Bar soap or body wash?
Any recommendations?
Unscented bar soap or be a cuck. Your call.
Do you think explaining yourself to people (habits, traits, ways about you that developed because of past events) is a form of emasculation?
I think there's definitely a stroke of catharsis in opening up to someone about maybe something that they don't quite understand about you. However, packaging and (I guess) repurposing something that was natural and boundless to explanation can feel draining and strange. At least to me.
How do you feel about this?
>>18567990
I'm a very unusual person, so I find explaining quirks is a way to put people at ease even if it makes no sense to them. People are more comfortable if you embrace your weirdness than if you try to play it off or ignore it.
Everyone has their baggage and shit that has made them messed up, it's how you learn and grow from it that defines who you are.
You shouldn't have to excuse yourself and apologize to someone you are freshly acquainted with. If they are that judgemental of your character then you shouldn't have to explain yourself. They aren't worth it.
That being said, if it is someone you have become close with there is definitely benefits in venting about this stuff. Helps them to understand you even more as a person, and although it makes you vulnerable it will overall increase their trust in you.
>>18567990
Yes it means you treat them as master like you are asking for their approval.
I've been thinking for a while that I want to break up with my girlfriend of now 6 months. She's really into me but I don't much feel the same. We do long distance and it's several hours commute to see eachother. She wants to introduce me to her close friends today...
Suggestions on breaking up?
>>18567978
Well... If someone was breaking up with you, how would you want them to do it?
Youre asking for a method that will make a shitty interaction not shitty.
It's gonna be shitty and hard no matter how you do it.
>>18567978
Well, you can either tell her, or you can ghost her. Just block her on everything. It's long distance anyways - not a real relationship.
Do it in person. No bullshit. Best to be genuine about it, it will be better for you and in future decisions about it. Tell her how things are and see what she says about it. If you are not sure 100% give it a one more try with her with some changes, or if you are realy done with it, tell her and end it.When you tell her , dont leave immideatly, stay for a while.Also dont let her empathy/guilt trip you into staying if you dont want to. Good luck.
I'm looking to move out of my parent's house into an apartment, preferably without needing a roommate. For a little bit of background, I make $55k/year before taxes and the average cost of a studio/1 bedroom apartment in my area is between $900 and $1200. Also I'm 20 if that makes a difference.
My main question is for people who have already moved out. How much did you spend on one-time purchases associated with getting your own space for the first time? These would be things like appliances (that aren't included), dishes, cutlery, furniture, electronics, etc.
Also, how much do you spend on a monthly basis on recurring expenses, like groceries, soap, tp, utilities, etc?
I'm trying to get a feel for the real cost of living alone, and all of the little expenses that add up.
pic unrelated
I'm moving out myself right now, so I could use some insight from other anons too
Myself am expecting to spend about $1000 local moneys on living expenses (rent, water, electricity, internet), and live on the other ~$2300 left. It's a tight budget imo, specially since I live in a relatively expensive country, but I also noticed the city I'm moving too is about 25% cheaper compared to where I currently live. Plus, I can still count on my gf's income when she also finds a job there.
I compromised more than 30% of my income on living costs (from those 2300, 400 are food "stamps" and 300 fuel "stamps" benefits), which is not really recommended.
>>18567974
>>18568033
How much are you guys pulling monthly exactly?
>>18567974
>How much did you spend on one-time purchases associated with getting your own space for the first time?
It really depends on how much you want to spend i.e. how cheap you want to go. My boyfriend and I are looking to buy a house together and we want to get good quality furniture and whatnot, and we're budgeting $10-15k for that. However, I'm sure you could furnish a place for a fraction of that amount.
Bad memories. Ex girlfriends. Girls that I want that I can't have. Missed opportunities. Toxic people.
The standard advice is to "walk away and live well", and that's exactly what I've been doing in life. If something is toxic and sour, I dip the fuck out. For example, I used to be a dweeb in high school, and I used to keep in contact with a couple people, so one day I decided to just cut everyone off, delete everyone from social media, and just rip that page out of the book.
It feels... weird. Just disappearing like that. Ghosting away from a part of my life. There's no closure and it's not satisfying, even after multiple years of doing this. I have a burnign desire for closure, for revenge, and I hold grudges like a mother fucker and forget NOTHING, what do I do?
Go read the Dhammapada and chill out nigger
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oLkdhbMfASo
>closure
Think carefully, clearly, like an adult. Ultimately, because of your stance here, the people enter a binary separation:
>you want closure and revenge on their current persona, which is to say that they have done something to bring your ire and are therefore in the wrong; by remaining there, they will not draw you any closure and you will likely end up in a worse scenario
>you want closure and revenge on their persona which has become a thing of the past, and you alone represent the opposite of progress they have made and by extension, progress you have not made for yourself; this makes you the asshole, you'll be the bad guy in social circle connections and you'll be left with two slights against you and no closure for either of them
I don't know, I gave up my high school connections save for (now) two people, more or less. A few date before that but, yeah. I don't regret it; I never really looked back because most of them weren't going to and I knew it.
