I work night shift – 7PM – 4 AM. IT job, pays nice and I have not had to worry about money for more than a year and actually saved some without even trying.
Only real friend I have went to the other side of the world to study so I have almost zero social contacts except on work, at least I’m really good at faking I have a social circle so people don’t think I’m a total loser. Though they can probably feel it but I got really good at telling people to fuck off so they don’t bother me too much.
>soon to be 25 no friends, still virgin.
>living in shit apartment so I don’t spent too much money.
I always had a fast metabolism and am not bad looking but I go fat recently to the point it’s comical. Sleeping is really hard I usually go around with 4-6 hours of sleep.
I am not motivated much anymore, if at all. Most of my money goes for food and drinking. I drink a lot now for the past 2-3 years. 6 pack after work and much more during the weekends playing OW. If I don’t drink after work, I cannot sleep and become zombie for the rest of the day.
I just can’t force myself to study consistently so I can get out of this shithole. I always fall back to old habits, nothing changes.
Has anyone been like this? How did you fix yourself?
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>>18569450
Sounds like you're trying to do too much, too soon. The trick is starting small, adding it to your daily routine and then doing it until it's habit. Get outside at least once a day, go for a walk. Eat better, even if it's only one meal a day in the beginning. Make sure your hygiene is good, and clean your apartment if it's messy. Small steps brother, we're all gonna make it.
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Ive recently been getting into learning piano and Im wondering if I should keep playing by ear and learn about the piano online or take lessons and learn music theory, notes, scales and what not from a teacher. I dont want to be spending too much money on lessons and I dont want my motivation to fade as I teach my self. So which option is better?
tl;dr: learn piano by myself (motivation problem) or take lessons from a teacher (money problem)
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>>18569443
don't buy shit you can't afford. study music theory and get piano music theory books. they exist for guitar, so I know they exist for piano.
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>>18569443
Most teachers aren't that good anyway. Learn by yourself.
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I believe someone has filed a complaint against me. I got a phone call from the cops. And the next night a cop knocked on my door. I did not answer either time.
Anyone one have advice?
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The advices are not the same if you did something illegal or not.
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>>18569442
I guess that, if you have nothing to hide, just cooperate with them. On the contrary, if you're guilty, destroy the proofs, run and never look back.
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>>18569451
Usually stupid advice on this board is only annoying but in this case it's dangerous. OP innocence or guilt is irrelevant in a court of law, the only thing that matters is what they can "prove". I'm by no means claiming wrongful convictions are the norm but the fact that they exist in significant quantity means if the cops have their eye on you, be cautious, don't give them any information that you don't need to, doesn't matter if you're innocent.
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( Under da t@ble ) Not sure if this is the right place to ask but I really need one. If you folks have any tips on where to go or who to ask?
I'd really appreciate it.
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How do you shave your balls/taint?
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My boss is putting me down in front of other employees. When she's around she ignores me or roll her eyes at me when I speak to her. She will not say hello or goodbye. She completely lost her shit and viciously yelled at me in front of a colleague one time. When I ask for personal leave for medical reasons, she will copy-paste my whole request with my medical details to all employees in our department to let them know I'm on leave (I've since stopped telling her reason and just say it's medical related). We just lost a major account (~50% of our business) and a lot of people are sitting around with nothing to do, me included. The work I still had left she transferred to another person with whom she appears to be on friendly terms. That particular work I've been doing for 2 years and, surprisingly, never screwed up probably due to the nature of work that undergoes review by many different people before it's finalized. Always done accurately, timely, clients are satisfied and never complained. Still, she transferred it away and now I literally have nothing to do all day. I just sit there and stare at Outlook all day, waiting for something to do.
She's been like this for months now, maybe even years. I just started to notice it recently. She never discussed any problems with me so I have no idea what I did wrong. If I knew, I'd correct it and apologize. She's the type who expects you to read her mind. Yet despite all this, for some reason, I'm still employed.
I'm starting to update my resume and look for another job but what do I do meanwhile? Just suffer and wait? I'm guessing gently standing up to her when she's acting like a child will probably not play in my favor?
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How do you lose a contract that big? Sounds like she isn't doing her job correctly.
