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>>16792134
Well I think they will like anything you do. Next time smile and wave

>>16792140
Sorry I didn't make myself clear enough but I'm trying to get a gf/laid here. How can I be an Alpha and take over the situation.

Anon, when a girl makes first move, everything you'll do or you'll say will be fine. Just talk and smile. Ask questions. Then, escalate as soon as possible.

apolpgize for my english they kinda mirror what is happening in my head being this anxious as you can see.

Breathe, damn it.

When you aren't breathing properly, you get neurotic and lose control.

Practice deep breathing. Learn how to breathe with your abdomen, not your chest.

Honestly there's a good chance that she's just as nervous as you are, try to remember that. Take a deep breath and go for it.

>>16792129
A good sense of humor is literally the number one aspect that everyone likes and makes girls attracted.
Don't know if those are attracted to you, but it's a good signal

Being the "funny" guy will get u numbers.
What it won't do is get u laid :)
Stop with the class clown shit and alpha the fuck up.

I didn't say that's all I do, I'm actually quite muscular and I'm 6'0. I just want to know if these specific chicks like me and what I can do to find out.

I didn't say I'm just funny. That's what they say as they grab my muscles. I just don't know if they have some kind of ulterior motives.

>>16792107
You are beyond pathetic for even considering getting back with him after what he told you

Go get yourself some self respect senpai

This is why girls aren't taken seriously

>>16792112
I suppose so. It's just that I have a very stubborn personality and I used to cut people off completely in the past. I wanted to be understanding and forgiving.

>>16792072

got any pictures of you? not just to see how attractive you are, but what kind. its easier to tailor your approach to women if we know what you look like. some guys cant pull off the douchebag approach. some can ONLY pull that off. show us what you're working with and we can tell you what options you have.

>my brother doesnt like parties but still got married

did he meet this girl at a party? if not, look for girls elsewhere. do you want to get in a relationship with a party girl?

>dating apps, zero success

i dont use them. at best they should supplement a dating life, but they are rarely useful, especially for heteros.

>i dont think getting muscles that would attract the kind of women that i seek

im sorry what? are only whores interested in muscle? its easier to seduce ANYONE when you have muscles. not just whores. there are plenty of geeky passive type girls who grew up watching anime and saw gokus bod and want that. very few girls find straight up skinny to be attractive, and if ur just 'average' that implies your guy is past your nipples, even if only a little bit.

being in reasonable shape will help you get any girl regardless of the 'type' you are trying to attract. what literary book loving girl doesn't want a big muscle man like gale?

>there was no chemistry

sounds like you didnt actually want to date her.

>BUT SHES A GIRL

not enough, you said so yourself. dont try dating or doing someone for the sake of it. human connection should be about human connection

>>16792072
Did you go to college? Do you have a professional career?

At this point you need some neutral point of view that can offer assistance based on what you look like and how you act. See the help of a professional.

>>16792085

I mostly try to look for girls elsewhere, but like I said, they all walk out from me.

I had male friends in the past who had nice gym-made bodies, but some of them still behaved like losers, even though gym is also supposed to change attitude. I fear this would happen to me too.

I also have an ugly friend who looks like fucking Edd from Ed, Edd n Eddy (with hat included), but has a qt gf, so you don't always need a nice body to get girls.


>>16792090

Yes, Computer Science.

Stop being around your girlfriend's sister.

>>16792078
This. My boyfriend's sister's the same - she hates me more than anything even though I've done nothing to her. I just avoid being around her, and I make an effort to be civil and polite if I do have to be around her.

A difference between my situation and yours is that my boyfriend does stand up for me against her (which probably makes her hate me more). I guess you could talk to your girlfriend about it, but it might be hard for her to stand up for you if she has a good relationship with her sister. My boyfriend's sister is a bitch to him too, so he doesn't mind it, but I do think it'd be more difficult for him if she was nice to him

>>16792088
I figure that if avoiding her sister complicates their time together as a couple, that deprivation will light a fire under his gf's ass to stand up against her sister. Not to make it sound manipulative but action sometimes requires a pain point.

>>16792065

no, just romantic. i mean if you do end up letting her do this, you are submissive in the literal sense, but not in the kinky sense. i love kinky sex but sometimes i want to be sensual and equal and stuff and its hard to be kinky while being equal.

Just steal it all off Reddit, it's what all the rest do.

Also, do something constructive with your life instead of meming, such as carpentry.

