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Sup. I just graduated highschool on Friday and I have to say alright for the most part. I tried at least having a heartfelt goodbye with my highschool crush, when I found her I was with a friend and I didn't want to make it look like I was going out of my way to talk to her, so I didn't see her that night, and I don't know her well enough to kik her to just tell her. I feel like shit so I thought I could just put my feelings out somewhere, and maybe be given some tips on what I did wrong or if there wasn't anything at all

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I have a bent down penis. is there anyway fir an 18 year old like me to bend it up safely?

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So I just started seeing this girl from work and we both like eachother a lot. Everything there is going great.

The problem is that she still lives with her family and her mom is completely psycho. I was told all kinds of stuff like her mom used to beat her, multiple times tried to leave the family, constantly accuses her of doing stuff she doesn't do, etc. She's told me she is actually scared of her mom. But my girl still wanted me to meet her parents so that they would know she was with someone that's okay, but this hasn't happened yet.

Well, last night I'm dropping her off right after work (we work a shitty retail job and weren't off until almost 1am, which is later than usual), and we stay in my car for a few minutes cuddling and kissing before she goes in. We kiss eachother goodnight and I drive off, then a few minutes later get a text from her saying that her mom saw us. So her mom is accusing her of all kinds of shit like she wasn't at work, she was out doing drugs and getting into trouble. My girl doesn't respond to any of my texts until the next morning when she tells me that her whole family was not talking to her.

When I saw her at work today she was acting more distant (she actually suffers from depression) and wanted space. I let her have her space for the most part, but still let her know I'm there for her. She also let me know that she might stay at her brother's place for a few days, but wasn't getting a response from him. When I last saw her today I told her to just keep me updated on what's happening and she said she'd text me later, but it's late now and I haven't heard anything.

We were so happy together before this shit happened and I know she still likes me, but now I feel like she's going to be too uncomfortable confronting her mom for us to move forward. Does anyone know how to deal with a situation like this?

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>be me
>24
>struggling to find ways to study effectively
>quiz tmr

I know that this may seem stupid or pointless but I am curious to see what you guys will have to say. Lately,
I feel very distracted and disoriented when it comes time to sit down and concentrate on my studies. I'll be always pushing off the time to do the work until last minute or even work on it somewhat but in a very hastily manner to where I didn't really grasp what I was doing. For instance, when I'm trying to read my books, I get lost and distracted in my mind almost within a few seconds of reading. I usually have to go back over reading things and sometimes making notes but this feels so fucking draining it sucks. I guess this is what it feels like to have average intelligence combined with ADD and LDs. Am I chasing the college dream, especially for someone like me?

What do /adv/

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Me and someone I like have been dating I guess since january, I totally have feelings for him and all that jazz, anyway we have been hooking up and hanging out and doing relationshipy things, I just don't know how he explicitly feels about me, I didn't even think we were dating bc im v inexperienced but he said he told someone we were, i've kinda half confessed to him a couple months ago but it sounded like he wasn't looking for a partner hes relatively closed off and antisocial like me so its hard to read, but anyway I don't know how to ask if we are exclusive or whatever or if i even should, I just want to be able to be close to him, bc I care about him alot and feel extremely comfortable around him and it's def way different than how I feel with anyone else and I dont want to lose it

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So i need to find an apartment ideally near my location. What is the best website to do so? I'm finding varying prices on the same places listen on multiple websites. Picture unrelated.

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Yo i need some suggestions.
I have a girlfriend whos severely emotionally attached to me. Im her first bf, first guy to see her naked, she talks to me everyday. I find her very bland now that i have got to know her over a year. I think i want to break up with her but im not sure i can do it without her literally having a mental crisis. She has depression and lots of other shit and i fear that if i do it she may kill herself. What do i do?

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Cute but also casual date ideas?? I'm really interested in a guy and I want to hang out with him in a chill setting where we can be silly and have opportunities for physical contact

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We started the relationship a month ago before she went home from college for the summer. I'm not in college, I have a full time job. She was 18 at the time, however she just turned 19 last week. I'm 21.

