I want to know what defines a person as assexual. I'm having some issues defining my sexuality and I really don't feel atracted to both (men and women), already had tried to bond romaticaly and sexually and still can't feel a thing. Just want to make sure if is just a thing in my head or a actual fact.
Happy New Year.
Ps- Sorry for my English.
Why do you need to label yourself? Why can't you just do what you want to do?
not wanting to bang
>>16628448
scientifically asexual referred to a species that could reproduce on its own.
i dont know how official the following definition is, but its generally accepted that someone who is an asexual human is someone who does not feel sexual attraction at all. im not sure how realistic that is, i mean if something gives you a boner you are not asexual. women may be able to 'fake' this more but im not aware of any REAL cases of someone biologically incapable of feeling arousal. i imagine it might be possible though.
can you get a boner or lady boner anon? can you feel turned on? cuz if so you are some sort of sexual.
as for romance, not everyone is a love slut. most people are, especially when young. but as you get older and the more you date the more that sort of thing burns out as you get used to it. but some people are born that way. they odnt connect with someone romantically easily. you might one day meet the right person who gives you a spark. might not.
either way, if you are asexual, it doesnt really matter and you dont really need to define it. there isnt much of ap oint to it.
I'm really vibing this girl from work. From what I can tell, it's mutual... I think
We see each other a couple days throughout the week. We throw occasional glances at each other as we walk past. We work at a busy "fancy," italian restaurant.
Requesting advice from people who've lived the experience:
How do I ask her out? We've talked between errands at work and realistically, barely skimmed the surface. Would I be coming on too strongly? We've never spoken outside of work... but I intuit that the interest is there. Thanks in advance.
Anybody?
>>16628442
Ask her to get a drink after work.
>>16628539
As good advice as any. I'll try that.
I just want to make out with her!
Hey /adv/,
How do people feel like anything but walking garbage? I can't imagine what anyone would want to do with me.
>invited over to ex's house, basically for new years smex
>she thinks she loves me
>I have no idea how to fix this
>mumbling/walkhome.jpg
I just want to know what the hell I can do to pull my head out of my ass enough to properly care for other people. It seems like I can at least try to make people happy, but even that's just clinging to smiles and snippets of thanks.
Fuck, how can I make people happy if I can't understand happiness?
>invited over to ex's house, basically for new years smex
You're already immediately more desirable than most people who post on this board.
You're feeling sorry for yourself because your priorities are out of order. Suck it the fuck up.
>>16628433
What do people prioritize then?
I'm a bit drunk at the moment, considering it's New Year's... I celebrated with a close friend of mine at another friend's house.
But, my close friend has a girlfriend...and I could swear she likes me. All night she was looking at me, our eyes always met when we talked,and we talked a lot, her feet were always touching mine...my friend seemed oblivious.
I'm not sure what to do. I think I like her, too. I was thinking about maybe messaging her on Facebook, or Poking her, idfk.
wtf do I do?
If it's worth losing your friend, go for it. If you have any intention of keeping your friend, stop drinking for the night and don't message anyone.
>>16628393
honestly...and I really do mean this, I don't think my friend would stop being friend with me. I know that seems weird to say, but....we're like Stand By Me close lol.
You're right, I shouldn't message her. Is poking her too weird?
im so confused
6 years ago I was “friends” with a 30 year old pedophile.
I was 13, he groomed me using hentai. I thought we were friends, I didn’t know any better. We webcammed. I didn’t know what pedophilia was.
I’m tearing up, he used to send me very suggestive texts, a detailed message of “how I want to do you” when I was only 13.
He usually texts me in the beginning of each year. He texted me yesterday. I’m scared as fuck. I’m an adult now. He ruined me. He still thinks I’m his friend. I am not angry, I want to teach him a lesson. I am afraid he will think I’m angry and he will start being angry. What to do? Is there a way to tell him to stop and stop talking to me without sounding hostile or angry?
