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>>18435548
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Also: first time I've done cocaine in about three months (non frequent user)

Just admit you did coke if they ask
Are you not allowed or what

i know from a friend that THC stays in the body for at least 6 weeks. when his parents made him take piss tests he droped a couple of drops of bleach to ruin the sample. But that was for weed. Idk about coke

just learn to play it off

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Acceptance and validation seeking behaviour lowers power. The second you stop giving a shit you will be happier and make more friends.

>>18435530
If I have a embarrassing moments I usually revert to my hobby to forget about it

Probably bi polar or other mental issue. Dunno. Fuck til the crazy comes out, then leave. If the crazy never comes out, you got a decent girl

I don't think she has any ill intention for you if that's what you're worried about. It sounds like she's made some bad choices and been around some bad people and is a bit of damaged goods. I'd be careful about saying anything bad to her because she's probably sensitive and you're probably one of the first people to ever treat her exceptionally well and show real affection so that's probably why she likes you so much. Just a guess, probably a fucked up past. Hence why she has low self esteem and such.

>>18435546
I don't think she has any mental disorder - probably just low self-esteem or a bad past.

>>18435547
>I don't think she has any ill intention if that's what you're worried about
That's what I was thinking at first - maybe she was only with me and did all these things so I would reciprocate and be nice to her, boosting her ego and make her feel good about herself, i.e. attention-seeking tendencies.
>You're probably one of the first people to treat her exceptionally well and show real affection so that's probably why she likes you so much
That's what I figured, but it still doesn't explain why she was ready to have sex so soon and is this trusting - is it really such an attractive quality?

She drinks a hell of a lot though, but not on an alcoholic level - always goes out for drinks with work colleagues (she's easily swayed into doing things) and she casually drinks a fair amount at home as well. Does that mean anything? She's not an alcoholic or shows any of the signs.

Start fingering her out of nowhere. When she tells you to stop keep doing it.

raep

>>18435455
It is normal and rejection will continue to be more frequent. I suggest a girl on the side you don't give a shit about nor does she want you except to fuck.

You got bitched, bro, sorry. You were always "respected" around your area but you don't respect yourself enough to fight a stranger that slaps you after they litter on YOUR property? Man, the second he slapped you had the legal and social clear to kick that guy's ass.

You have to understand that life tests you at moments like that and unfortunately you failed. It happens to the best of us. Go fight him. Can you legally fight in your area if it's mutually agreed upon?

People will probably forget eventually. Just make sure you don't talk about it ever.

>>18435253
>>18435258
Fuck.
The problem is that I'm extremelly pacifist because of the fear of being injured in a fight, and also fear of problems with cops. I don't know if he would fight me now because he would lose. Why would he expose himself. I need to think about it.

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Sometimes I think the world will become a happier place after I die. Like I'm some sort of tyrant people cower and steal their happiness simply by existing. I try to be better, you know but I only have so much time and resources and don't take ridicule so easily because I just think it's either too late or I'm always doomed to fail and look like a jackass.

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Fuck senpai, my girlfriend of one year and a half broke up with me a week ago. I dont know how to act/do. She did it because she felt helpless in our long distance relationship.
I wrote her a letter with all my emotions on it + some paper with doodles on it, with a message that I still love her. I don't know if she loves me back but I dont think she'd put me through this if she did. Should I send it to her or forever hold my peace on what is probably the love of my life.

>>18434764
I'm trying to be less attached to things and people (Buddha style) but I just get so limerent with romantic relationships. It's frustrating bc I have a rich and happy life outwith that, but I've started dating a qt and he's all I think about now. I don't even think he likes me that much.

>dating a new guy
>sleep together for the first time
>PIV but he's not thrusting at all
>'I just want to stay like this'
>like literally lying still with his dick inside me

Is this normal?

>>18433731
I actually snorted. Were you lying there wondering what the fuck to do?

Also is he a virgin or inexperienced or something?

>>18433731
It does feel good in there, I wouldn't want to leave either.

At this point in time I honestly believe that there are no single girls left anymore, at least not in the west.

The government is paying some actors (usually lesbians) online and offline to pose as single girls to keep men from rioting but it is just getting obvious at this point.

>>18432412
man idfk. I'm going to tinder.

>>18432415
I feel like this would make a good conspiracy shitpost thread on /pol/

also OP, it's a fucking problem. I don't want to be that guy, but I'm going to have to start being that guy. my value system has done literally nothing for me. time to reevaluate how to compete on the dominance hierarchy.

I hope you're doing okay, M

is it perfectly okay to be kinda upset over the girl your dating making out with their female ex right in front of you at the party you were invited too and ignored you the whole time?

as a guy i'm definitely not homo but could be bi.

why do i find men to be hotter than women w/o makeup.

like seriously is it b/c the contrast between women w/ makeup and women w/o makeup is too big? and we're used to seeing guys w/o makeup so it looks better?

like irl girl friends just don't seem more attractive than the dudes.

