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does anyone else have the problem of getting too obsessive about guys/girls you're interested in (but not dating)? meaning: 1) your thoughts are constantly consumed by them, 2) you get legitimately upset at the thought of them kissing/fucking/dating someone else, and 3) any attempts at getting your mind off them are unsuccessful. ever since the age of about 15 I've struggled with this (I'm 24 now). if anyone has the same issues, how do you deal with it? any tips on how to speed up the process of getting over someone?
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I have those issues and no tips.
I still think about this chick that looked at me when I was in America 5 years or so ago.
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I have the same problem and I don't know what to do, it kills me when I think about her in love with other guy and I just deal with this sleeping or talking to her. I'm 20 btw
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>>18571203
There really is no escape from this, I feel this way about my best friend. Worst still, we dated for a while so can't brush it off as simply the concept of them because I know for certain they are the only person I would ever be comfortable being with again.
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My parents currently owe me $6,000. Should I expect to be payed back? Part of me says that they're my parents and they payed for a lot of my stuff as a kid, but another part of me says I got bills to pay and I'm not made of money and don't want them walking all over me. What should I do?
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>>18571194
why did you loan them money?
what did they use the money for? depending on that answer you will know if they pay you back.
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>>18571194
never lend money that you aren't comfortable never seeing again. family is not an exception. You might see it back but if they're so financially irresponsible that they needed $6000 for anything then the chances of you getting it back any time soon is really slim.
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>>18571194
If they really needed the money, then cut em some slack.
If they're just blowing it on frivolous crap, then you can demand it back.
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My girlfriend has been getting a little big recently and she's really insecure about it.
She worried that I might leave her because of her weight. She feels really bad about her body which causes her to be sad and eat more. So I don't know what to do. I don't want to reassure her and say that her body is beautiful, because honestly I'm getting less attracted to her the bigger she gets. I feel saying she looks fine will discourage her from losing the weight, which is not what I want. Like she'll be okay with being fat. It will also mean I'm lying to her and myself. And I also think that saying that her weight makes her unattractive will make her feel like shit and emotionally eat. So I'm stuck either way.
I'm a pretty fit and skinny guy and I value exercise a lot, and I hate the whole fat acceptance movement thing. I want her to be happy and healthy. Its sad that her arms are bigger than mine. I said I won't break up with her because of her body, but honestly if it gets too out of control and I'm disgusted by her looks and habits that wouldn't be good.
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>>18571184
she's emotionally eating for a reason something started this. Now its just becoming a cycle of being insecure and eating. You need to help her break the cycle. Also encourage her to eat better make healthier meals with her or something and exercise with her. Tell her thats how she can stay with you not by eating more.
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>>18571184
Point out the vicious cycle.
Make healthy meals and eat with her; exercise with her or something
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>>18571184
Tell her that you feel the same way about yourself sometimes.
Tell her you want to start working out and you need a workout partner.
Get fit together.
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Basically a NEET, but I got a degree. 2017-07-30 03:23:09 Post No.18571170
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Basically a NEET, but I got a degree.
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Here we go. Graduated in May and i've been sitting here basically wasting my life away past two months doing fuck all with my time except video games.
>27
>Bachelor Science Teaching - Middle school
>Fell out of love with teaching but wanted to finish my degree so I had some accomplishment.
>Ghetto apartment is paid for until October from school loans.
>School loan payments start in January 2018
>Didn't pass all the tests for a license until this month because I thought i'd go get a cubicle job.
>No cubicle job has called me back because 3/4 of my past 4 years has been after school tutoring and teaching experience.
I am nearing the end of my rope here because I have no desire to teach at all and technically I can't until December because the education department is retarded and takes 3 months to get a license out.
Once october hits I could go live at home but i'd rather not.
TLDR
Got a BS in teaching, don't want to teach.
Can't get any kind of cubicle job with this degree.
It's like I got a fine arts/psych degree.
Is there anyway I can salvage this or am I just screwed in life?
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>>18571170
go live at home and build a saving when you find a job. Then go from there.
