So there is a girl that does the same major like me.We know each about for about 2 years but for the last 1 year,we had more courses together and started talking much more (mostly in the uni).I do have feelings for her but I am not sure if she does the same for me.
Like I said,we have lots of courses together,most the time we sit together and she even keeps waiting for me if I do have any questions to the docent after the lecture.She also keeps going with me anywhere else and she also told me about some emotional things of her life.She also talked with me about her preferences,what traits her BF should have and so on...
But here is the clue: She uses things like tinder and she keeps writing with other guys but she never tries some chatting with me.(probably because we see each other the whole week but I am not sure about this).Well,when I try to text her,she always replies and it isn't just simply "Yes" or "No" etc.
So,the thing is: I really like her and I am not sure how I should approach and tell her that I like her.Should I be straight forward (cause we know each other for a somewhat long time) and simply ask her if she has feelings for me or should I try to make smaller steps like asking her out to go eat somewhere?
(Yeah I know,terrible English but you get the problem)
Start asking her out places and go from there
You'll start to see if she's interested or not by going out and spending time with her
Ex. if she's on her phone the whole time or talking to you the entire time
>>17349665
The thing is,when we talk alone she does not spend the whole time on the phone checking her messages (she only does that mostly during the lectures).We sometimes had talks for about one hour and she didn't even care to look at the time and she missed the train.But I am not sure if she is simply nice to me as a friend or if she is genuinely interested in me
If she puts enough attention to forget things that she was gona do, then she has actually interest in you.
Help plz
>>17349569
Can you go through a window?
And damn, dude went from sipping his water to dead in 9s flat.
>>17349579
No or I wouldve tried that already. I left the door too quickly without thinking and I'm right outside my door atm.
Call a locksmith.
Hey /adv/, how do I kill a major infestation of fleas as fast and as cheap as possible?
I lost a cat that I've had for more than half of my life to fleas last week, so the war is officially on. I'm going to be the Hitler of fleas if that's what it takes. I'm waking up with literal hundreds of them on my body and even more in my hair. They have infested every crevice of my house, upstairs and downstairs. I now have three cats who have been treated with Frontline, but due to the sheer number of fleas I don't think it's going to be effective. What can I do to rid myself of these fuckers?
I've heard about diatomaceous earth and I'm waiting for some to ship to me, but does it really work or did I waste my money? I also have flea foggers that I'm going to use before the DE gets here. What other steps can I take to make sure my other pets survive the summer? I'm leary about trying other chemical methods because some people say they work great, others say they don't, and I don't know who to believe.
>tl;dr how do i into flea genocide
>tfw was dirt poor as a kid, had a cat-lady mom
>huge flea infestation
>would wake up with hundreds of bites all over me
>would spend hours trying to kill them to no avail, more would always come
>beg mom to do something, she doesn't for six months
>finally buys a flea bomb
>everything in my bedroom smelled like poison for years, literally years, because only opening the windows didn't do shit to ventilate
>mom was too cheap and didn't care about me to buy a fucking fan to vent the place
>fleas were dead but I'm probably going to get cancer
Honestly I'd say kill your disgusting animals. Animals do not belong in a house, they're filthy and disease-ridden. Having cats is retarded.
Rip out your carpet, that is where they lay their eggs. Throw out everything you can or at least lay it in the yard under a tarp for a month or two. Clean the house head to toe, drown the fucking nasty cats and throw them out back in the woods. If you must, use that powder or a poison of some sort, but removing everything from the house should have helped dramatically. I'd honestly recommend living in a tent for a while, because if you go back in the fleas will just dogpile you and live in your bedding and clothes. There, solved.
Thanks for reminding me why I hate my mom.
Our flea problem wasn't nearly as bad as yours, but the topical treatments like Frontline seems to not help us at all. We switched to Comfortis, which required a prescription from our vet. But it has worked like magic.
Furthermore, you need to vacuum. A lot. Twice a day. Empty it as well. Wash all your clothes, all your bedding, rugs, anything that can be washed, on high heat, once or twice per week - if not more. Use the DE, put it EVERYWHERE. Even put it on your cats, cover them in it. It won't hurt them if they lick it off, it's actually good for fighting internal parasites too. The fogger is also a good start.
The key to this fight is persistence. You have to constantly be working to fight off the infestation.
>>17349826
sure let me just kill my roommate while im at it and why not myself
that ought to solve the problem right
>>17349852
We've used other brands like Pet Armor and Sergeant and they never seemed to work, so if Frontline doesn't work I might just have to visit a vet and get a script. I know vets charge you out the ass but if its going to help my cats and me, I'll do whatever it takes.
I end up vacuuming once a day as soon as I wake up, but I'll try vacuuming more than once. I don't have a washer/dryer at my house so washing everything constantly is going to be a pain in the ass and the wallet.