>>16792068
You either have a fetish for carpentry or a marketing shill. I see you in every thread

>>16792102
Its a pun, you fool

>>16792045

you male or female?

regardless the best you can do is deal with it on a personal level. your brother had his own demons to slay. maybe he did in the end. try to remember the positive times, or try not to remember him at all.

We need the full story, anon.

OP here
The full story would be:
>Brother and I are half blood brothers through our dad.
>Grew up in two seperate cities in Ohio.
>wern't around alot together through adolecents
>Brother is younger than I, but had "touched" me when we were kids. I rociprocated.
>I am a male.
> brother was closeted bi sexual
> I am gay, and open about it.
>brother randomly texts me last summer about wanting more in a sexual way
>I felt guilty, dirty, and bad about it.
> I let him into my apartment one time.
> we fuck
> next time I let him in at my new apartment while my room mate was at work, he wanted it and I couldn't do it anymore. I physically fought him off.
> we never spoke since 10 of 2015.
> I went off the deep end with moderate type 2 bi-polar and it caused me to go into behavioral health.
I feel so guilty about this.
My first thought was " thank god hes dead, now the secret can die with him".

>>16792039
Fuck/fap less.

>>16792043
This.

Also were to planning on giving us a reason why? I don't know what the fuck kinda advice you'd expect otherwise.

>>16792064

I don't know how to explain it better. I just stopped being attracted to her.

We haven't been together long, a few months. I love her personality, but I have no sexual attraction to her.

you wouldnt exist if it wasnt for them
grow up kid

>>16792034
Grow up and stop being salty

Uh-oh, sounds like somebody got grounded.

>>16792018
Mac or Windows?

>>16792018
Why doesn't anyone ever Google before coming here?


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>>16792270
Honestly I majored in cs and that means nothing to me.
If I had to guess it would simply be a program that could edit another program/(resource).
Like notepad.

>>16792016

you enjoy him, so why not just spend valentines having fun and enjoying what might be your last hurrah.

then next time you see him, say it was special and you want to maintain that, but your doubts are getting in the way. go over the doubts, and propose SOMETHING. we here at /adv/ dont know in what ways he is unreliable, so dont know how to tell you to go about fixing it tho.

a general rule would be setting up a sort of code word. when you say that code word, it implies that he is being unreliable and this is the sort of thing you need him to cave on.

You tried communicating already. What you need to confront is the reality that, after asking for something and not getting it in a reasonable time scale, you fucking walk away.

Allow to me to illustrate. Having told you to leave him, I'm going to give you the opportunity to come around. But you won't. You'll argue that you need to stay with him. And I'll be long gone from your thread because I put my money where my mouth is. You'll see for yourself how well that works out for me and how well insistence (doesn't) work out for you. Proof is in the pudding.

>>16792023
...why use a code word? Why not just say "I really need your help on this because..."

OP, in what ways is he unreliable? Do you mean he's flaking on dates, doesn't help out at home, nails on you when you need something?

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>>16792012
bump with the boognish.

>>16792012

congratulations. like 50% of the threads are me trying to explain this but they tend to devolve to the op just saying 'wah me'. but you managed to jump past that. now the healing begins.

many people are passionate about many things. so it stand sto reason that your passion can be searching for passion.

make a list of everything you think you wanna do. make a list of everything you wanna try. anything and everything. then of that list try what stands out most. like THIS weekend.

creative hobbies tend to be very fulfilling.

just doodling does not fulfil cuz there is no end game. you come home and you just scribble and maybe you make something good that day. but whats the point?

buit drawing a comic? sitting down and saying 'i got six issues planned and i need to release all of them on smackjeeves or deviant art or what have you'. it gives you an endgame. something to build towards. something to feel accomplished about when its done.

and if you like it a lot. you do it again. then if you dont like it, move on to something else.

its the difference between watching a movie, and filming one. reading a book and writing one. sitting in a chair and building one (lul carpentry).

try everything you want. it doesnt have to be a career. just something you look forward to doing. for me its filmmaking.

and remember, you dont have to be an expert. you just have to grow.

>>16792033
Thanks anon, I've been a musician for 15 years and it's grown old. I'm no longer passionate about it as I used to be so that really threw me off. Jokes aside was thinking of getting into building. I was searching for more of a dramatic live for die for kind of thing. But I guess in the real world (ie: not movies) it's not as romantic as that brave heart. Passion for finding a passion, i like that alot.

>>16791995
>>16791995
realize you dont suffer from it :)

I convert low self esteem and all connected to it into hate.
This will raise your selfesteem and you´ll start to accept things just like they are.
Things will get great again and you´ll see and learn things of yourself you never seen before.

Keeping busy.