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My gf and I have been together for about a year. I understand that I'm not exactly the most mature person in the world. She gets mad at me for almost everything even of it's small, meanwhile I have never been mad at her. I am extremely patient and I hate to say this but the only time we ever argue is if she's upset with me for some miniscule reason. She once got mad at me because I got a time wrong.
>hey babe it looks like it's gonna be an hour an a half.
She says " oh so we'll get there around 5:00?"
>no 4, oh wait. You're right sorry babe.
>she's visibly mad
"You always do that to me anon! You're always telling me I'm wrong"
>what? I never do that. Why are you like this? I never once did that to you.
Another time during chemistry lab
>okay babe the test tube turned blue
"no babe it's not completely blue"
>babe, even if it's a little blue, it's still blue
"no! I'm gonna do it again!"
>same result
Whenever she's mad at me, she won't tell me the reason why. I have to pick at it every time. And she lies to me saying she's okay but she's obviously not. Eventually we talk it out but she won't be an adult about it.
Tl;dr gf is never straight forward when upset with me and always lashes out on me when I'm being myself.
I mean i am 21. Am I too young to understand women?
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She just sounds immature OP.
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OP here. It gets to the point where I get so much anxiety about what's wrong. It drives me crazy to the point where I wanna smoke a cigarette and I don't even smoke. It really just brings me down. During the times when we're not arguing, it's amazing. But when we argue I feel like it's the end of the world. And I always have the upmost respect for her. And she doesn't for me. I've never called her a bitch or anything and meanwhile she calls me mother fucker when she's mad. I always have to talk her down every time! She threatened to take me home from a trip one time because I was talking about her anger issues with her friends!
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>>18596323
That's what i was thinking as well. I'm immature I'm the sense that I have a childish personality but she seems to handle her anger in an immature manner!
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going to see Ex gf after breakup out of state 2017-08-06 08:53:19 Post No.18596276
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hello adv
recently my ex broke it off with me after coming back from the army (Basic) she didn't tell me why just she lost feelings for me. truth is I know why and it's bec she doesn't see me with a purpose or sense of direction in my life and the fact that im just stuck.
so she goes to the army comes back breaks up with me and we go back to just being friends. I write to her, she writes to me we both say we love each other. She wants me to go visit her (1 weekend) via plane at her army base where she is stationed at for the next 5months.
I'm not sure now that I want to go because I still have feelings for her and we never got to deal with the emotional fallout of the breakup we just kind of never talked about it or brought it up. I feel like if I go see her (out of state) it will bring up those feelings and I know I'm still not over her. I haven't for forgiven her just yet I know I'm still dealing with the breakup but I feel I have to learn to forgive her and forgiven myself as well
in order to see this through.
should i go ahead and visit anyways? how should I approach this? I love her and her daughter and her family, I've never felt so she about this, I wanted her to be my future wife, we used to talk and laugh together so much soso, now I hear her voice I feel an intense emotional pain and it saddens me. should I just leave her be and not visit? or suck it up and go with an open mind?
Any advice helps
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what a fucking faggot
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Do you listen to music while reading? 2017-08-06 08:51:12 Post No.18596272
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Do you listen to music while reading?
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If so, what kind of music? Does it help you concentrate? Asking because if it does help with reading, I plan on listening to music while reading in the future.
pic unrelated.
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I always listen to a minimalist piano playlist on spotify, or to acustic music depending on the mood.
I'm an ultra basic bitch, yes.
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Either no lyrics or just in another language. Also if you are a musician listen to something more complex like Jazz or something.
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Are any of you satisfied? 2017-08-06 08:40:57 Post No.18596246
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Are any of you satisfied?
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I'm 27 years of age. Everything I've wanted to succeed in I've half assed and I find myself in limbo where I'm working a job that at times goes in the face of everything I stand for and I'm shit at all of my hobbies (which are all media consumption related) because I can't fucking sit down and concentrate on one thing for more than an hour.
This isn't really a question, more of a rant, but I feel like I'll end up towards the end of my life not really accomplishing anything that matters to me personally because of how lazy/complacent I have become.
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A job for which I applied and did not get an interview has put their ad(s) for the position(s) back up. Do I change my resume or other stuff up a bit if I want to reapply? I do meet the minimum requirements.
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>didn't even get an interview last time
>should I change my application
What do you think?
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Eh, what do you have to lose other than a little bit of time and a bit of dignity if you get rejected again? It's possible someone different looks at your CV this time or there are a different set of applicants that make you stand out a bit more. There's no point feeling shame about that shit, I'd do and have done it before.
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Brush it up.
Perhaps rephrase your duties at other tasks
Update a fake job that is directly relevant, even if you play it off as volunteering or been there only a month.
Also don't take rejection personally. You literally could've been rejected for the dumbest reason. They called the guy who submitted an application a minute before yours. Your last name isn't Hernandez. You are currently a college student. Or you didn't list that you have a license. Lots of reasons to reject an applicant, especially those computer generated ones, those are brutal.
Good luck m8.
