
stop abusing them
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Contact police?
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>>17258710
Tell us more op.
There isn't much you can do, just tell the one who is at the receiving end that there are things he or she could do to get help and make it stop.
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How would you take this off?
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>>17258674
Just let it be, it'll take care of itself eventually.
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Shits lifting...
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It will come out by itself with time. If you're desperate to feel pain every time you walk then by all means pull it out by force. Just pray it doesn't get infected in the process
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Post-op gastric bypass problems
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I took this to /adv/ because I really don't have a lot of other places to go. Hopefully there are other anons out there who have had a gastric bypass or similar bariatric procedure who have some insight or tips!
Basically I am 2 months out of surgery and I am not losing anymore. I try to get my daily 60-80 g of protein, I walk and walk and walk and jog and work out 300+ mins a week and I eat around 600 kcals a day which is as much as I am able to at this point after surgery.
Im so disillusioned, disappointed, exhausted. I have a fairly active job where I sit still for maybe 1 out of 7,5 hours, the rest I spend walking/moving around. I am at my wits end and I dont know what to say to my doctor about this issue - my weight has stood still for over a month now. Do I make him check me for thyroid issues, PCOS? insulin?
Any experience from anyone is greatly appreciated- or if anyone wants a GB buddy - I would love one.
I just want to reach that healthy weight and be successful so badly.
Help is greatly appreciated!
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anyone? ;_;
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Hey OP
Think of your body as an engine. Bigger, stronger engines require more fuel to operate. If you're able to maintain weight by eating so little that means your engine isn't very powerful.
I used to weight 184 pounds but lost 40 by just running one hour everyday, and doing weight lifting every two days. You might not like the idea of gaining weight by putting on muscle, but strong people burn fuel fast. Michael phelps eats a whole frigging pizza just as a meal, that's because his body needs a lot of energy.
Try increasing your intensity, or incorporate weight lifting on top of what you're current doing if you haven't already.
If you're so desperate to lose weigh by going through surgery...you could aways try the hollywood diet; by puking the meals you eat.
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>>17258658
>Do I make him check me for thyroid issues, PCOS? insulin?
Sounds like a good place to start. Just make an appointment and tell him what you told us.
Whaddoido now?
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Play literally any other game for a change?
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stupid mother fucker
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Stop fragging your teammates, maybe?
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Hey guys, so heres the low down;
So 3 years ago I got a Japanese penpal, she speaks perfect english (almost) and shes cute as hell, we message about... once or twice a day (usually big clumps of 5-10 messages discussing stuff.)
She visited my home town in March and we had a walk around and a bit of fun ect, right now im in Hong Kong om holiday and eventually in 2 weeks im getting to Japan to see her in her home town.
I really like her, and i think she likes me too. She said she wanted to visit Hong Kong and i suggested we visit together and she loved that idea, so i think she kind of likes me too.
What do I do? Are internet relationships degenerate? Id have to confess my love to her because shes very patriotic but i dont know how to even do that.
Fyi im white british, getting a degree in 2 years time.
Its 6am in my hotel room so heres a picture of the wall
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Do you have any plans to move to Japan in the future? Does she have any plans to move to where you are in the future? If you said no to either or both of those questions, you're wasting your time.
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>>17258648
This so much.
Gaijinfag here,
If you're white, British and your face isn't too fucked you can find tons of even cuter or dare I say hotter girls than the one you're currently"dating", if you come to Japan that is.
Grab her hand and see how she responds to it. Lead her to a bed and fuck her slto sleep then when done ask yourself if you're willing to relocate, or ask her if she is willing to do as well.
Good luck op
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>>17258648
She wants to stay in Japan as a translator, however I want to move to Japan as either an English teacher or a doctor.
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I would do that but aside from a girlfriend iv Had fir 5 years, i dont have much exoeriance doing that. Besides we both have already booked a train to visit a dew places in Osaka for when I arrive
So I got let go of my last job roughly a year ago, right after the three month starting period. Barista at starbucks, was late several times which basically flunked me out of the position. Right now I'm just looking for another retail job to fill up some time during the summer. Should I even bother mentioning my prior job since I was fired? Every application I've come across has:
>Have you ever been terminated from employment? If yes, please explain.
