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Bumping my own thread to hopefully get some help from you guys.

>>17275060
At some point one of you is going to have to discuss this relationship with the other, or neither will know where you stand. If she's not happy in her relationship, she should deal with that and make a decision, but having it both ways is a recipe for ruin...

>>17275060
you either spill your spaghetti or distance yourself. Or you can do both. something along the lines of "I'm starting to develop feelings for you, but I dont want this to affect our friendship with your anon and I..." sort of thing.

Truth be told I would tell her how I felt and that I needed to get it out before you hang out anymore. But then again, I'm a shoot from the hip type of guy

How old are you?

>>17275017
Good choice m8, you'll also gonna keep your hair.

>What is chemical castration
might be a viable option

if people ask why u have no balls just say u lost them in a accident or something.

but I think making a permanent decision like that is pretty ducked , what if your mom wants a grandchild one day u can't. Also adopted kids are not the same so that isn't a viable replacement.

idk just think about it, I understand ur reasons, but good luck

Had there before mate, best way is to just not think about it. Go have fun, enjoy life, always be doing something. I mean, we all know things will eventually end, right? A good movie will stop after its credits, a delicious meal won't last long til its gulped down. Life is just the same. Enjoy it while you can.

>>17274992
Used to do this. Used to also think: If there's an afterlife then good, if not then I won't even realise since I'm gone. It helped me accept death, but recently it just stopped working for me.

Ignoring it won't do anymore.

>>17274979
Stop doing drugs.

>>17274953
Those sound like good ideas! A book of positive sayings, a photo of yourself that she can look at and keep, and your remaining in touch can all be helpful for her! If you hear of anything that interests her--like, say, flowers--a small gift of a living plant that she can watch flourish can also cheer her up! GL!!

>>17274964
thank you. I don't want it to come across as super soppy, or anything. But something small and physical she can hold does sound great.

I'm already helping her have something to focus on, by giving her some stuff that she can use to learn a language that she's said she's interested in.

But I was thinking something stupid, As an example, an origami lion to "scare the voices away"

But I don't know if that would come off as insensitive that it's not that easy

>>17274969
Giving her an Origami Lion can be a nice gesture--let HER decide that it's to "scare the voices away." Consider giving it as, "For strength and courage (...when things get rough)" or "Something to watch over you..." With gifts, watch her reactions carefully...don't give too many too soon or too close together, but when it's appropriate and when she seems receptive. Again, GL out there!!

Fight another alpha. Steal his mate. Lead his tribe. Ooga booga.

You can not become alpha, you are born to be one. And from the way you talk I already know you are a faggot. Being alpha isn't necessarily bound to being attractive and it's especially not bound to being the least taken serious phenotype on the planet (blonde, blue eyed males).
Don't sweat it, if you try to fight your true nature it will only come off as cringeworthy and funny to others, even if you lack the self-awareness to realize that.

https://youtu.be/msy26315IE8

lol, he doesn't realize that she's juggling like 8 other penises right now.

>She seems less and less interested every day we talk
>It could just be me overthinking things but idk.
>Can't stop panicking because I'm scared I'm being an annoyance or something

Why can't I keep calm and rational about women

>>17274905

Women like to play these games.

>what do you want to do?
>idk
>how about this?
>idk or "no"

The only thing that has worked for me consistently is saying

"I am going here at so and so day at so and so time" are you interested.

If they make no effort to compromise cut them loose! They are just a waste of time and energy.

For reference making an effort is like

>"I am not available that day but here's when I should be available" the ladder just says that they don't give a shit and you should keep your money in your pocket. Cheers

You can get a paycheck loan with an absurdly high interest rate.

>>17274895
what are you doing that would make you need a lawyer on retainer but not able to afford it?

>>17274902
I make $586 a week, If I eat ramen for a few months I can survive off of spending like $700 a month max after rent bills and gas. Am I gonna get buried by getting a loan like this?

>>17274906
Being a fuckup

Bumpalumpin

>>17274890
Why did you waste all your time being with her you fucking nigger

>>17274945
Sex, did a lot of shit together, and mostly comfort in having a consistent schedule.

There's one thing that makes me happy in all this: I was an extremely good boyfriend and her dating life will be barren besides betas or guys looking for sex.

As you say, the guy has done nothing to warrant your distrust. If you do end it, are you hoping that your next boyfriend will magically teach you how to trust? Or are you setting yourself up for an endless cycle?

