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>>16827680
Maybe a therapist can help you with this.

Also bumping because I'm curious too.

Your "true self" is an accumulation of your actions and words, the things you do that affect other people. That's all that matters. Not your justifications, not your excuses, not the shit inside your head - the things that you DO. That's it.

How does your borderline manifest itself?

My first longterm gf had it and a chick I banged for some months.

Maybe I can see some similarities and even tell you how much of it is just your paranoia from being diagnsed with it.

Get an undercut or a cool haircut

Wear fashionable clothes that are in season.

Wear good cologne but not too much.

Learn how to stop being sexually frustrated, women can sense it. When you're flirting with a woman, you should act like you get laid all the time and are genuinely interested in the girl you're talking to, not just her vagina.

Be direct. If somebody is looking for casual sex, don't be afraid to communicate that you are too.

Always be closing: When texting your goal is so set up a date. Even before casual sex most women want you to go out to dinner with them so they know they can feel comfortable around you.

Never be edgy unless it contributes to the conversation. Even then, always try to agree with the girl's statements.

I don't know dude, just practice and it becomes easier. Remember to work out often as well

>>16827441
I got similar haircut like pic related but never know if I should use gel/pommade/clay

Already have some fashionable clothes

My texting game is horrible. There's this girl I've known for about 2 years. Initially, she used to agree to go on dates but know, every time I set up a date, she doesn't answer

No, I don't think I should agree to everything. From what I know, that is a massive turn off

full disclaimer, im not an attractive dude but do people really find undercuts attractive?

They look overdone and frankly a little gay

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this one.

I need to know, money is on the line

First

Take your top off and lower the camera a bit.

>>16827087
You're a man aren't you?

Maybe I should have said that before. Mhm, I am.

>>16827094
Woops, when I said "My hips are a bit hourglass" I meant torso. My bad!

I have similar dread.

I want to paint, learn five languages, travel to just about every country, learn three instruments, read thousands of books, etc.

Knowing I'll never have enough time scares me. I fantasize about stopping time to experience everything I want to.

>>16826925
Have you ever seen the movie "It's Such a Beautiful Day"? At the very end, the protagonist is about to die, and the narrator pulls a deus ex machina by just completely flipping the story so that he lives forever, reads every book, masters every language, meets alien species, and lives on beyond the heat death of the universe. At first I thought he just got lazy with bullshit writing but then I noticed how sad it got me and I realized that the writer did it to fuck with the audience. He knows that every person watching his film is wishing beyond belief for the exact same thing for themselves. It's a parody of the futility of human dreams and desires.

>>16826938
no but Im gonna check it out.

You should watch "The Man From Earth". It's got a similar theme.

Bump. I'm dying out here... Sweating bullets

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Bump. Any info stories anything please

Depends on how "best" and "friend" your best friend is.

I would personally avoid, but that's because I'm lazy and I hate drama

>mfw if this was a pair of male best friends they wouldn't even think about snitching on each other

women have no sense of loyalty whatsoever lol.

she's your best friend isn't she? stay out of her personal business and keep that shit to yourself like she had entrusted you to. if you strongly disagree with her actions and lifestyle, then you break that friendship off.

but never snitch. there's nothing to gain out of that and makes you seem just as unreliable as a person.

>>16826520
try to get your friend to stop first. Give her the chance to take care of it because thats what friends are for.
But friends are also there to make sure that you dont fuck up and if you see her doing it its your responsibility to fix it if shes unwilling. Id tell them anonymously. Spread a rumor around.

A bit. Yes, because there are probably people who would miss you and love you, and no because there's a reason why you're doing it.

>>16826007
You are going to kill yourself, why the fuck would you care, you are doing this for yourself, its a really selfish thing. I wouldn't do it though. I've been depressed for the past 6 years and I still am finding ways to live and try to be happier than yesterday

people who have never had suicidal thought will say yes, people who have will say no. i say no, if they cared about you so much, you wouldn't feel this way, suicidal thoughts are always the last thing somebody goes to when they just cant cope anymore. no, it is not selfish. its selfish for people to keep you alive while you are suffering

Get in shape you fat fuck.

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Figure out where all your testosterone went.

Looks like gyno. Had it when I was around 15-16. Went away after I ended puberty.

Assuming you're not an underaged b&, only way to get rid of it is surgery. Literally no other exercises or anything exist.

Going crazy over a guy you're not in a relationship with, not worth it.

if this was me giving advice to a guy itd be "plenty of fish in the sea" "find a new girl" "try again" etc

You'd be like the guy who is too beta to see they aren't interested or you are too beta to ask and see.

