yep
>>18570030
ya, but usually those are people. who prey on low self esteem people like yourself. Try bettering yourself maybe?
>>18570030
Sounds like your real problem is self confidence.
I moved away from home, like 2000 miles. I know no one here, no family, but I love the area so so much. It's been 2 weeks but I still feel lonely and depressed. I love the idea of living alone and being independent, but it gets overtaken by the depressing loneliness. I doubt it'll last forever, but it doesn't seem like it will go away anytime soon. It's really keeping me from doing much in terms of trying to be more social or even work as much. (I work from home, make enough to survive but at my best months I could make 3-4 times more than I need, but the motivation just isn't there right now.)
Any advice to make me not feel as shit about my situation?
>>18569955
Visit your family, talk to your family, think about the positives, push yourself to go outside your comfort zone and try to meet people, or learn to be more comfortable with yourself and enjoy your own company
Been living alone for 2 years now, moved to another city to study. I have no friends here due to being introverted as fuck, and even though I don't feel exactly lonely, I can always tell when it's been too long with no socializing because I start getting really lethargic and depressed. The only way to counter it is to go where to people are. Even if you don't hang out with friends, just go somewhere where you'll have to interact with others. Do you have a job? School? Maybe join some hobbies or clubs, or start volunteering, that's what I do and it helps a lot. It's not for the purpose of getting deep bonds or connections, just to help with the loneliness. Visit home often if you can.
I think my biggest problem personally isn't my current situation, I'm doing fine. It's the fear that this will continue for years. Even forever. I'll graduate, get a job... what will really change? Idk, for me it helps to think I can at least get a pet then. Good luck, don't isolate yourself.
>>18569955
i got a cat and feel better.
What was you and your current partners biggest argument like? How did you guys deal with it?
Alternatively, your ex and you's biggest argument.
My girlfriend and I have yet to argue over anything serious, our biggest ones are probably over fidget spinners or something stupid like that, so I just want to know how I can be calm and collected for when/if we have one
>>18569930
>Alternatively, your ex and you's biggest argument.
She would go to raves with her guy friends and not want me to come, and would do lsd and mdma with them, I told her that was really sketchy and made me uncomfortable and she got mad that I didnt trust her and that I shoulnt tell her what to do
Was never the same after that, so I broke up with her
>>18570509
Did you try to find a compromise or was it just she shouldn't do shady stuff like that at all?
>>18569930
Our biggest argument was about him cheating. Second biggest argument was about him smoking weed frequently. We got through both
I've had a 99.4 temperature for about three months(My Normal temperature is 97-98). I had a blood test and everything came back fine but I don't know if they tested for everything. I was diagnosed with Acid Reflux which I think I have but that doesn't explain the temperature. I also have a lump at the back of my neck that my family insists that it's a vein. What's wrong with me.
I'm 21 and on a going on 2 year long dry spell.
I used to have moderate success in high school, but nearly none with adult life. I've gotten "close" to meeting tinder girls, but never actually sealed the deal to meet any.
One of the reasons this could be is that I'm balding badly. I get told by older women I'm handsome and more and more adults have assumed me to be the odd placed grown man amongst young adults.
Other wise I'm in decent shape, I was matching pretty decently attractive women and I seem to make decent impressions on others.
Should I look into hair regrowth treatment?
Pic semi-related. It's the only celeb I could pass as looking like.
Post a pic man, we cant help without seeing a pic
Maybe you will look good with it full bald maybe you need some treatment to look better, how do we know?
Take a pic and scribble over your eyes so no one recognises you if that helps
21 year old guy here. I know they are rare but where do I find those "you wanna fuck mommy's wet pussy" type of older women? You know, the whole "Whose your daddy thing" just in reverse.
I don't want them older than 40 btw.
synagogue
>>18569931
oy vey goyim
>>18569944
Guys, today was a, dare I say it, very demoralising day.
