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Sometimes I think the world will become a happier place after I die. Like I'm some sort of tyrant people cower and steal their happiness simply by existing. I try to be better, you know but I only have so much time and resources and don't take ridicule so easily because I just think it's either too late or I'm always doomed to fail and look like a jackass.

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Fuck senpai, my girlfriend of one year and a half broke up with me a week ago. I dont know how to act/do. She did it because she felt helpless in our long distance relationship.
I wrote her a letter with all my emotions on it + some paper with doodles on it, with a message that I still love her. I don't know if she loves me back but I dont think she'd put me through this if she did. Should I send it to her or forever hold my peace on what is probably the love of my life.

>>18434764
I'm trying to be less attached to things and people (Buddha style) but I just get so limerent with romantic relationships. It's frustrating bc I have a rich and happy life outwith that, but I've started dating a qt and he's all I think about now. I don't even think he likes me that much.

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>>18434764
im feel so stuck in the past these days. I keep reminiscing about what it was like when I was 15-18. Ill the things I could have done differently, how much better and easier things were, how I could have planned certain things better. ive been stuck on this nostalgia trip for the better part of a year and its not going away. That south park 'member berries episodes hit a little too close to home for me. I think its how all of my old friends are finishing school and coming back talking about their accomplishments and im just not there yet. I need to get some new memories and make some heady way into my future, but its just taking me longer. All my old hobbies are getting boring, my friends are moving on and I find myself more and more just sitting on here for more hours a day then id like to admit. I just feel stuck right now is all and venting about it on here every few weeks is what I do to let off steam, but even that is stating to feel pathetic.

>>18434787
Everyone gets two great loves in their lives. I saw it in SATC.

I fap a lot. When I don't fap I feel like why not? But after I fap I feel like I made a gigantic mistake and that I offended God and that he will punish me in life because of it, and that everything bad that may happen the next week or few days will be a direct result of the sinful act of fapping.

>>18434791
if got didnt want us to jerk off he would have given us t rex arms

>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B29YStCYorY
its perfectly fine and youre going to do it again so why feel bad?

>>18434776
we live and we die, for the most part nobody is going to give a shit save for a few handfuls of people. Make your time with them count, even if you think you dont matter to anybody youd be surprised at who shows up at a funeral. Ive always liked that saying "nobody will remember you car, your clothes, how much money you had but they will remember how you make them feel"
>>18434787
im assuming your still pretty young, right? Long distance relationships dont work 95% of the time, its just how it is. She might still love you (or the idea of being with you) but its too much giving and not enough feeback. This isnt either of your faults. send that to her, say you still care about her and always will but be ready for the very likely event that that will be your goodbye. if anything end it on good terms and learn from it
>>18434788
everybody likes things, even Buddhists. the only people who dont are psychopaths. Its ok to enjoy things but youre smart to keep it all in perceptive and feel a little bad about what you have sometimes, it keeps you humble
>>18434789
hindsight is 20/20, as long as youre moving forward just focus on that, no on what others have done. they are going through their own struggles as well. Its ok to vent or get nostlagic over better times, we all do. But its important to move forward with the aim to make better times come

>>18434798
heh, you are right about that, thanks

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I turned 17 a week ago and I can't stop thinking about how I've wasted all these years that I'll never get back.

I have no skills and have not accomplished anything worth showing and I feel like I've backed myself into a corner.

>>18434823
I feel you, 16 and have no idea what to do with my life. Days just pass.

>>18434823
You must finish school, it's very important. That's already a big accomplishment. Other than that, when you turn 18 it's gonna be like your previous life didn't matter and a new life begins.
You will meet new people, some of whom will matter more in your life than those you met in your school/teen years. And no one will really care about what mistakes you made, or will actually relate to you because of them.
Either way life is unfair, some people get more opportunities, some are luckier. But a lot of people will have screwed up way more than you, just take every mistake as a lesson and improve yourself as much as you can as life goes on.
Also remember that a lot of succesful people became succesful at age 30 or so. I know that nowadays with all those teen youtubers you'd feel like as a teen you gotta make a big success but it really shouldn't matter, you still have time to be who you want to be, you are very young.

>>18434823
At that age, you're not expected to do anything less than practice socializing and graduate highschool.
Note that I said PRACTICE socializing. You don't even have to be good at it.
>btw 4chan is 18+ site wide, you could get banned for admitting that you're a minor.

>>18434823
>>18434827
>16
>17

you guys have time, it may not feel like it but you do. Dont buy into cliches you see in movies where youre supposed to do drugs or have wild sex and party hard. People do that and also fuck their lives up, so keep it in perspective. Thats fact that youre worried is a good sign, too many people go through their teens and into their 20s with a carefree attitude, then youre closer to 30 then 20 and THAT is the time to panic. Go to school, work, strt saving money and experiment with ideas but dont be a dumbass about it either. Your real childhood years are almost over, but you have a few of them left, enjoy it. And honestly your 20s are going to feel like you childhood years still but youll have way more access to things so itll be better

>>18434844
>do anything less than
Meant to say, do anything more than.

>>18434827
Guys, shit. You're not supposed to know yet. You're learning how to be an adult, how to be a functioning member of society, and how to take care of yourself.

Everyone in my life are either obese, drug addicts or sociopaths.

Naturally I end up being around the obese people more as theyre easier to be around.. But their peer pressuring and unhealthy lifestyle is starting to take a toll on me even with my constantly telling them how bad their diet/lifestyle is

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who black sheep/family fuck up here?
>both my siblings have careers
>both of them have their own homes
>making 2x, more like 3x the money I do
>parents always boast about them, but never about me
>when im brought up its "when are you going to do what they are doing?"
>I have a job I dont exactly hate, live in an apartment and still have a college esque carefree lifestyle at 25
>have to get a little drunk before a family get together because im going to be berated and questioned for 4 solid hours about why im not like them

>>18434881
If i was in your shoes id cut ties with my family until the heat wears off.

