Help me /adv/
I just matched with a totally cute Korean girl on Tinder and it's going well. She gave me her number and we connected over our love of our cats. and when I asked if she wanted to go out and do something together she said she wanted to, but she couldn't tonight.
I know this isn't probably the usual thing you get asked here, but I'm 24 and I've never been on a date before. I think she might like me, and I really don't want to blow this somehow.
Any advice you have on going out with a cute Korean girl?
I'm not don juan, but maybe buy her flowers and tell her how good she looks the next time she comes over. Kiss her on the cheek. Make her feel special, but don't be a cuck
>>17348149
Buying flowers seems excessive for a first date from Tinder. I was just going to take her out to eat somewhere.
>>17348156
idk m8, do that then. gl
this may seem slightly off topic but im curious...
how much of your own advice do you follow anon?
I was just presented with a scenario where i had to force myself to follow my own. it was a lot harder than i thought. honestly if i hadnt given the advice so many times i dont think i would have done it.
i almost made a thread asking for advice on it.
A lot of people don't take their own advice, which in turn can help them gain more insight into the issues, which in turn leads them to offering more advice and insight on the issue.
Most of the time any kind of advice is because someone's fucked up in some way, shape, or form and learned from said fuck up.
All you can do is attempt to follow that advice yourself, and if it doesn't work, you think about alternative ways to make it work better.
Hopefully that made sense, lol.
>>17348081
the hardest was to walk away from a 4 year relationship and we lived together but found out she fucked her boss. She begged and cried and I almost cracked but in the end took my own advise and balled up and ended it. On one hand felt like shit but on the other proud I held on to my dignity
>>17348081
I've learned it's a lot easier to take a look from the outside and come to the right decision than to look at the situation internally and come to the same decision. Especially regarding relationships. Emotions get involved, things go to shit.
So I accidentally took a really ugly snap of my body in an unflattering position where it looks like I have rolls etc and accidentally sent it to my boyfriend who I have not yet met in person.
I'm having an anxiety attack and on the verge of crying.
He's opened it and was very nice about it but it's a baaaad picture. What do I do?!
Please help meeee
>my boyfriend who I have not yet met in person
...
>>17348077
>opened it and was very nice about it
So, if it's a bad picture and not an accurate representation of what you look like irl, be happy. He'll be pleasantly surprised when you meet in person.
So the police suspect my friend of kicking in a door which he may or may not have done. The friend in question suggested he might have wanted to do it to 2 friends. One friend was a piece of shit and told the cops that and they investigated the other friend well call him friend #2.
My friend left a foot print on the door and the shoes that may or may not have been used may or may not have been thrown out. The first friend told him that friend #2 had his house searched for the pair of shoes. The cops came and talked to him about the incident then left and continued to call him to come in for investigation.
My friend was driving today and noticed a cop car in friend #2s driveway, watched the window and noticed the cop drive off.
How fucked is my friend without any real evidence just suspicion? Wouldn't they have arrested my friend by now if they were going to?
>>17348056
It's all hearsay and circumstantial until they find the shoes or other evidence (witness, video, etc) linking him to the crime.
Just tell your friend not to answer any questions without an attorney, this does not prove his guilt, but proves he is aware of his rights.
Your friend may still be charged by "suggesting" he would do it, and then it happening. That gives reasonable suspicion, and a judge/jury may be convict him on that alone.
I would suggest your friend account for his whereabouts during the time-frame that this occurred; and provide reasonable evidence or witnesses to successfully prove his alibi; that's if he is questioned (with an attorney present) or charged with a crime.
Your friend should be aware though, that bringing others into the fold may (if his alibi is found to be false) result in additional charges, such as conspiracy, tampering, and obstruction.
Your friend likely has not been arrested yet because it's just a police investigation. Once a prosecutor is handed the results of the investigation, he/she will determine to pursue the case or not.
Source: law student
>>17348097
Agreed, case seems thin as long as he doesn't do something stupid like talk to the police. All he has to do is take it easy and if he is arrested ask for a lawyer and nothing else.
>>17348097
What if he spent the night with a friend that night out of town but they saw him do it?
I seeing a woman recently and she texted me today about going to see the Ghostbusters movie this weekend. Do I go or not? I wasn't going to see it.
