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>>16628727
Great bIog faggot, but this isn't a bIog board.

Forgot to mention, how do I overcome this insecurities?
Sorry for not asking a proper question, I thought this would be understood

>>16628786
If you are that effected by a stager giving you shit, then you will get it 10x worse here.

This is my life. I realize every chance I missed, and I get depressed and become a slob, and the chances don't come any more. Suicide is probably the solution.

>>16628726
You're a faggot and this is /adv/, not

>fix a pathetic faggot's shitty dating tendencies

/thread

>>16628735

Wait isn't that /adv/ in a nutshell? What else do we ever talk about?

if you know she likes you and you two hang out on the reg, light "kino" is key. pick a random non-sexual place (eg her hand, her hair, her leg if you're already in) and touch it, appreciate it then it escalates from there

>>16628696
>lf she reaIIy Iiked you, this wouIdn't be a probIem

But you're a beta Iying to yourseIf. Keep doing that.

>>16628696
Easy. If you know she likes you, touch her. Like another Anon said, pick a place on her body, and touch her. Come up behind her, put your hands on her waist, and put your face into her neck. You don't even have to kiss her. Just make a move, silly.

>>16628694
>This pathetic bIog

IoI

Stop being a chick.

No man in his right mind wants to be friends with a girl.

>>16628732
Dude. Who hurt you? I'm a guy, and I have a fiancée I'm faithful to, and female friends I wouldn'the fuck with OP's dad's dick, and you pushing.
Fucking grow up, basement dweller.

>>16628674
Sure, might as well.
I'd also stop at a pharmacy on the way and get some relaxant medicine.

go to the doctor. it might be a mental health issue, or worst case scenario it's some kind of tumor.

>>16628671
I dunno it could be my concience? I've done something really bad.

>>16628679
Could be, but it's very rare that a guilty concious actually SPEAKS to you. Honestly, OP, seek professional help.

Shaving ass is not a solution. I'm hairy too, and I used to have problems like yours. You just need to keep that part clean all the time. Here is what works for me. I take a shower every morning and spend like 1/4 of shower time cleaning ass. Just make sure you use good soap so it wont make your skin dry. Another thing I do is I try yo take a dump right before shower. If I can't do it for some reason and I need to take a dump in the middle of day, I always use baby wipes. I started doing this like 5 years ago and since that I have no problems with hairy ass. I shave balls sometimes and it's hell. Can't imagine how to shave ass.

>>16628663
I feel for you, OP. I'm not a hairy dude, quite the opposite, but I do have butt hair. My fiancée likes buttstuff, on me and on her. I'm a slight ginger, easy razor burn... trim, and then... who knew... Nair. They even make a more hardcore Nair for Men. Ten, fifteen minutes with that shit on your crack... hairless. Doesn't even burn, even on my stupidly sensitive skin. Seriously. Try it out.

Every woman deserves to be loved. I think you are getting to be undisciplined - because of your heartache. Don't hurt others in the process. Back off, and be patient to find someone you really love.

>>16628618
OP here, that's what I was thinking. I don't feel ready to try and love again, and if I end up feeling the same way later into the relationship, and she ends up liking me even more, it's gonna hurt her more.

>>16628635

sounds to me like you dont really love her. if there is a 'spark' go for it but it sounds like you just knew someone for so long that you got tooooo comfortable with them and were in that practically dating space anyway.

id break it off and explain that you want to keep being friends for another 7 years. explain the 'soulmate' friends idea and that is what confused you.

>>16628590

>the likelihood

whatsi t matter? thats like asking 'whats the likelihood that i got aids?'

she either did or didnt. likelihood has no factor in it. if it was a simple yes or no, sure, but its not, you are asking for a percentage here.

morning after pills are effective up to 3 days after the fact so if you are that paranoid, ask her if she'd take soem if you bought some.

generally speaking if shes on birth control, she sfine, so i dont know why you are asking the likelihood if shes not on birth control (do you not trust her?)