If thats never, so be it.. Get a new family of cats, dogs.. Gf whatever

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>>18434764
Some old friends I haven't spoken to wish to see me so we're going drinking in a couple days it'd seem, I hate alcohol and I don't particularly like them though I feel compelled to anyhow (I'd imagine this is probably the last time I'll see them). To be frank I feel like they're gonna gloat for hours on end and talk about stuff that doesn't interest me, personally I just like working and silence - I can't stand other people. They've been pretty two-faced in the past and I have no intention of keeping up communication though I might as well, right?

>>18434764
old fag, failing uni,
frustrated and desperate, because I shouldve figured out what to do few years ago..
no prospects, no talents, no motivation
and above all no purpose.

>>18434764
I am a snobby, self loathing idiot who is obsessed with politics and going on stupid, xenophobic, snobby rants.

I feel terrible over the attacks in Europe and I just today to my parents said "Its ok that the people died in the London fire, as they were mostly migrants/foreigners and were poor. Not a big loss".

I keep telling myself I'll be more apolitical but I can't help but put my nose into politics. This has actually lead to damaging relationships with others as most people here in west Europe are very left wing so any comment on restrictions, more authority or that migrants are bad (not KILL THEM ALL, but "We should get rid of them because they are dangerous).

Sometimes I wish I was more apolitical and far less snobbish.

My parents are fine with it, disappointed in me (27) but fine. I feel terrible.

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>>18434827

Same boat.

23, went to community college at 18 but I flunked and dropped. Didn't think it was a big deal.

Now I'm completely lost. I have no idea what I have to do to shape up. I just smoke weed all day and go to work.

I don't even want to go to college for a degree. I just want to learn.

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I legitimately get jealous and go into a negative attitude spiral when I hear about guys who just always know what to say and can talk to girls easily and gets nudes online like it's nothing. It's really, really difficult knowing that I'll die without ever feeling the skin of a woman. I feel like some people don't appreciate this feel.

The guy I like doesn't baby me. Now before you call me a bitch, I just want cuddles and head pats and be allowed to call him daddy. He let his ex do that, but not me yet claims to like me.

I'm so happy today that I might messages my crush just to indulge more in my good mood.

>>18434943
in this day and age, I find myself being oushed to more right wing ideals. Mainly because you MUST pick a side, Ive always tried to be middle of the road but in doing so ill piss people off regardless. "Oh youre not on board with us 120%? then you might as well be against us" fine, fuck it then ill be against you. Not to turn this into /pol/ but I get more of that from liberals and the left wing then I ever did from the right, so mu choice was easy. I still try to remain middle ground though, there are just as many assholes on both sides

Me and my gf have been together 3 years but we always end up having fucking proxy wars over shit she starts. I really do love her but as we are getting into the long game I'm really starting to struggle mentally. I don't want us to break up as we are really good for each other but it's starting to take its toll on me and she knows it. My eyes even wonder a little now and I'm really not that kind of guy so I know it's bad in my mind. What do.

>>18434963
not everyone is easy with that stuff, ive always hated how thats shown as normal and those who cant are fat losers. Try to be more social though but dont act like a douche. Ive seen lots of guys that act like theyre hot shit but girls really hate them and talk shit behind their backs
>>18434987
talk to him about, preferably during or initiating cuddles. Maybe his ex left a bad taste in his mouth but I know I left it when my girlfriend would just want to cuddle with me
>>18434998
do it, keep the good train going

>>18435102
fight over what? If its little things that usually a sign of stress underneath. Talk to her about it and see if there is an unresolved problem. She may be getting bored to and is angry about it

I am happy to have left a psychotic bitch, but still mad for all the shit I put up with, and her blaming me for the entire break up without feeling any guilt or remorse for the 10x times worse shit she put me trough.

She even called me with a hidden number (it's her, cause my phone shows what type of phone is calling and it was hers hackerman.jpg) so I called her back to ask what she wants and she said that she hasn't called and that I'm harassing her by calling her and that she will go to the cops. Absolute nutty bitch.

My hangup is that even though I told her what's wrong with her, she just turned it all on me and blamed me for the breakup. It's not right and I really want her to understand what kind of a horrible person she is without 1. Being charged by the cops and 2. her not killing herself just to prove a point and make my life even more miserable.

I saw a thread on /b/ today asking where to go on a journey with no planning no moving. I guess what i want to aski is is it feasible to just get out and go on a journey without money? I'd like to do that too and just find meaning but I'm broke.

>>18435133
she never will m8, not until somebody pushes her shit in like that. If you dont, somebody else will. Or she'll lead a hollow existence fucking over people and end up alone. the point is you got out, focus on that

>>18435133
I wouldn't even bother anon. You are holding yourself back by thinking this way and giving her exactly what she wants, to keep her hooks in you. Forget the bitch and be happy.

>>18435147
no, its retarded. Its great to travel, even to travel with no real plan, but have some idea of what youre doing and how to do it. For everyone 1 of those stories of a dude just dropping everything and living like a vagabond theres 20 where a dude tries it, fails, loses all his money and screws himself off for the "experience"

I miss my ex like fucking crazy. To keep things short, we're officially no contact as of 3 weeks ago. I do my best to keep busy, but there's always that period before I sleep and after I wake up in which she's all I can think about. I've thought about trying to find a new gf, but I think it's too soon for that. I just don't know what to do

>>18434764
I haven't held a public job since 2008, I was involved in a couple small automotive related business the last of which was in 2014 that I ended up loosing around 30k on, since then I have been very gun shy about starting over, I have lost all my confidence in myself and my drive. My wife has been the primary bread winner for the last 4 years and that has taken a toll on me. I have an idea and can get a hold of enough financing to try again but all I can think about is what if I loose it what if I fuck it up what if ect...? how do I gain the confidence to move forward?

>>18435164
Anytime you think of her fap to porn. Sounds odd but it really helped me get over an ex once.

>>18435155
What can you recommend then? Something just for me to see value. Responses were on mountain climbing, is that a good idea?