Pic unrelated.
Suffer the pain, anon. Do it for the nookie.
>>17348048
why not? unless your money is REALLY that tight, but yeah. i skipped out on seeing neon demon cuz money really is that tight.
>>17348048
If you actually want to date her, then yeah, you go. It's a stupidshit movie that will eat up a couple hours of your life. Who gives a shit? Are you so desperate for the approval of anons as to consider not going, just because the movie has been shitposted about forever?
If you get with that girl, there's no doubt she's going to put up with a lot of dumbshit that you like/want to do. Just go. It's not about the movie. It's about spending time together.
How do you deal with being made fun of?
I get being poked at every now and then, everybody's the butt of the joke sometimes, and I don't mind that. But when every little thing you do gets laughed at. And then since you just try not to let it bother you, the people take it as a free ticket to do it more, and still act like they're your friends. Then they'll eventually start asking more and more personal questions, and act kind of weird when you redirect the conversation or answer vaguely. Like, why the hell would I tell you any personal information or something important to me when I know you're just going to laugh at it like a joke?
I'm stuck with these people for at least another year because of being in the same program as them, but I'm considering trying to get in a different clinical class as them. I don't know though, I like being around them most of the time, and they and people I've talked to about this have said they wouldn't make fun of me if they didn't like me. It just gets old sometimes.
>>17348033
There are two ways to handle this situation:
>Continue not caring, but make it obvious from your attitude and gestures that their opinions don't mean shit
>Give them a taste of their own medicine.
Option two has more immediate results. Most of these types can't take what they dish out. They will definitely get pissy.
>>17348090
so my options are to be either passive aggressive or just plain aggressive?
>>17348159
Why not give a unrealistic(ridiculous) answer, so you can laugh along with them?
It would show others that you are big enough person(mature) to be able to make fun yourself.
You could also cry to gain their sympathy. So that they stop making fun of you.
Whatever you do, you should do something or you'll be pushed around your entire life.
What are some works such as films or albums that would make this feeling go away?
American Beauty
Interstellar
Bob Dylan- When the ship comes in
P.S. Please don't go psycho nor go on a murderous rampage; not the answer.
Give yourself some challenges
>>17348030
Are you still running away or did you go back home to your parents?
>>17348057
i second american beauty. also, coen brothers make good films
So my friend got with this girl that I like, and it has been making me very depressed. When she left on vacation for a week, I was happy... but then she came back, and now I'm sad again; she is the source of my unhappiness.
She is pretty much the only very attractive female that is close to me right now, and before, she has said things like "I love you" and cuddled with me etc... before her and my friend were together more or less.
They are both useless for hooking me up with other girls, so that's an issue. But now I'm losing my best friend because I can't be myself around him as he's always with her, and she is also supposedly a close friend of mine.
What should I do, guys? I'm 24 and it's not getting much easier to meet women. I'm tired of being the one guy in my group who is alone, and this is making me very depressed. I guess I thought that this was my chance, and my friend took it before I did.
>>17348029
getting /fit/ will solve all of your problems
>she is the source of my unhappiness
no, she isn't
>>17348029
Get off your ass you lazy bum.
So last night I tried out anal play (not my first time trying it but still) and late last night and this morning, I couldn't get hard again. I could get about halfway but no further. I also think it's maybe all in my head since when I've tired I've been frustrated and trying to make it happen.
Could I have damaged something last night or am I just being paranoid? I don't exactly want to go to my doctor saying I have erectile dysfunction from messing with my ass but I don't know what else to do.
Oh you just had to go and mess with your ass. Good job anon, now you'll only get hard for dick in your butt. It's only a matter of time until you're acting like a full blown homo. Sorry to be the one to tell you, but you're never getting a normal boner again.
>>17348008
Give it a couple days, it's probably just psychological, if you don't recover then I would consider seeing a doctor. Tell your doctor what happened, they have heard and dealt with weirder things and wont care.
>>17348094
I've managed to get almost entirely hard twice and also came today but I have a little trouble maintaining it.
I can't imagine what I could have damaged but it's concerning,
Do any of you guys use any dating sites to hook up? I've been off of them for a while after a few bad dates in a row. But now I'm just looking for a girl to smoke weed with and fuck, whats my best bet for this?
concert, tinder, club asdfasdfasdfasdf
>>17347999
>But now I'm just looking for a girl to smoke weed with and fuck
Chatting up any girl wearing a beanie and a flannel shirt, asking if she can hook you up.
