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Why did your girlfriend dump you?

if your girlfirend isnt fat and/or cute, then get back with her, but lol dont marry her. dumbass move to do now.

>>17349715
she said she was unfulfilled in our relationship, that I have no ambition, that I'm stagnate and content living in a tiny apartment and working my shitty job. She wants someone who wants to accomplish things and is tired of having to deal with how little I can afford to do.
My friend also said she was seen with another guy the day she dumped me.

Just break up already. You two are the epitomy of "polishing a turd"

I would ask her to sit down somewhere and talk about whether she just had a delusional half-asleep incident of massive irrational paranoia.
Or maybe you told her something awful in your sleep, who knows?

You guys got stuff to talk about anyway, but don't ask us to make any decision for you. Perhaps premeditating on options other than breaking up will give you some perspective.

>>17349431
so I nod off and gf shakes me awake about 1:30 am to leave right now and she's really, really nervous. Dragging ass around trying to get my clothes on and shit and hear knock at the door, she freaks and whispers don't open the door. WTF. She wants me to leave real quick but someone knocks at the door but now she wants me to be quiet and not go to the door? I tiptoe towards the door and she is now trying to hold me back but I look out the peephole and see some good looking guy. He keeps knocking, I keep peeping and gf pacing until the dude takes his phone out punch in a text and my gf jumps when her phone signals receipt. WTF. I spin on her, snatch the phone and read the guy telling her to open up he's outside. I open up, he looks shocked and blurts out I was supposed to be gone already. This piece of shit gf of mine had gotten a booty call from this guy and she was trying to push me out the door but he was closer to her apartment than she expected.

What was the porn specifically?

>>17349321
its not that bad really.

>>17349321

>Bestiality porn

Look. It's weird, and not my cup of tea either. However, look at it another way. At least it's not childporn.

>>17349097

Stop playing the victim, we both know you fucking deserved it.

>>17349236
Hey
That's mean

>>17349097
Tell us your story

She sounds like an entitled little princess and a loose canon.

Has she dealt with loss and depression before? Have you taken personal space?

Having a partner blow up because you're constantly demanding is just as bad as the person blowing up in the first place.

Do you question if she is right for you?

>>17347209

she's never dealt with loss. the most she's dealt with is my family members. she met my brother twice and liked him and my mother a handful of time. other than that she's never suffered a loss. I explained to her earlier when i found out about my mothers cancer, that it would be tough as hell as id been through something similar before with my uncle. I know what its like to see someone suffer and want to die. I told her this and i didnt expect her to stay around if she couldnt handle it as much as i wanted her to stay. she called me stupid and said she was staying.

she is immature im fully are of it. i had to book her flights and stuff for her or go up and asked people if she needs things. " i dont like talking to people" is the excuse. fair enough social anxiety. i blow up because she doesn't ask me politely and demands or whines.

I've questioned it many times. we've been through a lot as a couple. I want/wanted to marry this girl. now as all this occurs I dont feel like i want to as much anymore. mainly because she wont answer any questions about our future making me second guess. I mean I've asked about us getting our own place instead of living at her mom's house in her one bedroom where there is literally no space because there is 6 people living there. she hasnt even made a spot for me to keep a spare set of clothes so i resort to leaving them on the banister which pisses her grandfather off. we are 25 i should mention.

now I live at home but have the whole basement to myself and between the two of us we make enough money to move out on our own. she just doesn't want to leave her mom, fine i understand she's family. theres a suite in her house that's ive repeatedly mentioned us moving into which would force her brother and his family to vacate (they already own a house two blocks away) giving us space to ourselves while still being "home"

>>17347191
Really sorry to hear about your senpai anon. Do you have any other ways to vent or blow off steam?Got many friends or ways to get away from your missus?

How important is someone's facebook page for you?
These goes to both sexes.
Would it affect whether you'd give someoen a chance or not?

Asking cause I just lurk and chat there, never share.

>>17346970
>How important is someone's facebook page for you? Would it affect whether you'd give someone a chance or not?
It is not really important, I usually don't even check people's facebook.

If I go to your facebook and you write stupid stuff, you share things all the time, you post selfies every 5 minutes I'm going to be turned off.
I prefer someone who rarely shares stuff over someone too present.

>>17346979
What about pics?

I'll be honest, I don't like it when the girls only has a few, especially when they are face only.

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>>17332888

I claim this thread in the name of Pegasus, the Herald of Andraste

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Da ich dich so lange nicht reden hörte, so möchte ich dir eine Gelegenheit geben.