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im actually doing fine. School is great, I have a few jobs lined up, looking at places to move to and so on, but my friend isnt doing anything with his life and its painful to watch. We joke about being neets and 4chan basement dwellers but hes literally just like that. Went to college for 5 days, dropped out, lives at home with his parents. Ive asked multiple times if he wants help with school but he declines and says its just not for him. He works at a taco bell, says hes gonna quit but never does. Its wasnt as bad when we first graduated high school because we were all in the same boat but now im almost done and hes the same. Says hes gonna look at new jobs and he'll just keep jumping around until he finds something that fits. His parents have told me in confidence how proud they are to see me succeed and they are worried about him everyday, I feel bad because I know im leaving him behind to this life and I want to save him from it but im out of patience with him. Worst of all, deep down when I see him I feel so much better about myself. Any problems I have seem like nothing after I spend a day with him drinking in his childhood bedroom like we did when we were 15, getting nostalgic about the "old days" I wont lie, its pretty fun at the time but then I leave to my grown up world and a better future.
I cant shake the feeling of guilt though

>>18435170
Kek, I'll do my best, but I've already started fapping all the time again

>>18435183
when you become successful give him a job

Hello!

I have never "masturbated" and have no desire to do so as far as I can tell. Is there something wrong with me and does this endanger my health?

I can't hook up with any girl and it makes me scream (alone)

>>18435183
Ever read Blood Brothers? If not then do so, bottom line is that you can't change people, change has to come from within in trying to will only make things worse. Its horrible but there is nothing you can really do, be as good a friend as you can to him, don't ever be optimistic.You can try different things to see if he finds an interest in something, though that's about it.

>>18435193
Age?
I'd say it's good for your mental health...

>>18435208

19

Hey anontherapist. I'm 29 and I'm having a lot of trouble keeping my current friendships. It's like they're all falling apart at once. I feel like most of them are only interested in themselves and through all these times they only hung around with me to use me. In part I think this is true but sometimes I wonder if I'm exaggerating. I think this demeanor is making me more distant to them. What should I do anon? Don't want to be alone

>>18434764
>married but have a major crush on coworker and lots of sexual innuendo flirting
>get job offer I cannot turn down and give notice to company and coworker crush
>both of us rush, make plans to meet in hotel obviously to have sex
>get to hotel, scared and I have major second thoughts about cheating on husband and we just talk awhile, he wants sex so I give head to finish him quick and leave
>the guy has been passing by my house everyday for a week and stopped in front a few times once when my husband was in the front yard

I'm a nervous wreck, do I tell my husband what I did or wait it out? I have already left the company where the coworker is

>>18435254
You don't deserve to have a husband.

I can't get my ex girlfriend out of my head and we've been apart for about 5 years. We started talking again earlier this year and I went from "I'll never see her again and that's fine" to "fuck I KNEW she was my soulmate" only to have things burn out before I could go visit her. And now I'm just stuck on her. She probably did that on purpose, but how do you forget people?

>>18435254
You're already selfish as fuck so you won't tell him immediately like you should anyway. The worst part about people like you is you can't even go all the way and fuck the dude. No, in a moment of weakness you decide that throwing your marriage away over a short blowjob is somehow better than fucking him. When you and your husband eventually have the conversation, don't try to rationalize it as just a quick BJ.

I express my extreme sadness into edgy aesthetic bullshit photo edits and post it online. I broke up with the love of my life and I don't know why. I don't know if she even is the love of my life. I keep running away and moving to different states. I quit my job. I left college, I left my family. I left my apartment. I left my cat. I left everything I've known. I'm a mess and I waste my life away. I want to explore. I want to experience. I just am so lost.

Have to move back home but don't really want to. Family is moaning and annoyed. Looking forward to seeing my Sister again but not giving up my living alone lifestyle- DND, shitty tv show, bed repeat. Plus no freedom in food choice or time.

>>18435175
figure out where you want to go and what you want to do. Ride a motorcycle across the US, walk the Appalachian trail, ect. Make sure you know what youre doing though, dont do either of tose if you dont know how to ride a motorcycle or have never been hiking. then calculate your expenses, how long are you going for and whats the cheapest way to do it? If you work make sure you take the proper time off in advance and still have enough in a savings account. Dont blow all you money. then get the right supplies, dont be cheap on this of all things. bring enough spending/emergency money as well. Have a decent mix of places you want to see but also enough freedom to just go where the wind takes you. All in all dont be naive or retarded and have some basic planning beforehand and you'll be fine. Dont throw caution to the wind and do this tomorrow

>>18435114
>those who can't are fat losers
Well, I am a fat loser... but I didn't always used to be. I feel like I've just given up and don't know what to do anymore.

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>>18435254
tell him and be prepared for the end of your marriage most likely. Its what you deserve, dont try to play the victim because you're not

>>18435296
stop being down on yourself first of all, try to change things about yourself you dont like. if youre happy the way you are then act happy. Ive seen fat losers still get GFs by being who they are

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Met the Girl of my Life 2 years ago. I had Chances to get her as a Girlfriend but i didnt took them, >fucking beta faggot i hate myself and i know if the Universe is not going to give me another chance i will die cause of it.
There was a Time I was over her; There were like 2 months i didnt saw her. But then we randomly met on a little City "festival" the feels hit me stronger then every Drug before.
Im completly addicted to her.

Also i have Depressions since a half year or so and its getting worse despite i take vitamins and shit.

feeling like 70+ years old
tired of life

>>18435300
I don't want to lose my marriage, things are going well, especially with my new job. My biggest fear is from the ex coworker. He tried to text and even call the day after but I blocked his number and why, I guess, he is now driving by my house. I never offered him anything and just want him to go away. I feel bad enough and should know better, the butterflies and anticipation rush is safe but very different when you are alone in a room and they are kissing your neck and tugging at your clothes. I only gave him a bf to end the encounter and cried all the way home and thankfully my husband wasn't there, I looked a mess.

Broke up a relationship three weeks ago. She was a great girl but for certain reasons it was being a very painful relationship and had to let her go. She was just texting me about meeting so she could return some books I lent her and I (politely) told her to mail them because I couldn't bear to see her. She was clearly disappointed but said she won't contact me anymore. I guess more than an advice I need someone to tell me I did the right thing, because I'm falling apart right now.

