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Not surprised if there's no one to bite.

>>18570574
where ever you put your focus becomes your outcome, mental well being and emotions.

Learn to shift your focus.

A very easy exercise is every time you think about what you don't have immediately think of something you do have and are happy about it. do this every time you think this way.

>>18570574
you cant have depression and adhd at the same time, you probably have ocd for the repetitve movements. depression makes you sad and want to stay in bed all day etc...i think you are making excuses for your self, this is what my therapist said to me once, its rude but its true

unless you're really set on going to college and you know which degree you want and have researched it and know it makes sense for you, college is not worth going to. it's not worth the debt. it's not worth the time. it's not worth the indoctrination you'll have to buffer against. it's not worth the shit job prospects you'll be faced with at the end of it. it's not worth competing to work for free as an intern while "learning" about which jobs nobody in your chosen industry wants to do. the diploma's enough to get yourself into a trade. that's on the job training, work that's steadily in demand, and not having to dig yourself out of a huge debt hole for fuck knows how many years or decades.

>>18570643
This. University is a big scam. It's only required for a handful of jobs, so in most cases it's just not worth the amount of money and time you're going to spend in it. If you don't want to get into STEM or become a physician, a lawyer or a teacher, you should probably consider doing something else.

>>18570643
>>18570684
What are the other options? At least at my High School, College is pushed so hard that they barely even talk about what else you can do

>>18570564
I did the same thing but i've changed how i meditate. The goal is not to keep the mind silent the whole time. But to let my thoughts flow and practice quieting my mind for how ever long i can. Imagine it like doing reps and squeezing the muscle then relaxing. It takes the pressure off of focusing.

It actually is more encouraging to, because the longer you can keep it quiet its a sign you did better in return it makes you feel better.

Sports cars make me think you're immature and/or compensating for something.

depends on the girl, my guy
some girls love guys who know cars, love manuals and shit
others dont care at all about the car, they just wanna ride with you, maybe listen to music
some dont like certain cars, like this girl I know hates BMWs
find a girl who likes cars, my dude. get them interested - but keep in mind that the car isn't going to land you a date, or at least, it won't keep them. you have to be interesting too.

i'd judge you for calling it japanese when it's a subaru. i'd judge you if it were p much any nissan too but that's a whole separate thing. that's about it.

Nothing abnormal. I know chicks who LOVE to give a good succ so why can't you dream about eating a lot of puss?

Cultivate your useful fetishes, eating pussy is a good talent to have.

I'm curious, what angle do you love about it? I'd suggest being careful not to get too pompous about it. There are guys out there who act like they should get special praise for even being willing to reciprocate oral sex.

I can certainly relate from the other perspective. I certainly love blowjobs to an annoying degree. Whenever I'm on the bed and my boyfriend is standing, getting ready to leave or something, I love to grab him by the waistband and pull him close. It's led to where he's dancing around out of my reach and I'm making grabby hands at his dick ahaha

>>18570550
This is not fucking mixed signals. This is pure hoe life. Forget about her OR screw what she have said, fuck her good then leave. She won't love you nor stay with you. Why don't you fuck her good and leave?

>>18570550
>What does she want.
To fuck with your head.

YOU
NEED
TO
MOVE
ON

>>18570550
>she keeps changing the story every few months.
You're a faggot. You shouldn't give her the opportunity to change the story. If a girl isn't interested in you the first time, you don't pursue further. You're allowing her to waste a lot of your time.

kys

>>18570545
Love yourself!

>>18570545
carpe noctem

>>18570486
find a hobby so you dont find your self wacking off. how old are you? when i was in my teens i too enjoyed wacking off. but now in my mid 20's i just dont have that drive anymore. i need the real thing.

>>18570481
Or maybe the chink company that designed it is called Ming.

>How do I know if I'm a "nice guy" or genuinely nice
If you're only nice and talk to women just because you want to get in their pants, and turn cold and nasty or drop them the minute they tell you or you realise they're not interested, you're a 'nice guy'

>Can girls mistake one for the other?
Sure, they almost always look the same, at least at the start.

>Are they attracted to genuinely nice?
Depends on what you mean by 'attracted to'. Can genuinely nice guys land dates? Sure. Do they always land dates? Absolutely not. The difference is that they don't turn bitter and spiteful if they're rejected.

A girl won't be attracted to a boring, insecure guy just because he's nice.
That said, being (genuinely) nice is a plus if you're interesting and confident.

>>18570479
90% of Women are pretty cold and shitty. Your answer is Yes, very easily.. You wont win being nice.. You MAY get lucky and find that one girl who just likes you for who you are, but most women are genuinely attracted to men who treat them like shit.

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>>18570474
You aren't alone. Sometimes I just want to get hopelessly lost in a gigantic city, but then I do the math and realize that I wouldn't have enough money to buy all the liquor required for such a journey.

>>18570474
>>Dad wants me to do HVAC and get to work

there is good money in that

>>18570555
3 month program. Work with my dad at school district for 2 years. Move to New York and try for 30 Hr. Planned that out but fuck it's plan B. Can't hurt idk

>>18570435
Just sounds like you weren't expecting such energy from a random person. Understandable. Situation sounds a TAD bit awkward, but not on your part. So don't feel bad OP. She probably just wanted the D.

>>18570435
>18570435
Fake it until you make it. People cant read your mind, my dude. Faking confidence isn't lame, its sometimes very necessary. Just practice, and before you know it people will have more confidence in you than you have in yourself.

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>>18570417
I have the same problem.. I am limiting myself more than anything else currently. I second guess CONSTANTLY. Always feeling like I fucked up. I think I might just try not caring for a bit, and if my life goes to shit within the first week, I'll know that Im actually fucked up.

I've heard that it's the soap part that is the real problem, not the actually showering. I've been continuing to shower as normal but I'll just lightly loofah my body up without any soup

>>18570409
I shower about once every 3 days. The less you shower the less oil your body produces. Showering twice a day just wastes water. After a while, you can go about a week without washing your hair and it will still look and smell fine.

>>18570409
Never - I've showered twice a day for the past 30 years. If it's not broke don't fix it.