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Can't handle the 9-5 grind, retreat into grad school? 2017-08-06 08:39:03 Post No.18596242
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Can someone explain to me why I WOULDN'T want to go into academia?
I'm mid 20s, doing the 9-5 city grind, and it's so bleak and meaningless. I miss being in classes, writing papers, being in labs, on college campuses that filtered out the masses, and being surrounded by people with similar interests at similar stages in their lives as me (yeah i'm not ashamed to admit it), and being in that bubble.
Maybe it's just grass is greener, but life was more exciting when I struggled a bit financially. in undergrad you work a shit side job or two so you can afford to drop 30 dollars at the bar or pitch in for a shitty house party with your equally poor friends. now i can go to happy hours with coworkers or buy loads of groceries, pay rent and not give a fuck. there's no struggle and now it's boring.
the quaint college town with the one single quirky cafe is way more charming than the big city with a gajillion starbucks stores every other block.
should I just apply to grad school and never put on khakis and a tie for the rest of my life?
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I really can't understand why you'd WANT to go back to school.
When you're studying, there's always something hanging over you; even if you don't have any tests or assignments in the near future, there's always the feeling that you should be doing something. You also then have to go to your shitty part time job.
When you're working, you go to work, stay there for 8 hours, then come home and switch off. Any time you're not at work is time you have for yourself. Plus you're not poor.
And this is coming from someone who LOVES learning.
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Grad student here. Really, REALLY think hard before going in. It is leagues above the work load you had in undergrad. You had a side job and went to parties as an undergrad? That will NOT happen in grad school. I literally work on papers, readings, grading stuff all day every day. It's fucking summer and I'm still doing it. It does not end, your mind is not turned off.
But if you truly enjoy the field/subject then this is not a bad thing. I love the atmosphere and the work.
>no khakis and a tie
Not planning on presenting papers at a conference?
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>Not planning on presenting papers at a conference?
Not OP, but my friend didn't do stuff like attending conferences until she started her PhD. She might not have made the most of her Masters though, idk.
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I don't know how to be alone, physically or emotionally. I can't seem to function without a roommate or at least "someone" there.
With companion
>Eat healthy, normally timed meals
>Work out regularly
>Do productive stuff or have fun
>Proper hygiene
Without companion
>Shit meals, lots of skipping
>12+ hours in bed (only leaving for work, computer)
>Shit hygiene
>bored
It's not even a case of gf or friend; put me in a building with someone else and I'm super well-adjusted and happy, but as soon as I'm "on my own," as soon as half a day goes by alone, I end up in bed most of the day or disregarding everything else in my life.
I try to set routines and stuff, but I just feel like ass most of the time (stomachaches/headaches when I try to, you know, live). I dunno if it's placebo, but it just discourages me from being anything other than lazy.
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Sounds like codependent behavior
Since you're not attached to anyone in specific chances are you'll set out to find a spouse to groom into becoming codependent on your presence
That would solve your problem of ever worrying of being alone. And since you're human, this leverage over a person might increase the risk of you becoming abusive.
But what do I know?
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>>18596286
I dunno about codependency. Looking it up, I don't have many of the signs (no one's making sacrifices to make me better, and it's not necessarily a specific person.) It's just that I don't tend to function "normally" in life when no one is around. Like no one's watching.
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I'm the other way
I thrive on being alone. I can learn new things, improve skills, workout etc.
When I'm with someone I become obsessive about them and can't function as I would if. I had been alone.
In your early to mid twenties, people say you have to get a girl or this and that
But damn, the relationship mind games is fun and all but it really slows down my plans. Not to mention the time and money spent/wasted on a potential who can ghost you at anytime. Its very hard to be invested .
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I think I am in limerence with this qt at work.
I find myself constantly looking up her public social media accounts throughout the day.
I don't even use social media or have my own accounts.
how do I stop being a creep?
whenever I see her I talk to her,joke around and stuff but when I go home or I'm on my break at work I go into stalker limerence mode
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Simple and plain stop wasting your time doing that and find other habits.
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Pretty much
Do you have a realistic shot at this girl? Are you flirting with her so that it could lead somewhere? The higher you build her up the worse the fall is going to be if it comes.
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How do you get better at cheering people up?
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If it's a girl, don't bother using logic.
Dance with her, play pattycake, distract her from her sadness with anything interesting like puppy pics. Start adding positive things to say once she's ready to listen.
If it's a guy, then add positive statements and positive facts to the situation. Tell him he's being strong by going through this. Get him involved in some physical activity.
It's what I do, and it typically works. If the person isn't happier after that, it's probably out of your hands and you should just stop bugging them.
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Being a natural optimist helps.
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Friend is giving me the cold shoulder, ignoring me and the few texts I send out, not entirely sure why or wtf is going on. What do.
For context, we had a great friendship, I caught feelings, never told him but was basically informed through a 3rd party that he didn't return the feelings, gave up, reconnected with an ex and worked shit out and got back with them. Why the fuck would this person care?
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your friend is jealous maybe?