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Fuck no. Pretend like it never happened, especially if you were only there for your three month trial period. It's not as though you'll be using them as a reference.
Those questions are more geared towards situations like your being fired from a 6 year career as a client manager for some big firm because you were caught giving the client a handjob in a meeting.
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Don't write it down. It's not a court testimonial, it's an application. They can't force you to write down the negatives. Even in an interview you can just say nope, never been fired.
They won't find out either, these day they have a hard time catching people who fake degrees.
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Groovy. Thanks guys.
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>Be socially anxious autismo
>Tinder is the only place I can meet girls because saying hi to them in the real world is just no for me
>Meet girl and talk to her for a week
>We meet up at Starbucks one day for coffee and shit
>First "date in like ever"
>I have a good time, she seems to
>Talk all night after
>Talking to her again today (few days later)
>Ask her if she wants to meet up again sometime
>"Sure lol"
>Keep talking to her about random shit
>Just replies with "Nice", "Cool lol", "haha yeah"
It's clear she isn't really interested in our conversation. Why is this sending me into such a tizzy? Wouldn't normal people just brush this off as nothing, after all we hardly know each other, even if she isn't interested in me it shouldn't matter.
Why do I have to be such a walking trainwreck with women, why is it so hard for me to keep my cool with them. I try as hard as I can but I just can't keep a level head. I always get attached way to quickly because a woman showing even remote interest in me is a huge deal to me because it almost never happen. It just feels like I'm doomed to live my life this way.
A lot of my friends even refuse to talk to me about this because it's been going on for so long that they're tired of hearing about it.
I feel like I'm losing my goddamn mind at this point, not just because of this one girl, but I just feel so fucked up and have no idea what's wrong with me or what to do.
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You are getting too emotionally invested in a date.
Relax, meet up with her again, if she isn't interested try more tinder.
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>>17258598
Why is staying calm so damn hard for me.
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>>17258590
>It's clear she isn't really interested in our conversation. Why is this sending me into such a tizzy
Because you waited too long to pull the trigger on the fuq and you realize you fucked up. In the interlude she found someone else to pound her poon. But she doesn't want to be directly mean to you so she's giving you bullshit two word answers.
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I'm currently freelancing as a illustrator(erotic contend) but I'm afraid I may not make enough money to support myself with, before I have to get out of the house.
So I've been looking for possible jobs to fall back on but there doesnt seem to be much.
Most simple jobs wont hire people above 21 and you need a education for the rest.
If anyones got some good idea or suggestions I'd be most grateful.
I am prepared and able to do a short educations for the job. (bartender for example only requires 1 years of evening school)
If it helps, I live in the Netherlands.
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>>17258562
Post art. Are you any good?
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>>17258673
I'm decent enough to get commissions on a regular basis.
But it's very inconsistent, so I'd like to have a back-up plan in case it doesnt workout.
http://graniem.tumblr.com/
Thats the link to my gallery, since NSFW isn't allowed on this board I belive.
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>>17258769
beautiful art anon. how are you making money right now? who have you sold art to?
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how to know if your bored or just taking people for granted? 2016-06-15 21:23:18 Post No.17258508
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how to know if your bored or just taking people for granted?
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26M been with my girlfriend 23F for almost two years. Lived with her for most of that time. We never argue or fight. There is really no big problem we have ever had with each other. The only negative is the “routine” that we have gotten into. We go to work, then see each other at the end of the day. The sex has become “routine” and the conversation has dwindled. It is hard for me to look her in the eyes, kiss her, and say I love you. Recently have met someone at school that I feel infatuated with. Have hung out a lot with this person and still have these feelings. Just ended things with my girlfriend so that I could pursue this new person.
How do you know when your confusing infatuation with love and when your confusing a long term relationship with routine and boredom?
I don’t want to be perpetually taking people for granite and end up a lonely old man because I always want what I cant have. But also do not want to end up in a relationship where I can’t look into their eyes when I come home and feel that I love them.