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If your money state is solid enough and you're confident in your resume, you can always try the opposite: stand up to her like fucking thunder, all at once, with all the full-grown glory of an adult. When she goes off on you, you ask, "So are we going to solve this like adults or do you want to keep screaming and throwing a tantrum for everyone to see?" You're like 80% sure to lose your job but 20% sure to put them in their place. It's happened before. Not commonly, but.
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You need to get to work on your CV to find another job. Then you need to read Ligotti's My Work is Not Yet Done for inspiration on how to deal with workplace related problems.
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how do I get a gf
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>>18569333
Ask out a girl .Fag.
Seriously answer : 1. love yourself
2.do stuff workout etc
3.find yourself in someone else
4.ask out.
EZ
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talk to people
go out with friends
friends make you meet other people
talk to girls
find a girl that can be defined as a potential gf to you
ask her out
get rejected as many times as you can, because when you get rejected,you the question "what if" disappears
repeat
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any one here with someone that exhibits traits of BDP and made it work? It sounds like a spectrum, but even a little seems difficult to deal with. It slim pickings out here.
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Her family does. I'd say it's 'gotten better' but I think I've just gotten more woke to their shit and I have the kind of temper that goes 0-100 instantly and I'm telling someone to go fuck their useless whore cunt with a soldering iron.
I don't have any amusing stories, just a bunch of tales of me putting up with a bunch of shit for what is quickly becoming a mediocre lay and none of the emotional support I need in my life.
It's the usual fare. No discussions with them, just listening to them be right; they'll defend the most inane, childish behavior to the death; they demean the people in their family that aren't total shit garbage; they prefer to indulge addictions rather than face the fact that those might be cutting into crucial costs.
It's not good. It's awful. I want out. But I care about her, and the idea of leaving her to them leaves my stomach in a cold pit. She'll get fucking raped if I leave her under their care-- God help me, if I wasn't constantly snarling over her shoulder like a serial killer waiting to go loose, her life would be whatever the fuck her cunt mother wanted out of it.
Fuck me, triggered to hell. ree, etc.
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If your gf has BDP, drop her. You will never have a healthy and happy relationship with a person like that. That sounds sad and mean, but it's the truth.
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>>18569332
>I don't have any amusing stories, just a bunch of tales of me putting up with a bunch of shit for what is quickly becoming a mediocre lay and none of the emotional support I need in my life.
this is what I want to avoid. I've been through this already. don't want to do it again. This entire family has it or you're partner?
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I was curious about something, and could use some normal-guy opinions. After sex, how much time has to pass and what has to be done for a guy to view a girl as 'fresh' again? Like where a guy is once again comfortable eating her out, or going out with her. I'm in a perv relationship, so I have trouble getting this info myself. Any thoughts?
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one day is ok, if the girl is washing her vagina with special vagina soap in my last relationship
otherwise for me personally two days or something like that but my new GF doesnt like beeing eaten out anyways
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>>18569271
Five minutes or so, but then I don't start from the assumption that women are dirty
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A shower is enough to make it fresh. I used to be a bit disgusted of giving my gf head after I stick it in, but after I tasted my precum out of curiosity, I just gave up. Now if I haven't cummed yet, anything goes.
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just got paid a whole month's worth of work when I only worked a week and a day before quitting
how high are the chances that they call me and ask for they money back ?
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Very thin, you've quit and they can't get money back out of your account.
If it was an official workplace you will be fine, it's their accounting departments fault.
If it's a corner shop type thing then maybe they might take you on Judge Judy?
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>>18569241
I don't think they will, they'll probably just never hire you again.
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>>18569241
They will definitely find the mistake. That's what company auditors are for.
They can, if they want, go to the cops and charge you with larceny, mail fraud, obtaining money under false pretenses, etc.
The question is whether they'll bother.
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How can I bail of a long party early? Going to one later that's supposedly going to last until 5 in the morning, but I want to be out of there by midnight. Got fucking terrible social anxiety and parties are my worst fucking nightmare, so I'm pushing myself to attend this kind of shit, but I know for a fact I'm not going to be able to survive this long at first. Baby steps.
