So I've just broken up with my girlfriend who I was with for a year.
I'm not happy and at the same time I'm not sad but I have no idea what to do with all this spare time.
We usually spent weekends together and every other weekday.
So how should I fill up on all this free time?
>in before start lifting
>in before spend the time on 4Chan
>>16854836
You don't have friends?
Ok /adv/, I'm a 23 year old graduate who has a BS in Atmospheric Sciences from a fairly well known University in the west coast. I'm thinking about taking my skills and joining either the Coast Guard or the Air Force as a officer. I know that I will have to go through OCS for a few months and it will be a difficult process. Can anyone give me advice on what I should do?
Hard to say but they might help pay off your debt. Where there other options you are thinking about?
Speak with Air Force and Coast Guard officers. Your recruiter can put you in touch. They won't eat ya.
Shit ain't Full Metal Jacket. The Air Force is very comfily corporate and was turning that way ten years ago.
Retired USAF MSgt here. You will get great benefits and as an officer. You can retire at twenty years and never have to work again. Let that sink in. You get the last third or half of your life to fuck off as you wish. The officer corps is a great human network.
You'd be a fool if you didn't do it. Look at retired officer pay tables then do the math on the other benefits. It's a tasty total.
I suggest choosing a program which will never end. You can look for shortage specialities with long futures extending past your uniformed career. Then if want you can work for the Federal government, the military as a civilian, or for a DoD contractor down the road.
>>16854842
I'm not in a whole lot of debt compared to my peers but I want to be a weather officer since its been one of my dreams. Some of my family has prior service in said branches and really enjoyed it.
How do I convince myself to go out and pursue women despite being in the military and know I will leave the country in 1 year?
dont mind me just seeing whether or not my post will go through on a thread thats about to be archived
have a rare pepe
Am I a race traitor for dating a white guy when I'm black?
>>16854814
i suppose so
the idea of "race betrayal" is retarded anyway.
Just date whoever you want family
>>16854814
Different, distinguishable races of people don't exist. There's no such thing as a race traitor.
>>16854814
Are u a dude being gey?
I really need to mess up a hdd with windows XP. What is the easiest and fastest way without taking it out of the case.
A few large magnets?
>>16854796
Do you need to destroy data, physically destroy HDD or both?
If it's only data Hirens Boot CD had some software for that.
Microwave that mofo nigga.
>be me
>21yo/m in college
>really like to be cute and wear girly clothing
>want to be a trap but that will never happen, even if I started hormones
>not trans but just super effeminate, not gay either
>never shown this side of me to anybody, do it only at home
>want to be public about it but it's just not gonna work out
my question is do I just suck it the fuck up and come out with it? or is there some variety of doctor to talk with this shit about?
also inb4 >>lgbt it's just a buncha tripfags over there
>>16854794
Would you fuck me? I'd fuck me. I'd fuck me so hard.
>>16854794
Flaunting your sexual identity is not the most important thing in the world.
Seek actual fagfag forums. Not 4chan. The internet is large.
Learn to make money, then move where it's fine to be gay and no one will care. You are only 21 which may as well be a teenager. Concentrate on learning how to make fucking money because without money you will have no choices in life.
Had my lisence suspended in 2009 for not paying a speeding ticket on time in nyc. How long does that stay on my record? If an employer checks my driving record now will they see it?
>>16854791
honestly, nobody gives a shit.
i think it's either 7 or 10 years.
what job are you applying for?
Insurance
>>16854815 So better to just admit it cuz they are not gonna care anyway?
How do I develop a sex drive? My boyfriend never says anything but I can tell he is unhappy with our sex life. Everything else in our relationship is great, I just have no urge whatsoever, and I don't want to be a shitty girlfriend denying him sex every day.
Has it always been that way?
>>16854786
Have you always been this way?
Are there any underlying issues that could be causing this? My gf has a lower sex drive when she feels less confident about her body and whatnot, in which case the solution would be to workout.
Also, working out would slightly raises your testosterone (still obviously within healthy female levels) enough to give you a little boost in your sex drive
I have the chance to meet my real father who I have never met before.
Apparently while my mother was pregnant, he was caught seeing another woman and told by members of my mother's family to go away and never come back. Sometime after this I was born, and that is all I am aware of, the truth of the matter may be different as I have only my grandfather (on my father's side) who I am comfortable talking about this with.
Some things my grandfather said about my dad:
>He's fairly sensitive and understanding
>Has always been a hard worker
>Can be quite forward and to the point if need be
>Can easily befriend both people sat either side of him at a bar
>Will probably be embarrassed and anxious about meeting me if I contact him
>He's a CEO of a private health company in the UK and currently has a wife and 13 year old son
>He had 3 daughters with his ex-wife before meeting my mother
I don't know what advice I even want, but I have no one to talk to this about. I am 24 years old.