>>18435313
>I don't want to lose my marriage

So why did you cheat on your husband? Did you want to keep your marriage, but under a false pretense of loyalty and honesty? Did you just not think this through? No, seriously. I'd like to know.

biggest thing on my mind for a while now has been my cripplingly low self esteem. Its affected every relationship and friendship that I have in my life. It's only now that I'm recognising that alcohol doesnt solve that problem and it's time to start getting therapy. My family all say I look like my uncle so much, but my uncle has isolated himself from everyone, with no friends and close family. Please god don't let me end up like that

>>18435313
tell your co worker that its over, if you havent already. If he keeps pursuing you then its now out of your control and your husband will find out anyway so you might as well jump on the grenade rather then him finding out himself. Save him that disrespect at least. If youre lucky and hes stupid he'll at least hear you out

>>18435324
focus on things you like and that youre good at to build self esteem. Its easy to get down on yourself when youre unhappy and not succeeding, or worse succeeding in things you dont care about. It worked for me. once you start improving on something you like you'll feel better about yourself

>>18435323
I didn't think it through I admit. I said the crush and sexual talk had me obsessing over something not real. It didn't sink in till I walked into the room, shut the door and he kissed me. He wanted me to remove my clothes and I just couldn't. The desire was there but it made me nauseous thinking about him on top of me and how could I have sex with my husband after. He was very insistent, I was running out of excuses for being there and why I gave him the bj, knowing I could easily leave after. It didn't take long.

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>>18434764
My cousin once again, tried to not so subtly "help" me get laid, by trying to get me make a Tinder account.
He knows that I am a kissless, handholdless virgin, and this is not the first time he has tried to "fix" that. He fucking proposed that he and his friends would pay a whore to fuck me few years ago. I got insulted, and last year, when told him that I had befriended a girl that lived in the same apartment complex as I, the first thing he did was hand me a bunch of condoms.

He doesn't fucking get it that I don't have any interest in just losing my virginity. I got zero interest in having sex with some random slut just to get it "over with". There is no point in sex if it is not between two loving partners, and until I meet a girl that I fall in love with, I have no interest in pursuing chicks just to fuck them.
No matter how I try to explain the above to my cousin, he doesn't fucking get it.

>>18435341

This, again? You already made your own thread and had tons of replies, dude.

>>18435341
are you me?
my friends are the same way with me and its gone from embarrassing to insulting. I dont need my hand held for this and id rather do it on my own and be with somebody I care about rather then just bang some girl. Im not totally hopeless, ive asked out girls before I just dont have the same social setting as they do. They bang girls randomly and are dude bros about it but I want my first time to be special. Worst of all I cant say this without setting like some fedora tipping white knight

>>18435329
I don't want to speak to the ex coworker again, he is very insistent so anticipate it would not work. I haven't had any contact with him since I walked out the hotel door. Just want this whole horrid thing to go away. In the end I got nothing but shame and guilt. It took longer to wash his cum out of my hair than the whole encounter.

Thing that bothers me is that I know I have a strong career ahead of me because of my degree and the university it is from. This is great, but I know my brother does not have this at all and that honestly bothers me. I know I'll be earning considerably more and why? Because I'm naturally more academic? It almost seems unjust

>>18435331
Thanks for the advice anon.

>>18435368
help him out when u get on your feet

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this is going to sound fucking ridiculous and cringy but here it goes.
ive been obsessed with the movie tuck everlasting for the better part of a year, probably more. I saw it on tv after not having seen it or read the book in years and I figured "fuck it, it was a good movie if I remember correctly" and it just struck something inside of me on a personal level. Not only did it bring a wave of nostalgia from the early 2000s, that prime alexis bledel and is a great movie and one of my favorite books, but it brought out some deeper things inside of me I had been dealing with and couldnt place.
It reminded me of being 15-16,summer vacations, having a sort of but not really relationship with my first crush, that same crush who turned me down and has since moved on to a better college and got a new BF and a new life and im still stuck in our small home town, still living like I was 15. I have a job and am finishing college (though a much less prestigious university), never been laid, still live at home, never had a gf after her though I did try to ask out other girls. I just feel so stuck right now. If youve seen the movie you'd know jesse is literally stuck at 17 and immortal and he cant be with her because she shouldnt be immortal with him. the whole thing just really fucked with my head and this last year has been really rough on its own. I felt like jesse, permanently stuck while I see others go and live their lives. My old social circle is dying anyway, most of my friends have moved on and the ones that didnt, well we havent got much to do anymore. ill go to our old hangouts just for the nostalgia but its starting to become bitter. Any ideas on how to get over this or has anyone experienced anything like it so Im not as crazy as I feel? I know my time will come too but this fucking movie man, it got in my head like no other one has and I dont know if its a good thing or a bad thing. Im trying to make it positive though

>>18435368
this.

Considering starting a company for my sibling so they can essentially live off that with me doing the work.

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>>18435397
movies have an odd way of doing that, you can argue about art and deeper meaning in a lot of things and how profound they are but movies in particular make sense, especially ones from your childhood. After my mom died I watched the land before time, forgetting about littlefoots mom dying. that was enough break me and I cried for days but it opened up a door for me. I still have trouble watching it though. Sounds like thats what that movie did for you, its funny how profound some children and young adult movies are like that, but thats there purpose to instill emotional responses like that. Your time will come anon, and you can look back on moments like that with relief and gratitude

>>18434764
I'm pregnant and I feel like crap. I've had other kids and I love having babies but it's really physically demanding carrying a child. Problem is, this is our 4th girl and my husband really wants a son. I do to and i would be ok with trying again but having babies every other year is starting to really be hard. My back hurts all the time and I just feel worn out. I stay in shape and never gain more then like 20 lbs with pregnancy, and loss that fairly fast after the baby. I still feel really exosted tho, how do I help my husband understand I need a brake? We always planned for a big family and I feel like I'm letting him down.

