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Yes you fucking mongloid

>>16793954
10/10 life changing reply, thks m80

>>16793953
Bump

>>16789596

yes. though generally you wont naturally become assertive. you have to actually be assertive ABOUT being assertive to become assertive.

you have to choose your battles. but if you have nothing to lose by saying 'no' then why not say no?

>BECAUSE ARGUMENTS

you also have the option of stepping away from the arguments. almost universally. almost

I'm currently undergoing group therapy as training.

I'm the most dominant and assertive member of my group by far. I know my mind, I speak up and I try to back up everything I say with reason.

I do my best to speak calmly, to listen carefully, to be diplomatic... and some people still find me intimidating and accuse me of being overbearing. It's just the way it is.

You have to accept that being assertive, confident and honest unsettles a lot of people because they've got by their entire lives taking the route of least resistance and passively accepting things.

You can be passive, nod along, which will give you an easier life, or you can be active, defiant when it's justified and confident which will inevitably get people's backs up and threaten them.

>>16789596

Basically no.

It comes naturally to some people and not to others. Trying to force it will likely backfire. You try to assert yourself, you'll see people better at the game escalating on you, and you won't win; you'll either cave or make yourself look like an aggressive asshole, or both. Socially-capable people have an eye for people who will take their shit, and will not stand to see this authority challenged. You will lose every time.

So you're a doormat. Sucks, bud, but that's the card you got dealt. If you don't like it, then start saying no to everyone* and doing your best to stand your ground. Don't try to hang with them verbally, keep it simple and NO. Let them be the one to start getting ridiculous. Don't debate them, don't mock them, don't correct them, just keep saying, "I don't care, the answer is no." People like an easy mark and will learn to leave you be if you're not one. Granted, this will rarely be socially graceful, but there you are.

*Obviously tread carefully with this at work and with other people on which you are dependent. Your boss is not the person you want to be experimenting with defensive negatory stances.

You fucked her twice and you are still nervous to ask?

Just fucking do it.

>>16789541
Forgot to mention we text about every other day, so I'd probably ask her out again on Thursday if I chose to do so. I'm 22 and I've never had an intimate relationship, so this is all kinda foreign to me.

>>16789541

Let me put it this way: she is DEFINITELY going to feel like shit if you don't ask her out for Valentine's Day.

That said, don't make a big deal of the holiday, given this sounds like just your second date.

What were you doing, and why were you suspended?

>>16789508

I was suspended for cheating on an exam and a classmate reported me. Got kicked out of the Archaeology program and was almost summoned to court. My math skills are really poor. I have 70 credits and roughly 2 more years left. I'm not sure if other colleges will accept me.

Depends on the relationship you have with the girl.

>>16793850
cool, so you've been through it before, that'll make this much easier

>>16793860
we met at a party, exchanged numbers, begin sexting, and we were planning on having sex so she thought she should tell me first about it

Man, if it interests you, give it a shot.
I do historical fencing (basically, we use rapiers and daggers and whatnot instead of foils) and it's fun on a bun.
Expensive, but a neat hobby.

See if there's any closer options or if you've got any friends already involved, then take the plunge if you're curious and can afford it.

>>16789535
I live in piss shit nowhere so that's kinda my only option and I prefer modern fencing for its speed

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>>16789599
Also

>>16793752
>Women literally cannot comprehend this because there's literally no scenario where a woman could ever not get laid
Assuming this is not bait, are you really stupid enough to believe that.

>>16793774
Any girl could get laid if she cast a wide enough net.

I'm not talking about relationships, just having sex.

>>16793779
Any guy could get laid if he cast a wide enough net.

I'm not talking about relationships, just having sex.

>>16789486

then get a new job. dont be a leech

Who cares? I mean, people with rape fetishes by definition will never actually like to be raped, they like to keep it in their control zone. Probably the same with her, she likes how she looks even if it's forward and sexualized.

>>16793672
a lot of the thrill of sexual stuff is the taboo. I suspect a lot of women in authority positions would love to be used as fuck toys and degraded.

>>16793718
She doesn't normally look like that, she wants to though. She holds it as an ideal, like she would love to look like a giant breasted, giant assed bimbo... so she dresses up in a costume and just fantasizes about things. It all seems very unhealthy, as if she isn't happy with how she looks, but its not a healthy ideal to hold.

If this indicates how you talk and act you aren't going to get a teenage girl to fuck you.

>>16789466

Man. You're on a whole other level.

Talk to the customers about politics or personal issues. Ask them about their genitals.

>>16789452
What is your Job OP?

>>16789452

Where do you work and what do you do there?

>>16789387
Need more background info.
How far apart were the calls? Are you calling to ask about job openings, or waiting to hear back about an interview?

Have you considered getting mental health treatment? As I said to someone else on the first page of /adv/, it doesn't have to stay this way, and it won't.

Also, drinking while depressed usually isn't a great idea, so I wouldn't if I were you.

Get help and get better, please. Killing yourself is a waste.

talk with your gf about your depression. if she doesn't help then break up with her

>>16793501
No, they'll take my guns, they are the only thing that I have control over anymore, I choose peaceful options above all else. I just need that sense of control, it's the only thing that keeps me going.

>>16789381

it's a frat party, you're overthinking it

just do shots until you dont remember anything

>>16789419

I agree with this. If you're a legit sperg then this is going to go badly for you no matter what.

If you're drunk you'll at least be entertaining.

if i invest in monkeys what would my returns look like?

got banned for botting in rs. first offense on the acc. haven't had an offense in years. This IS FUCKING BULLSHIT

how can i convince fagex to unban my acc. I paid 9.99 CAD for one month of membs and i still got 21 days of credit

>>16793441
File a lawsuit against Jagex. Call the cops too.