>>16825866
But the point is he making me believe that there was something between us. If he had a gf already he shouldn't flirt with me like that.

Can you at least take a pic of yourself outdoors and with a different style of hair instead of lego combover. Act a bit dynamic in your pictures like you're actually taking a pic of yourself while out there and doing something.

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>>16825841
I did that, I just thought I should use a normal bathroom selfie for my main picture like everyone else on the site

2/4

>>16825841
This. Your combover is unattractive. You could be way more attractive if you had any idea what to do with your hair.

>>16825829
Are you still seeing her? If so, a conversation about whether you are exclusive or not is reasonable.

If not, it is not really your business. You can ask, but she doesn't have to answer.

>>16825832
I'm not sure, she has been putting a lot of excuses lately, and I'm 99% sure she is with someone else

so yes or not?

It looks fine...what exactly are you insecure about? The uneven distribution of the hair? I seriously don't see anything wrong.

>>16825782
>Unfortunately, there is no good cure for getting rid of this abnormality.

Laser hair removal doesn't work..?

nah. no one cares about that stuff, dicks are gross enough.
Don't feel too good about yourself though, you've probably got some other psychological disorder. ask your therapist about body dysmorphia.

>>16825675
beta

plus she's poor

>>16825682
she's actually quite rich. i'm just done playing the game because i overplayed it. i wouldnt mind giving it to someone whos into final fantasy.

>>16825687
>giving your prized possessions to some whore

alpha fucks
beta bux

>Fast forward about a week later
>I'm staying at my friend's place, the gig was a success, I made some good money. We'd spend every day at the beach getting drunk and partying with college chicks
>It took me 19 years to get laid but I fucked 3 girls the whole time I was there
>I was so confident. I was having the time of my life
>It's my last night there and we go to a bar to celebrate or something
>Nick's best friend is this girl... Let's call her Katie
>He's told me so much about her but I haven't got to meet her yet
>She said she would come and meet us at the bar
>Couple of hours later, she shows up.
>10/10. Perfect face, long red hair. The best ass Ive seen in my life
>Man I don't know but the moment I saw her I felt something
>We started talking and the more we talked I thought to my self that she was the one. We had so much in common, and she was smokin hot, plus she seemed like a really good person.
>I was really drunk and I hit on her, but she politely turned me down
>She had to leave cause she had to go to work in like 2 hours, she hugged me and said that we would meet again soon
>I'm flying back home and I cant stop thinking about her
>Check my facebook, I got a friend request from her
>Oh man, here we go

>We would chat every now and then but nothing serious
>I felt a great connection with her, like I could say the most autistic thing that came to my mind and she would love it for some reason
>Couple of weeks went by and at this point we were chatting 24/7
>We skype for the first time and she kept saying how hot my voice was
>We ended up skyping for 18 hours straight. She had to go to work and she told me that she would call me later
>I get a call from her the same night, her voice has changed, like she's trying to seduce me or something
>After a while she drops the bombshell
>”Listen...i think you're very attractive and I wish I was there so you could smash my pussy all night long...”
>OHMANOHGODOHMAN.jpg
>We cyber fucked
>For the next couple of weeks we would have cyber sex all the time, she'd send nudes etc
>She said that she felt I was her soul mate and what was missing from her life
>We talked about it and we agreed to try this long distance relationship thing
>Some random day, she sends me a print of her plane tickets
>FINALLY
>We made plans about how we would spend our time together
>I can't wait for her to come and see her in person. It's not about sex anymore. I was in love with this girl

>She's supposed to come in about 10 days or so
>In the meantime she got a promotion which was good for her but she'd have to spend more time at work AND at the same time she was moving out of her parent's house and start living on her own
>She told me that she would be busy for the next couple of days with home preparations and work and what not but she couldnt wait to come and see me
>A day goes by and we haven't talked to each other
>Didnt think much about it at first
>The next day she calls me and she says shes been really busy and she feels really bad cause she hasnt heard from me
>A couple of days later and we dont talk that much anymore
>I figure she must have been really busy
>I send her a message and she wouldnt respond.
>I kept sending her messages for 3 days straight and she wouldnt respond
>whathappened.mkv
>I decide to call her
>”Hey baby, where you;ve been?”
>”Hey.”
>”Everything ok?”
>”Yeah”
>”Katie did something happen?”
>”No, ive just been really busy with work and stuff”
>”Well ok...cant wait to see you tomorrow.”
>”Oh, about that..Im not coming.”

WAT