(Yes, the obvious side note is I should go to therapy. A school counselor is one of the people I tried telling, and it colored therapy in my mind.)

>>18430768
Hey anon, assuming it is not bait, the same thing happened to me when I talked about my abuse. People sometimes don't know how to deal or they think you're a weirdo. The fact you reacted like one shows you are mentally unstable. Give your friend a week or two to come round then try to talk again like adults. If it works great. If not, cut your losses and go get therapy.

>but muuuuuhuum when I told a counselor he didn't listen.
Not ALL counselors are this counselor.

>>18430768
He's obviously not the father/big brother you thought he was and you're disappointed. Beating on his door is a little dramatic and would have scared me. It then, I wouldn't have thrown you out. A lot of guys can't handle such a personal relationship with another guy out of fear. Guys are supposed to be strong and he may not want his masculinity challenged. For me, I'm comfortable in my own skin so none of that bothers me and no I am not gay. It's unfortunate he wasn't able to help you open up. You may want to seek a counselor instead. Best of luck.

>>18437083
i am slowly becoming the one excluded by my family now,
i don’t talk to my parent’s anymore because they’re helping _him_ that hasn’t been doing shit the whole year, on a lot of the things they said no to me in the past and still say no to;
he has to get to money to go to Spain with his friends now, after a year that he’s done nothing; me instead, after all of this time spend studying, i don’t; i have to implore for it and then get said no to; while he gets to be encouraged by em to go on a vacation because it’s good for him;

i don’t care about that too much; i know in the real world, people who work are getting more and people like him aren’t even allowed to cross the door; but i feel i am slowly becoming the one who gets the door shut because I’m getting so out of motivation to do any of the right things anymore

I feel it’s time to get out of my parent's house now but I don't have the money and I feel even if I got a job to get out of here, I would work, i’d give less time to my degree, and the parasite fuck would have won again; also I would have to spend money on my rent while the person who has been sure to keep everybody sad around him for years would be enjoying the free rent that my parent's house provide

i won't go into what i thought about doing in here, i know this is not a private place after all, can't even use tor on this shit; but i want advice anons, i want help

2/2

>>18437083
Classic example of Luke 15:11-32.
>Guy complains about parents doing shit for his fuckup of a brother.
>‘My son,’ the father said, ‘you are always with me, and everything I have is yours. But we had to celebrate and be glad, because this brother of yours was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.’

I'm not religious, but Jesus had some serious wisdom.

>>18437088
they ARE Christian and VERY religious

that aspect of the religion is a big red flag to me

we do more for the people that do less we do less for the people that do more,

yeah it makes sense, it does

Were you traumatized as a kid by feet or you just hate them? Are you scared the bare feet will give you germs? What is it?

I'm sure it was a traumatic experience that fucked with me but it was out of many others like it but i never got any phobias out of it

>>18437079
>but i never got any phobias out of it
>i wanna puke when bare feet get near me

Do you hear yourself

Please repeat what you just said and tell me if it still makes sense

>act like a chad
>omygod he's so hot
>act like a beta kiddo
>aww so adorbs

She also told me "You are very attractive". I like her she is so nice. I think we are having a good relationship. Who knows? Maybe I'm in love with her.

>>18437009
You have softer, rounded, or boyish features instead of rugged, manly, or masculine aesthetics. Would you prefer it if they saw you as hot or sexy instead of adorable or cute?

>>18436976

thats a really weird one. honestly the jobs that offer variety are probably not going to have the kind of 'variety' you're looking for. what kind of job allows you to explore musical instruments, forests, and 'dating & flirting'.

>>18436980
'Lifestyle' is the proper term I should of used.

>>18436991

i mean any with ample free time and / or reasonable pay depending on how you want to go about this. definitely one in the city to explore the bigger music and art scene.

need reasonable pay in order to travel and experience culture (though being in a city can help).

but for the most part it can be done anywhere even on a budget so long as you are open minded and active.

Uhh have you tried seeing a doctor? This is literally the easiest fix bro. Something got wired wrong in your brain and some meds will help fix it

i feel ya bro, i have the same thing goin on

>>18436968
I can tell you some of the techniques my counsellor gave me to help with mine (work in progress but deffo better):
>try to widen your window of tolerance ie build up slowly to doing things in a non ritualised way
>when you're in a comfy/relaxed state, try meditating to get an image of yourself at rest, so you have a sort of happy place to picture when it gets bad
>celebrate the little victories
>write down successes and failures at the end of the week and watch the successes accumulate over time