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I became close friends with a girl on the other side of the country a few years ago. I'm attracted to her, but never really went for her because of the distance and I was involved with other girls for most of the time, or she was dating someone. We're both single now and have been for at least a year. We're both in our early 30s.
Recently she's been getting flirty. Not blatantly so, but pushing boundaries. For example, we do talk a lot of shit, and the other day we got into an argument about movie genres. She suddenly said that we'd never be able to get married (!!) because we'd never be able to share the TV. This has only increased in frequency.
Earlier this week, we got to talking about this ex of mine that was trying to string me along again, which led to some grumbling about finding women generally on my part. In response she said something like, "I'd think I'd date you, but your indecisiveness would probably piss me off too much. You need to work on that." That was unexpected, and I didn't really know what to say. She changed the subject before I could ask if she was serious about the first part.
The other day I was talking about cooking meat, and threw out a dick joke; asked if she liked meat, she asked if I was going to cook some for her, I respond "I could. I've got a big piece over here for you." Lame right? Well this sparked off something like two hours of her stuck on the same topic: Who would move in with whom if we got married, as well as me finding work in a firm in her state.
So here's the request for advice: I want to say she's into me, but I can't tell if it's just harmless infatuation or if it's something more, and my past experiences have me skeptical of my own impressions.
>ib4 LDR doesn't work
>ib4 run away she wants a husband
>ib4 OP is friendzoned
>ib4 OP can't ib4
Not asking about these. I know that LDRs don't work, that if we got into something she'd be marriage track, and that if I'm wrong it means I'm friendzoned.
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She wants the d. Plan a trip. See what happens.
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>>18382171
Could work. I've got some time off coming.
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Any other viewpoints?
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my 2017 resolution was to quit smoking altogether, both weed and tobacco and shisha and whatnot..
so far, i am doing very good.. Except for the fact that my appetite has increased largely, and whenever i start eating I can't seem to stop eating at all until i'm very full.. Then i feel like i really need to eat something sweet and i eventually do so..
After all this, i feel like i hate myself and i start to say that i'll never eat again until i'm very very hungry but once that happens i go on a binge journey to the mountain tops of overeating..
How do i curb this monstrous appetite? I have always been a binge eater but not to this extent, especially since now i feel like i'm overwhelming my digestive system, more constipation and upset bowels are taking place much more often than before now..
Any insight on my issue would be very helpful, Thank you.
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>>18382126
A couple things going on here: first, tobacco is an appetite suppressant. It's entirely normal for people to eat more and gain weight after they quit smoking. You definitely have to get that under control, but at least you can understand why it's happening
Second, everybody needs a "vice," some kind of reward or treat you can give yourself. You've given up one, and replaced it with another. You can't destroy this part of your personality, but you can try to find a "reward" that won't destroy your health
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>>18382126
do the ketogenic diet, it suppresses the appetite.
do it for a few months, it will also stop your addiction to sugar as well. Meaning the cravings for it go away.
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>>18382126
Try eating foods that have more fiber in them, you'll feel more full. I'd also eat less carbs and more fat & protein. Myfitnesspal is a great app for this, log your food intake and you'll receive a chart detailing your nutrition.
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I am asking from various sources, from poeple I know mainly, but I'd appreciate /adv/'s feedback on my situation.
I have known this friend for a little more than 3 and a half year. The thing is, we never became more than two poeple just hanging around, I don't even feel real friendship here. We used to hang around 2/3 days/week, and nowaday we hang out once a day for 12 hours straight, which is cool obviously. But she has always seemed so cold and emotionless with me. Plus the fact that she admitted that practically none of the touching moments we lived together were brought honestly by her. Even more, and that's just one exemple, during my moving out, she was thinking of ways to keep her distance from me, as she told me. But then here we still are, hanging for 12 hours straight, with her coming in willingly. I just don't get it. She also has these new friends she made over the last 2 semesters and she's treating them like kings and queens, sharing deep sincere moments with them and never none with me, not even before her meeting new poeple. I don't understand how we kept at it and I gave myself until monday morning to make a decision. She will probably read this too, but that's okay, she know everything about this situation too, and tells me I have to think about what's good for me, which is fair.