>>17274878
If I ended this relationship I would avoid getting into another. There wouldn't be a next boyfriend, seeing as I've opened up too much to this current one. I can't see myself doing a relationship again if this ends.

>>17274870
There is nothing in your post that indicates that your BF is untrustworthy. You state that he's never cheated but you think he will unable to refuse another woman, but surely you recognise that this is all in your head. It has nothing to do with what would actually happen.

Sometimes guys go soft because they're tired. There's nothing unusual about that either.

Trying to stop your boyfriend from attending partied in his own home is a recipe for disaster. Break up with him if you want, but understand that it's due entirely to your own insecurity and has nothing to do with his actions.

Wow. And some people can't even GET girlfriends. Yet, more than half the time, you pretend like you want yours to not even exist

>>17275006
If I keep this rate up, I'll probably be single by next summer.

I just want to enjoy life again. My doc put me on antidepressants, but they haven't kicked in yet, it's only been a couple weeks, though.

>>17274846
The entire first paragraph describes myself as well, except I'm 21 and still don't have friends despite effort. How is it you ever even fell in with these guys?

Don't listen to The Cure listen to metal bands covering The Cure it's a whole fucking genre unto itself.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NAzXH9k-p0Y

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qOae_p3r9YQ

Last one and then I'll stop but legit go to /mu/ desu

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cABKdx9CXoI

You are not ugly as shit but I recommend playing guitar or bass if you don't, it goes with your style. If you are a good person you seem perfectly fine to me. I can't picture you with different hair, you look like a young Slash.

>>17274743
I think i remember you from a hair thread...
Anyway, long hair matches you IMO. If you don't like it, go ahead and cut it. But my advice is to keep it long, they are nice.

>>17274743

Can you just dye the hair tips purple from the curly point onward? You'll still have the impression that you have short dark hair yet still have your edgy long hair thing going on with something unique. Cause if you cut your hair short, you will basically look like a clean cut boy scout without a face that matches. It might be even more weird.

shameless bump

>>17274742
>How to check if someone is robbing you?
Well, the simple way is to see if the person is uninvited but in your house taking your stuff.

>There was a suspicious guy who seemed like he wanted to rob me banging away at the door to the backyard the other day.
What reason did he give you for being in your backyard?

>how do I check if someone has tried opening credit cards in my name
Get a copy of your credit report. You'll get a list of who's made inquiries (checked your credit). If there are businesses or individuals there that you're not familiar with, follow up on those.

That way you write makes you seem paranoid. Not sure if you have mental issues or if your thinking is fucked up due to drug use.

>>17274881
>What reason did he give you for being in your backyard?

The house owner was supposed to fix the back door a year ago, so I thought maybe he was the technician sent. I asked him if he was here to fix it and he said "yes," without making eye contact. He removed the lower planks. I had to fly shortly out of town but I hid my documents in my living space.

> Get a copy of your credit report.
Where is a good place to do this? Excuse my lack of financial competency.

> That way you write makes you seem paranoid. Not sure if you have mental issues or if your thinking is fucked up due to drug use.

I am paranoid. Coffee and alcohol only, Sir.

ive been cucked by my uncle

shes younger than all his daughters

what the fuck?

anyhow i just go out because shes literally 50 meters away and i see her house and am aware of them 24/7 when in my home. ive been at a friends for the past 2 weeks and only occasional thought come up about her. try get out or drink or something dude.

>>17274767
That's fucked up dude

>>17274740
>Is this normal?

No. See a professional.

Being hot is worth the effort, think of all the fun and sex you will get.
You may temporarily enjoy food but if you are skinny you can enjoy fashion, have higher self esteem, higher chances of getting friends and a partner (people are nicer to prettier people and skinnier is prettier).
Good luck.

>>17274738
Either you sacrifice comfort and snacking to get skinny, or you deal with your choices.

If you stay a fat fuck, fine. I am one myself and I have made my peace with it (although I have been doing more exercise so as not to gain any extra weight.)

But you want to slim down, you have to do the work nd sacrifice. (Also I hope by just having water you mean cutting out sweet drinks etc, because starvation diets are fucking horrible for your body.)

>>17274744
I mean I have a partner that loves me dearly yet I my comfort with weight is on and off I was 170 now I'm 204 I've gained recently from stress and yeah I'd love to where nicer clothes also I've tried but it seems like nothing is working