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>>16853432
Hello? I need this job..

>>16853441
Hello! Most people need their jobs.

>>16853444
Do you have any advice?

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help me /adv/
I just want to be able to have casual sex like a normal person

>>16853426
Although most people don't want to admit it, that's completely normal and natural.

You can't change the fact that sex is linked to pair-bonding on a chemical and neural level. There's nothing we can do about it.

There's nothing wrong with the way you feel. To me that sounds completely normal. Why not try casual dating instead of seeking FWB or ONS. That way, you get a casual feel but if you get feels for a girl you can turn it into a relationship without going through the weird drama of wanting to wife an FWB or ONS

search your feelings carefully op, do you really, truly want casual sex, or are you just wanting it because you feel like you'd be missing out if you didn't? be true to yourself.

go on a porn site and search for
abby winters lesbian
it's not as over acted as big porno company videos.

>>16853445
Thanks

>>16853412

If she's really more experienced, AND she knows this is your first lesbian experience, then she should be more focused on pleasuring you rather than the other way around.

Have you actually talked to her about this?

>>16853405
So much this.

Also, never go about relationships expecting to change the other person, or expecting them to change themselves at all. People can only change themselves, for themselves, by themselves.

idk man. my gut reaction is that you should think about ending the relationship. can you see yourself dealing with that for... idk... 10 years? no? I couldn't either. I mean it's been two, nothing has changed right? if it was gonna change, two years is long enough to change.

some people are gonna come in with "wah, you're an asshole" but after ten years, that shit sex life is gonna lead to all kinds of hell in that relationship. you've tried, she's not. maybe you're shallow for wanting her to be prettier, maybe she doesn't really give a shit and doesn't care to seduce you occasionally. idfk. but it doesn't sound great.

I'd leave. in fact a similar problem was one of the minor problems out of many that ended my last relationship.

I think you're annoying and delusional if you think she's an attention whore for doing any of those things, she sounds like a normal person. And you took her joke about you being 18 to buy the ticket way too seriously, it obviously didn't mean anything. Why are you so butthurt, do you have nobody to snapchat or nothing to ever post so you hate it all?

>>16853406
I can objectively conclude she has a problem. Everyone was pointing it out. She got called out and it wasn't me.

I don't have a problem with socia media. I responded to my own texts and calls during the evening. But she literally took it to the extreme, trust me. I'm not exaggerating this. I promise you.

The question is the usual should I text her

NO

Better yet, text ANY girl but her. Literally any girl, text her and screenshot it.

>>16853427
I asked this girl out and she said yes but bailed out in the end. I just feel so lonely right now...

>>1685337>>16853373
Man i tell you 1 big truth. Even if you haven't psoriasis, even if you are a tough guy with large biceps and abs, even if you have a great work and make lot of money...people will always criticize you. And you know why people do this? Coz it'a fucking jungle. Be a man...stay focused on improving yourself. Make a list of things you don't like and start improve dem one day at time. Get a job, with the money you earn go to a doc and get your shit cured, read books, quit porn, start lifting...if you don't move you will always stay where you are. Come on man, gain your manliness back.

>>16853373
Read in deep voice. Girl or boy, honestly helps a lot.

See a fucking therapist, jeez. They're the ones who'll be able to help you, not 4chan.

How to find a mental health provider: http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/mental-illness/in-depth/mental-health-providers/art-20045530
How to find a therapist: http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/how-to-find-therapist

You have accidentally reached what buddhism call "enlightenment". That's everything about life, isn't it. Live, eat, sleep, shit, play video games. Whether you're a billionaire or Stalin, you still have to do all of that. And eventually, you will die. Nothing is going to stop that, even power, money, or pussy. All that matter in life is to live a good life. So, you have to ask yourself a question: "Am I living a good life?"

>>16853368
Your problem is that you waste your time playing video games, and nothing else assuming everything you said is true. I used to play too many vidya and it messed with my general mindset and thought process (I played competitively and reach pretty modestly high divisions in the fps games I played because I spent too much time on them). Video games can be addictive, and it also releases dopamine which will prevent you from doing anything productive.

Start liking dudes.

I'm 5'3" so I know the feeling. I thought I was straight for a long time, but I eventually found out I swing both ways. Guys are nice because they don't normally care about height, and find short guys to be a plus.