Also I am moving to London in 2 months to go to grad school. My girlfriend was going to come with me and now is not.
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Uh, have you tried talking to her? Or trying to change things up in your relationship? Problems don't just magically fix themselves, you have to do something to fix them
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>>17258508
It takes effort to keep a relationship from settling into routine and boredom. Any relationship. You have to work at it, we wouldn't call it the infatuation phase if it lasted forever. The good news is it's not all work, love is cyclical; if you gut through those periods of boring contentment then you end up crazy butterflies-in-your-stomach in love again for a while. And then, unfortunately, that wears off and things feel settled for a while again. If things don't cycle back around, then, yeah, it's probably time to end the relationship.
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>>17258508
The grass is greener where you water it, dingus.
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I don't know what the subject of this is going to be, but I need help. 2016-06-15 21:19:45 Post No.17258499
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I don't know what the subject of this is going to be, but I need help.
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I'm drinking, so it might be because I'm slightly buzzed, but I think now is a good time to mention this (I'm legal age for alcohol in Ireland, don't worry)
I desperately want to have a daughter, /adv/.
Problem is, I am only 18-years-old and I am 5'6". I haven't had a girlfriend in three years, and I haven't had a female friend in three years either.
Due to my shitty height genetics, I don't want a son anymore because he would just be extremely self-conscious over his height like I am.
I also have extremely low self-esteem and have had for most of my life.
But I feel as though my dream of having a daughter will never come to fruition because of that. I want something I can pour my life and love into. Maybe it would a way of helping my own mental health.
Lately, I've just been daydreaming about myself crying with joy when she is born and I get to hold her in my arms. Then I'm dragged back to reality.
I don't know what to do, /adv/. It's putting me down a lot.
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You have self-esteem issues because you blame your shortcomings on height. 5'5 m, never been an issue. Better yet it filters out superficial women.
Your dream of a having a daughter is some romanticized overblown fantasy you need to break out of.
Stop the drama, the drinking and these call for attention shitposts and move on with your life.
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Have you considered transitioning? With that female height, you could be an ideal trap.
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>>17258540
It's not a call for attention, though. I promise it isn't,
I've genuinely been struggling with this for a long while. I just don't know what to do. I really want a daughter bad, and I feel like I can't achieve that goal.
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I'm about to have a breakdown /adv/
I'm 19 and live in a city I moved to 5 years ago. I lost almost all my friends and didn't make any back in High School here. I took a year off and haven't done anything yet, but don't have a driver's license nor a job.
I have no friends. I have no job. I have no means of getting around out of the house. I sometimes can't get out of bed in the morning because I'd much rather be asleep where this shit doesn't bother me.
I feel so alone and it's making me panic. There's nobody to go to and I'm trying my hardest to get out of this rut but I just can't. I know breaking out isn't going to be easy but it feels so hard and there's just so much I need to do that it seems so impossible to me. I know I'm young yet but it feels like I've wasted my time to be a teenager and meet people and have a life before the adult world gets me.
What do I do /adv/? I'm a pretty self-sufficient person ever since I moved here but it's not enough anymore. It's getting harder and harder each day.
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Join the military.
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>>17258500
That's a pretty big commitment I'm not sure I'm ready for.
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Get a job. Any job really, a source of income will motivate you like an getting adrenaline needle in the morning. Exercise (cardio/gym) -it restores serotonin and endorphin balance. You lack motivation because you haven't formed a plan/ambition for the future.
Ignore the join the army tard.
If you were coming to Hawaii for the first time, what kind of things would you want to do?
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>>17258436
Find a wide waisted polynesian qt and fuck her brains out
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>>17258436
I'd like to try authentic poke/poki
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>>17258445
Poke is good, but don't be one of those people. It's just fish, soy sauce, and sesame oil. Add whatever else you want.
OP, recommendations will depend upon which island you are visiting. I used to live on Oahu and if you are going there, I highly encourage you to see the Polynesian Cultural Center. The Bishop Museum is cool, if you are into that sort of thing.