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>cont.


In the meantime of all of this I fail my visa interviews twice and now there's literally nothing more I can do to go visit her. I'm fully out of options and tell her whatever she wants to do in the future, is up to her, I've done quite frankly everything I could. I tell her we could still see each-other some place else if she wanted.

Before I fail the second one she tells me she's gonna go on a road-trip with friends, but if I do manage to go there she can fly back so that we can see each-other again. That doesn't work since I fail the visa part, and now there's basically a high-chance we'll never see each-other again. She says she's genuinely sad about that, but that I shouldn't worry, 'we'll see each-other some day'.

In the midst of all of this I am like 95% sure she doesn't have someone else; she was never big on relationships and never really had a fling either; her longest rel. was like 5 months I think. My last one was 4+ years

We keep casually chatting about little nothings, I still initiate, but about a week ago I just drop it because my life is just a mess (I think)

I forgot to mention I bought a house for us, in case she moved here; I checked with her on a few furniture things so that she'd like them too, especially that we have enough room for her clothes.

For a few days now she's been initiating contact, now that she has more time from her road-trip with friends. She even sent me pictures.

Then she's like "we should go traveling together if we have the chance". I tell her chances can be made. She says let's go to Mexico; I'm like...okay, sure. Yea let's go there and there in September or so, because in Feb I'm going to my parents (we're both expats). Okay, let's go to mexico city and cancun for a week in september. She's like ok we'll book tickets when I get back from the trip

Fucking character limit

We texted over new year's and such, she was checking what I was up to, she told me to be happy and such. On one hand it feels like she's more worried about me than still having a thing for me. She knows that I had to drink myself to sleep for 2-3 weeks and that I got very sad about our various bumps along the way.

Lately I've tried being less 'into it' and coming off as a bit more cool and laid-back about it; I think she prefers that, but it's really killing me, I can't do this much longer. I almost was over it and then we start talking daily again. Who the fuck does that with 'just friends'?

I'm just gonna try and keep this up until we actually get tickets for autumn vacation, but wtf? How do I handle this? What the fuck is going on?

I don't even want to ask her, she probably has no idea either. She'll just take the safe way out again and say nah no we're just friends. Maybe I'm overthinking it and she'll want to bring friends to our trip too, but still.

There's really no advice to be had, I just...I'm sick of my life and this constant shit. I want someone stable I can build things on, and I am so sure we'd be awesome together if we were actually physically together.

She also seemed happy that I managed to progress with my career and music while we were apart, probably one of those boring cliche signs that your life doesn't depend on them (which in some sense it does, and she also felt it). But what's so wrong in wanting to keep someone that makes you happy.

So yea, that's to some extent the story.

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last bump

>>16627209

Anyone experienced hearing things that can't be real? I can't live like this

>>16627209
I used to get this alot when I was in middle school and highschool. Its a long road to accept yourself (how your standing, stupid shit like are my eyebrows normal, etc..), but you'll get there. Just try not to think too much about it and think of all of your good qualities. What helped me stop "hearing" people talk shit was being more mentally present. Taking out the music might help or interacting with more people. I found that the more positive interactions I have with people (which starts with being friends and possitive, not matter how awkward you are or feel) boosts your self esteem. Leading to less reasons to think that people don't like you. Just keep working at it and it will improve, I promise!

>>16627272

Nice digits and thanks, I'm 18 btw and going university next year but I'm worried about it. Also how does one be mentally present when walking on your own?

Play penis?

>>16629283
I do that but you can't really do it for several hours and not get bored

>>16629280
What games do you usually play? Also what was the last game you actually played the shit out of and when was it?

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>>16627167
Get out and stay out

shaking my head

>>16629225
?

I don't know how these things work man.

>>16629234
Rule of thumb: If you have to ask, it's probably not an LDR.

You're going to get better performance from a single card than doing SLI. Also future proof is a really dumb phrase as nothing is future proof.

>>16627196
When I say future proof I just mean something that will have me playing the latest games for at least a few years. I realize the future is impossible to predict.

Also all the benchmarks I have seen show sli outperforming or matching most of the expensive gpu for half the cost so what makes you say the performance when using sli being worse?