Or literally smoke cigarettes out in public before someone comes and asks for one, then inquire about weed.
If you find a stoner chick, you find weed.
If you find weed, you find stoner chicks.
Search for one and you can get the other.
>>17348007
I've tried clubs but usually the music is either really loud prohibiting conversation, or the girl is with friends and I would guess not want to be approached.
My nightgame isnt the best though
I found a wallet and took 200+ dollars out of it and an hour later I felt like shit about it and went back to put the money back and bring the wallet to the closest store, but it was gone when I came back.
Can I fix this or do I need to have this on my conscientious for the rest of my life?
Give it to a charity, homo.
What who cares fuck that guy. Buy yourself a present because fuck that guy
>>17347997
Fuck you.
What up bros
So I have a inquiry
Imoved my room around so I am closer to a window and keeping the blides open expecting to get myself at least some tan
Why the fuck am I whiter 2 weeks later than when I started (and no my time outside has not changed much)
Why can't you get into TanThoughWindowmode/10
I think there is something wrong with the sunlight bros
Will someone fix the sun for me, willing to go g4p if you fix this my bros.
Did you keep your window open?
You can't get tan through glass.
I remember that from highschool. Something about glass blocking UV radiation, for whatever reason.
>>17347982
>Did you keep your window open?
No
>You can't get tan through glass.
I remember that from highschool. Something about glass blocking UV radiation, for whatever reason.
Wtf I call bullshit, stuff like pic related happens Idk why you would not tan too.
>>17347998
And what is pic supposed to demonstrate?
Is it possible to live in nyc Miami or la if you're a poor nobody
Like there has to be thousands of people there who are broke and can't do anything and still find a way. Right?
>>17347965
All you need is a job. The better the pay, the better off you are. Shit pay and you'll be rooming up with other shitty paid people. Better pay and you can do your thing.
Source: Lived in NY, Nashville, Miami, San Fran and now Maui. All you need to do is earn a check and pay your bills.
>>17347974
Even if I have certification in minimum as fuck shit? Roommates don't bother me it's actually preferred oddly
Live in NYC completely broke. Ahahahahahahahaha. I earn a respectable living in any other city and holy shit, I am scraping by. Furniture designer/maker who lives alone.
Hi /adv/
I have a problem where my dick is remarkably inconsistent when it comes to maintaining an erection when I'm hooking up with a woman. Doesn't matter if it's my first time with someone or a long-term relationship, sometimes my dick will just not stay up to the task and other times it will. What I've noticed:
>I have no problem getting hard in general, so it's not physical ED
>I probably watch too much porn
>What really seems to kill it is having to pause to put on a condom
Any advice on keeping it up? I'm giving up porn and trying to masturbate by only feeling, not thinking / imagining different situations and people. I also smoke, but I'm unsure of how much that actually affects erections.
pic unrelated, though I suppose Donald's frustration mirrors my frustration
>>17347959
>cut down on the porn
>cut down on the beer
>do some cardio, fat man
>>17347959
Do you have problems feeling light headed when you stand up real fast?
>Not OP but in a similar situation.
Don't smoke and I drink rarely.
>>17348114
I do get dizzy when standing up really fast
Hey /adv/. So I played a show recently and afterwards I was told that barely anyone could hear my vocals. I was actually singing pretty loudly too. Apparently my vocals in my monitors were turned up way louder than they were on the PA. If you went to see a local band and heard this, would you give them a second shot or dismiss them? I'm just worried about getting another show after that disaster. I was singing all passionate and jumping around and stuff too, but barely anyone could hear me.
>>17347948
>If you went to see a local band and heard this, would you give them a second shot or dismiss them?
I think you're thinking a little bit too deeply into one show. If you're a good musician and you put on a good show people will come to see you. If you aren't, they won't. Thats all you need to know.
>>17347948
Probably not. Was there no way to double check the acoustics before you began? Sound check?
>>17347953
Nah there was no sound check and when I plugged in earlier just before I played my vocals seemed loud enough, but I guess I was just hearing the monitors.