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>>17346783
finish school.

Chill for a bit, maybe work a shit job and live with friend or family.

Finish what you start. Just because you are sick of the god damn boat doesn't mean you should jump into the ocean before its anchored.

>>17346783
>>17346783
Sorry that's it, YOU'RE A FUCKING WHITE MALE. Nobody gives a fuck about you. Pretty easy to disappear, I am actually in the exact same situation.

I'm just so afraid I'm running out of any chance to have a good life. Thing is, the only stuff I could do for hours is watching anime and playing videogames. On the other hand, I get depressive if I do it all the time. I don't understand this. I want to have so many things (friends, family, a profession I'm passionate about) but I feel like that would mean I do stuff I don't like 24/7 just to have that.

>>17346797
I do plan to finsih my degree. That's not what I'm concerned about.

>>17346801
So that means you already graduated or does it simply mean you're just as afraid as I am?

Yes obviously

>>17346785
>>17346786
Wow that was fast. Thanks. She was perfect in every way. I wonder if I should apologize or just act like it never happened (the whole ignoring her thing).

I don't usually care much for people who say they're going to do something. I have very little faith in what people say they're going to do. But regardless, I'd like to take a look at your blog. What's the link?

>>17346740

been there, and i get it OP. i remember when i decided to start my own transformation, and the first step is saying 'i do want to be happy and am going to work towards it'.

at least for me, just being able to say / admit / acknowledge that I am willing to fix whatever comes my way, made me a lot happier. it wasn't fulfillment. i was still wandering trying to find the right path, but it was definitely the right direction.

my boss likes to say
>perfection is the death of spirituality

which means that, no matter how far you come along, there is no endgame. whatever your purpose in life, its continual. there is no climax toyour story.

life is a lot more like a TV show than a movie. it keeps going and going and escalating and getting bigger and bigger. everytime you think its over, it keeps going. but you manage to have a lot of fun and grow a lot along the way.

thanks for reading my blog.

>>17346740
That's awesome dude, I've decided to better myelf too, I've read a lot more, I've been studying music theory, practicing playing, listening to jazz, doing puzzles like suduko, and have been broadening my vocabulary and cutting down on cursing when its not necessary. Nothing huge but I'm happy with myself.

All that shit and more is a regular night for me and my gf

>>17346738

>any year ever since the beginning of time
>wanting to kiss a prostitute

Literally what the actual fuck is wrong with you

>>17346747
good for you
knowing my taste i probably wouldnt touch your gf though

wait 2 years. LDRs that start in meatspace don't last, and finding a partner who's going to quit their job to follow you is going to be nigh impossible. You're just gonna have your heart broken.

>>17346734
Yeah, I'd certainly put waiting on top of a LDR

The complicated thing about finding someone who will follow me is that it's not certain, and actually my wage alone would be over twice the average by then... But I guess money isn't everything

>>17346730

i think the issue here is you are 'looking' for a serious relationship with a girl you havent even met yet.

the chances are you wont be able to meet anyone. but why not just put yourself out there by going out and doing things you enjoy on your nights and days off, and just seeing what the world brings to you. if you can meet a girl and you want to take her on dates, do it.

stop worrying about whether or not this imaginary girl will last the two years.

Be professional, but be open, relaxed and fun. If you're charismatic it'll carry you even further.

I think you have what it takes. Makes sure you thank them all individually and express WHY you have gratitude; but joke around a little to those who look like they can handle a lighter side to business.

From what you're saying, I'd say be polite and friendly, keep quiet unless curious or addressed, don't be afraid to look stupid (so long as you're asking questions, not answering them).

They voted you on for a reason. Have faith in yourself, even if you mess up the first time, it's only the first time.

I am a woman tho, so my success might not act like yours, sorry. Apologies for the terrible English too.

>>17346707
>I'd feel guilty accepting the travel and hotel room while having nothing to offer but the youth they wanted on the board.
But that's EXACTLY why they voted you onto the board.l: they wanted your persective. Speak up. Ask questions. Don't automatically assume everything you say is right, but don't be afraid to fight for what you believe in. They literally asked for this. Do it, and you will be doing your job on that board as well as any other member does theirs.

bump. I get distracted on other threads too much

>>17346673

Depends what you are doing and where you work.

I did one where i just had to tell people about an update to their services. That was easy.

I had another where i hate to try and sell a program ontop of another program the customer had. That one was Scammy as fuck but not too bad.

Finally i had one where i had to sell a program insurance. It was scammy and hard as fuck to sell.

Some places will send you home if you can't sell.

Regardless its absolutely shit. And you will want to kill yourself after a year of call center work on outbound. Lots of day ruining bullshit from customer and lots of bullshit and pressure from your bosses.

>>17346715
It's not customer, it's business, I think. And not sales either. I'm used to cold call sales jobs (and rejecting them), but this one I feel like is a trap waiting to happen cus it sounds too good.

>girls dont take interest in me

define interest? guys like you post here a lot and the impression i get from most threads is that you may make some initial out reaches, but refuse to actually go for the girl. instead most of you will wait around for months or even a year just dropping hints and expecting her to do the work for you.

have you ever actually said 'hey anonette, let me take you to dinner tonight' ?

>all that other stuff

just post a pic of yourself and lets go from there.

