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>>16774326
Youre being kinda a birch

How would you like it if he was talking to some grill behind your back about all his problems with you? What if he is going through some shit? You aren't really supposed to shop around for a new guy before you dump the other, because that makes you an asshole. You obviously dont give a lick about him just about being woth him so find a new guy to load your issues on and try to be faithful to him.

Your honestly sounding like a ninth grader anon. Dont be a Cuck

Tell him exactly what your wrote at the bottom on your post and if he responds positively then you can work with him and try to fix things.
If he doesnt.
Then leave him (you should have already done this seeing as your cheating on him emotionally and the only thing stopping you from doing it physically is distance. ..) how would you feel of it turned out this new guy had a gf or fiancé and was talking to you like this.2 chatting you up, whatever else and then when you finaly meet him he has a SO ? Theb what? Are you the kind of slut that would fuck another womans man ?

>>16774345
>>16774349
I've tried talking to him several times but it always ends with him getting upset.
I've been talking to the guy as a friend, but as a friend he has been a better boyfriend in some months and gave me more support than anything my boyfriend did in 5 whole years.
This made me realize how much I've been missing out and how it feels like he never cared much after the second year.
I care about him, I care so much that I've been debating what I should do and debating if there's something wrong with me, I've been blaming myself and it's just making things worse, I WANT THINGS TO WORK OUT but he's never there for me, and out of all my friends this one is the one that puts his neck on the line for me, if it wasn't for him trying to help me in an act of friendship and actually caring I wouldn't be here.

I don't want to have feelings for him, I tried my best with my boyfriend but it feels like he's not trying to put up his best face for me.
What can a person do when they're on the verge of suicide and the only help comes from someone else while their current "best friend" just manages make himself the victim? What can I do if that person is extremely nice and makes me feel like a real person again with dreams?

>>16774318
Exchange emails and start writing letters.

Its cuter too

>>16774338
We mostly communicate via emails already

You can't change the time zone and you can't change your class schedule. That means you have to adapt to the situation. It seems hard because it means doing things differently to how you're used to doing them. Keep emailing, and even though it might take longer to reply to each other, you can still maintain your friendship.

>>16774298
just do it, man.

i used to work in the music industry. and, yeah, it's easy to sing to a crowd. but doing it right in front of just one person, one person you know, is always way more daunting.

no real tricks though. you just gotta start and eventually the anxiety goes away.

i suppose you could try looking away from her. kind of kills the intimacy but it might help ease the process.

as a music major, I'd much rather play/sing for my hypothetical fiancee rather than for my professor/studio-mates

I think it would totally help if you started by singing from another room first, like in the kitchen while she's in the living room? And then gradually in the same room, til you can sing in front of her. Talent should always be celebrated and shared, but I know it's difficult when the person you're sharing with /means/ something to you.

>>16774288
How do you know their religion?

>>16774403
I know their race, not their religion. Most jews are non religious.

>>16774430
And Judaism is not a race.

>>16774285

don't ruin it by overthinking

just see where it goes

>>16774293
this.

it's nothing right now, OP.

next time you see her, ask her for her number and possibly on a date.

>>16774314
Yeah I was thinking I'd ask her if she has plans for the weekend (meetings on Thursdays) and then segue into asking her if she wants to get coffee or something.

Asking what a girl plans on doing over the weekend is a clear segue into asking on a date, right?

(As a side note, I know it's nothing at this point. I mostly just wanted to talk about her and our first conversation because I'm bored and have to wait until next week to talk to her again)

This site is 18+ OP

>>16774308
I'm over 18

For /b/

I realize I'm stuck on this planet and seemingly my only way out is death which I don't want so I try to look at the positives and move on.

Use it as an opportunity to work on yourself. It's no secret most ppl hate change. But after a breakup your life is in disarray weather you like it or not. And while your busy picking up the pieces from your life, why not put it back together in a way that works for you?
For me I started small, just tiny distractions, like books, and art, then maybe work on yourself, work out a bit, build your confidence back up.
Basically what ever it is that lacking in your life can be built from the ground up. It's all about setting the blocks and supporting yourself first

A nice bullet through the temple. Preferably a .45 and up.

There is a lid for every container. You're just looking too hard and caring too much. Women do not like desperate men. Give up, stop looking and spend your time doing whatever you like. Only then will you find the lid to your container. Gl.

>>16774158
>Women do not like desperate men. Give up, stop looking and spend your time doing whatever you like.
What exactly does that have to do with not wanting to care that you're going to be forever alone/friendless? Is there something about yourself you want to tell us, Anon?

>>16774129

Wow. Congrats, you live in a shitty h-manga.

>5'2"

guy's life is bad enough already, just let it go

>>16774137
>shitty h-manga.
Wrong, their not brother and sister.

>>16774129

If you can't write anything other than lame troll bait threads, then yes, you should just keep quiet.

>>16774127

Probably because you're projecting your own feelings of anger towards yourself onto them. Improve your own life and you'll be less bothered by the success of others.

Because you're a failure and should do something with your life instead of getting angry at people who do.

>>16774127
Because you realise what could have been with better life choices... Or I'm just projecting.

>>16774095
if they don't dislike you, then they like you.. so that means they care about you in some level. I find I connect with some people better than others, and I have also tried hard to connect with someone that didn't care about me, like my ex gf for example, and in those situations I have ended up hurt.

Stick with the people that appreciate you.

>>16774095
You don't need people to care about you, you need to care about them, if only just enough to pay attention and listen to what they're saying. It's sort of an exchange, you give them your time and attention and they'll give you theirs, not everyone will do that but it feels fucking amazing when even one person does, and eventually someone always does. You sell yourself when the opportunity arises, but otherwise don't feel pressured to make yourself likeable to everyone, learn to genuinely like other people and they'll like you back.

It's not easy, it takes a lot of effort to get yourself into that mindset, but I think you'll ultimately feel more fulfilled because you won't be getting undeserved, empty praise. Nobody cares for people more than they care for themselves unless they're just totally broken, and believe me you don't want those people in your life, because as nice as they can be they're also just soulless bummers with low self esteem.

Maybe you are. Get over it and be happy and proud about that you got over it. This can strengthen you up, if something like this happens again and you'll be good much faster

>>16774037
Prioritizing their shitty relationship over any real obligations and responsibilities.

The whole damn world is just as obsessed
With who's the best-dressed and who's having sex
Who's got the money, who's got the hunnys
Who's kind of cute, and who's just a mess

>>16774037
Instead of focusing on your responsibilities and bettering yourself you get hooked up in pointless drama and trivial things.

>>16774034
Just go to a fucking Nordstrom and tell them what you want. They will pamper the hell out of you if you're there to spend money. Too 1% for Nordstrom? Go to a real outfitter. They're all over.

>>16774034
If you are going to spend that much money or want to look good I recommend you buy in person so they can tailor it specifically to your size.

>>16774069
This. If you want a nice suit you are going to have to get it fitted. I mean you can always get alterations done after you buy it, but if you're gonna throw down some money on something expensive just get it done right the first time like a person with money actually does.

I'd go with Brooks Brothers, but that's just a preference.