>>16628593
Yeah I don't really trust her

idk why I raw dogged a girl I don't trust

>>16628597

sex hormones i dont honestly blame you. people are quick to call you an animal or a retard, but we've all done REALLY stupid shit while in the middle of sex that we didnt initially intend. thats kinda what sex does to you.

hopefully it scares you enough to bring back that fear next time though.

etiher way, ask her to take the morning after pill, and ask her to update you on teh status of her period.

im curious, do straight men do this? i feel like if i was straight id want to know whenever my gfs period was starting just so im in the loop

What thread?

you arent the only kevin is the world you fucking idiot

Only a kevin would make such a dumb thread

>>16628556

it depends on two things.
1) what they think
2) if you are playing with people in the room.

the first is obvious. some couples have no problem with it. some would hate you for it. there is no right answer, its literally just their opinion.

the second is a little more tricky. even if they are comfortable with it in person, they might get upset about learning how their partner feels about the people in the room. a girl might find it offensive if she was chosen to be married, but not fucked. or fucked, but not married. the guy too. even if not people in the room one partner might be TOO jealous, but if they are mature and its all in good fun most wont care.

ultimately it should be fine, but people all have their own quirks.

>>16628614
The three people to pick to kill/fuck/marry were celebs. My gf didn't even want to answer the marry/fuck part.

>>16628622

she may find it crass. i imagine you know her better than we do, but some ladies simply do not like those sorts of questions, or are only comfortable answering them in front of other people.

as guys we are taught to be rather open about our sexual itnerests (as long as they are hetero) but girls will often feel embarassed admitting there is a sexual side of them. there are still girls who dont want to feel slutty. and playing fuck/marry/kill with people she isnt comfortable with might upset her.

if it was just the two of you in the room, id take that as a sign that shes simply not interested.

>>16628555
>is she an alcoholic?
What do you think, given what you've told us?

>>16628560
Yes desu senpai. I don't know, it's just hard to acknowledge that something I grew up thinking was normal might be a legitimate addiction issue.

I'm more worried about how she's going to take it when I try to confront her about this. Maybe I should just let her drink herself to death and leave it alone, but she says/does stupid things when she's been drinking. I feel like I'd be doing a disservice to her if I just leave her to rot.

2 cases in a week and drunk every day. Yes she is a alcoholic.

Obviously i never had the situation of approaching someone with this problem. But mention the things you said you worry for her health and she is starting to annoy you. Also don't forget the underlying problem there might be no one drinks that much alone for fun.

>>16628525

melatonin if you have it. any other sleeping pill if you dont.

you can always put on headphones and listen to sleep hypnosis. i find it easier to fall asleep if i cover my head with the blanket as well, leaving a small hole for oxygen to filter in. worse comes to worst just put on the TV and watch til you absolutely cannot stay awake despite the noise. i know you might have work or plans tomorrow but this isnt the first time nor the last time you will have a sleepless night because of other people making noise. might as well just accept it and try not to be angry.

>>16628525
Thanks, anon. I wish you a good night (or what's left of it).

>>16628497

shes 1.5 years old, she doesnt understand the concept of expensive. get her any generic doll. ask her mother or father what she likes. my neice was obsessed with minnie mouse even at that age so i got her one of those.

imo simple toys have always been the best. i remember it being way more fun to project thousands of different stories onto a single action figure than it was to play with a very specific but expensive toy like those monkey climbing stuffs.

she wont remember anyways. and your family already knows your poor so there is literally no reason to think that thy would judge you even more over this.

>>16628497
Soft small cotton blanket. She'll carry that thing around for years.

Clothes, maybe something she can grow into in the next few months. She's not going to understand the concept of presents at her age, she probably already has enough toys, and she's constantly growing so her parents will be grateful for them.

therapists have very little to do with therapy. most of the value is the catharsis from talking. the rest of the work you have to do yourself, but they've been trained in supporting and helping people.

Do you know a better option?

>>16628496
therapists know things that you don't.
they may be flawed, but they are trained to help you with problems pertaining to your mental health.
that's why you would go see one.

but, as you said, they do have a bias, which is why you should try a few, until you find one who's bias you agree with.