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>>16853232
have a wank and watch chink-disgusting asian porn where women sound like little children when fucking

Date one, that cured me.

It was one of my best relationships but having actually been intimate with one and got it out of my system I judge them like any other now.

>>16853240
those pedoes love this.

>>16853203
meant to say next week.

>>16853203
Try not to ramble when answering interview questions. Be concise and direct, especially when they're the simple ones.

Also bring in a copy of your resume and any work samples you may have (didn't mention what your prospective job is, so just in case) even if you submitted online/sent it in/etc. Many interviewers like to have something physical to take a look at and it makes you look more on top of things.

>>16853216
It's for a recruiting job at Aerotek. Entry level position. I'll probably take in a couple resume copies. I usually do well with interviews, but never hurts to get some extra advice.

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They'll give you a local, you whiner.

Simply ask for a nerve block of the whole finger. Easy. You won't feel anything.

I guess my question is, how do I let her down sometimes without hurting the friendship or her feelings? Should I come right out and say I need alone time or does that make me sound unapproachable/scary?

>>16853186
Do you have a complex about socializing? Do you believe that it brings you discomfort? If so, why do you think that may be.

>im introverted but still have no problem developing friendships and socializing with people
>see introverted extrovert

>boyfriend

Well clearly it's not that much of an issue for you.

how come

What happened?

>>16853187
>>16853195
I'm a piece of fuckig shit, that's why. I'm the biggest fucking douchebag out there for now.

This is where she started seeing me being 'off' aka pissed. When we got to the Sushi place I made it visible that I was pissed off and she kept asking me what was wrong and everything. She was getting close and trying to talk to me since she saw something was off with me. She put her face in a position where clearly wanted me to kiss her lips but I pissed off so I didn't. I can see that she was starting to get worried something was wrong.

Throughout the car ride she was asking me what was wrong and I said I would tell her later. When we got home she started talking to me and I did. I had to leave because her dad doesn't want me staying the night at her house ( but her dads lets her gay best friend stay the night and share the same bed.. ).


She walked me to my car, we kissed and she kept asking me what was wrong.


I drove off and texted her something like this:

Your attitude. You treated me like shit and practically ignored me until the restaurant. It bothered me because you never act like that like that when it's just us two. etc etc

She quintuple texted me saying sorry for treating me like shit that's all I can really say. Then I'm sorry for ignoring you. In another message she said I don't really know what you want me to say, my attitude is always like that, I just don't usually do it towards you. Thank you for coming.

Some backstory by this, I lost my virginity to this girl, she didn't want to date me at first but then fell hard for me. She even opened up that she didn't want to lose and I was the best guy who she has ever been in a relationship with. She's opened up a couple other times saying how great I am, how I treat her with respect and is apologetic. She didn't get defense so she knows what she did wrong.


So what do I do now guys? I told myself I would break it off if it happens again. I'm not a pushover and don't want to put up with this bullshit.

How long and well did you know her before you started dating/became a couple?

>>16853172
Develop your social sense by socializing more.

>>16853172
Well...is it because you might have some mild autism?

Or maybe, your a normal human who finds most of the GP uninteresting and havent learned to fake it yet

>>16853163
Speaking as someone currently working there: don't fall for the whole 'Grass is Always Greener' bit. Family, Social, and Professional values are different in every culture and Japan is, sadly, very good at hiding some of the lamer bits. I have buddies who have happy lives here, of course, but there's also quite a bit of adjusting to do, especially if you plan on 'getting a Japanese wife' and 'naturally speaking in Japanese'.

You say you've got a good career lined up right now. Good. Stick with that and see where that takes you. If you play your cards right you can probably visit Japan later on when you have more disposable income. If you're actually looking for employment, though, consider language instruction--it's always in high demand and you can get away with a bit more in that workplace than in some fuckhuge megacorp like Mitsubishi or something.

Above all, remember that a vacation is not living there. It's an extremely big decision to pack up and go to another country, especially one like Japan. Be careful of looking at it through rose-tinted glasses and try to get some perspective from expatriates who actually live there.

Hate to sound like a downer, but there you go. It sounds like you have a good job lined up--I'd hate to see an anon throw an opportunity away on a whim, you know?

I work in Japan and have a Japanese wife, should get permanent residence in another 2-3 years hopefully

The one things that bothers me is that it doesn't really feel that exciting career-wise. Technologically, socially and fiscally it is lagging behind the west. Most of the new companies here are underfunded copies of western equivalents. I'm still not sure how to become a serious entrepreneur in this environment and whether I'd be happy just to settle into a low-risk management track career here (I don't think I can make $400k as an engineer guy here like SF/NY... more like $200k.). Being a western-trained plastic surgeon seems like a great way to make money here on the other hand.