>>18434764
Listen dude,

I think I'm worthless and I don't know why anyone would even want to deal with me in life.

For the last year I've been seriously contemplating suicide just so I could be rid of this mess I've been living in. Nothing seems to make me happy anymore, nothing ever feels like enough.

I'm about to be 20 in 6 weeks, I haven't accomplished jack shit with my life and I don't know where to turn or where to place my efforts, hence why the idea of checking out brings me such solace.

What's wrong with me? I feel like there's a wall between me and the world.

>>18435446

4 kids is a large family, trust me.

>source, 3rd child of 4

>>18435446
tell him to stop going balls keep when he cums, you have got to pull out just a little bit if you want a son.

I found out an internet friend of mine lied about his identity.
We talked for over 2 years and I deeply care about him. He fucking pretended to die and I was destroyed.

I want to contact him and ask him for an explanation. Should I do this, or should I just forget and move on?

>>18435460

What's the point, for your personal closure? He probably just wanted to be done with talking to everyone and start over.

Contacting him and asking for an explanation will probably result in nothing - if he ghosted you by faking his death, I doubt he's gonna be like, "oh hey it's you here's why I died".

>>18435459
Yah I know, trust me I've read a lot on what increases the odds of having a boy.

>>18435456
I grew up with 4 siblings and my husband had 5. He wants like 6, honestly I think he just likes me being pregnant too, like it's evidence of how much we love each other and that I belong to him

>>18435472
>What's the point, for your personal closure?
Yeah.

I don't understand why he did this. I found out he lied about some major things about himself (name, birthday (by a few days), and that he's married. I found his social media and other shit.
I just want to understand what the fuck happened.

>>18435480
Im the oldest of 6 kids no more than 18 months age difference in between us most of us are only about a 10 months, I remember when my 4th sister was born we brought her home from the hospital the next day, my grandpa came over, he told my dad he wanted to see his daughter one time when she wasn't pregnant before he died,...daddy said " well you should have been here yesterday"

>>18434764
I'm strongly considering hiring an escort because I'm too fat and ugly to get laid the conventional way. Even if I were to lose weight it would take me years to unfuck my ruined body. I also don't blame anyone other than myself for my current state. Not my parents, not any of the women who (rightfully) rejected me, not my professors, or employers. Only me.

>>18434764
I'm finishing my semester and I failed a course, feeleing like shit and getting less confident about myself, sleeping leess and can't focus on the other courses. What to do /adv/?

>>18435497
Haha omg that's awful, very funny tho :) that's how my guy is. I do work a regular job but he's always making jokes about keeping me pregnant and barefoot in the kitchen. Only reason our kids are 2 years apart instead of only 1 is because I breastfeed with all of them and that's a natural form of birth control

>>18435277
Shes single? 5 years is a long time, if shes single give her a try. SoMe people change and time heals wounds.

>>18435578
Even if you paid for an escort, she will stiil feel disgusted for fucking a fat greasy weeb (as you told us) and you will feel even worse.

>>18435611
At least she'd pretend to like it and I'd get to have sex with an attractive woman. I'm probably not going to live another ten years and my youth is over. Im concerned over the cost and the possibility of getting herpes. Also, not a weeb. Just fat.

I want to reject a guy for dating because he's white. The reason is because I'm a black girl who experiences a lot of racism for being black. Racism is a big challenge in my life I know he won't be able to understand. Does this make me sound like a jerk?

>>18434764
I'm one of the biggest introverts on the planet and I've been perfectly happy being alone. However, sometimes I feel like I'm missing out on having a girlfriend because everyone who's tried it seems to not want to be without one no matter what. Then I wonder if I have any actual interest in girls or I just convinced myself that I do because of society. Then I masturbate and stop caring for a few days. If I just continue like that, will I reach the point where I'm an undatable 30yo virgin who suddenly realised he wants to make a family?

I lack the ability to independently act because my stepfather was an Orwellian asshole. If I ever get laid it will be because I'm under the influence, which plays into the fact that my father was an alcoholic which is why I have a stepfather. Now what?

>>18435698
Maybe he'll see it for himself if he's with you. About your question though, not being able to understand each other about an important part of your life is a perfectly valid reason to reject someone

>>18435777
He's a genuinely nice guy though I knew we would never be a couple when he didn't see anything wrong with something as simple as someone we just met asking me "where are you really from?" when I said I was from Melbourne.

>>18435799
And you find no problem with hearing something as simple as that and immediately ruling out a romantic interest because 'das rayciss'?

ive spent the last 3 months of my life getting cucked by the girl Im dating with both guys and girls and I just now realized it.

things like other dudes clothes, used rubbers in the apartment, constant checking of the phone, and overall shadiness. she lied to me about being bisexual, hooked up with her ex at the same party I was at with her, and said she liked her more and admitted shes been in contact with them more than me in recent weeks but was sorry about being distant.

ive just been standing by and not really letting her have in terms of how I feel. im such a fucking sap and get scared to voice my opinions becauase I didn't want to jeopardize anything, now I could care less and just want to cut all contact with her, there is no use in salvaging a friendship from this because that's not what real friends do to each other.

I have such a long list of things that stood out to me as red flags, more than good things, and I just let it slide because I thought I saw something in this, im so dumb and naïve but that's life.

my hearts been so broken that its honestly not even painful anymore, it just feels like an annoyance really.

other than that im holding up solid. got some really good smoke and good beer to lay back with.

I met a girl online on a discord server over a year ago now and we became stupid close, she's without a doubt my bestfriend. The last few months have been rough, I was being selfish, treating her pretty shitty and just not listening or acknowledging what she has to say.

Two weeks ago I was selfish and made a huge deal about something small. She got fed up and deleted me from everything except discord, I sent her a message stating I would change and treat her better. Which she actually replied to (all my other messages were ignored), she stated she needed time to think about it. So a week passes by and she replies back to me, clearly still angry, hurt and just disappointed. We're back to being "friends", basically she told me I'm not special or her bestfriend anymore, and that I have to work my way up back to that point again. Which I agreed on, because I want to change my shit attitude and treat her well and give her a healthy friendship.