>I could go live at home but i'd rather not
use your resources at your disposal get over the fact your living at home its better then being in more debt or homeless
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>>18571185
I only left there at 25 and let's just say it's a
>Yeah we'd welcome you home
>Grats on getting a degree with no real job
>What are you doing with your life
My depression would kick back in full force there.
My biggest challenge is finding a job. I don't need much in life and I won't have children.
Unless homelessness is about to happen this is what I would desire
>45-50 hours a week
>Inside job, I live in a 100+ degree state and it's humid year round.
>Not a factory
>Health/Dental that isn't complete garbage or $400 a month
>30k a year That's right I can get a non ghetto apartment, small used sedan, and live my type of lifestyle on 30k a year fairly comfortably as long as I have insurance/steady hours.
I don't even care if I have to work 2nd or 3rd shift as i've done those before.
I just don't want to work at a shitty job I could have gotten without my degree where i'm
>In a factory again 12 hour shifts I wanted to die
>Retail employee making barely minimum wage with no benefits and treated like shit
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>>18571258
warehouse jobs? postal service pays well and you dont need experience.
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How long do girls usually expect a guy to last in bed?
I'm still a virgin, but i'm worried that when i lose it i'll fall short. When i fap i crank out 2 big ones, then it's a struggle to get hard again.
Is sex easier to last longer than fapping, where the goal is to get your orgasm as quickly as possible? I'm hoping maybe it'll be different once i'm focused on giving a girl a good pound rather than getting my fix.
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>>18571138
it gets worse. Train your penis to be desensitized or you'll be busting after 2 pumps
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>>18571138
Depends on your mental state. Go VERY SLOW your first time or your'll blow it (self lol). Usually nervousness and lack of comfort with the girls will cause either a Premature ejac or ED. I'd much rather have the former, so relax. And also don't expect to last to long. Expect to recharge.
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>>18571138
I prefer 20-30 mins of foreplay and 5 or less of actual fucking because I only really get off by clit stimulation.
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How do I find happiness in being alone?
I see acquaintances on social media living happy lives with others and can't help but feel jealous.
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>>18571121
You can't. sorry. If you were you wouldn't be asking here. You can either be alone and safe, or happy with people and having the always imaginable possibility of getting crushed emotionally by others. You can't both be happy and alone. such is life.
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Social media is a highly curated bragging contest where you only see the best tid-bits of other people's lives. They're not necessarily happier than you.
Romance only makes you really excited and happy for the first few months, and then it's like having a really close friend with exclusive fucking rights. Except sometimes they don't have the same drive to fuck as you and you're still sexually repressed a lot, just not as badly as you could be.
What I'm trying to get at is that happiness can't be bestowed to you by boys/girls/whatever and you have to find your own interesting shit to do.
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Depression or Sadness 2017-07-30 02:56:51 Post No.18571109
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What's your advice on depression? I've been self-loathing myself harder than usual these past few months. I had,keyword had, a girlfriend but I haven't talked to her in two months. She doesn't want to be near me in public anyway. I've only talked to my mother today. I've just been mostly listening to music and just reflecting on how horrible I feel. I've simply been listening to Dou Kangaete mo Watashi wa Warukunai for the past fucking half an hour along with other Watamote related things. Any suggestion is recommended,thanks! :)
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depression comes from the feeling of being overwhelmed or not having control. These problems could be stemming from the situation with your girlfriend and her rejecting you. Also you sound like you have low self esteem. Also 2 months!? i'm pretty sure you two aren't dating anymore.
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Motion, bro.
Depression usually arrises in some situations, is aggravated by those situations. If you change the situation, you can move the feeling away.
What I do when I feel depressed is:
1) Leave the place. If I'm home, I go the club or gym or for a walk, whatever. This is also applied to a more abstract notion of situation (like a game online you are playing, or a phone call... you got it).
2) Activities that require attention. Bad thoughts won't get any attention if you focus it all on helping the neighbour bring his groceries to the house, or cleaning your room, or whatever.