If I put DE directly on my cats, won't that dehydrate them? They're losing a fair amount of blood from the fleas as it is, I don't want to overdo it and kill them.
Hey /adv/
I think I got fired from my minimum wage job. What do? Will this affect my resume?? Currently attending university
Why did you get fired
>>17349555
Just don't include it in your resume. There's no national hotline or portfolio that keeps track of an individual's job history. Just your thread alone shows you're not ready for responsibility due to your lack of common sense.
>>17349555
>I think I got fired from my minimum wage job.
What makes you think that?
I am new to the party culture. Is it possible to party without drinking?
yeah, dingas
>>17349531
Nope.
>>17349531
That's why drugs were invented.
TDLR - How to say No When Someone Asks You To 'Grab a beer Sometime'
I haven't spoke to this bloke for about 8 years, I barely even spoke to him in high school. Its nice he has asked me but to be honest I really don't know the bloke and generally didn't like him before and don't know what he is like now.
It came out of the blue, sure it might be a nice laugh but I just would feel good having a one on one chat with someone I have basically never know. It would all be reminisce and a bit pointless.
So how do I say thanks but no thanks without shutting him out of my life completely and being a rude guy
>>17349508
"That" pattern, eh? I'd wager he wants you to lend him some money, at least I would know a couple of those types.
Either way, just spin some bullshit about you "being busy" this month. Chances are high, that he won't get back at it.
Say 'thanks but no thanks'. Why do you want to avoid shutting him out of your life, it sounds like you want to do exactly that.
>>17349508
What the Fuck is TDLR
Studying English and my book is kinda weird. So these sentences are wrong? How should they be really?
I'll be very happy if Jake comes home tonight.
Nora won't find a job if she doesn't try harder.
We'll go out this afternoon unless it rains.
>I'll be very happy IF Jake comes home tonight.
Not actually faulty, but somewhat odd way to put it. "Better" would be;
I would be very happy if Jake comes home tonight.
or
I will be very happy when Jake comes home tonight.
Can't really place fault with the other two sentences though.
I'll be very happy when Jake comes home tonight.
OR: I would be very happy if Jake came home tonight.
Nora won't find a job unless she tries harder.
We'll go out this afternoon if it doesn't rain.
>>17349511
Okay, the book is being very vague about, it just says that those sentences are wrong and present tense should be used. These are so hard because I feel like all of them sound kind of right and the rules are so weird.
i'm not sure how to start this..
typical 'best friend tells you they like you thing' i guess, except this friend is online
the problem is- not that i don't like them, but that they were in an online relationship and it went to shit
now, me being his friend, he would tell me everything he felt for her, the relationship and just everything else
just two weeks ago he was talking about how he tries to find her in other people and replace her, how she was the only one for him and that he still loves her
alright so me knowing all of this, and then being told "i really like you, please go out with me" is just baffling, and he doesnt seem to realize somehow?
I think i'm being responsible here by telling him he's wrong, but i want him to understand.
so,, what do ?
Uh, well, this is awkward...
Could we talk about it maybe?
>>17349502
please don't scare me like that anon
>>17349502
Aw, but what's the fun if you don't give people a little spook?
Anyone here read Marcus Aurelius's meditations? I read it and plan to re-read it again, but it'd be great if someone with a better grasp can reassure me if I understood the book correctly.
What I understood from the book is:
>live according to nature and with virtue
>be indifferent to things that are not vices or virtues
>love mankind for I am also a member of it
>help where you can for no effort is in vain
>do not let emotions cloud rational judgement
>be content with everything that happens because it was meant to
>life is good because it is well intended
>opinion and conceit only damage rational judgement
>worry not for the future for what happens is destined to happen anyway
>the world constantly changes, so worldly things are of low value
>even if the body is hurt, the soul and reason are not impaired
>only I can let external factors affect me internally
>happiness comes from living according to nature in a right world, not from a world right for me
If I missed anything else major or misinterpreted something, I'd be thankful if someone pointed it out
>>17349495
I haven't read it for a long time, but that's about how I remember it. You should read Epictetus's Discourses and Enchiridion next; I think you'd get more out of it than rereading the Meditations.
1/2
>>17349951
2/2
Link a pdf of it nigger so I can read this shit faggot printed out breh.
I'm uncircumcised. for the past couple of years I have been masturbating while my head is cover by my foreskin. Im able to retract my foreskin over my head while I'm erect. I've tried masturbating while my foreskin was retracted and i couldn't do it. It's very sensitive. How I am able to have sex like this?
That's the way you're supposed to have sex/masturbate. You've got yourself into a reverse death grip.
>>17349487
Has it always been the case?
I never knew if this was normal or not but i'm like you, OP.
Not only it's too sensitive but it feels worse; i used to use soap in the bath to be able to jack off without the skin and even then it was hard.
>>17349503
buy why pornstars retract the skin?