How do you guys beat cravings for food
>>18567932
By dealing with my oral anxiety through excercise.
do you drink enough water? Sometimes if you're feeling hungry it can actually just be that you need some good ol' H2O.
Also make sure you get enough sleep & try to manage your stress.
If you care about the physiology of stress, your body has 2 parts to the autonomic nervous system: Sympathetic and Parasympathetic, aka fight or flight vs. rest and digest. Sympathetic system is activated during excercise, stress, etc. and slows down unessesary functions, i.e. digestion, and increases fight & flight functions, i.e. adrenaline. Parasympathetic does the opposite.
Your body cannot distinguish stress from say, your hair being on fire vs. stress from something like an exam coming up. If you are under a consistent stress your body may begin to crave some kind of reward. For some people, eating causes the parasympathetic system to kick in and begin to slow your symapthetic system's functions. Therefore stress eating was born!
So like, masturbate or play video games or exercise or something. Good luck!
>>18567958
What are some ways to manage stress without jerking off
I'm generally pretty left leaning but some of my friends are fucking insane, politically speaking, having drunk the SJW Kool-aid. I knew this for a while but actively chose to stay quiet so I could avoid confrontation.
Today, one of them and I got in an argument over text, him telling me that white people are the problem, that I, as a white person am benefiting at the expense of minorities.
I felt very tempted to call him out on his bullshit but knew very well I'd put our friendship at risk so I ended up just pussy footing around whole time. Outside of this though, I usually get along with him. Typically he's there for me in my times of need and is always willing to hear me out about my personal issues. Is it worth losing a friend over politics? Or should I just let this slide?
>>18567931
Why do white people get so easily triggered when their privilege is brought up?
>>18567931
He's right though. As a white person you are inherently benefited by a society that has historically repressed people of color to your benefit. Whether you want to admit it or care enough to do anything about it is irrelevant from the fact that it's a true statement.
Stop being a baby.
>>18567931
if youre genuine friends it should slide. years back when i drank i would be drunk with my shirt off arguing politics with my family and girlfriend, nothing ever came out of it over multiple instances. you accept peoples differences
>>18567937
remember, pills are white because they actually work. just like us white people
This girl at my work and I have been talking online every day for several months now. About a month in, she told me she liked me and at that point I didn't know what to say because I didn't really see her that way. I told her the truth and she said it was alright and we stayed friends. Now, I think I'm starting to like her back. Great, you may think. But I don't want a relationship, for several reasons. I'm not ready for the commitment first of all, and I don't think it would work out in the long term because my parents wouldn't approve (they want me to be with someone from the same country, which is difficult as we don't live in our homeland), I'm moderately religious, no pre-marital sex and all that, and she isn't religious at all.
I get a catch in my throat and my heart races every time I think about it, and I think I want to tell her but I fear it will make things super weird, because I like the thing we have right now.
Should I tell her and hope for the best or just try to suppress it?
How does one become a sugar baby? Any other femanons have any experiences?
I've started to have fantasies where I incorporate several known pop icons and live my life as if I was the one creating their work. Like, I imagine myself as Freddie Mercury or someone famous (but in my body) and essentially revolutionize the music industry because my songs would only have been released in the present day. Then I imagine I'm also a literal genius with 200 IQ, I go on talkshows, I meet several people, I do concerts and run for president, stuff like that. I pretty much live out a fantasy that I'm the greatest man alive.
Do other people have these fantasies or am I completely delusional?
>>18567829
You are bored with your life OP. Fantasies are normal tho. Don't let yourself get carried away by them. Do something about how boring your life is and your fantasies will seem a little less appealing.
>>18567829
Use those abilities to fantasies
Create recipes for social interaction
You can have massive plays unfold in your noggin
Make them real life scenarios and apply the knowledge you find
It's incredibly fun and sometimes people just find your ability to problem "solve" on the fly astonishing
>>18567829
I have a fantasy that I get 3 wishes and I wish for a 5 billion wishes and with those wishes I become the best athlete of all time in every sport and I wish my wife would just let me in pregnant women like a virsus.
Anyway anon I think shits okay but maybe pick up a complex/challenging hobby
Im 35 just spent a year recovering from 5 years of hardcore drug addiction, that I fucked myself with out of sorrow because my wife left me for another man she'd been cheating on me with for months. I found out because she got pregnant while on a "business trip" for our shitty little business and I paid for the abortion like a true cuck. After I shut down the business and paid off the lease, is when I spent my life savings and soul on a 5 year heroin and meth binge and nowI have a methhead smile and no skills. I have $500 monthly after all bills which Ive tried to put in BTC but I have no bank account.
>is this even possible to comeback from?
>plan is: Save, collect scrap metal, do odd jobs and hustle like when I was a junkie until I have $1000 saved and start a bank account again
>live off nothing like when I was a junkie and save until I can buy dentures
>do 3 years of back taxes to pay off city debts from my junkie life and use federal returns towards dentures
>go back to school for?