3) Catarsys. I'm not sure that's how it's written in english. That's the act of 'living the emotion', it's like crying when you are sad. It's acceptance of the emotion, so it just passes through you, like a cloud to the sky (you cry, get angry, hit stuff, whatever the emotion, and then you just rest).
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Read 'The Power of Now' by Eckhart Tolle.
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I need help from femanons. I can't ask my mom because she's crazy.
If a bra supposedly fits you but you can still feel your boobs shifting around/bouncing a lot, and it's uncomfortable, is it the wrong bra? It's like a sack of two kittens drowning in a river. It's like they're trying to take off of the mothership.
The cups have no gaping and there's no spillover. The underwire lies flat against my chest. The band doesn't ride up in the back. Is this just a side effect of being a landwhale?
What kind of crazy specialist shit do I have to buy so that I don't have to feel them moving? I tried to get sized at Macy's but the salespeople kinda blew me off and they had dick all in my size. I thought I was a 34DD or 34DDD but a lot of the shit I order from the internet in those sizes is too small. Pic is the bra I got that fits on paper but does dick all to help.
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you can always go bra free. let those puppies move around girl!
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>>18571092
Sounds like you need a bra with more coverage to help hold everything in place. There's gotta be stuff out there, lots of people have large bouncy boobs they don't want hitting them in the face when they have to go down some stairs
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>34DD
>let those puppies move around girl!
Not OP, don't even personally have large knockers, but wanna know how I know you're a man or a woman with small breasts?
>about to start an internship
>super chill dress code
>t shirts
>blue jean shorts, khakis, anything
>just can't be "short shorts"
>asked for some general clarification
>"they just can't be super short shorts"
>oh well that clears it right up thank you
What counts as short shorts? I don't want to buy new shorts just to ruin them via bird shit and fish scales. They're barely paying me as it is so I'd rather not unnecessarily spend money if the shorts I already have are good enough
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I'm assuming you're a woman, why not just wear jeans? If I had to guess I'd say they mean something that covers your bum reasonably.
Just wear jeans and see what others are doing.
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>>18571075
short shots is anything that isn't finger tip length plus an inch. basically no shorts that have your ass cheeks hanging out.
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>>18571075
put your shorts on. are they only half way down your thigh? they're short shorts.
if they're slightly above your knee or at your knee they're just plain old shorts and acceptable.
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"I'm sorry if i say i need you" it's from a song or something, my ex post it on instagram what she mean by this? I was her first boyfriend.
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Cut contact with her already
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Your ex posted a song lyric on instagram and you naturally think it's about you but it could just as easily not be.
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OP, you'll probably never know the answer, and that's probably for the best.
You don't have to cut contact with her, but with those feelings of wanting her, yes, cutting contact with them might be a great choice.
>tfw depressed
>tfw know exactly what to do to help
>choose to waste time on 4chan
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Because it's easy
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>>18571073
I lied I have no idea how to help myself
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>>18571082
yes you do. its just hard to accept
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A Cop That Continues To Bully and abuse his kids. 2017-07-30 02:39:46 Post No.18571065
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A Cop That Continues To Bully and abuse his kids.
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My dad is a cop. He gets away with anything. That includes being able to hit someone so that marks don't appear. This ain't a sad story, it is an angry one. I'm 24 years old and I can't get my father away from my family. He's toxic and never hesitated to beat me or tell at me growing up. Now he just leaves petty comments on my shit just to piss me off. He's 6ft4 and 250lbs of pure muscle. What do I do? I stayed up last night until 4am to tell him that I want him to be a dad and step up for once but instead, he keeps on mocking me for being soft. He makes my life a living hell now by tormenting me and never spending time with either me or his granddaughter. People tell
Me to ignore him bit his corrupt ass gets away with anything and he's living like a king while he taunts and mocks me. He knows I can't do anything cause he's a cop, so what do I do? Recording him doesn't work cause he has friend in IA and social services that throws that out before anyone sees. So how do I make his life hell like he has made mine? I'm done. I'm tired of asking him to be there and to be a decent human being.
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Can't you go to the police?