>>16628364
if you didnt enjoy it, why did you do it? if you enjoyed it, why are you ashamed now?
i remember speaking to a LOT of pedophiles growing up, and 99% of the time it was a pretty nice experience. there was some dramatic ends, but thats kind of the nature of human relationships regardless of age.
either way you are being contradictory. you want to teach him a lesson, never talk to him again, and not sound hostile? none of those things really go together.
if you want to teach him a lesson, go to the cops.
if you want to stop takling to him, block his number.
if you dont want to make him angry, change your number.
Any pics or greentexts?
I know it's hard, but block his number. Just don't contact him again, under any circumstances. Remove this person from your life. You have to just believe that he doesn't have your best interests at heart no matter what he says and block him. That's it.
I have been friends with someone on-line for over 5 years now. We have never met. We were 14 at the time and I am now coming on 20. I have extra money and would really like to go meet them. I live in Ireland, her Mexico. Me (male), her (female).
Problem is, my family does not know about her. When I was younger I just never said, and it never gotten easier. I feel really awkward because it has become a secret. Realistically, I know it is a strange situation and I feel that my family/parents will think so. I have no idea how to bring it up or what to do to make this happen.
I would love any advice, experiences or even how you d go about it.
>>16628344
instead of saying you are going to visit someone, make it out that you are taking a personal vacation and have decided on mexico. when they ask why say you do have a friend there and they always talked it up to be really fun, and you'd be able to make the trip cheap with their help (even if you'll just end up at a hotel anyway, this is just for your parents sake).
they probably will find it weird regardless, it is something their generation cant really understand. who cares? you are an adult and can do it anyway. no cheat code here, you cant find the secret to convincing them. just make it like you are doing a normal vacation and sprinkle your friend into the mix.
they might even feel BETTER about you having a friend there like
>oh hey mom and dad, im going to mexico
>are you sure son? that sounds really far and dangerous
>i actually have a friend who lives there, so they'll be able to show me around and help me out
>oh okay, thats not so bad, just be careful i hear a lot of online scammers
>dont worry, she confirmed she realyl was a hot young girl when she finger banged her pussy for me on webcam
>thats my boy!
You're an adult, just act like you're going on vacation, and when you get back tell them you had a great time and got to hang out with an old friend. Only go into details about online if they asked where or how you met.
I like this. I think I'll try using some of this.
Just to clear up aswell: I know completely that the whole situation is weird . And i'm not like one of those fucking idiots on catfish who never saw them and assumes they are real. 5 years, webcam loads, phone loads, facebook, all that. Not in love with her.
But yeah you are right, stuff can happen like this now and the I suppose their generation won't really understand.
Thanks Anon, message made me feel better and good advice
I'm an adult woman and sometimes I scare myself cause I write stuff and when I read it I literally so deeply remind myself of?
A 12 year old girl. Like when I'm writing about cute celebrity guys...
I scared myself. Is it cause I'm a virgin? At this age I should be sounding like I'm raunchy and mature but it seems my mind about guys and dating has not,at its core, progressed past age 13. :(
Like what???
>>16628317
Probs bait but try hanging out with more 'mature' female friends and learn from their actions.
>>16628317
I mean you certainly type like one. Snide remarks aside, you probably still have an adolescent view if relationships due to a lack of experience. If you don't have any relationships or sexual interactions, what would be the catalyst for growth?
>>16628338
I've had sexual encounters. I know what it's like to be up on a man.
Hi! I'm male 22, and I have really long- like 60cm, straight, dark hair with an undercut (shaved nape). Also I've got some kind of hair fetish and this is the main reason why I keep my hair so long. Besides the long hair I'm really into feminine extreme haircuts like angled bobs with shaved napes, baby bangs, chelsea cuts, etc. I'm bored with my hair and I want to try something new, like one of haircuts I listed. The problem is that I'm really afraid and scared of people's reactions- family, friends, people at university or random stranges. How to deal with it and how to convince myself to go to the hairdresser and ask for a feminine cut? What do you think about haircuts I mentioned? Which one choose for the first try? I really need your help, because it's really big deal for me and it bothers me every day :( Thanks
yeah
Tell me everything will be okay, /adv/.