Thing is I just don't know what/how to message her now , I can easily tell she's being cold towards me when we sorta talk which I understand why. But I'm just completely blank and just lost on what I should do right now, she believes I will last a week before I flip my shit again. How should I go about this situation? I'm working on improving myself but what else could I do here? How should I go about messaging her til things between us are better.

Sorry for if it's longish but thanks in advance, I don't really have anyone to talk about this...

Mr and the gf separated after 4.5 years I was happy for a while after but now it's hitting me and I feel pretty upset. I have been working out a lot more now I'm down 25 pounds and I am looking good but I'm having a hard time meeting women any advice?

>>18435303
I know it's late to respond, but I guess I'm still at an impasse with whether or not I'm happy with myself or not.

>>18435904
Start out at the club and m eet different girls.
Then meet them in less populated places, you wont feel as shy.
>>18435878
Cheat on her and leave her. You will have a hard time loving someone ever again if you stay

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>>18434764
Not 100% sure about this, but I think I'll be able to achieve hapiness and maybe start a family with someone this pretty, if I become wealthy.

I've been working a min wage job for almost 8 months and only have $ 4k saved up (living with parents and helping them pay the bills).

I honestly don't think I can get a girl like this now, because I don't have 'game', still taking driving lessons and live with my parents.

Maybe I'll be happy when I move out, go to college, finish college and get a career/a job that pays well.

I think this will give me a better chance at a better life and maybe hook up with someone this pretty.

What do you guys think about this ?

>>18436046
It's a bit narrow

So I work at a help desk for a really big company (30,000) employees. I'm pretty good at the job. I'm a good writer, so I often get asked to write things, which is fine if it's a one-off.

Until one day, a newish manager asked me to do something for him. He wanted me to help migrate a simple request from the customer service area to the IT area. I knew how to do it easily, so I had it done.

Now, our IT department handles the request 24/7. It's pretty simple, however I don't have the access to complete the requests. So when they come in, I'm reliant on our Tier 2 to do them.

A lot of the time, they just sit around and don't complete them. I get wracked with horrible anxiety because I then have to call them specifically and tell them to do it. But I know they feel like I'm making them do stuff or making them look bad. So it's this horrible situation where I created a bunch of work for them daily, I'm accountable for it getting done, but I can't do it myself. They are just lazy or stupid so they won't do them unless I prod.

Not to mention the guys working the night shift are too stupid to fucking make sure all of these stupid requests are completed. They take less than thirty seconds to do, and there's maybe 10-20 per day.

I thought this was literally so simple there is no way these dumb assholes wouldn't do it. But they simply won't. I actually would rather quit my job than deal with this, because the customer service department constantly comes back to me asking why it took 24 hours or more to complete a request that takes less than 30 fucking seconds.

i think i'll have to just engage the manager that had me do it and tell him to have his shitty team just fucking do them. god i hate this.

this is all because i can't say no. wtf is wrong with me.

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>>18434764
Not holdin up too great.

Been about 5 weeks now. Can't remember anything prior to feeling like this. I feel surreal, like nothing is real or matters. Like I'm not in my own body, I can just see through it. I can't shake this feeling and I have no idea what's causing it.

> stress
done with finals, don't have any.

> Viibryd/antidepressant
maybe? Idk, I tried going up to the full 40mg at my doc's recomendation and feel happier but not clear headed.

> try working out
No good. Doesn't help.

My memory is so shit I forget what I even did yesterday or earlier in the day. I'm losing track of time, not know if seconds or hours have passed. Gonna try to come off the meds I think but if that doesn't work idk what to do. Will probably just off myself.

Feel like I'm going crazy and I don't fuckin know why. Not even Adderall helps me bring me back down to earth. I have no motivation and barely passed classes this quarter. I'm fucked

any advice appreciated

>>18435926
dont over think it, are there things about yourself you want to change and see whats the first thing to come to mind. If you want to change anything, make sure its manageable at least

>>18436046
im in the same boat, been paying my way through school and living at home do I dont have a social life. Im banking on this last year of university to have a college experience but im not holding my breath either. The important thing is we have a plan and working to get there is humbling but worth it in the long run

>>18436078
anything else going on in your life? big changes or decisions to be made? Are you done with school?
I usually have a numb phase after my semester finishes but it only lasts a week or so and now that im going to be finished with college my numb phase is turning into a panic phase. Do you have any big plans or aspirations?

>>18435397
I felt the same about the fox and the hound, it was the first film to ever make me cry as a kid and taught me the valuable lesson of friendship and how they dont last forever. It sucked but again, it taught me something that I will always hold dear

>>18436093
I am done with school for the year. Got another year after it, no idea what I'll do. Would like to just move to Norway and live in an isolated cabin. The idea of working 8-5pm sounds horrific and honestly somedays would rather skip the bullshit and kill myself.

At least I didn't study Psychology though. I went through this same bullshit my Junior year of High School. Took me a year to get out of the funk, docs thought I had mono.

No idea how to cure it. I've tried meditating even. For fucks sake meditating. Nothing. Exercise, nothing. I don't know what to fucking do mate. I'm at the end of my rope and I can't even function at this point. I'm just droning

Only aspiration is to make a bunch of money so I don't have to work. I'm designining an app right now just to try to jumpstart my mind but I get 10 minutes in and i'm completely lost even tho my degree is in computer science

>>18436291
sounds like deep down youre just scared about what youre going to do with your life and are going into a sort of shock to deal with it. you'll probably have some moment of freakout/clarity soon. To avoid that, id start looking at jobs. Go to job fairs, look online at internships or ask on here about various jobs. youd be surprised at what decent advice can come out of this place
>I dont want to work 8-5
nobody fucking does, thats why you get a job you like so it doesnt suck as bad. Whats your major anyway? something in a field youre interested in?

I guess I'll post here about this.

I don't know what the fuck is going on here.