>rainy day in London
>wake up and clean my room
>shit gym session due to coffee ruining sleep for previous 3 months
>go and drink coffee in public, feelsad about life, and browse 4chan on my phone
>go outside and see SO MANY attractive girls
>sluttily dressed ones getting ready to go Chad hunting
>ones that would seem qt and attainable (at peak delusion) on weekdays but dressed up enough to seem unattainable at all times now
>early 30s women dressed sluttily and with the thousand cock stare, in search of bankerChads only
>realise that I have no hope of any social success when I'm the ugly loser loner beta at office job, haven't had a social life in years, never had female attention ever, never been to a pub or club so I've missed my youth
>can't even bear to have a "fuck it, binge on junk food today, fix life tomorrow" binge because I know I'll be lazy tomorrow
And I've seen everything in central london. There is nothing else left to see. I can't even pretend I'm some happy autist, I am a bottom of the barrel failed normie. Schopenhauer's hedgehog simile was completely correct and explains my behaviour, along with laziness.
In terms of actual productive things to be doing, I feel like I am paddling in the exact middle of an ocean. Normies and Chads and Staceys are on cruise ships, they can enjoy the ride, they don't need to find a nice island. Actual autists can enjoy their paddle boats. Some autists have math powered paddle boats. Some have programming powered ones. Other boats are powered by literary means.
The normies laugh at me whenever I choose a method of propulsion. They goad me and say that I can work on the bottom deck of their ship, shoveling shit, as the women lounge or party 24/7 and the males work slightly harder and party harder.
I am too unspooked to take hope in ideologies or methods or heuristics. I believe in common sense and the ambiguity of the future. But it still tortures me.
>>>135433845
dumb frogposter
>>18569885
So what advice do you need OP?
>stop sulking and fix your life right now not tomorrow
No libido due to emotional trauma. How do I fix this?
by processing the trauma so you can move past it
>>18569899
the trauma is subconscious
How do I process it if I don;t even know what has happened
Reaction from my body has been to shut off my emotions and libido
>>18569929
what caused the trauma?
at university and highschool people I don't know often know who I am for better and for worse
it makes me feel like everyone who isn't 100% receptive to me is a enemy and a potential threat to my entire life in a very animalistic way
what do I do? I dont want to feel this way because I know reality is what you make it, but at the same time the stress of it makes me want to throat punch the next person who tries to gossip with me
>>18569809
put your self out there and show them who you are. If people don't know you. they create and idea from your actions.
>>18569809
I also had a close friend who loves to talk shits about other people almost all the time over small things. Even to people who he had known long time before he met me. I learned that that kind of shit talker are ALSO would talk shit about you behind your back.
First, you have to be more ruthless and cut that kind of person off from your life. It was hard for me because of all the things that we've been through but enough is enough. His actions was againts my principle of being protective and loyal to those who close to you before they infect you.
Second, realize that most of people are shit talker. Just accept and be stoical about it. Reality is reality. People gossip all the time because they feel anxious about their own life and need something to channel their own fears and worries.
Just value and love yourself more so all the bullshit that they sprout about you won't be disturb your peace.
I used to really have a thing for my best mates girl but i moved on cause its the right thing to do, got a new loving caring gf who is very stable and pretty. but now the girl who i wanted first has, while still dating my one of my oldest friends, started hooking up with me. she isnt as pretty or stable but its more aggressively passionate and sexually built + shes said she wants to break up with my boy regardless. what do ? if i tell the old girl to shove it she gets hurt because shes expressed how much she cares for me. but i couldnt possibly hurt my current gf because i care about her too much. try to keep both ?
>>18569804
Wow, you are a shit friend.