>>17346805
Interest as in girls approaching, smiling, etc. I don't think anyones ever genuinely liked me and if it did come to that case, later on it probably wasn't how it seemed. Only one time I actually built up the courage to talk to a girl, after a bunch of crap we did hit off with help with a friend passing on ym number. But it ended up bs, i don't count it as a relationship because It wasn't how I thought it was. (long story).

I hear about girls approaching guys, talking about how they throw signals but im pretty sure that's never happened to me. I don't even have anyone to ask that question to even though I'd like to.

I would if I was confident, but knowing this is 4chan. I just can't trust it, everyone who posts a pic on here becomes a meme or some sort. Plus i dont want people i may have known in the past seeing me on here by that 0.1% chance.

shamefully bumping again

It sounds like you're insecure and don't know how to say no to any girl who gives you attention.

The first girl has obviously had some tough times and made bad choices. She will find someone more mature than you; as a child needs a father figure in its life (which is why she is so clingy you moron)

Keep plowing easy girls until you get a backbone, then have a decent relationship with a girl who's not obviously in a vulnerable state.

TLDR; stop aiming so low

>>17346670
Based on your typing I think you are, hear me out, "retarded"

>>17346670
we are not going to tell you to cheat anon.

From what you have said you are dissatisfied with he first girl so at least have the balls to tell her its over.

>>17346664
You not doing enough with your life.

Intelligence, emotions, feeling they all get numb if they are not used. But you will get your shit kicked in when you need em again.

Too little information for me to be able to advise.

Default advice: ask a therapist.

>>17346664

there are multiple possibilities.

emotions are like time. its relative. the more you have of it, the less small smounts seem.

when you were a kid a day felt like forever. now that you're an adult, a year passes by so fast its kind of scary.

emotions are the same way. as a kid and teen everything felt so extreme. not just becuase hormones but becuase it was new to you. now you've experienced all that and you've become a bit numb to the feelings.

the best things you can do is take the time to think about how you feel. you still get feelings, they are just small and less. take the time to enjoy your feelings. ffeel sad? go through a baww thread and make it deeper. good day? reflect on how having a good day is an amazing experience in this world.

Over-the-counter anti-inflammatory medicine for sore throat.

>>17346660
raw honey and small sips of whiskey are my go to. having kids around may make the whiskey thing a bad idea though

>>17346984
Don't have any and i have 3 kids to watch so i can't go to the store.

>>17346610

Every once in a while, yeah, but as my default routine? No, that'd be awful and boring. I can only consume so much media of other people living their lives. I want to be out building my own narrative, talking to others about life, experiencing new foods and drinks and sights and smells and everything the world has to offer.

But yeah, yesterday I spent the entire day in bed watching movies, and today I'm working from home and plan to stay max comfy. Every once in a while that's needed.

>>17346622
I don't know, like I used to be an avid go getter, from 17-22 I did a lot of self exploration. Months spent on the road, partying, getting drunk, doing drugs. And, I lost that drive completely. I have a been there done that mentality, and have no want in life except to be comfortable.

My boss asked me what I wanted out of my career last year, and I told him "I'd just like to retire." with a chuckle.

>>17346610
Well as a kid I was mostly outside with friends, and now living the complete opposite of that I do miss it, but I still like sitting home playing a good game or watching a good movie. It's just a matter of preference.

Sounds psychological. Is there some reason you wouldn't be eating?

Does something disgust you?
Are you generally fit or worried about your health?

Cramping can come from not eating or drinking enough

/fit/ might be a good board too

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>>17346612

Could it be a psychological reaction from stress when I was overseas? It was years ago tho, like I said the cramping is gone now. But even eating 3 of these Donut holes is very filling to me, and I only woke up 2 hours ago.

even food I like its hard to finish. I feel embarrassed a lot when I go out with friends and eat. hell... One time I went on a date with a girl, and we got lunch together, I couldn't even touch my food. I had 1 bite and felt full. I tried to force food down but actually started choking because my body was telling me I was full to the rim even tho I actually wasn't. It was super embarrassing.

As far as health goes, to a doctor, I'm healthy. I'm 25 years old, don't get sick like ever, I'm skinny, but not dangerously skinny. I'm 5ft 11in 145lbs. I exercise and can do physical tasks ok. just, eating can be a chore, and I would like to put on more weight, but it's impossible with my appetite.

>>17346597
Diet change
stress
digestive system maturing
Parasites
thyroid
Anorexic
plethora of eating disorders
Food sensitivity.

I underwent something similar to you when i was in my late 20's Cramping so bad i lost consciousness. Could only eat white rice and eggs. Did all the test you did and all came back normal. I had to slowly reintroduce complex foods into my diet from scratch otherwise i felt bloated and sick. took me about 2 years to be able to eat greasy food again. Take your time.

Bump.

No one on adv right now wants to help me torture myself?

Unhealthy obsession with health and beauty: orthorexia.

Pictures please

It's normal to care for animals with a lot of personality, animals that love you and most importantly animals that ARENT ANNOYING .

I don't think I'd miss a small curly haired piece of shit mop looking dog as much as I'd miss something loving like a floppy beagle or a goofy bulldog.

I know this sounds cruel and selective, but people have bred dogs for selective traits for centuries. They're all objectively cute- but some aren't really ones I'd ever own because I know I wouldn't feel close to them.

it just means you didn't love your dog or ever become attached to it

so its okay I guess but then why have a dog anyway?

animals can be an extremely effective type of therapy but it just doesn't work for some people I suppose

>>17346571
How long has it been since the dog died? You could be going through the emotional circle right now. Need to know what the most likely next state is.