So, I saw this girl once before like a month and a half ago at may day, we exchanged a few words, but nothing meaningful. (Well, I dont think at least. But she randomly came upto me during the main rally when we were doing some antagonizing)

But yesterday I was at one, and this same girl came up behind me and tapped me and asked my name. Along with asking some stupid questions on who was speaking at the pre-rally. (I also mentioned the guy next to me was with us at the first action, but she kinda half assed said hey, and went back to me) Also, later she tried telling me something during the march, while kinda hovering near me at parts. (seemed to bounce between me and another two people she knew (I think she actually knew them))

This girl is a legimate Hippie Communist type.
Lives in a Art collective thing, From her radio show description "They dropped out of college, protested, hitched hiked, train hopped, hippie vanned,lived on communes and traveled the underground lands of activism"

I also don't know how I actually feel about her. Kinda conflicted in a way.

I'm a 19 year old STEM student. I feel inadequate every time I talk to my peers. I struggle and study for every test and half the class does better than I do. I just don't understand what I'm doing wrong and why this comes so naturally to so many other people.

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so im really into femdom and forced fem. Not fucking and sucking dudes, but the idea of being bound and humiliated/teased by girls is my ultimate fantasy. Recently I lost a bet to my sisters lesbian friend, who said she wants to give me a girl makeover. Im excited, nervous and dont want it all at the same time. ive been pacing around my house all day thinking if I should get out of it, ive already asked and she said no, but I know if I push her she wont do it. Part of me wants this, but another part of me knows im going to get a serious boner and she'll see it which will be embarrassing as hell, Im also worried how much ill like it or if ill just feel ridiculous the whole time. She talked about getting her sister (my age, went to school together actually) involved and maybe her friends. I feel like ive bitten off my then I can chew and this will end humiliating for me
>should I go through with it or not
>whats a good way to hide a boner
>im into feet too, whats a subtle way I could get her to use hers on me if I go through with it
>how did you come to terms with/discover your kinks

>>18436311
shes flirting or at least trying to get to know you. Dont be put off by the hippie thing, lots of girls go through it in college and grow out of it later. Or they stick with it and end up homeless. give it a chance and if anything you'll have a "this one chick in college" story
>>18436344
dont compare yourself to others, its not healthy and im sure they dont notice. if they do they are stuck up cunts who think theyre better then everyone and are social climbers. If you want to be better then study harder, maybe even form a group with them and work together. Focus on things you know to feel "smart" I cant do stem to save my life so youre better then me. Most of my friends in college were thermodynamic engineering majors who studied what im sure was magic. But I could do things like woodwork or fix a car engine that baffled them. We all have our strengths

>>18436369
Well, she seems to have some interest for some reason. And honestly, I think she's more of just an Artsy Anarchist as this point, and moved past her hippie days. But probably has a shit ton of stories.

I guess I'll see where this goes next time I run into her. Eh. Sucks though. She lives like 2 hrs away though.

>>18434764

most of my days are filled with self loathing and wondering what the fuck will i do, my father that I've been renting from for the past 12years asked me to move out because his girlfriend wants it which is fine I should, but living in Alaska is fucking costly I don't know what to do all the places I've looked at are 1k+ a month even with a full time job I'll still have to get another job or a roommate i could trust whom are in very short supply. I don't know what to do he didn't give me a time limit though but paying rent and giving him more cash for the utility's is making it pointless on trying to save up, i feel like every step i take i get pushed back three more steps, i though about leaving Alaska but without anywhere to go i don't know what to do, my mom recently came back into my life after my older brother passed away saying if i need anything just ask but i haven't known her in a long-ass time and i feel uncomfortable ask for help. the only skills i have is that i worked as a PCA,landscaping & 11years of retail and i don't own a car i take the bus,Uber/taxi or ride my bike/walk. i cant borrow money due to not having any good/no credit what should i do other than killing myself which is fine because it seems that im worth more fucking dead than alive.

>>18436344
CompSci major here.
>>1843636
Like this post says, most people are full of shit and are prob struggling as much as you. In my case I didnt know what I was getting myself into in my first cs class. Failed so bad I transferred to a state college and now I'm the guy that gets this shit like second nature. You don't become great in these fields without failure, but if you persevere they'll all be looking to you when their bs doesn't cut it anymore.

>>18436461
Shit, was referencing this:
>>18436369

>>18435601

She's not single. Actually, that's the problem. She has a boyfriend now. Randomly stopped talking to me one day, I checked her Facebook a few weeks later and she's with some guy. So I should be able to fucking move on but she still comes up in my head all the time.

>>18434764
alright then im just gonna bitch

my job sucks. dead end, low pay, benefits are offered but extremely expensive, not learning anything useful and totally unrelated to what im actually good at. i need to get out of there. i spent alot of time learning about a field that i realized is hopelessly terrible so now i have to start over again but i have no clue where to start. and i feel like if i give up completely then i truly did waste a good decade and a half at least.

i was gonna bitch about more because im unhappy with most aspects of my life but i think thats enough

I felt super motivated yesterday after seeing the doctor who was super encouraging (gave me 3 days off work, no work due very soon anyway). Today, however, no matter how hard I try I can't get that same 'imeptus'. What's wrong with me? Why can't I have the motivation to create and contribute all the time?

I can probably answer my own question: I'm a 26 y.o. twig that doesn't exercise and eats poorly, sleeps irregularly, and haven't got many real friends anymore. So err, kill me? I also live alone and I'm probably a little depressed.

>>18436472
Girls suck - she was playing the field and weighing up her options. She probably got her first choice and just dropped the others like dead weight.

Don't play her game dude. Play your own field.

My ex still tells me she loves me. She broke up with me. She still calls me by the same pet names. I still love her so much, but I don't know if we'll ever be together again. I went to dinner with her last week. Her mental illness has gotten worse I think. I'm so worried about her

My wife doesnt put out anymore, so ive been keeping a side piece for a few years now, i usually change up every few months. ( inb4 cheater or whatever other insult you have, i cheat because we have sex like twice a year, but i stay with her because she keeps me emotionally stable)
Recently , I've been talking to this manager from my job.
She definitely likes me,and we've made out a few times, but wont go any further because im married.
Usually this wouldnt be a problem,but for some reason i find myself really liking her and possibly falling for her.
Im not sure exactly what kind of advice i need, but anything would be appreciated.