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go to the party and just consume booze and drugs. you will forget about the time and start conversing, before you know it, it's 3am and you're thinking shit this isn't so bad.
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Either drink some beers and see where it goes or just fucking leave early. Why are you unable to just leave?
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>>18569165
I dunno man, I've tried that tactic a few times before, and if anything it made me even worse. Got super paranoid after downing a ton of whiskey those times, even more than usual.
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Hello, i am a 2nd gen Australian born to chinese parents.
I have decided to go to china to live with my grandparents for an estimates 10 days - 180 days.
The reason i have decided to go is i suspect i have a mental block in Australia due to negative upbringing with toxic extended family and overall environment.
I would like to go to china to pick up new habits before returning to Australia. So i ask you /adv/ how are the following facilities and services in Guangzhou:
Gym
Basketball coaches (for recreation)
Soccer coaches (for recreation)
Schools/institutions to learn chinese (if it's unfeasible then i will buy some books and bring them to china to learn over there)
Yoga/meditation centres/clubs or whatever you call them
Thank you
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try >>>/trv/ or the sino general on >>>/int/
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Guangzhou is a good city, has alot of stuff if you're looking to buy shit.
It's an industrial hub of some sort.
I can't give any info about facilities but it will have everything there for you. I think it will be a good trip for you, you will enjoy it
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Broke up with a gf of almost 3 years this spring, decided to get back into the action just a few weeks ago, hooked up with a new girl and couldn't get it up...
I know this shit happens, but it was very weird for me because she was into it, we were both relaxed - or seemed to be relaxed, and I don't have a self-image problem - awesome and regular sex with my ex when we were together.
Buit now it just didn't click and I don't know why. It's not like when I had the same problem when i just started my sex life and was unsure whether or not I can do well. I KNOW I can, yet Johnson decided to sleep this one out.
Now I'm nervous about the next time because I don't understand the reasoning behind what happened - or, rather, didn't happen.
Any advice?
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Doctor prescribes two cans of beer for relaxing
I'm dating my gf for a decade now and I still get it from time to time
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>>18569148
Thanks, but alcohol isn't my best friend to say the least. In fact I had a white russian when we were in bar just before going home and I think it may have contributed to the issue, although I'll never know
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Google alcohol dick and avoid alcohol before sex.
Get Viagra prescribed and take a quarter of the pill. Ise a cock ring. Focus on foreplay.
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So im with this girl for around a month now.
She is 20, im 24. Had a talk about several things:
Seems like she cant handle all the affection i give her, even so she likes it whenever i do. Making excuses about her being not accustomed of someone showing that much care about her. Her ex seemed to be an asshole and verbally abused her.
Anyway, all i do is kiss her neck/forehead or hug her from time to time and ask her if she needs some basic shit (expl, something th drink) while hanging out during the day. Really nothing crazy clingy shit.
The "problem" seems to be that she is going to start studying in another city only about 1,5h away by train in 3 months now. Big thing for her since its her dream. She feels like not wanting to bind too strong cause she fears, doing the same mistake of placing someone else above her own needs again.
Seriously its all cool for me, since i dont have any intentions to distract her from her studies and i told her.
I have been there myself 5 years ago and know how that shit is going down, so im pretty chill about it and know that this relationship will be pretty easy to maintain.
She will come back to "my" city twice a week cause of the sports training we booth go to in the evening anyway, so she can stay at my place during the night, while one of the days is at the weekends, so we can spend at least a full day each week together. Also i can visit her easily during the week as well.
Anyway, i dont seem to manage her to chill, since its going to be way easier than she thinks it will. I
just want her to open up without the fear of me breaking her like she got broken in the past. She feels safe being with me, while also she doesnt know what to do with these kind of emotion.
So the question is: How do i make her just accepting her feelings and not being overly cautious about them, since that seems to be the main issue here.
Im sorry for the confusing sentences i may have written.
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gtg. coming back in a few hours.
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how do i uphrade my business english on my own?
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Spellcheck
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"Business English"? As in formal English? If so I'd suggest to read a lot. Maybe join an advanced English course.
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Read and spell check. Read academic journals, books, not basic ones but college level books.