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>>18730459
Do you act "friendly" with other guys. I know personally the only time I start acting distant is when I think my girl is cheating and I want to lessen the hurt in case I find it to be so.

I'm guessing obviously since you care enough to write this your not cheating, but if your being distant or acting shady (without meaning to) with another guy, he might be getting nervous.

Anyway just my 2 cents, hope things work out OP.

>>18730459
He just wasn't right for your soul. I'm on LSD but I can tell you that the winds of love aren't breezing on your heart like a lovely gaze from the goddess titties of euphoric bliss and the blessing of GOD...just didn't Come today. You must belieive the men of Europe..shit wut..I mean you must be better to yourself and don't date jerks!311. I'm SUCH a white gurrrurlrl.

>>18730485

No, you're fucking retarded.

bump pls?

>>18730458
This is the kind of problem I want to have.

>>18730458

Copypasta bait.

>is it rude that I can't have sex without acting like/being/feeling like a slut?

Kind of.

Did she know you were going to be there? If so, it's not really something to be weirded out by. Even if she didn't know, just shoot her the ol' "it was good seeing you at the concert blah blah blah"

Where you fucked up is, when she said she was going, you should have said "me too, let's go together/meet up".
It sounds like you're misreading her reaction, because this doesn't seem very odd. I bump into people at events all the time and it isn't weird, it's pure coincidence.

>>18730452
Yeah, so that's why I am so confused. I told her I was going and she said "oh I might see you there". The only reason I can think of why she was upset was because I took like half and hour to go talk to her and she saw me (there was this huge crowd between us at the stadium thing and I thought she couldn't see me so I didn't wave or anything), but people were in the way and everything.

half an hour I mean.

>>18730400

Wtf was I supposed to do? I seriously felt like a retard I was just sitting there going "No.. no youre fine... no... dont say that... no... i care about you... no really I care about you..." like I didn't know how else to do it. And OH MY FUCKING GOD I can't be sincere EVER. Im like so afraid to just tell her that I love her so much on the phone, I just said that I cared about her. I feel like I couldve been more SINCERE. its something ive always struggled with. Like I used to even be afraid to tell the cashiers to have a good day back, when they would say "Have a good day!" Like REALLY, I was aftaid to just say 'Yeah, you too!" because I was afraid they would think im lying and I hate them. But now ive gotten over that but I still cant tell her 100% with words how much she means to me. I did end up saying it, but over snapchat text not on the phone before it cut off.

>>18730400
>high
>drunk
>out, presumably partying
You should have let her go through with it, what a waste of space.

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>>18730415

kys you nerd not everyone who goes out is a bad person she was just trying to have fun like every college age person

>>18730399
> known a disabled kid from doing support work
> he strives to be independent but can't do anything for himself
> kills himself for feeling like a burden to his family

He was a burden on his family. Their life was completely skewed to his needs. No ability to get ahead financially, no holidays, no future for parents to retire and enjoy their own life. His existence totally and utterly dictated their lifestyle and it was physically and emotionally draining.

After his death they got to travel and relax. Although they miss him terribly it is obvious his death brought them a better quality of life.

To counterpoint this, I know others whose disabled kid dying was devatating because they lived and identified as martyrs to a cause. Once their kid was gone they were lost and unable to cope with finding a new identity.

>>18730399

My sister killed herself when she was 20. She had depression, anxiety, insomnia and health issues from her past eating disorders. So, even though I don't exactly approve, I understand why she decided to die in the end. She was silly and happy person by default, but her mental and physical illnesses tainted everything she had. Towards the end it was difficult to watch her just fade away, so when she died there was some relief mixed with grief. I miss her like crazy, but at least she's finally ok. She wasn't that for a very long time.

It felt really good to get that out, actually.

>>18730399
>Tell me about a person that you know that commited suicide.
>What were the like?
Physically aggressive, as in a bit of a bully. Smart, but I didn't witness much of that firsthand.
>What was your relationship with them?
He was probably one of the only other profoundly gifted kids my age in a 100 mile radius. My parents met his parents through a homeschooling group iirc, and had playdates (for lack of a better word) for us.
>Do you know why they choose to commit suicide?
No clue. He sort of dropped off the map for me when I started high school. Thought he was doing well with a gf and the usual advanced academic stuff, but then he went and shot himself in the head.
>How do you feel?
I didn't get particularly emotional about it. It's tough being different in a rural area. If you fit in, that feeling of belonging will stick with you, but it was stressful for me for a long time, and I was much more integrated into the community than he was. I don't think his parents helped him very much in that regard. I will say one reason I haven't yet gone full /k/ is that I worry I'll just decide to end it on one of my worse days. All it takes is one shot.