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>>18571084
no op but he technically is the police
:options
>run away
>call child services (but they usually don't do shit)
>wait it out and slowly die inside
>kill your dad make it look like an accident
>kill your dad and wear his face
>face a suicide get committed so your away from him
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>>18571065
tough love isn't abuse you soft pussy, obviously he failed to instill any grit in you.
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How do I stop irrationally hating women? 2017-07-30 02:35:06 Post No.18571058
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How do I stop irrationally hating women?
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When being around women I feel very uneasy and have an passive aggressive attitude. I can't help myself but feel like most of them are dumb and narcissistic and they feel nothing but disgust for me. I feel extremely jealous that they probably have an easy life and get friends and benefits just for being female while I sit in my room all day while life passes by (although that envy applies to "normal" males too). At the same time I am aware that these are really irrational thoughts and probably not true.
How does one break these thought patterns? Do I have to feel better about myself or do I need to get more contact with women?
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>>18571058
Start rationally hating them instead.
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ok so I seem to be having a bit of a mental \ psychotic break down. I have this feeling of immense terror and fear that I cant explain. I have had these before to the point of hospitalization. I end up screaming and become a danger to myself. I dont want to be a fool a make a scene. I would like some reassurance that everything will be fine. I just need someone to say everything will be ok.
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I had these attacks too, just some months ago. Go where you feel safe, lay down and listen to audio books or do something else that distracts you.
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>>18571064
thanks for the advice. I grabbed my cat and am gonna try and watch a movie.
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little update cause I still feel scared. I just took some lorazepam. hopefully I wont need a trip to the hospital today.
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Help me with a problem people of 4chan.
I'll give you the background.
>be me 36 year old faggot
>married
>own shitty business
>Mildly successful. Successful enough that I can afford shit I want within reason, pay the bills and hire a few friends to work for me.
>was a mailman for awhile
While being a mailman met this woman.
Her
>30
>was mail carrier as well
>we hit it off
>it's subjective but she's a 10
>super sweet and caring
>she's a Christian girl
>I'm not but I know enough about the Bible and shit to bullshit her.
>we do a lot of drugs and drink occasionally together. Pretty much did from the start.
>quit the post office and she quit too said it sucked without me there and she quit too.
>it's a shitty job
> I was in the process of building my business at this time so I hung out or talked to her once a month.
> couldn't take it anymore so confessed my love for her one day.
> she just doesn't say anything for a few days.
>she says don't worry you didn't scare me off.
>assure her that it wasn't my intention.
>go hard in the paint to build up business.
>make enough to buy a place and run business out of it right down from her house.
>comes and works for me for awhile.
>starts acting weird around my wife so stops
>we still hang out.
>everyone telling me by the way she acts that she is in love with me.
>finally ask her
>she shoots me down again.
>feel like fucking idiot
>tell her next day I can't be her friend anymore.
>wife grabs phone sees text between me and her.
>thought it was divorce for sure.
>mad for a few days
>both wife and side girl crying to me.
> patch everything up they hug and then back to business as usual.
At this point I'm thinking. They both love me so much it's not going to matter.l what I do at this point.
> get even closer with other girl
>now she is going places and texting me or telling me how she has more fun with me.
>sends me pictures of her everyday
>calls me talks on phone for hours.
>tells me she loves me.
to be continued
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Continuing
>I'm scared to ask her again.
Do you guys think she loves me?
Do you think she is just waiting for me to get divorced to see if I'm serious.
Help me out I'm going insane
She's the first thing I think about when I wake up and the last thing I think about when I go to sleep
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>>18571030
Yeah as an honest girl I would be fucking guilty loving someone who is married. Op you are an irresponsible piece of shit man, decide what you need in life.
She probably feels dirty and like a slut, she probably thinks it's hopeless with you, that's why she stats silent refuses you because duh yiu are fucking married you dipshit asshole, fucking subhuman
Don't try to talk with her about it again because she also knows it's wrong, nothing will come out of it if you are still married
Fucking faggot
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>wife grabs phone
Nigga, get a password.