So, what do now?
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Christ just fuck already
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>>18382145
She's not all that pretty though.
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>>18382161
Christ just fuck already.
Literally nothing changed with your input.
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I'm trying to become more self-aware so I could navigate life fulfilling my own interests without being pretentious, or insufferable.
But, how do you know if you're being an insufferable cunt or a pretentious twat?
I'm oblivious to both
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if this is a problem you're having you should probably shut the fuck up and stop bothering people with your shit
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note taken
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>>18382062
Do whatever you want with your life. It's "pretentious" if you praise yourself a lot in conversation. But some people will call you pretentious if they're jealous of you, even if your behavior is fine. You're never going to make everybody like you, so don't worry about it too much. Just do what comes naturally to you, be yourself, and make friends out of the people who like you the way you are
How to tell if a girl is shy or just thinks I'm annoying/creepy? Help me /adv/.
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>>18382049
Does she make any attempt to talk to you at all or be around you? Does she come to events she knows youre at? Are you attractive?
Or does she avoid you like the plague.
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>>18382049
Asking generic bullshit question will only generate the same level answers.
>ask her
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>>18382049
Getting obsessed with thinking how people think of you is never a good thing man. Be yourself within reason, but never worry what someone else thinks of you. Girls will find you repulsive, attractive, a "friend", sexy, whatever. You can't control that but you can control how you react. So don't worry about that stuff. Instead, focus on having fun. Think about how sexy she is or how cool she is.
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>lost a decent amount of weight
>Very few of my clothes fit me
>No money for new clothes (NO money)
>Ironically about a year ago I carted off a bag of clothes to goodwill because i'd grown too fat for them
How do I into shoplifting
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>>18382038
>How do I into shoplifting
You'll get busted quite quickly. Walk in , create a slight distraction to put people's minds off, pick up item strip off security tags make for till keep walking, if you get out of door keep going , not stopped you got it. Also can you change into it and keep it underneath your clothes and walk out. also, more than one of you to pass items out. also find fire exits and unlocked staff quarters. also find stash spots.
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Yeah, shoplifting clothes doesn't really work. I did the same shit with my clothes awhile back, and then cycled right back again.
Just be happy you lost weight and figure out a way to scrape together money to buy shit at Goodwill or a thrift store for now. Then start putting away money to buy a new wardrobe.
Again, you're not going to shoplift clothes. Even women have trouble pulling it off, and their shit often folds up like a napkin.
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>>18382038
Isnt it easier to get a job? Ask parents for help?
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My friend and I got kicked out of the place where we usually sit and talk ,by our other friends after he made a joke they didn't like and I defended him when they tried to censor him. Now they don't let either of us go near that area. My friend and I also have other friends there who we kinda would like to talk to but every time we get close to the place we have random buzzwords shouted at us which I don't really care about and every time we try to speak we are shouted over.
What should I tell them so that my friend and I can at least talk there?
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>>18381842
You give them lemonade with antifreeze in it or just a cake with exlax
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At least that will get them away from the benches so we can at least sit down. ( ﾟ,_ゝﾟ)
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People don't do that to friends. Especially not over a joke. Guess it's time to find other groups to hang out with.
What was the joke?
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I was at a party with my gf and someone jokingly called her "easy". I hit him and told him to fuck off. My gf heard and is sensitive about having a reputation as a hoe and won't have sex with me anymore. How do I approach this situation
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>guy calls gf easy
>op punches guy
>gf doesn't like people thinking she is a hoe
>gf doesn't sleep with op
Maybe she is a slut, op
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>>18381811
Depending how old your girlfriend is, its understandable
But im assuming you guys had sex before , as you stated 'anymore'. In that case, talk some sense into her. Ask her what has changed. If there is anything you can do to make her feel safe again. Be gentle and understanding with her. It might take time.