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Yeah, just flat out tell him the truth but as if its not a big deal and then say you are sorry but meh. Someone probably lied to you and he is either jelly or doesn't like your ex
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Guys i need some advice 2017-08-06 06:50:47 Post No.18595962
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So i have been dating my girlfriend for 3 months now and things have been going smoothly until her ex started calling her at random nights trying to rekindle their relationship. One night i woke up and went on her phone to see if there was anything going on between them and i saw that they texting each other recently. They made plans to go bowling and get some food while i was at work. I felt uneasy about this and confronted her about it. She told me that she was going to hang out with her friends and that she didnt want to tell me that he was going to be there because they were in the same friend group. She said she didnt want to tell me because she thought that i would get angry. So she decided not to go instead. Another time, she tild me that she needed to get something that she left from her ex's house so she went and they got some food and tea then he helped her carry her stuff to her room. I went by her room and saw that her lights were off and she texted me that she was at some open classroom and told me to meet her there instead of going in her room.
Honestly i feel uneasy about this and idk what to do. What should i do? Do you think they did something?
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dont want to make you sad OP, but I think the either did or will do something in very near future..
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I agree, if she's being secretive about it, she's probably up to no good.
Don't get paranoid about it though because then you seem like an insecure bitch.
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>>18595962
(((Being friends with your ex))) is literally the biggest trap in dating. Fuck that noise. Real mutual breakups are very rare.
Women on this board will constantly make up excuses why it's okay for her to continue seeing her ex but it always ends up poorly. If she doesn't stop, get out while you're ahead.
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Cruising on craigslist 2017-08-06 06:48:53 Post No.18595955
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Does anyone here have experience with m4m personals on Craigslist? Are they generally safe? I'm sick of jumping through all these hoops for basic bitches and bros on tinder and other dating sites, there's no-one there that really shares my interests and wants what I want. My main concern is how shady people that try to hook up on Craigslist are - I'm std free and need to stay that way [spoiler]condoms only go so far, they don't protect against everything, and I'm worried about getting stealthed or pozzed up by some maniac[/spoiler]
Any experiences would be greatly appreciated.
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it's hit or miss , the easiest and safest route is for the person you want to hook up with to get tested with you ,
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Would anyone actually submit to that for a stranger on the internet?
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fedex tracking says my item is delivered but i cant find it!
I bought a laptop off ebay and tracking said its delivered yesterday and its signed for by somebody.
I live in an apartment so my packages are usually delievered to the management office. I went there yesterday and today to retrieve my package but they're saying that they can't find it and that they dont recognize the person who signed for it.
im really confused. shipping address was correct and tracking says its delievered but i can't find the stuff. what should i do? Im gonna contact the seller and call the local fedex but what else?
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Dispute the charges with your bank. If the value of the laptop is over $250 it is very likely the seller won't take responsibility. Fedex will tell you to file a claim but you'll need to file a report with the police.
Good luck OP.
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(1/2) I'm currently struggling with my emotions and relationship and don't know what to do.
I've been in a relationship for several years now. He's not my first bf and I'm not his first gf. We went through a lot of shit together and usually are a great team.
Recently my bf got a lot of personal problems. Problems with his work, his manager and the old problems with his family as usually. He started to show symptoms of depressionen, and they are getting bigger with each day. This has been going on for a few months now. I tried to reach out to him, offered him to go and get therapy (he doesn't want to) and are trying to be nice and understanding around him. It gets harder each day, because he's really cold and distant (which is normal with depression, I understand that). He even pushed me away if I'm trying to comfort him, doesn't want to hug and kiss me sometimes.
At this point I have to admit: our sex life is bad. It's because of me, I have kind of a low sex drive, but I'm always happy to give him a hand- or blowjob. I'm just not interested having sex more often than once a month.
Okay, so to help his mood we talked about it and he wished to have an open relationship. He would be able to have sex with other girls and we would still stay together. I said okay, let's try that. (But so far nothing happened. And yes I asked him to tell me when he would actually have sex with another girl).
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(2/2) my problem is that he started being so cold around me. He doenst even want to cuddle or kiss me sometimes.
I want to save this relationship, but it gets harder each day. I'm starting to feel really sad and lonely in this situation. But I know his situation will be even worse if we break up because he would have to move back with his parents. And I won't be able to help him anymore then. I really don't know what to do at this point and if I should seek help myself.
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Agreeing to an open relationship massively worsened things. Rescind that. It cultures you breaking apart. If you dont have a sex drive, he wont be so sex starved that he cant survive. If he is, its not worth dating him.
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How do I convince my boyfriend to eat healthy and lose weight? He's 265 pounds :/
I've been losing weight myself and have been successful so far and he's okay with being fat even though he doesn't like his belly.
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You don't.
He won't make any significant gains (at least ones that will last) unless he wants to. Try and find out why he isn't concerned with losing weight.
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>>18595869
He just doesn't feel like it.
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More importantly, do you think that plate is healthy? It isn't....go to /fit/ we will show you how to make him healthy, or make you sexy enough to move on.