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Bumpity bump.

no one?

>>18438703
Think of the context in which you heard or learned the name and try to create a scene in your head of that situation

>>18438685
rent small storage unit, it's like $30 per month for the smallest one.

>>18438685
Get a friend who is trustworthy to keep a box for 6 months

>>18438685

>sentimental value

Sure. Get one of those storage shed things that you can rent for a time, put some of your shit there. If that's too expensive, guess you're gonna go take your fetishes to foreign lands.

>>18438668

Not particularly. Considering how many people destroy their lives, or the life of the person they're with, by dating too early and immaturely it might be best for you to grow as a person before trying to devote your life to someone else.

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>>18438668
Having a relationship can be rewarding once you learn to live with yourself. It will feel it easier to get into one when you are ready to it.

>>18438673
this is solid advice

>>18438659

>wanting to date
>can't start or hold a conversation
>scared of everything

Yeah it ain't gonna happen with all that fear. Go learn some conversational skills, try again later.

>>18438659
You literally just say Hey ____, maybe even a "how's it going"

It's not hard

>>18438659
You can post anything, they won't date with you, so whatever.

You could do a roleplay where he gets stung by an octopus.
But yeah it'll be alright.

>>18438595
I mean jellyfish, FUCK.

this is pretty disgusting but hey, you gotta do what you gotta do to get yourself off

>>18438566
What exactly are you asking for advice with? We need more information, dude. We can't read your mind. Tell the full fucking story.

How did she react to you pulling a knife on her, and are you asking how to repair your relationship with her, or how to manage your anger in the future so you never come so close to doing something stupid again?

>>18438566
You need professional help, see an anger management counselor, therapist, psychiatrist, psychologist, whatever you can find.

oh yeah sorry still having a bit of a moment
i live on my own kind of far from where my family live so members often come to visit i let them stay with me as its somewhat close to the capital anyway sister comes to stay over fight brakes out after i Caught her holding my dog up in the air by his collar didn't ask why bare in mind this dog is only a few months old now fight brakes out goes on for 20 mins things got physical in the end i just leave to cool off as I'm about to walk out the door calls me a fucking pussy and shit get pissed out pull the knife she says your not gonna stab me i swing a little big miss tell her to leave shes packs and goes
does that do?

Either way anything will fucking help rn

>>18438532
Ah yeah you might be on to something there OP. Correlation ≠ causation but I think it might be more than coincidental that so many people rising out of emotional trauma are also introverts. It makes sense, once you've been burned too many times you're less likely to want to keep trying.

>>18438532
introvert doesn't mean what you think it means, in that concept yes introversion is a meme.

>>18438532
You gotta define what you mean by introversion, dude. People use the word to mean different things. But basically, no, your little hunch is wrong.

If by 'introvert' you mean someone who recharges their energy by being alone (as opposed to socializing) then no, that's a basic personality type. I'm not shy at all, I like talking to people and actively enjoy public speaking, but I need long periods of quiet recharge time between big social events. That's just how I am. Certainly it's not the result of 'emotional trauma.'

If by 'introvert' you mean 'shy person' or 'quiet person' then again, no, some people are just like that, and they weren't all bullied or molested or whatever. There's nothing wrong with being that way either.

do a barrel roll

Have you considered the trades?

>>18438504
Nothing. There's literally nothing you can do. Those are the only two career options in our modern age.

In, say, the 90s, you could have tried your hand at programming, or accounting, or architecture, or business, or plumbing, or carpentry, or engineering, or teaching, or cooking, or one of several hundred other options, but in 2017 the year of our Lord, if you don't like music or graphics, you're shit outta luck.

she has really liked me for like 6-7 months now even though I barely say anything to her, maybe it's my distantness and aloofness that seems alpha?

eitherway i'm scared that if i schedule a date with her or something i will have nothing to talk to her about and she will get bored and just leave

i remember the first date i ever had (my last date) was with an ugly girl because i couldn't handle talking to the good-looking ones and i went to pick this girl up from the train station, i walked like 20cm away from here and said "ok come on", and she walked behind me as i walked as far forward as i could while walking to a kiddy park, and I then proceeded to play on the swings and call my friends over because I had no idea what to do and they just made me look like an even bigger pussy infront of her kek

also poorfag as fuck and she's rich so there's that insecurity as well so I'm scared I take her back to my council house on the estate with my single mum and she's just like "no"

that being said I'm a really good actor, but I don't know how to act for this scenario, I guess I should just act like I don't care which would explain why I don't talk much but then it would feel really cringey and awkward

REEE help me guys I've had chances like this in the past with different hotties and I've always let them go due to my anxiety, any anxiety-fixing tips beforehand? Any motivational shit pls anons pls...

lol she won't care about the council estate, girls associate social housing with bad boys, and girls love bad boys

but get some perspective from an outsider anon: She's begging for the D. all you have to do now is arrange a date.

make sure she's chasing you - then say "I'm going to [x cool place] tomorrow, do you want to come along?" do it in person. Then arrange the logistics of the date via text. She'll know it's a date / hookup, she's not an idiot.