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>>18381811
She's ashamed of her secret and is scared to see you
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>Go outside
>See a bleak and horrible existence
>Stay inside
>Enjoy my life, and mentally build reality into something it really isn't
Why do people say NEETs are losers?
They're actually in the highest plane of heaven available to anyone in this world.
Why go into the outside world at all?
Most people only look forward to getting home.
I was a NEET for 2 years, and it was the greatest time in my life.
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>>18381725
NEETs are usually a drain, either on their parents or the state. If you can work infrequently and live without a great deal of income you can basically emulate a NEET life without anyone bothering you over it.
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>>18381735
>Work infrequently
>Become dirt poor, and can only afford to browse 4chan on a shitty mobile hotspot
>No time for online video games
Fuck that.
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>>18381725
You only see a bleak and horrible existance because there is no spot for you in the actual fullfillment that life can actually be. It's only bleak and horrible because that's only what you get to see. But i like the way you think. Dulling your perception of reality for an excuse why you are afraid of the outside world. As longs as it works for you.
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Let a girl go, don't feel so great 2017-06-03 08:44:41 Post No.18381706
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Let a girl go, don't feel so great
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Hey guys. I liked this girl and she liked me as well, but I found out that she was seeing other guys on the side(we weren't dating yet, but spent a lot of time together) and it hurt me I guess. Anyway I put my ego aside, but found it hard to trust her since she'd said she loved me and was doing this kind of stuff. She had some other problems as well, alcohol and smoking being the bigger ones, but her lying was what kept me from fully committing. I just felt that I could never trust her. Eventually she lied about our status when we'd just talked about being together, and slept with some guy from the bar and now they're dating. I was incredibly hurt of course and she dumped it all on me and went from being nice to being mean as hell. I wished her well and walked away instead of fighting with her. In spite of feeling that we'd never work out long term, I liked her and we were friends first. Everyone tells me I dodged a bullet with her, but I feel like I lost. Where do I go from here? I tried so many times to talk to her about her drinking and she never cared how I felt. But now one of our mutual friends is saying that she stopped smoking for that new guy, but since I pass through her place of work(same building), I always see her smoking. I don't get it, this situation makes me feel part jealous but past relieved, like with the smoking thing; how can she day she'll stop for him...But then smoke when nobody can see her?
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>>18381706
She's obviously just trash quit being emotional.
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>>18381712
How? I can't help but feel like the loser in this situation. When I talked to her friend about this when it happened, I asked her why she did that and she told me that the new guy was "cute, funny and nice. Plus he works out!" And I'm sitting here feeling like garbage now. After all the things I was there for her through, she just as this guy, fucked him the same night and told me to get lost. And what hurts is that this guy could actually be great! I don't think I'm a terrible person. But she gets a potentially great guy by lying and being dismissive to so many people/things, and I get what? What was all my work for?
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>>18381706
Get life insurance policy now for her and send bottles of liquor to her house
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Is this negative?
Ever since I started working a real job, got my own place, and started actually doing life somewhat right, I've been in a MUCH better mood. I'm more outgoing, friendlier to people, willing to take more risks, etc.
But it only stems from the "personal power" i have. I'm not at the mercy of sleeping at anyone's couch, having them buy me shit, or whatever. If shit gets bad I can "pull out", retreat to my little hole and live my life.
I feel like I'm acting as a normal person only because I have something to stand on. What if I lost my job, couldn't afford my lifestyle? I'd sink right back to being a depressed bitter NEET.
Which leads me to believe that the only real thing that drives my emotional state is having control and 'power' for lack of a better term.
is this normal or am I just a shallow person?
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You're just self-aware of how modern society works.
Over 80% of the homeless are male.
You're correct that if you weren't making money, as a man, you would either be dependent on relatives or very close male friends, or be homeless.
You would have no gf/wife either, because ALL WOMEN ARE LITERALLY PROSTITUTES. They won't date a guy unless he's making money, or he's going to in the future. Get yourself a girlfriend, then quit your job and become a NEET, she won't be hanging around for long.