>>18730342

recreate yourself into someone that inspires you

>>18730342
On the fifth night you will dream of throwing up black vomit, and the cycle will be complete.

>>18730342
You type in your pseudonyms/full name on google and see what pops out. If there's stuff you want to delete, see if you're able to. After that you're pretty much done, unless there's a specific reason why someone would put some effort into tracking down your past activity on the internet.

are you a pedo? nah
are you a creep? probably

If it's legal what's stopping you? If it's just a hook up it's not like anyone has to know

If you actually manage to fuck a teenage girl, you'll only be disappointed.

Why does it matter?

>>18730241
That's what I'm wondering too, but for some reason I can't convince myself to think that way.

Life is a joke, either you are laughing with it, or the butt of it.

>>18730232
No one "gets to be happy". Happy people worked to get where they are in life to get happy. Sure, some people are not a naturally inclined to optimism and happiness, but happiness is mostly a result of surrounding situation and happy people arranged theirs in such a manner that brings them happiness. Miserable people gave up at some point and brought into the idea that they can no longer change their situation they're stuck in their misery. I know because I got from absolute fucking misery to happiness with effort and hard work.

>>18730231
Start by making sure your environment is something you can trust in. If you leave an item in a certain place and leave, when you come back it will still be there. Trust in yourself, keep your resolutions and allow yourself to relax in the environment you have made for yourself.

When it comes to others, try to maintain a great sense of empathy. If you can put yourself in the shoes of others, you can then trust in them as you trust in yourself. Paranoia is from not knowing, so if you can think as others do, you will be much less paranoid because there is less stuff in the dark to worry about.

Have you ever seen a mental healthcare professional for this issue specifically?

I had a dream I was fucking my dad once.
It was the most disturbing dream I've ever had 2bh. I have no daddy issues or anything, I have a normal relationship with my father, dreams are just weird things and go haywire sometimes.

>>18730182
Not.

Dreams are a random mish mash of thoughts and information. Your brain is reorganizing and consolidating memory and connecting dots and new info.

Any fuckin thing at all thats flying through there will combine. You saw your wife yesterday, youve thought about and even had sex at some point in your life, and you met her brother.

They combined and your brain threw em all together in a dream while doing some kind of mental housekeeping bullshit.

End of story.

>>18730182
I don't think you browse the internet much if you think thats fucked up. Much much more fucked up stuff other there which I won't mention. Whatever you imagine, it basically exists on the internet, somewhere. Rule 34 is a tame example of this.

>>18730172
We both seem to be very motivated on keeping our relationship even with the distance between us, but I just have this feeling, this "tick" inside that keeps me alert - our age gap.

She will not look young forever and she is already taking her chances at 35. What will happen after 10 years? It will be so easy to notice!

What about kids? I don't want kids atleast until I am 30 yo, but by then she will be after the menopause and can't have children anymore and even if she can, the chances of the child coming with some sort of disease is high!

What breaks my heart the most is maybe she is putting all this effort to make sure we marry and have kids but I don't want that yet and when I will it will be too late!

I just don't know what to ask or what to do, I don't know what to make of this?

Maybe someone can give me some advice or ask me some questions to clarify things?

I am confused...

>>18730189
Not a good idea. Find a younger woman and have children with her.

When you're 30 she will be 44 and the older she gets the more complications may be involved with having children and how they turn out if you do have them

>>18730149
going from a LDR to moving in together? Get fukd?

>>18730149
This is how you find out if this other person is someone you want to marry. Make relationship mistakes before you settle down for the long term.

This will help you build maturity, gain experience and ultimately become a better partner once you do settle down.

Beware LDR conducted online is very hard to turn into a regular relationship under the same roof. No more spending hours sending messages and cruising websites or posting on reddit, Insta, 4chan, farcebook. Real people require real interaction. You can't just eat, fuck and retreat to you own space every day.

>>18730327
Well we we're with each other 4 months before it turn long distance. I ended up moving to another state and we still ended up keeping in touch.she came down two times and I went down to her place two times since being long distance. We've known each other a total of 8 me months now. I would probably have to pay decent portion of rent before she got a job and up and rolling.

>>18730145
Yes you certainly can. GoDaddy will do some gay "package" deal shit. But if you ask me, get a VPS from ramnode, a domain from namecheap, and point it to your VPS. Congrats you got a website for $5/mo.

>>>/g/

I heard somewhere if you travel less than 5k miles a year then uber is cheaper than owning a car.

Sounds like you just need a decent car that doesn't suck up all your money.

>>18730128
I live in Michigan, the insurance is expensive. But overall I just want to cut out any payments in my life I really don't need. No more car repairs, gas, insurance. I drive about 20 miles round trip to work which is my farthest drive really.