I met a girl on tinder and we hit it off really well. A day after we met she was being openly sexual with me saying she wants to take a bath with me and wants to see me in her bed wants she gets home and that kind of stuff
The thing is I'm 24 and live alone but she's 18 (she really is 18, I checked) and lives with her parents.
I've invited her many times to my house and she's been once and she literally laid in my bed. I tried to make a move but she didn't seem interested and every time we meet she treats me just like a friend...
We used to talk everyday for hours but since yesterday she just kinda stopped out of nowhere
WTF is going on? Is she in only for the attention
Playing games, and too young. Get the fuck away from that ASAP, it'll only end in bad things for you.
>>17349460
I'm doing that at the moment, just ignoring her
desu, yesterday I lashed out a bit because I felt like she was messing with me, so I might have blown my chance anyway
>>17349456
bump
any femanon has any clue?
Over the last 3 years I quit reaching out to people and frankly lost all my friends
Is that just a normal part of growing up?
It's normal for people with avoidant personality disorder
Don't bump on first page though, darling
No you were just not a good friend.
My GF and I both cheated on each other months ago. It never went into anything physical as it was just flirting and sexting. Once we told each other she said she didn't consider that cheating, I said that I didn't either, but it would be healthier if we did going forward.
Months after I did it again and never told her. I almost did and started talking with her about before and she said that once again couples could've done much worse. I got upset and masked it behind me feeling guilty about doing it in the first place. She assured me that what I did wasn't cheating on her and that its okay.
Now I don't have any urge to do it anymore, and I do not believe I will, but I am wondering if I should tell her. The thing is that she is insecure, and if I told her I did it again it would just make that worse. I don't want her to feel like I am choosing anyone over her, it is just me being fucked up in the head.
So you don't want to do it anymore, and you don't want her to find out about what you did.
How about. Don't. Tell. Her.
Spend your worries on how to lift her insecurity, and be a good man for her.
>>17349402
how about both of you find someone else and be done with it
>>17349402
You're both faggots and should just break up. She's not the only insecure. Look at yourself op.
I keep fucking staying up all night, And waking up at random times. Iv'e gone to sleep at normal times, I still sleep for a goddamn century.
How the fuck do I fix this?
Set alarm everyday at the exact same time and get up immediately after it goes off, no matter what time you went to sleep. If you do this for a few weeks/months your inner clock will adapt.
>>17349411
Alright, Thanks. I'll try that.
>>17349411
but the trick is to actually get up
ive tried setting alarms, but i just turn it off. cant get myself to get up if i have nothing to get up for; which i never do
Hey, /adv/. I'm in need of some advice, so please, if you have something to share, I'd appreciate.
My father has been diagnosed with brain cancer last month. No words to describe how shitty it was to hear it from the doctor.
We don't have the best relationship ever. He has some serious alcohol and anger issues, and over the years he grew distanced from everyone, including his family.
So, even though we're in this situation, I can't reach to him. I'd like to talk to him and tell him I love him and all that jazz, but it's been a few weeks that he has been straight up ignoring me here at home. He literally doesn't respond when I say hi or shit. He only speaks to my mother and only when he has to.
The thing is, he's having surgery next tuesday and there's a great chance of him having sequels from the procedure. Due to the tumor's location, it's likely he'll have trouble with speech and language in general.
I'm scared as fuck. How the fuck am I supposed to communicate and support my father when he may lose his ability to talk and understand language?
I'd like some advice on how to deal with it.
First and foremost, you have my condolences. It's an unbearably shitty thing to go through, not just for him, but for you and any family surrounding you.
But secondly, my best advice is just love him as best you can. I come from an household where my father was abusive and incredibly angry a lot of the time. We've gotten to the point of flinging some of the most hateful words at each other I can imagine. But when he was diagnosed with cancer earlier this year, I realized this was maybe the last chance I had to just let the past go and make the best of the time I had left with him.
Just love him and be there for him. It's not going to be easy. But in the end it'll leave you much happier. Nobody lives forever, and losing somebody like that on bad terms is one of the worst feelings in the world.
I can't really say much about the communication thing, but honestly, talk to people about it with experience. Talk to the doctors. And understand that throughout all of this, just being there for him is the best thing you can do. You love him, and I have no doubt he loves you. Just cherish the time you have together.
>>17349375
Thank you. For real. I'll have your words in heart.
I'm sorry that you also had to go through it. Life sucks sometimes.
Good luck for us, brother.
Ah. My grandpa had brain tumor, the only difference was we had a good relationship. I would try and find a way to show that you care about your dad without shoving it into his face or making it seem like you just suddenly started feeling this way. Maybe try to get him laugh if you're the type of person who doesn't care if things get a bit awkward, or get him to talk about things he might be interested in. If he loses a way to communicate, usually the doctor/nurses there will help you out with that. I would like to share more advice, but I don't want to look like an expert, and I don't know how bad your relationship is, so yeah. I hope things go well with your father.