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>>18381598
Look it feels good to pay your own shit not owing people shit . I just gave this young bitch 70$ earlier to help her out for gas thru the week. Her boyfriend is in jail and she's gonna give up that pussy ....it feels good that I can give her some money and not be a psycho pervert about the pussy and wait for her to come back to Give me that pussy
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>>18381598
Yes that's normal. Having control over your own life and agency to do whatever you want is very empowering. That's the exact reason the majority of people who can do it do it. I don't see why you might think that enjoying having more control over your own destiny is shallow.
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Why is it that i can rarely find excitement in my life without getting high. Everything seems so mundane and boring to me that it doesnt seem interesting at all ive been clean for weeks now and i just wish i had something that gave me that euphoric feelong drugs did. Ive tried many things but theyre more fun to do high. How do i become happier without drugs rather than just pretending that im happier. The only thing ive found close is buying things but its very temporary.
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Depression
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You should read A Million Little Pieces
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>>18381593
How do i deal with it i try to be optimistic and do cool things but they just dont intersest me most of my time is spent working or going NA
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hi anons, everyone around me has a partner and im still a single piece of shit. how do i get a nice and caring bf?
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Well first, stop basing your romantic needs on what your peers have or don't have. You will never be happy that way.
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>>18381569
You gotta dress like a little hoe so you can catch a guys eye. Then you fuck around and get the feel for things. Please swallow guys love that
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do nice and caring guys love little hoes who swallow?
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>be me, 20 year old virgin
>go to biological father's house, which happens to be next to my aunt's house
>haven't seen either in 12 years, more or less
>girl emerges from aunties house
>it's muh 17 year old cousin
>as soon as she sees me, she comes running and tackle hugs me, saying how happy she is to see me again
>she invites me to her room
>we talk about basic shit like anime and our childhood
>she brings up the kiss I gave her when we were little
>suddenly leans into my ear and starts whispering some really naughty shit
>for some reason, my heart decided to grow a boner for this skank
>I ignore this and we talk for about 3 more hours before she talks about lewd stuff again
>telling me that I like lolis and that she looks like one
>she then exposes lifts her shirt to expose her E-Cups
>holyshit.jpg
>fast forward to now, my aunt called us down and we're now sitting in the living room
>whatthefuckdoido.wav
>my heart boner won't go away
>I'm typing this right now as we're cleaning up the house
>she kept saying that we're family but she keeps calling me "Onii-chan" with the cute voice and everything
>this bitch knew it was turning me on
Imagine your nephew coming back after 12 years to smash your daughter
What do.
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Terrible bait. Try >>>/r9k/
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>>18381434
Unfortunately, it isn't dear Anon
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There she goes.
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Hello /adv/, I'm just looking for some opinions on a girl I'm messing around with lately.
She is 23 I am 25, we met each other 2 months ago, at that point she was seeing a guy, but it wasn't very serious.
This escalated to the point where we cuddled together for 1 night without anything sexual while she was still seeing the guy.
2 days ago we went out with our group of friends, and she told me she was now single.
We went clubbing that night, both drunk, after the night we ended up sleeping at a friend's house.
She asked me if we could sleep in the same bed, which is what we ended up doing.
We spent the whole night hugging, and in the morning we started reciprocating neck kisses, she also bit my ears a few times.
She ended up on top of me with her pussy on my boner, and she let me feel her breasts as well as continuing to kiss me on my neck.
What bothers me with all this is that she didn't seem to be willing to French kiss me, even if I tried to do that a couple of times, she kept saying I was very sweet during the whole thing. Why do u think she kept that wall between our lips even after all this?
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>>18381402
You're the rebound, op
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>>18381409
She wasnt with him officially, they just spent a few months seeing each other, honestly I've never seen her with him once In 2 months of weekends we spent together.
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>>18381446
What makes you think it will be any different for you? I agree with the other guy that you're the rebound. I also don't know how you managed to do all of that and it didn't escalate to sex at any point.