>cyberbeg for BTC
Any advise or am I fucked until I get new teeth? Should I just go back to drugs?
>>18567824
Your addictive personality will never change. Getting back to drugs will always be in your mind for the rest of your life. Having said that, it's quite brave to try to recover. Saving seems like a good plan, schooling... no. I'd say it is too late. Limit to start would be at 28 most. but courses if you will be guaranteed a stable job is not a bad idea.
>>18567872
Go back to /pol/
stay sober man. like me. the only shot you have at being truly successful is with a straight, clear mind. 35 is old but it's much better than 45. stay sober. get into self improvement and shit. whatever you need to do to to get productive again/get that bank account, do it.
>is this even possible to comeback from?
of course it's possible. it will take a lot of hard work. but with enough hard work and a bit of luck you could find yourself in a better position financially. I.E. working a better paying job. but it's going to take hard work.
What I'm doing right now is, I only buy myself food and water, and pay bills.
Hey /adv/.
Recently, my sister has discovered a trick to "pick" a locked door with a card (in case you don't know it, essentially you jam the card in between the latch and it'll unlock the door.) Ever since then, shes been unlocking my locked door constantly (probably once everyday at any given time). It's always ticked me off, but she would normally catch me playing vidya or something.
You can probably see where this is going.
About 20 minutes ago, I was, well, y'know. Suddenly, I hear her swiping the card through my door. Luckily, I was able to pull up my pants, hide my "rag", etc., just before she got in.
I'm scared now. I don't want her to catch me. She's still just a little girl.
Wat do?
Tell her to stop doing that?
Jesus, OP, life doesn't have to be as hard as you make it.
>>18567789
I have. She doesn't understand the concept of privacy.
Nail a piece of wood to the door frame so she can no longer do it.
Or you could do the responsible thing and educate her that it is wrong or get your parents to do it.
Do you self-harm, /adv/? If so, how do you do it?
I hit myself until I'm bleeding or until the marks are too obvious. I tried choking myself (not trying to kill myself because I'm a pussy) and that left a big bruise on my neck.
I suppose this is an edgy subject but I don't do it for the attention, I do it for anger release. I'm my own victim because most of the time it's my fault anyway.
Is there any way to harm yourself without leaving marks?
Why not take out your anger on a punching bag or smash a tree stump with a baseball bat?
I used to hit myself when angry but haven't done so in a long time. Not sure why I stopped. Probably just grew out of it.
>>18567787
You're right, punching something else would be a lot better, but the urge is so strong I can barely think while I'm doing it. So I just go for the easiest target, I guess.
I just lift and push every set until failure. It's a temporary fix for my problem though, I know that now.
Mods, can we please get a sticky on this damn board so it's not the same questions every day?
>I am depressed, what should I do?
Take a walk outside and go see a psychologist/psychiatrist
>I have this medical issue, what should I do?
See a doctor
>This weird thing happened to my body, should I see a doctor?
If you are concerned enough to ask, then you should get it checked out.
>I drink too much and want to stop, how do I manage it?
Great! If you are a chronic alcoholic, be sure to seek medical attention if you experience any negative side effects after quitting. Also see your doctor to establish your overall health post-booze. It's very important to tell at least one friend or family member that you're an alcoholic and that you're quitting now so they can help hold you accountable and off alcohol. Look into programs for recovering alcoholics in your area.
>I got dumped/miss my ex/etc. How do I get over them?
Cut off contact with them, explore your hobbies, focus on improving yourself, meet new people, etc.
>My gf/bf cheated on me, what do I do?
Break up with them and never speak to them again.
>I cheated on my bf/gf, should I tell them?
Yes.
>Should I get back with my ex?
No. They're your ex for a reason. Even if it seems like a good idea now, chances are it's going to end the same way again.
>I'm dating this girl who is crazy or have a crazy ex, what should I do?
Stop talking to them immediately, get them out of your life, and try to forget about them.
>Should I lose my virginity to a hooker/random girl?
If you're under 25, probably not. If you're 25+, probably so. Wear a condom.
>I'm autistic, how do I talk to the opposite sex?
Complicated answer, but we can compile one.
Anything else?
Plus it'd just be nice to have some resources listed. Various hotlines, 7cups, therapist databases, recommended self-help, job assistance, what have you.
>>18567766
I like this, it seems good.
I support this.
Hey /adv/ what is a good gift for a moderately famous 12 year old girl that one does not know personally?
>Fit in the mail
>Don't want to spend a fortune
I was thinking about perfume/makeup/beauty stuff from like Sephora or the like, just didn't know which to go with or what kind of these things that girls that age like.
She has basically all the clothing and shoes in the world, so she doesn't need that. Asking for a friend obviously.
This bread disturbs me
Please greentext why you're buying a little girl that you don't know a gift
>>18567763
What the fuck do you hope to accomplish here?
>>18567763
The best gift would be leaving her the fuck alone