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>>17348325
>Then tell me instead how to eliminate my superego.

Consciously put yourself in situations you know will provoke shame. Observe your reactions, follow them back, connect them to historical events in your life to gain a better understanding of what makes you feel shame and then lean into discomfort. Do the things that scare you, analyze why they scare you, and take away the power of anxiety by challenging it.

What r u thinking about buying? Show me

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>>17348340
Really into space. Not trying to be cool but I think I have an overdeveloped superego probably because I was raised by my heavily Russian-cultured mom in Louisiana. Never really fit in with American culture so I generated a strange fixation with going to/living in space.
I just want to be happy with what I wear but I feel like everyone always watches.

Stretch in the mornings, take an asprin.

>>17348321
Can do. Am I overusing them? I have to pick things off the ground pretty constantly

>>17348315
Sore how?

I work retail too and for a while I was sore like... behind my left knee on the left side, if that makes sense. Hamstring tendonitis, I think. Takes a while to heal but I got over it after a while, even though I didn't follow the medical advice of rest and ice for x amount of weeks or whatever.

>>17348308
1. Do not pick up the habit of smoking cigarettes.
2. Always always use a condom. Never trust her when she says "it's fine". You will, sooner or later, wind up with a child and/or a std.
3. Don't let a girl come between you and a good friend.
4. Don't let money come between you and a good friend. This means don't lend money to friends.

Can't think of anything concise to say, so... bump.

>>17348308
>Go with your gut, if you feel something is up in the relationship talk about it or get out. It'll save you so much bullshit.
>You can say no and get out of relationships, don't feel the woman always needs to end it.
>Stop being such a baby

Feel free to share any of your financial problems in this thread as well.

Are you actively looking for a better paying job?

>>17348693
Yes, I've been refreshing Craigslist pages and looking around the area, but it's hard find anything more than just marginally better. Any time I find something even remotely promising, I end up not meeting the requirements in some form or another.

>>17348293
Please go see a doctor.
This is not a place to help you with that

It's possible, but it's something you want diagnosed by a professional.

I have Bipolar Type II and without medication it's sort of a 3-week-sad 1-week-happy but other people experience different times. If you find that when you're "happy" you're also extremely prone to anger or making impulsive decisions that could be seen as dangerous, such as uncontrolled drug consumption, impromtu sex with strangers, dangerous driving, etc then that's a key sign of a manic episode.

Find a nurse practitioner and talk to them. You MAY need to consult with a psychiatrist for a full medical diagnosis before getting something like depakote, though. Using that stuff without being bipolar turns you into a zombie.

>sometimes I'm sad
>OMG I HAVE DEPRESSION
>sometimes I'm happy and sometimes i'm sad
>OMG I HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER
>sometimes I can't focus
>OMG I HAVE ADD
>sometimes I focus too much
>OMG I HAVE OCD
>sometimes I make spelling mistakes
>OMG I HAVE DYSLEXIA

Yeah. Fuck off tumblr generation. When did having mental disorders become trendy? Is it just because it's a cheap fast way to make yourself feel special and unique? Or maybe victimized and oppressed? Well it's gonna be pretty ironic when so many people have self-diagnosed themselves that it becomes more unique NOT to claim you have any mental disorders.

Get out ASAP
You should not deal with that bullshit.

>>17348305
You're probably right

>>17348305
How to do this and deal with the guilt

why don't you just fucking message her and find out

it's a fucking text man
if she responds, great. enjoy. explain your situation, say you were busy with work or something. do what you said, ask her about her week, set up a plan
if she doesn't, she's not interested anymore, move the fuck on its just some tinder bitch. go talk to another one.

Tell her that your app is messing up, so I'd be cool to get her on <other app of preference>
You meant to ask her out last weekend, but the message failed to sent.

You know, the truth.

Just send her a message
>Sup. I thought I sent you a message a few days ago but apparently my phone sucks at being a phone.

wow, amazing.

>>17348236
stop going outside

>>17348250
gee I did not see that coming

You are jealous because you are insecure. You need to be honest with yourself as to why and then get the fuck over it.

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Bump. This ass shall attract replies.

Find out what your attention span is, for example by writing a short story with a stopwatch so you know when you're getting distracted and how long it typically takes.
Divide what you have to do into tasks small enough to complete during that period, for example write one sentence at a time, let your brain wander a bit, and write another.
Over time, work on lenghtening your attention span. Try lenghtening those tasks, or trying to complete two at a time.
It's not easy and it's not a full solution to the problem (more like working around it), but it does help without the need for meds.

>>17348210
Here's your (you)

You earned it!

You're a bitch. Tap that ass and drop the insecurity about who she has been with.

>>17348210
I don't understand the problem here. Just do it. Even if you're not good at it, you have to start somewhere, you can't just avoid the situation forever unless you actually want to stay a virgin forever.

You start fucking other bitches and act like you don't give a shit about your ex until you genuinely don't.

>>17348215

Just deleted her off my Fb and everything.

Really would like to see her crash and burn

(I'm the same guy that posted the first response)

Good. Seriously the best thing you can do is give her none of your time or attention. Don't even talk about her to people. If you can fuck any of her friends, do it.

At 18, your life is pretty much over. It's not like you have several decades to "bounce back". It's best if you don't try anything.

>>17348199
So that's it then? Their's just no point to anything and I should an hero?

>>17348177
why aren't you interested in any branches of the military? there's something for everyone in at least one of them.

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shut your pc off and go outside you fat neckbeard

There is no such thing you asshat.

>>17348154
You don't make friends online, not really. It feels like you're being social but it lacks fundamental elements of a real friendship. Things like doing something spontaneous, meeting new people together, and sharing experiences. Most online socializing is simply your personal interacting with another's personal.

Make friends in real life first. Don't get sucked into living your life for a computer screen. It's a black hole. Seductive because it's easy, and tasty. But it lacks substance and is ultimately unfulfilling. It won't help you really grow, it will only keep you entertained.

Bumpin

Such is the human condition my friend.
It's also something to do with how your mind is wired, which depends on your enviroment and what develops as a result from your actions and reactions to situations. Changing the way you think about things is one of the best things you can do for yourself.

Just do something to take your mind off it and focus on improving. Harder than it sounds obviously, but nothing in life worth doing is easy.

>>17348144
You are an ape.
The best state of being an ape can imagine is to do nothing, eat a lot, fuck even more, and fling poop and rocks at anything that wants it to stop doing the aforementioned.
This is not what we would call civilized conduct, but your brain is wired around approaching this perfection. Now in the bad old days this meant hunting so you had shit to eat, looking good so the qt 3.14 apettes wanted to fuck you, and being good at flinging rocks and fighting so you didn't get bullied or eaten.

Nowadays you can achieve that state without doing anything, which again is not the best way to go about life, but that's what your brain and body want. Gym and all that jazz is replacement caveman activity for a caveman that needs it (because he did for millions of years and that's how his body works), but doesn't want it.

Time to call child protection, bro.

>>17348136
Children's services, absolutely. Every day that you don't call you are condoning that environment.

I think it depends on if their mother seems like she wants to change and if there is anyone else in the household. An intervention/rehab may be a good idea if their is someone who can watch the kids while their mom gets better. If she doesnt want to change or this has happened many times over than you should call child services. Ive just dealt with child services before from crazy people who are just trying to hurt my family and I always look at it like a last resort but it definitely should be your first choice if thats all that will help the kids.