>>16627196
Your virginity is

Worth noting that when they first met, I didn't pick up on any rudeness or insults from him.
He acted and talked the way he usually does. Granted, he's a very unusual person, but if there's any malicious behaviour it's going unnoticed by me and everybody else around me.

>>16629133
If your best male friend isn't doing anything wrong, and you're not doing anything wrong, I think it's your girlfriend's fault. I think she lied about any malicious behavior (in the beginning) just to rustle your panties. Perhaps you're just blind to it because you love her

>>16629165
Why do you jump to the conclusion that she's deliberately lying?

Simple misunderstanding is a possibility, unintentional insults on his behalf are a possibility, completely negligence on my behalf to notice malicious behaviour is a possibility.
Even if you excuse both myself and my friend as a causal factor, that doesn't automatically mean she lied.

Nausea is caused by so many things it's impossible for me to say. You could just be dehydrated, you could have been drinking, or you could have stomach cancer.

So try to think of anything, anything at all, that has been different from what you usually do.

>>16627134
I can't think of a single thing. I've been drinking 6 glasses of water daily, my eating habits haven't changed, either. Maybe I should go see a doctor? But, id so, what type?

>>16627114
Does anyone else have any suggestions? I've noticed that they tend to happen after I eat.

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Reality check, no one who browses 4chan is an alpha.
No one cares if you're handsome, stop blowing your own cock.

>but around women I don't know what say

yeah, you're no alpha lmao.

Alphas don't give a shit about women, they say what they want and do what they want, you sound like you've got your own head up your ass with your beautiful physical characteristics, when really if you're having issues with just initiating conversations you're more beta then most guys below 5/10.

Maybe you should have tried improving just socializing with human beings you autistic fuck, women aren't goddesses, they're humans. Talk to them like you would talk to your friends.

You sound really stupid.

>>16627195
This

>>16627195
>hurr durr women are just humans
>just talk to them like others xD

I fucking hate this stupid shit give me actual tips or mental cues or something.

Besides, where do you meet girls in the first place?

Not really a big deal as long as you were up-front about it. It'd be a dick move if you made the plan, and just didn't show up

>>16627059
Go youtube.

I taught myself from when I was 6, never formally trained, and I'm a damn site better than most I've heard

Pick your favorite song that doesn't sound too complicated. If you like EDM, especially techno, you're in luck because they're stupid simple and easy to learn.

Listen to that song on youtube. Then, try and piece together part of the melody on the keyboard.
Keep doing this.
It sounds like shit because you're only using one finger. Now you gotta use two. Then more, and more.

Eventually you'll notice some reoccurring concepts, pressing certain keys in a certain order makes a chord progression
Some chords sound dark, others sound happy, etc etc.


TL;DR: Piece together the simplest songs you like using one finger, then two, then both hands. Learn to separate the bass (Left hand) from the treble (right hand)
keep playing

I've been doing this for 12 years so it's hard for me to describe just how I learned, but this is the basics of what I did.

I'll explain the best I can if you have any questions

>>16627059
I also learned it by myself. Look on Youtube for Songs you like and add "midi" to your search.
If you´re lucky you might be able to connect the keyboard to your pc/laptop. Then you can use Symphonica. That´s the program this videos are made but it´s mainly used to learn songs without knowing the sheet music, notes, etc.

it'll stop when you stop worrying about it

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>>16629119
How the fuck do I even do that

Bumping for this poor guy.

I am not a man but I think your cause is that maybe you're afraid she's too good for you? Maybe you're afraid of being a failure, a fuckup? Maybe you have the fear of rejection?

But yeah if you were my boyfriend I would know this would hurt your self esteem and I'd comfort you. I know how bad this shit can hurt a man. Is she at least understanding (empathetic) of your problem? Does she seem like she wants to help?

>>16627051
Did you put a bread in there?

>>16627067
No i'm a different guy (she was a girl though)

>>16627051
It speaks to you traveler

It knows the way

Saying I love you after one week? Finally meeting? After 7 days. This sounds like a train wreck waiting to happen.

>>16629096
help y_y why?
We texted for hours to no end, and a week felt like a month

Are you literally 12? Why would you tell somebody you have never met "i love you"? Like seriously... However, i wouldn't worry too much. She's probably very nervous too. Just rrlac and try to have fun. Nothing else you can do really

Bait thread

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>>16627053
Thread is srs