>>18438515
>x cool place
kek the only time i go out is to smoke weed or play football with the lads, i mean fuck it i fucked my life over pretty bad i'm a real retard, i'm banned from most of the big shops in my town

there's a beach but other than that my town is dead and poor as shit, i was surprised she was rich desu

but still that's not the problem, the problem is i'll have nothing to talk to her about and i'm afraid i'll be actually scared of even breathing around her

help me flip my life around anons, starting with her

>>18438493
Hey fuck you, your the kind of person who is clogging higher education. Fuckin listless millenial. No one just gets a random "job" from some "employer", life's not a test. Theres no qaulification that allows you to recieve money. If you aren't interested in anything that might lead you to a high paying job, than settle for low wages. You might not understand this, but I come from the top, I was born into an well off family. Money is not something you want to aim for. Only the poor think a fifty dollar steak is better than a good burger. All you should desire is happiness. So if you want to go into banking, hate yourself for 20 years, retire with a wife who you never really loved, and move to the fucking Faroe Islands, go ahead, nobodies stopping you. Ask yourself what you really love, because marine biologists love fish, game devs love to play, and economists love numbers. But a faceless worker in the ever-shrinking generic whitecollar "business factory" of your imagined future loves nothing more than his fucking couch. Is that where your real passion lies?

>>18438583
Not OP, but I've "chased my dreams" and ended up dropping out of a humanities program at an elite university because it was so full of shit.

OP, from my own searching around, I've noticed that the only major that results in easy, high-paying employment these days is Computer Science. Type in "Software Engineer" on indeed.com and compare that with "High School Teacher." You'll notice a huge difference in salaries and job openings... anyway, if money and fast employment are all you care about, that's probably your best option.

>>18438723
Guy you responded to here. CS is good now but it has a bad longterm outlook. I'd say within five years you can't expect to get a decent job while competing with indians that can do the same thing cheaper (and yea I know outsourcing isn't great now but india is already setting up educational infrastructure on par w/ the us, won't take long until its fully operational).
Anyway I've said my piece. Most CS majors already love programming, so going in there just to get a job might be a huge mistake and a waste of time. Try to get a taste before you go in for a full course.

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>>18438486
>I studied Software Engineering, which by the way I don't really enjoy
I bet there isn't a job in the world you would wet yourself over every morning to do. In fact I think it's pretty usual to get little bored to something after you've done it for years. Don't worry about it.

>It feels like I just basically killed any chances at a good job I might have had.
Just get some job and enjoy life at your free time.

>Pairing with general anxiety at getting older and entering adulthood and still being basically a nobody, and not doing very well on the relationships
You've already entered adulthood. This is it. You aren't going to feel really much different from this.

And you don't have to be in a relationship or become somebody.
Stop trying to control everything.

>>18438486
I would suggest focusing on your priorities. Maybe make a list of the most important things you want for your future. If your main objective is to have a good resume and finishing your degree, then focus on that instead of trying to juggle school and relationships. Start on the most important things, and put less immediate concerns on hold for now.

Keep in mind that I am just a random person though. I don't know your problems and stuff, so...yeah.

>>18438618
I really related to OP's post. Your advice helped me feel a bit better inside, thank you, Anon

Girls: Does it ever work out for your fall back guy or is it always just for the extra attention?

Guys - My boyfriend is working out a lot and I like him less now that he's more muscular.
Should I bring it up?
He seems happier.

Where do I find a girl to let me practice oral sex on?

If you see her irl it'd probably be better to approach her there.
Are you on the same bus?
Where does she work?

>>18438448

I don't see her on the bus anymore, as I don't have any need to go into the city regularly for work these days.

She works at a local store, stocking shelves or cashing people out or whatever. I'm not a stalker, so I don't have her hours memorized or anything like that though. I've just seen her working there a few times. Is it cool to just strike up a random person for casual conversation when they're on the clock though? I'd get pretty annoyed by that personally.

>>18438456
If she's cashing people out she's paid to talk to you. So why not get your groceries in the store she works and just strike up a conversation. She won't mind, if she likes you.

Also, some smartass is going to say "it's because you hate yourself". Yeah, have I said I didn't? I hate all people.

You sound like a fucking nutcase and you need to see a therapist
>Being a 32 year old edge lord

>>18438376
You need to sort out your bitterness before you end up hurting someone.

r u a grill or a boy

>>18438371
im a boy

>>18438366

I was actually really similar. in highschool i kinda serial dated.

>meet girl
>think shes cute
>start dating
>3 months in something changes
>i start to feel weirdly uncomfortable
>im not sure why i cant understand it
>i just circle the drain not reall yknowing whats up and getting more depressed.
>about 4 to 5 months into the relationship i pull the plug
>afterwards im completely fine
>often times me and the girl still bang and hang but we just call our selves 'friends with benefits
>repeat cycle with new girl

if you're anything like me OP, you just don't like dating. its a myth that all humans want this modern social construct.