>>18436748
Quit cheating faglord.

>>18436308
I think you're right.

I gotta face life aka an eternity on 4Chan

I like my degree cause I am challenging myself to learn something outta my mental level but at the same time it's strangling me like I was a small child locked in a dark basement.

But I'm hoping I can do something grand with it and make a steady paycheck from an indie game or app or some shit. It's hard, but I'm trying but I am too all accomodated to the taste of failure and idiocy and the lack of friends.

I tried to break up with my gf of one year about 2 weeks ago. She's extremely needy and I can't provide for her needs physically or emotionally. We only see each other once a week (by my choice) and it's not enough for her. And I can't see myself ever wanting more than that. I also never want to live with her as I love my own space and I feel most comfortable on my own. Spending too much time with people makes me feel claustrophobic and I've voiced all of this to her. I told her I was trying to save her pain in the future by breaking up but she wasn't having any of it. I still feel like I'd be better off alone but I'm terrified of hurting her.

>>18436078
>Feel like I'm going crazy and I don't fuckin know why. Not even Adderall helps me bring me back down to earth.
i was seriously readingtill this

god you americans have been so brainwashed by the big pharma companies how the hell does the average american think that amphetamines can 'bring you down to earth'

god im so done with this site

>>18435337
I just want to know what was the rationale behind it? The actual reason and not the padding?

Also where are you from? That is pretty deplorable.

>I cheated without thinking
>I want to keep lying to my husband to keep the marriage for selfish reasons

How old are you in fact?

>>18437244
meh

>>18436074
Just explain this to your manager. When someone asks why it's taking so long just respond with "I did my part, IT just has to complete it"

>>18435799
That sucks and was really dumb of him but it's just one occasion. I think you shouldn't be too quick to judge

Do you think monogamous relationships are for everyone?

>>18437922
depends on the people. I do think the idea of marriage is a scam and a forced social construct by fat girls who were raised on too many disney movies, and divorce or way too frowned upon. Some people meet their soul mate and live together forever and its all rainbows and sweetness, others dont and separate to avoid making each other more miserable and there shouldnt be such a stigma against that

I'm about to propose to my girlfriend of 7 years and my friend's wife is really hot and wants to hang out with us a lot. His wife is kinda flirty and we share a lot of the same interests, and he's kind of a stick in the mud. I might be crushing on her a bit. How do I approach this situation and keep it healthy for the friendship?

>>18437937
My problem is that I want to have amazing experiences with multiple people. Like everything is mutual between all partners. Tough part is I've been with the same guy since 14 (19 now) and he is very much not into the idea. But the desire to be with multiple people (including him) makes him very upset and won't go away for me.

I hate my small dick. (3 inches hard)

It's something I can't change, something I've been cheated over, someone I've been rejected over, something I've been laughed at for.

I've been in boxing, pretty funny guy.

But this insecurity I can't change and I fuckin hate it.

My friend (female) invited me (male) goodbye party as she's going abroad soon.
She let me stay over and we had an emotional goodbye but nothing happened. I wished her luck in a competition she had in 2 days and she promised to share a vid of it.
Before I left we had a long hug.
She didn't share the vid, has ignored me even asking how it went and deleted my comments on links she shared on facebook. All my messages has been marked as read.
I waited 3 days before trying to contact her and asking her what was going on but she ignored me.
It's my birthday in a few weeks so I'm going to message her then but not contact her beforehand. I don't want to lose a friend like this.

Any ideas why she changed so dramatically overnight?

Yesterday, I cheated on my GF and I hate myself for this.

I have big problems in life, especially with university. For 1.5 years, I didn't pass any course. I'm trying to run away from all my problems. My GF got her own problems, but my best female friend always tries to help me.

We were our partying the last 2 weeks to forget my problems.... And yesterday we had drunk sex. It felt so good to have someone I can share my problems with, but I feel so bad now for my GF.
Today I got a letter from my university, they're kicking me out in 2 weeks if I'm not pass a major course.
I'm totaly broke...
Help...

>>18434764
Problems just seem to pile up. I fell in love with a classmate (she was not your usual crush, I was pretty serious about it) and I was rejected. This led me to some pretty depression-like feelings, and then my grades started falling because I didn't care about uni in general anymore. Probably going to repeat or drop out. Then there's also my family. They're urging me to spend more time with them although I've always been more or less asocial. They're saying that they could tolerate it when I was a teen but now I'm 20 and ought to spend more time with them.

All in all I can't say I objectively have any reasons to feel bad but some days I just want to commit suicide.

I've been trying very hard to "meditate" on my issues, but I have a friend with similar (but also very different) issues. They will talk about it all night about theirs if I let them, which last night I did. I could tell talking about it was of some relief for them, there aren't many people who could listen without running to tell their father or brother even though neither of them really give a shit about my friend, and a lot of it wasn't stuff they could tell their partner because my friend is still really fucked up and hurt from a divorce 8 years ago.

My friend is a (barely) functioning alcoholic, and I don't drink except on occasion for health reasons. I love my friend dearly but they're mourning their own life, has been practically since their mom died when they were 11 and now they're in their mid 30's. They are a great creative force, and would never try to take their own life again. They said my not drinking is inspiring and that I'm really cool, that when we first met they were actually extremely intimidated by me because they thought of themselves as just some weird mentally ill loser not worthy of being my friend even though we're similar in a lot of ways. I have never had a "best friend," but this is the closest I expect to ever get and I want to help but don't know how besides moving with them out to their ranch, which I would do in a heartbeat if I could but my partner (and my friend's oldest childhood friend) isn't crazy about the idea. I know it's what my friend needs and they shouldn't do it alone... I'm at a loss.

And I don't expect much advice, just writing this helped.