Man, that's a tough one. I say go try to meet him, maybe get his side of the story, and see what he's like. Maybe its possible to make some sort of connection even after all these years? Although I totally get it if you don't want to meet him.
>>16854771
Have you talked to your mom about this?
>>16854771
Yeah why not. Can't hurt right?
He's your dad senpai go say hi.
I'm sort of in your shoes, my dad went on a 'business trip' to miami when I was like 8, mom found out and they separated, paternal grandmother coming with us to help raise me and my sister.
For the longest time I was devastated, then furious at my mom, then merely angry. It wasn't until I was 24 I realised that in that situation, mom did the best she could to preserve her dignity and still raise both of us. I changed.
He's now with the woman he met all those years ago and lives like 300 miles away. Still friendly, still calls me his son. I think when I have some time I'm going to drop by and pick his brain. See why he did it. Maybe I learn something.
Can't hurt right?
I'm finding my anxiety is worsening lately and I think I need to deal with it by myself.
My boyfriend is one person who makes these problems somewhat disappear and I can relax with him but we're not able to see each other for a few weeks. I don't want to rely on him all the time either; I don't think that's healthy.
My issue is 'appearing happy' when we're talking - I'm finding that hard and the best solution I can think is to introduce a bit more space whilst I deal with my problems. How do I do this without him thinking something is wrong with the relationship?
>>16854738
Anxiety is a real pain in the ads, and I think you shouldn't have to hide it and keep it to yourself. Yes it's a lot to take in as a partner, but you should tell your partner about it. Just have a sit down and explain to him what you're going through. He has a right to know this about you. Sure it might make or break the relationship if he decides it's not gonna work out because of your anxiety, but don't keep it from him.
So I'm a college student who is part of a fraternity.
Usually we have a party every weekend, People standing on table dancing drinks , playing pong, shot guns of cheap ass beer, sidewalk slammers, etc. and for the most part I usually handle myself prett well. Well last week it was one of my friends 21st birthday and I drank A LOT.
So much so that I started dancing on one of the tables, I was good for two or three songs, but the I lost my balance and the table fell and me with it. In my drunken stuper I thought instead of falling into the crowd of people down below it'd be better to fall with the table and land feet first on the ground.
In doing so I avoided falling into a group of people.
I stood up and asked if everybody was alright and everybody said yes, and I then knew that I was too far gone that I should probably get home so I übered back to my apartment off campus.
Next chapter I learn that I smashed a girls foot while falling down.
It isn't broken or anything I just hurt it.
Guys are giving me shit for it but are just busting my chops about it.
I'm considering seeking her out and apologizing to her directly. But, one of my friends is saying just to leave things be.
What do you guys think? Is there any risk in going to apologize to her.
If you're going to do it, do it in person only.
>>16854724
Uber is for gays
>>16854750
no u
i don't enjoy living
my parents are still alive but I'm afraid that when they're dead I'll really have nothing left to prevent me from killing myself. I have small micro-fantasies about suicide basically every day, and I'm always worried that it's slowly desensitizing me to eventually be able to do the real thing at a moment's notice.
pretty much me. I often look at buses on the way to uni and think of throwing myself under one.
>>16854716
>>16855522
If you can't think of a reason to live then just end it, we have a population problem anyway. But don't fuck up other peoples day or traumatize someone by doing it. You want to be remembered in a positive light rather than some asshole who damaged a bus and made a mess on the street and freaked out a bunch of witnesses.
>>16854716
What a stupid reason to die. First you have to admit that you're too stupid and weak to find any enjoyment in this life so you can say you gave it a fair shake. I've been there but one day I completely snapped and turned things around for myself. Have you really tried to find something worth living for?
How do I cope with the fact that I'm surrounded by idiots 24/7?
I want to try and make friends, but I find it almost impossible to cope with their stupidity.
stop being so full of yourself
1.grow up you fucking pansy they are probably smarter than you in social situations learn from them and get a girl
>>16854711
Try joining mensa. Emphasis on try, but you most likely wont.
>>16854711
It's pretty easy when you realise 'stupid' people aren't malicious or envious to the point of belligerence.
They're actually very pleasant and enjoyable people to engage with.
To be quite honest, you need to change your attitude towards the less gifted. An opinion such as yours smacks of immaturity.
I think I have autism but I have wanted to go for over a year but I can't get the courage. What should I do
>>16854703
I recommend shooting yourself if thats what you meant when you said wanted to go.
Why do you want to die? I have autism too and I'll be honest I normally troll these faggots on here for hating aspies but seriously tell me your problems and I'll listen.
Hi, guys. I have some parties coming up, and I'm wondering if there are any ways to increase my alcohol tolerance.
>>16854700
eat a bunch of cheese and crackers before you drink
I'd say not to push it. Have a good time but don't be the guy throwing up.
>>16854700
Just drink less