Emily,

I just want to understand why it is that you said that you loved me when you had absolutely no intent to treat me like you do. I get it, I really do. I mean, I will never be as attractive as those other guys, never as smooth talking and just as cool as them in general. But there is obviously some part of you that likes me anyway, because you told me you did. That was two months ago, and you seem to have chosen them over me. I understand and respect your decision, but why did you have to drag me down with you? Whether you actually love me or not, you know me. You know how I am and how I react to these kinds of situations, so why would you lead me on like that knowing damn well that fuckboi>me?

I have been circling around from frustration to sadness, to peace and to oblivion. I don't really know how to sum up everything that I want to say to you, so i'll just say this; leave me out of it, from now on. I threw away so much for a chance for us, for YEARS, and now I just have to look out for myself for awhile.

Sincerely,
V

>>17351194
Just fuck her and worry about "feelings" only if you develop them.

You're about to learn real quick how easy it is to not get pussy whipped to someone you're not attracted to. Don't worry about teh feels, heh.

By being realistic.

Unfortunately that is extremely hard for the average person who has not been through at least 1 long term relationship and it ends up proving difficult for many people who been through several.

Enjoy the pussy, don't think too deeply, allow enough emotional involvement to have fun. When it comes to being with someone who significantly more experienced, only let your guard down if they're are the ones who indicate that they want to be something more than just fuck buddies.

>>17351221
she's way more experienced and two years older than me. She'll be graduating and moving on to law school after this year so there /shouldn't/ be anything coming from her if she's logical about it. Really concerned about myself. Thanks

1. Get your own place.
2. Get rid of the long distance bullshit.
3. Go back to school or start learning a trade.
4. Fuck bitches, get money.

>>17351063

>get specialized skills
>get a better job
>save money
>get a degree
>move out
>get a job related to your field of study
>find a SO who actually could be part of your better and improved life

>>17351077
1. So just having my own place will teach me how to live? I think I understand, you have to be thrown into a situation and your system gets shocked to learn quickly how to adapt or die.

2. Would it make sense to move to her?

3. Where can I learn a trade? Are there specific schools for it?

4. Indeed.

Are you sure he isnt just going out of town with friends and telling you it's work related? I've never heard of any company doing this as "training".

Where does he work, I need to get in on this.

He sent me photos and an itinerary. I'm pretty sure it's a work thing. He said the company admitted they were like a cult and laughed at it.

>>17350979

If something this is enough to make you second guess it, then clearly your relationship isn't solid enough to last marriage.

If you are having second thoughts, don't do it. Marriage is a fucking contract you want to be 100% on. If she's the clubbing, oversexual latina type, she will probably ditch your ass the second a new papi chulo comes around. 86 that bitch.

>>17350986
Not the clubbing type now, but used to be in her younger days. Not the "street" latina either - i guess im worried if she's changed now or if she hasnt.

>>17350963

charisma is more or less defined as somethign that comes naturally. otherwise its not charisma its simply manipulation.

it is psosible to become more charismatic, but there isnt a simpel step by step guide. we dont know you or whats lacking so how could we say?

you have to remember that charisma is considered a strong force. people who list charisma on their profiles and shit are pretty egotistical. they are saying that they have
>compelling attractiveness or charm that can inspire devotion in others

but ultimately thats whati t boils down to. you need to charm people and you need to attract people. charisma is considered a natural organic approach to it.

worry less about naturally being perfect and instead just focus on growing as a person

>>17350963
Yes it is possible but it takes a lot of practice. You should search it on youtube there is a lot to learn. I would recommend channel actualized.org he has a lot of content on this topic.

>>17350963

"Charisma," by definition, is just an inherent part of someone's personality. But you can learn to be more sociable, or more authoritative, or whatever you're trying to accomplish.

It also depends on who you surround yourself with. Don't try to force yourself to fit in somewhere you don't belong. When I'm with friends and family, or when I'm doing my job which I enjoy and I'm good at, I feel confident, and being social and funny and pleasant with people comes very easily and naturally. I've been in plenty of other situations where I feel out of my element, and I don't feel confident, and I've behaved awkwardly as a result.

Some people spend huge portions of their lives in relationships, or friendships, or jobs that make them feel like this. This type of situation would make anyone seem uncharismatic.

>>17350917
Need adv

Do it. Press charges. They could charge her with attempted murder or assault with a deadly weapon. Whatev though.

>>17350917
Move out and never look back.

>>17350895
Why do you hate people? Do you hate current culture?

>>17350895
same here. dont know about you but i personally do it because im aware its easier. if i act shitty to people it will cause drama. if i am nice to people, they dont bother me.

Nothing. Stop faking it though. Accept yourself and be yourself.

Your emotions are your own. If it feels superficial to you, it's because it is.

Maybe you're a fake-ass person, maybe you suck at emotions, maybe you suffer from depersonalization/derealization. Maybe all three. How the fuck would I know, I don't even know you.

>>17350890
How the fuck would I know, I don't even know you.
No One Really Does......