On a more serious note, don't worry so much. There's a FUCK-TON more problems you can have than being short. It's not a big deal, and there's plenty of girls that don't mind.

The only answer is suicide.

Short guys in general? No problem. Short guys who think everything's harder for them because they're short? They've shot themselves in the foot.

>>16853324
no, it fucking sucks and he's dumb for playing it
see:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VjzgbZL12VI

>>16853324
dont listen to this guy -->>16853329
d e s u if you think you might like it then give it a go. it is a pretty competitive game and you might have a lot of fun with it.

but it isnt for everybody. i really dont like it. so test it out and see how it goes and if you like it and youre good at games you can get a lot of mileage out of it.

stay positive and try to have fun. games arent meant to create a rift in relationships.

>>16853350
don't listen to this guy, he fucking sucks too

>>16853309
Based on my limited physics and ECE knowledge, this is unlikely to be a possibility.

If you wanna dedicate your life to a cause, work on fusion tech. It has the potential to output ~300x the worlds current electrical demand all from one reactor. It would create clean and super cheap energy. The third world would come online overnight, the world would change, good minds from all over would have access to education and each other via the net.

If you wanna change the world, get a good degree and move to france because we dont fund this kind of research in the US.

>>16853309
>self supplying
I can stop you right there

A light generator to be FULLY self supplying would need to be at 100% ECE and also to be in an enviroment so cold, that only quantum tunneling could actually make it that cold.

I don't think it'll happen but i honestly hope you or someone else will pull it off one day, OP.

With Self Death

>>16853302
You need to experience true hell. See others experiencing it. My wife miscarried the other night. At 16 weeks so we had ultrasound pictures and had heard the heartbeat and all that. You cannot know loss like that. Holding your wife's hand as your dead baby lay in a pool of blood between her legs. Knowing you will never hug them, soothe them to sleep, hear their laugh, watch them enjoy pizza.

You need to go see what bad truly means. Because my heart is shattered and the only reason I didn't blow my fucking brains out is my daughter. Feel free to make yourself feel worse than that but I can't imagine you have any idea what kind of pain that is.

sorry for your loss

>>16853335

>watch them enjoy pizza

uh is this a reference to true detective?

Not a pro, but here's a few ways:
1) Find a job in a big city
2) Meet/make friends in a big city
3) AirBnB or couch-surf in a big city
4) Volunteer or join an organization in a big city

Well you could accept shit living conditions and find a shitty job. You could save up for a couple years and then go and spend a couple years losing money there.

Or you could just take a vacation there. It's not so great. It actually sucks. I always wanted to live here growing up. Now that I do, I hate it and realize that the cleanliness and comfort of not living in a city is better than this.

There's not much to miss out on regarding poor city life

The only point of living in the city is to get rich then get out when you've decided you've made enough

>>16853279
What is her last name? If it is very common or short it might be less awkward for you.

>>16853284

She is Chinese and her last name is Zhang (a pretty standard Chinese surname) It is pronounced Jung.

I don't really like the idea of changing my surname to my spouse's. It would feel like I'm defining myself in terms of her instead of myself.

IMO, go with your dad's name, find a name that resonates WITH YOU, or pick a new name that both you and your wife change to.

It's sort of like buying a house. Your wife wants you to move into her house (name) partially because it carries no risk for her. If the relationship ends, her name is still hers. It's easier for her to have you move into her name than move into hours or "buy" a new house (name) WITH YOU, her husband.

Just my 2 cents though.

The best roommates are the ones that stay the fuck out of your way. Can you do that with them at least?

>>16853278
Not sure. I'm good at avoiding people, but it's like this person's presence just makes me want to not be around her. I went from a five-minute shit to a 30-minute shit today because she was in my dorm room talking to my friend about apartments. I don't even want to run the risk of running into them, and plus I don't think either of these girlfriends would care very much and probably knock on my door all the time. Not a fan

>>16853269
If you can't tolerate some of them now, you sure as shit won't be able to later on, especially when exams and things come around.
Like above anon said: the best roommates are the ones who you can coexist with daily and not need to bother each other. Stick with people like that and you can hang out with your friends on the side--your home should be a place to escape drama, not create it.