>>18569804
I hope someone accidentally stabs 27 times in the chest and ditches you in an alley. Bad OP. Eventually your girlfriend is going to find out. Did you seriously think word would never get out? Don't pretend this is for her sake. You are a selfish piece of shit who just wants to avoid having an uncomfortable conversation. You don't want anyone to think you're a bad person. The longer you put off telling this girl the more it will hurt. She'll continue to be mistaken that she's with someone who's true to her. The longer it'll take for her to dump you, and allow herself to trust another person. You do not deserve her, and your friend deserves better. Stop being such a coward.
>>18570069
Sorry for broken English but do you comprehend what I am trying to tell you?
Currently in a short term therapy process. I feel depressed 80% of the time and the rest is just meh with occasional short bursts of what resembles happiness.
Low self-esteem, haven't gotten laid in 3 years and the only girl I have regular contact with atm is my ex, feel like it would be pathetic hopping back in bed with her.
Been overweight most of my life, not obese or close to it, but definitely overweight, and with a family always breathing down my neck about weight loss and eating habits and so on. Beginning to doubt I could ever feel confident unless i lose my excess weight.
/rant
Nearly 28, friendless, socially retarded, somewhere in England etc
Since my questions have may have been too broad for a site like 4chan. I'll narrow it down to something specific.
I need a decent career. Not a job where I'm currently spending stacking shelves and taking shit from managers who are increasing their bonuses by slashing our £8 an hour overtime.
I've been talking to a few people and they say with my (5 year old) 2.2 maths degree, that I only really have two options; accountancy or "something" to do with computers like tech support.
It's nearly August so I have less than a month to put what little money I have into a course that pushes me forward into one of these careers.
So what's a good path, accountacy or "something" in IT? Is there a viable third option that doesn't cost a lot of money or time? Time mostly cos I can almost feel life escaping from me hour by hour.
>Career
Out where I'm at, accounting is great because it's basically entry-level generalist tier, which is god-tier in a city whose industries can suffer very heavily and just full on purge like, 100-400 people just because a market took a skinny dip.
>my life is escaping from me
Eat shit there's Asian women living to literally 100 years older than you. Your shit probably ain't even half over
>>18569783
What sort of salary can I expect? I currently earn £12000 and a discount at pizza hut.
>>18569776
Get into programming my nigga
Is having a collection of pocket knives seen as strange? Is it something I should avoid talking about? They're not neckbeard fantasy knives, they're practical and high quality folding knives.
Save this topic for the 3rd or fourth date, OP
>>18569761
Depends on the person. Gauge them individually. Someone who you know hunts or camps would be cool and interested in it. Some liberal college girl would probably be concerned and a little frightened even if she hid it.
Basically know your audience
I feel so tired, /adv/.
I'm married to a decent man with a 1 year old daughter and another baby on the way. I say decent because he is smart, funny, and kind, but quick to anger. I get called names pretty frequently and have been hit. This is besides the point but it contributes to how I feel because this is new behavior of his.
We moved to the United States ∼4 months ago and it has been hell. He was insistent that I be a SAHM. I would love to, but surviving here with one income is very hard. We moved around a lot while he did bused tables, did contracts, etc. We can pay the bills but we still have no friends, family, or home.
I am relegated to sitting in an extended stay hotel every day until he comes home. It became too much for me so I will be taking our daughter and myself back to our country of origin. I am a tearful mess every day but at least everything will be more stable soon.
My husband wants to continue trying to forge a life here while we live apart but I am so burnt out. Our savings are gone and we have gained nothing. He does not want to return because he thinks it will be embarrassing. He is worried about being a failure. I continue to tell him that he is immensely loved by those who miss him and that his effort was amazing, but he is stubborn.
We're both so tired. We were so much secure and happier last year - I had a good job and many friends I sacrificed. He sacrificed too much as well. I want to save this marriage before the stress destroys us.
How do I convince him to give up this fight and come home with me?
how the fuck did you even get here? are you here illegally or something?
>>18569726
No I'm a citizen and he has a creen card. I met him in his country.
Should I get V-line surgery in Korea y/n
>>18569707
No.
>>18569707
Who dis
>>18569707
it will help