When she went home she told her parents that she had a boyfriend and her father won't let her see me. Her parents have threatened to kick her out of the house if she ever sees me without their permission. It turns out her parents have no hesitations in doing so since she is not their biological child. What I imagine they are trying to do is to keep giving her false hopes telling her "we'll see next week" until one of us just calls the relationship off.

She lives about a 2 hour journey from me, meaning we could easily meet up every weekend but we can't.

I have been getting really depressed and outright pissed off since I haven't seen her for 3 weeks. On the phone last night she told me that we mightn't see each other for an extremely long time (several months). Apparently her parents grounded her for a month because she forgot to feed the family dogs. I am finding it difficult to keep the relationship going and feel like giving up.

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Should I prolong graduation by a semester?

I failed a class last semester, and it kinda fucked my path forward to graduating. I was on track to graduate in three semesters (or this summer session, a full year, and another summer session) without too awful of a load. However, the course I failed was a bit of a major pre-req for the "senior design project." It basically mucks up my schedule and increases my workload over the next school-year.

Because I transferred to this uni AND they didn't let me transfer a lot of credit, I'm in a weird position where I have to take another complicated projects course on top of senior project course. I would then be taking 3 more engineering-heavy courses, followed by the senior design project + 4 engineering courses the following year. Then finishing up some tech electives over the summer (or next semester if they didn't offer them)

The thing is - I worked myself half to death this past semester, and it really is what affected my grades in the end. I also haven't made the best financial decisions and so I'm in a lot more debt since I didn't work the past two years when I moved here. Couple that with high rent, really fucked me. (I'm trying to change that.) So I was thinking I should just prolong my graduation by an extra semester, focus on my grades, and hold down a steady income rather than doing two more semesters of "trying to do everything at once and failing miserably." I don't know if I could hold down a steady job capable of paying my rent looking at my next semester course load. If I prolonged it, it would let me focus on things with a lot less urgency and I feel would be better for me long-term.

Has anybody ever been in a similar predicament? I know people always say "graduate as soon as possible," but is it really worth trying to graduate in December vs June to the point where my grades suffer?

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How the fuck do I get over this? Nobody has ever made me feel so fucking happy, so human before. No matter how bad things would get I knew that I at least had her by my side. But I wasn't there for her, she was going through some shit and I didn't support her. I tried, but I just didn't know how to. It was my third relationship and I was completely autistic. Not making excuses, I am full aware that I'm an asshole and I should've done more, and I don't deserve her. But how do I get over someone? I fell for the "le time will heal" meme and it hurts just as much as the day I got the text that it was over. Every day I keep thinking of what I should have done, and what life would be like if I were still with her. All of the adventures we could have gone on, all the memories that would've been made. And the most pathetic thing out of all of this is that we only dated for one month. I got this hooked up over someone after one fucking month. I mean sure I had a crush on her before but I just got so emotionally invested into her when we started dating. This honestly sounds more of a rant than an advice thread, but nothing is working to try to move on
>Tried not thinking about it
>Literally can't, haven't gone 1 hour when I'm awake not thinking about her for the entire 6 months
>Tried getting /fit/ which is coming along nicely but no matter how many times I autistically pick up and put down heavy things it doesn't fill that empty feeling I have inside at the end of the day
>Downloaded tinder to convince myself that there's OTHER FISH IN THE SEA, just to rather be disgusted in other womyn or be reminded of her

She told me three times that she "Hopes I'm doing well" and that we should "still be friends", which is cool and all but every time I see her it just murders my soul. I fucking hate it, but at the same time I've already lost a lot of friends already. She moved on with someone that makes her way happier than I ever did. How do you cure oneitis this bad?

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Hello.

I am a 24 year old textbook loser and I fail to see what could be a turning point in my life.


PART 1 (Wall ahead):

I DON'T feel depressed at all, I don't cry in the corners or anything, I'm just straight out angry, and thinking, maybe I'm missing something, I might be not be acting or doing stuff that are really obvious to most people aka Normies, but are not so obvious to me.

