Has anyone experienced or currently having cognitive behavioral

>>18669449
I've gone to therapy, and it was really nice. It helps if you go in with a goal / some things you'd like to work on while you're there. It might be scary and it might suck to talk about your feelings, but the more you talk, the more your therapist can help you. Whether or not you actually achieve the goals you're wanting, sometimes it's just nice having a nonjudgemental person to be there and tell you that you're not a broken human being, yknow just giving support

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>met girlfriend online from X country in 2014
>Met her in 2015 in real life
>Fell inlove for real
>Made plans for the 20 next years
>Cheated on me in summer 2016 sexually (she still virgin)
>Her parents couldnt stand the dude because of his orgins so she decided to be with me also because she loved me
>Went to a huge depression with bad consequences
>Decided to forgive her
>Met her in christmass 2016 and spent the whole holiday and even christmas with her family in her X country
>I was sure that she was the one , i was the first one to be introduced to her family
> Decide to study in her country (x country) in september 2017
>She started telling me since mid august that she don't feel same as before with me
>Decided to break up but she was okay to stay friend with me because i couldn't go back to my country bcz i paid the unrefundable tuiton fees
>She admitted that she was with the dude that she cheated on me last summer 2016 and she did more sexual things with him (she still virgin)
>They do not date but they are friends with benzfits because of his origins so she has no futurz with him , she said its temporary with him
>She said there is maybe a possibility that we will return together if she feel something in real life with me , she study in the capital of her country and return each week in her hometown where the dude lives
>I am destroyed

What can i do , any advices please? , I am totally lost .
I fucked my life and i just need anything that could change that i am lost , help please

>>18669449
i had CBT in middle school for my (literal) autism
all i remember about it is playing around with play-doh that had marbles in it or some shit

dont think this helps you at all, sorry OP

>>18669525
i don't think playing with playdoh and marbles is going to help me much but then again that's probably not what they're going to do with me at my age

Here's what to expect,
You'll meet your therapist and talk about why you're there. That's the first session every time.
After that it should be a couple of different subjects every session focusing on why you have anxiety and depression and how to combat those things. You probably have a low self esteem that needs to be worked on, or anxiety about things that you'll need to slowly get used to.
Its usually pretty casual but you are there for a reason and you'll have to get serious and focus on your goals.
You'll probably start on anti depressants if you haven't already, or experiment with different ones.
The most important thing to know is that therapy won't be something you go to and come out of cured until next time. You'll have to learn from each session and be prepared to not get better right away.
I've been going through cbt for about 8 months and I'm still struggling with my anxiety, but it's definitely helping. Good luck! And don't be afraid to ask for a different therapist if you feel like the one you're going to just isn't helping after a few sessions.

CBT was helpful for my depression. The haven't-left-bed-or-showered-in-weeks kind.

For BPD I would suggest doing a combo of DBT (which moves you from distract yourself from wanting to suicide > influence your emotions > mindfulness meditation > interacting with others effectively) and EMDR for the abuse history that most borderlines have.

A lot of meditating plus working on trauma history was what helped me with BPD the most.

I am a medical student, and have personally overcome PTSD, Anorexia, Depression, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is one of the best, and most empirically founded modes of therapy currently available. The fact that you were in such a crisis that you ended up in the emergency department tells me you're in serious need of help. I know some things will be very hard to talk about, and shame is a huge factor in causing depression. If you can work past it, you'll eventually get to a place where you don't feel ashamed, and don't have these thoughts, and I cannot even begin to describe how incredible it is to have overcome it. It's like having been legally blind and then getting your eyes repaired. If you give it your best try, repeatedly go to therapy, and keep at it, your life could improve dramatically.