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You fucked up, we all do it sometime or another man. You can't go back and change it but you can improve yourself and learn from the experience. Get a new hobby, start working out, start improving areas of yourself you usually don't want to admit exist.

She is not the only girl in the world and you will not always feel this way about her, you'll meet someone else. Just gotta work on you for now.

She isn't perfect, you're only projecting your ideas of perfection onto her. She still gets bitchy on her period, she sometimes has to take a massive log shit, she constantly complains, and she can't give a handie or a blowjob to save her life. Shit happens. Either try again or move on

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>>16797659

>>failed relationship after relationship

Didn't you just answer your own question?

In any case just ignore that shit. They are on to something, but in the end it is not about making the gf jealous. It's really about demonstrating to your partner that you have a life, goals, and ambitions beyond just the relationship.

You include your partner in your life so you can enrich each other - you don't make them the sole reason for your continued existence.

>>They act like it's the fucking truth of truths while they have failed relationship after failed relationship.
Kinda says all that matters doesnt it? You're in a long term relationship and married. They can't hold anything substantial, yet keep advocating shitty behavior.

I'd think more about the kinds of friends I make than anything if I were in your situation.

>>16797659
>You gotta let your girl know that you can pull at any moment
> pull

this hip hop slang, I swear. OP, are you a nigger?

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OP here. I would also like to know, how do I make threads that don't contain so little information that they're totally fucking impossible to reply to?

Don't try. Embrace the slings and arrows: their input is valuable. Nothing's better for finding weaknesses in your ideas than a cadre of naysayers. Once you know those weaknesses, you can set about addressing them, refining your ideas to a stronger point.

Naysayers are also good for telling "I told you so" after the fact.

You start by leaving the first ones in the dust.


My old friends from HS will talk down any idea I ever have.

They talked down me moving out on my own, cause its so expensive rahrahrah

They talked it down when I said my wife & I were going to have a baby

A lot of people don't want other people to succeed, it ruins their day.

They hear about your dreams & your success & all they think about is that they don't have what you got.

It makes them want to shit all over your good time.

Find other friends with drive, share in their successes & smoke cigars or whatever while laughing at the people who said you couldn't do it

>>16790757
Tell them you wanna look like a faggot with two weeks unwashed bedhead

Get a real haircut, not one that makes you look like a metrosexual hipster

>>16790757
Bring the photo.

'I wanna look like ridge forrester from the bold and the beautiful'
'you don't have his volume'
'ok'

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They are trying to help you, in their own way.

Almost 31 here. Be water my friend.

>>16797628

the thing about arguments is that it takes two people. as in, them vs. you.

assuming you dont live wiht them its as simple as this
>make dinner for them
>tell them you are not getting married, you dont want kids, and thats the way it is
>it is not your job to have kids for them
>tell them taht anytime they bring up this issue or try to argue, you will simply leave
>stick with this
>dont engage
>dont answer
>dont respond
>simply say 'love you guys, gotta go, bye'

>>16790731
If you're dumb why are you going to university? Do a trade and make a killing.

>>16790731
Don't know the job situation in Australia.

In Germany, I would go for Medicine, Pharmacy, Electrical Engineering, Computer Science or something that gives you a government job.

>>16790731
Economics.

>>16790729
No it's normal to go through this. Hate is one of the steps towards redemption. Just be careful to not focus too much on this by seeing your friends /other people. It will pass

Perfectly normal. Everybody go through this, especially after a long relationship

>>16790748
What are the other steps?

And.. non of us know the guy and your story gives 0 information

>>16790728
Any further back story we can use to help you?

>>16790728
Nope that's your biggest ally.

Look after sex cook for him.

Watch Netflix n actually chill with him.

Let him talk to you about the relationship if he's not asking he's deliberating.

Keep fucking him like you need his dick. After enough sex body chemistry will be on your side.

Make it obvious that your only fucking him.

Guys are simple lady

Sex+food + no bitching = a happy bf.

This is literally a battle of attrition on yourside cause you fell for him first.

You might as well you down fighting till the end.

He will fall just watch.

>>16790722
Scabies (are you sure it was scabies) mites don't live away from humans for more than 48-72 hours. Put it in a tied black garbage bag for, say, 5 days.

Read a fuck ton and your writing quality will improve.

As for writing good content, you need feedback.

My favorite author current "beta-tests" all his books, people give him feedback if certain plot points feel too long, dull, or overly complex.

Read good quality books.

A lot of the problem can stem from lack of inspiration. There are a lot of sites (reddit etc) that have areas full of writing prompts that can help inspire you.

>>16790725
>>16790751
>become better writer by reading more

Wrong. You become a good writer when you can properly express whatever situation or setting you are trying to convey. Therefore, go out into the world and try to experience your subject matter firsthand, in order to properly express the dramas, dangers, and places you want to describe

women genuinely do not care as much about looks as you would imagine, and anyways they rate like 80% of men as "below average" so most dudes are in the same boat and get dates anyways. Female appraisal of male physical attractiveness is warped and often has little to do with actual physical appearance.

>>16790710

Pretty much what anon said.

The best example I can think of, is getting to know somebody versus just looking at them.

I met a girl and thought she was "OK" in the looks department, but then I got to working with her over time and got to see her personality and now she's the woman of my dreams and probably the prettiest girl on the planet.

It's pretty much the same thing for girls, if you get to know somebody your attraction for them can skyrocket.

If you're relying on online dating though you're fucked.

Exactly. We don´t care about looks, we want somebody fun, intelligent and who is a good listener and can fuck. The more into looks a guy is, the more annoying and just into himself he is. Uglier guys and chubby guys generally have accepted who they are externally and are much cooler to be with.

yes. Almost everything shitty about women is also applicable to men. It is in fact possible to do it without being a misogynist, but impossible without becoming a *misanthrope* (unless you're naturally talented at it and are ignorant of what's going on).

It's the timeworn adage; don't hate the playa, hate the game. Life's a struggle - no need to be bitter about it.

Is there more to this story or

>>16797295
You're both toxic people.

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>on the computer she wrote "I didn't deserve any of this" (do you see how she is?)
>I spin her around in the chair and she has a gun by her side
>I don't exactly recall what I said, because I was fucked up a lot during this time. something tells me i wasn't on drugs though.
>anyway, i take away the gun
>something happens, something that makes me trust her kind of, like something she said that seemed like she'd snapped out of it, but idr exactly what that was. I wish I did.
>so I gave it back
>i don't remember much. I'm not sure if I took drugs or if the trauma prevents me from remembering
>long story short, I come home at lunch the next day and she is frantic/can't find her keys, is hyper pissed/depressed, and is saying how shitty she is
>I tell her she's not, probably not in the most genuine way
>I go back to work, get a text at the end of the shift that only says "bye"
>get home and she's dead with a bullet wound in the head
...
>thinking about finding her body or even about the whole situation makes me feel a way I'm not sure is in the list of emotions that can be felt.
>feels like i'm falling and confused

Anyway, was it my fucking fault or not?

>>16790659
she wants the d

she wants a gift from you

almost certainly not sex/a date, though, otherwise she would have asked what you were doing.

>>16790664
No she wants nice things for free.

>>16790617
Your premise is flawed.

My great-great grandparents were peasants somewhere in Eastern Europe.

My grandparents made the impossible-to-imagine journey to America and struggled their way into the working class.

My parents became white-collar middle-class homeowners.

Their children became successful professionals.

>>16790695
The premise wasn't flawed, as it was an assertion of self. As for yourself, you're as hopeless as your working class parents. The 21st century is a collection of mislead, mis-indentured corporatist working class saps.

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>>16790754