There are a lot of advantages over living in the west but the salary issue is annoying

Anon why haven't you asked >>>/jp/ ?!?!

>>16853155
...how is beatin off destructive?

>>16853155
All about moderation, anon. You can still fap, just limit it to once or twice a month and you'll feel really great. The real problem is A) not fapping at all or B) chronic masturbation. Those are gonna mess up your libido a lot.

>>16853160
A lot of people claim that it can ruin lives and fuck with your brain and social life. You'd have to look it up.

>>16853166
If i'm only doing it twice a month, I might as well not do it at all. I do it once a day and sometimes twice depending on how much I have to do. Going just half a week without it consumes every second of the day with sexual thoughts.

Are you asking if fun is pointless?

No OP, its not pointless.

But why the fuck are you trying to get approval from others to do something?

>>16853113
That is until you run into a person that does and you make people shit their pants cause you have the hook up.

>>16853112
>I've been sexting with a guy, mostly teasing, saying what we'd do to each other etc. We're meeting soon and I'm not ready to actually do ALL of the stuff I said I'd do. I think he knows that, but is it a bad idea to go on? Or can it be considered just fun? Or should I just not say stuff I wouldn't do?
oh god i hate it when women tease with stuff they wouldnt do. fucking prudes

>>16853117
I'm just a scared virgin anon :<

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>>16853123
...then how the hell would you know what to do in the first place?

>>16853110
>Someone please advise me on how to kiss like a pro

>Worrying about some chick thats wasnt up front with you for any indiscretion.

So you have no fucling clue if you are infact a bad kisser. But if you are, accept that and cut this bitch lose and find someone whos into you enough that would take the time to mold you into not a good kisser, but the perfect one to her.

>>16853124
But i wanna hook up with mad bitches
Its still a good idea tho, anon

>>16853141
You wanna hook up with "mad bitches" but are worrying about what 1 of them thinks about you.

Nigga you fuckin up.

>>16853078
Give it to someone who deserves it.

option1) keep pet for self
option2) show up to her place/her parents place. ring door bell, release pet, immediately turn around and walk away.

not your pet, not your problem. if you release that thing to her, she will figure something out. it's not gonna die.

actually ignore my post, i agree with this guy

>>16853084

just give it the fuck away.

>>16853063
You put down people's beloved pets as your day to day.

I'm a large animals vet, its hard and can be soul crushing at times, you either gotta be a goddamn socialpath that has no emotions, or love the little/big guys A LOT.

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Harder than becoming an human doctor -- there are only 32 vet schools in the US, and something like 182 medical schools.

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I have friends, but I feel like the majority only hang out with me because I'm a solid connection for most things they want, or because they're friends with my only true friend. I quit my job because I lost the motivation to deal with the bullshit, and made more in a day doing nothing but hanging with friends than I made there in 2 weeks.

Only reason I have sex is because my gf is a nymphomaniac, so my sex life is healthy (about 6 times a day unless she has to work)

I like to think I'm not addicted because I never feel the urge to do any of these drugs. I regularly go weeks at a time being completely sober, despite the sheer amount of connections I have on hand. but everything bores me (besides sex) and it's just making me feel like a scumbag of a person. like the shittiest tier of human society has to offer.

If it didnt make me feel like such a waste of oxygen, I wouldn't mind it so much. It's just that for the longest time, the way I figured it, you have your /g/'s, your /a/'s, your /cgl/'s, your /k/'s, your /out/'s, your /r9k/'s... everyone has their interests that they dump all of their time and effort and money in... and mine just happens to be frowned upon. But I really do enjoy them. I find weed beautiful, shrooms fascinating, addy miraculous, lean theraputic, and tobbaco and liquor classic. in my head there's nothing incriminating about any of it.

Is there something in the background that's wrong with me that I'm just not seeing? if so I don't know what to do about it and nobody in my life has the ability to point me in the right direction.

>>16853058
You could be going through a detachment from reality (desocilazation I think? I don't know the correct word).

On the other hand, you could also just be dependent on these drugs.

Doing drugs releases dopamine, that's why depressed people or people who are dependent on drugs find it hard to quit. Anybody who is dependent on something usually does so because their brain reward system (serotonin and dopamine) are released as a result of doing that specific thing.

Fulfilling goals, feeling empathetic towards others, and taking care of responsibilities also releases dopamine, but it takes some work and is not as something as easily accessible as drugs.