Actually, I might say I got some serious balls as many of you would, in my position, have already called a quit at a point sometime ago.

I have spent the last ten years with almost no real friends, no girlfriend, being a shit student academically, also I dropped-out-then-returned to Uni several times, I got fired from the only job I ever had, never had a talent for anything outside of computers (in fact, I'm a CS major), failed the fucking driver's license (although I'm not really -that- bad as a driver), and have very little discipline for some "basic" things like hitting the gym because there is always something in the way (conflicting schedules, oversleeping, or lack of motivation).

Aesthetically, I've been told to be a solid 6 or 5 out of 10, also I'm a 5.7 ft manlet with varied physique, sometimes fit, sometimes overweight depending on the periods I'm currently on.

I was a kissless virgin until about one year ago when I got fed up and finally gave in to hookers. I do not believe any girl have ever really flirted me or gave any kind of openness, even some ugly ones.

I did "date" a girl before some years ago, but none of us really displayed any kind of excitement to keep on.


I went for several years to doctors and therapists just to lose a massive amount of time and money, no drug can really solve my anxiety and oversleeping problems and no therapist could point out what the fuck is going on and what could I try to have the same chances in life most normies have.

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>tell /adv/ about girl i love i invited to a party
>they tell me she wont show up
>they were right

Im so sad. She said shes down to hangout, but I know for a fact she'll flake on me if I invite her out, im so scared ill be stoodup. They said she isnt interested in me, and i believe you guys because you were 150% right about the whole party thing. i cant stop thinking about her. I cant even eat. Is it even worth talking to her anymore? My heart is racing.

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I need some advice. I live with my mom, and a year and a half ago I had my friend move in as a roommate. I found out afterwards, he does hardcore drugs. Reality, Meth. But he seemed to have his head on straight and he was a hard worker, so I turned a blind eye as long as it wasn't in the house figuring he was slowing down and he would quit (plus I smoked pot and I didn't want to be a hypocrite). The use spiraled up again when my mom went to KY for a vacation to see her sister and it was just me and him. Whatever, I figured. It'll just whittle down again soon. Which it did, but then I found out my mom has cancer. I told my friend he'd have to move out in a few months because my mom wanted her house back and it was more than likely possible she might not survive. I also have been getting stressed out lately because of his usage and I'm wanting it around the house less and less as I see the type of atmosphere and demeanor it brings (He himself is not a bad guy, just I believe bad choices) .. So, a week ago, his GF who visits and practically lives in the back room with him (he paid $50 a week for both him AND her), in an effort to end her life, set the back-room (their bedroom) on fire. I've told him she's not welcome back, and I've told him since there's no back room now, he's gotta be out soon as him staying in the house would cause too much stress on my mom. He recently told me I'd have to evict him, which he knows I don't have the money to do. I don't want to get cops involved, but if they do; I know he would get hit hard, but would I, who has no control over his drug and just turned a blind eye, get hit just as hard or would they show a little leniency towards me as I'm basically my moms only caregiver. I allowed him to stay because he was a close friend, and we needed the money bad. But lately it's become more of the money we get just breaks even after bills and food. I just need some legal advice

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Hi friends, I'm a 21 M and I've been getting sick (with flu/cold or whatever) pretty much monthly since January.

I did not work out from January to April, and I've been attending uni under pretty stressful conditions (eat/sleep like shit, study my ass off + extracurricular activities). I began going to the gym in May (uni ended), I do a pretty standard split, but I deadlift almost my max twice a week which is quite strenuous. I'm also cutting hard (1500 Cal/day). Since January, I also began fucking a girl almost weekly, and being with her is like going through an emotional roller coaster because she's psycho, which contributes to my stress.

Which of these factors is weakening my immune system? Before these lifestyle changes I would get sick maybe once a year without the flu shot. Please help

Also I do not have HIV AIDS, I got tested