>>16628301
Everything will be okay
>>16628313
liar
>>16628301
it depends. are you going to do something about it all, or just operate under the assumption that it will randomly be okay?
>was on told New Year's Eve I'm sterile and have liver cancer
>no treatment for the former, arduous treatment for the latter
>I don't even drink
>planned to ask this girl out yesterday but was so bummed I didn't bother; a mutual friend said she was weirded out by me that day and isn't interested but was prior
I think this is it, /adv/.
>>16628251
make a list of all the shit you wanna do. bucket list. why not.
worst case scenario, you do all the things you've always wanted to do before dying.
best case scenario, you survive and also did a bunch of awesome shit.
I'm ugly
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cg9x90Xo-Oc
>>16628244
well... yeah.
kek
So last week for Christmas I got a new Samsung 850 EVO 250 GB SSD and I have created a boot drive with it, as in I installed Windows 8.1 and all my essential programs to it. Now I want to wipe all my data from my old WD Blue 1TB HDD to free up the space on it (Ive backed up my important stuff already). I cant seem to find anything on YouTube or Google and my IT guy is away. So basically how do I restore my Hard Drive and remove all the useless stuff on it without breaking it?
>>16628221
>plug in harddrive
>right click icon
>format
you are welcome.
>>16628229
Thanks Anon. I built this computer with my own two hands but Im kind of retarded when it comes to actually using it.
>installing windows 8+ on an ass
But all those wasted write cycles from auto updates and botnet, senpai
i just contacted my ex that i still cant get over a letter, of how i still feel about her and my appreciation, what am i in for? happy new years btw
>>16628210
You're gon regret it.
Burn it all down.
The past is for books.
>>16628222
its ok, i sent it to her on fb then deactivated it because i dont want to have social network for this upcoming year
How do I work or become a part of adult swim?
>>16628198
as part of the programming block or on one of the adult swim shows?
if the programming block, i imagine the best way would be to go to their website. it says:
How can I get a job at [adult swim]?
Your best bet is to go to www.TurnerJobs.com and check for Adult Swim jobs there. You can even submit your resume through that site. Your worst bet is to pester us on the message boards.
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so there is that. i imagine adult swim is a rather small company, as it doesnt need many workers to do what it does. a lot of its original programming is considered 'indie'.
if you want to work on one of their shows, you'd have to apply through them directly. a lot of their content is 'acquired' as in dubbed anime or syndication from other shows. these are extremely hard to break into.
their original programming might have openings but if you have no production skills they have no reason to hire you really. those shows are pretty tightly run as well, so unless you know a guy its not gonna happen.
>>16628217
Thanks for the advice friend
>>16628230
Hi,
So when i'm having sex, I don't enjoy as much as before and i feel less horny than before.
I started taking the pill a few months ago. Before that I use to be horny all the time.
Does that happen to a lot of girls? I don't know how to stimulate my sexual life.
Thank you
This also happened to me. What kind of pill are you taking? Different synthetic hormones will have different effects.
When I was on first the pill (low estrogen) my sex drive skyrocketed - I became insatiable. It was actually annoying. After a year and a half my sex drive plummeted, I had dryness during sex, and there was nothing I could do to change it (no amount of foreplay, mental relaxation, or anything could change it). The problem really is the type of pill you're taking. Unfortunately, you really can't do anything to counteract the synthetic hormones since they're so strong. I would do some research online and try another type of pill with different hormones. The best option would be hormone-free birth control. I got a copper IUD over a year ago and my sex drive went back to normal, and I feel great without any moodiness or any other problems.
Yes, the pill can fuck with your hormones. You might want to talk to your doctor and try a different kind. A lot of them will lower your libido, but if it's lowering it to the point that you don't even want to have sex, why even take it? It might take some trial and error before you find one right for you.
The first kind I took made me burst out into tears randomly. The second kind killed my libido and increased the chance of yeast infections. Then I got one that still lowered my libido, but not too badly, so I stuck with that.
>>16631286
Happens to most women on the pill. Consider an alternative form of birth control. Nuvaring, IUD, and implants typically have a lower rate of decreased sex drive. Figure out which one you're most comfortable with.