Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 6099. page

File: 1367622713484.jpg (21KB, 462x350px) Image search: [Google]

21KB, 462x350px

I've gotten incredibly paranoid lately, mainly when im in buses. I just get paranoid of running into control people (the guys who check if someone on the bus doesn't have a ticket)

I mean, I've got no problem with them, I've run into them hundreds of times. I think I paid for a bus ticket like ten times in three years. Every person that passes me in the bus, or even looks like one of the ticket checkers, I just tend to tense up immensely.

They literally have zero authority, and I've never been scared of them, until now.

File: kaba.jpg (58KB, 640x474px) Image search: [Google]

58KB, 640x474px

Hello.
I'm a 22 year old male. I've always had an aggravated hate for rapists, molesters of any kind, ever since i was a child. Could get literally sick by just hearing about those. Sometime ago, i dated a girl who was raped and attempted to make me jealous by doing teases with the person who raped her (that was in her family, and still lived close to her). That destroyed me for some time, and after some therapy i got back on my feet. But now i feel like i will always have this eerie sensation that some girl i'll date will have been raped, and it'll make some thing complicated, and i'll suffer. I'm not afraid of suffering, not afraid of being cheated on. But this particular fear, for some reason, this trauma-like thing, is hard to control.
Thing is, i'm about to start dating a new girl. She is very sweet, adorable, and has an unique autistic-like-in-a-cute-way-personality. She likes me deeply, and is 20 years old. However, she strongly, utterly hates her father, and started doing so quite recently, by her. She told me it was because he was abusive towards her mother and used her (around here, being ''abusive'' just means physically and emotionally). She hates him a whole lot. From 6 months back when we spoke, she just really disliked him and even wanted to ask him questions. Now, it's a really hateful feeling by her words. She doesn't have traces of abuse, and outside the mentioned, she really likes the idea of having a gun and learning martial arts (which makes me think she has self-defense issues, even if i like those aswell, but out of personal preference, not trauma). But i already have the eering sensation back. While writing this, while seeing my own words, i already feel better, because i know i'm willing to stay with her no matter the past. But there are weird things. She also stopped talkiung to me 3 months after that until this year, for no apparent reason. She has lots of scars from the past, she had a cutting, suicidal phase. Cont.

File: 1410655566879.jpg (32KB, 450x450px) Image search: [Google]

32KB, 450x450px

I'm 23 and I've had sex with 3 girls.
Is it possible to find a girl with similar or less sexual experience than this. My guy friends say I'm unrealistic for thinking I'm going to find a girl my age with under 5 partners, and my girl friends all pull the "WHY DOES IT MATTER?!?!?" card.

File: 3084234.png (3KB, 203x209px) Image search: [Google]

3KB, 203x209px

>ex dumps me on phone
>treated her really well but she just randomly says she doesn't want/need a relationship and just realised this, says 'commitment issues'
>in other words, she is/was fucking some other guy behind my back I guess
>just keep stone cold expression/emotionless, we say 'bye' and hang up
>of course I am really fucking upset
>literally spending all day in bed not eating, just sipping water and watching random shit on youtube
>I block her on social media/delete everything of her/reminds of her
>just my way of dealing with it
>she notices that I have cut all contact
>all her friends that I made friend with IRL unfriend me

Is she mad at me? I really hope she is mad at me for doing this, I want to kek at her butthurt. Yes I know I'm no where near over her, don't know if I ever will be.

File: 1456551039488.gif (825KB, 266x199px) Image search: [Google]

825KB, 266x199px

I'm in a relationship.

Me and her, both anti social virgin lovesick 18 year olds who never ever dated, kissed or even approached anyone of the opposite gender before and now are dating, having nothing in life but each other and extremely attached to each other, we both see this as the passion of our lives and don't intend on ever separating, we are both extremely loyal and promised to each other not to break up no matter what happened unless in case of betrayal, but I trust her and she trusts me so I don't think that will ever be an issue. I need her to be happy and fill the gaps I've always had on my heart, and she makes me happy just by being with her, it feels like it's a dream, and the same applies the other way arround according to her own words, actions and behaviour. I can tell it's a beautiful romance.

However before I met her I've always been addicted to porn. I would masturbate 10 times a day and watch pornography every day, I'd spend entire days on /gif/ and I really enjoyed it.

Now however this person is in play and I think it's extremely, extremely, extremely wrong to watch pornography or masturbate thinking of anyone but my dear violet.

At the same time, I really want to do it, like, there's this voice saying I like it, and I know I like it, and I want it, and I know I want it, pornography is just great.

I don't know what to do about this.
Do I let it be or keep supressing this desire until it's gone? Is it morally wrong to watch pornography when in a relationship? I want to watch it so much but it feels like I'm betraying her, because I find her anyone else other than her attractive. I want to but at the same time I don't. I'm on the verge of giving up on controllin g myself. Please help.


TLDR Can I watch porn if I'm living the love of my life

File: 1446554562635.gif (702KB, 268x342px) Image search: [Google]

702KB, 268x342px

Okay /adv/ got a question.
I have a sister, biggest spoiled bitch you'd ever meet. Unfortunately because of some work/school stuff its not really feasible for me to just up and move out.
My parents do absolutely nothing to punish her so she just yells and bitches constantly when something doesn't go her way until they finally give in. And I don't mean light bitching, I'm talking turning up the switch to 11 and breaking shit.

Anyone got any ideas on how to deal with this? I have 2 more years of this and I'd rather not have to constantly hold back the urge to beat the shit out of her.

File: 1427421303076.jpg (58KB, 722x349px) Image search: [Google]

58KB, 722x349px

Hey /adv/. Kinda have a problem here

>Shit work history
>Nobody in my area is hiring
>Don't have friends, can't use connections to get a job
>I'm not doing anything illegal
>I go to community college so I can't get a job that conflicts with that
>Can't do uber because I don't have a phone
>Can't lie on a resume because any background check shows the 10000000+ jobs I quit/got fired/laid off from
>Don't get hired whether I lie on a resume or not
>Can't join the military because meds
>I'm not selling my body ffs
>Can't do mturk because they fucked up my account and now I can't make another one

I get it. It's my fault and you think I'm a faggot etc etc. If that's all you have to say don't bother because I'm not even going to respond to you. Just tell me how I can make some kind of money

File: images.jpg (7KB, 240x173px) Image search: [Google]

7KB, 240x173px

I fear becoming homeless. I really fear it. And I fear it because I really believe that within a few years I'll become homeless.
I live in a single parent household and my job wouldn't pay enough to pay all the bills. My father is retired and has a shit tier navy pension. He just slouches on the sofa watching TV because he has nothing to do with himself. I know when he croaks I'm fucked and my whole world will come crashing down.
I wish I could get a high paying job or even just win a load of money and I'd be fine but I just look at documentaries on homeless people and I don't want to end up living under a bridge until I croak.

I can see why some people consider suicide now.

What help could I get if I get evicted?

File: noisia-image-3-127.jpg (31KB, 640x480px) Image search: [Google]

31KB, 640x480px

Long or short haircut for a man? Currently, I have longer haircut (but not like a metalfag). I have good quality hair, so I don't look like a dirty, metal virgin, but I'm wondering about cutting. What is your opinion, /b/ about hairstyle for a man?
Pic related I have hair like this guy on the left, but little shorter.

File: 1454563025715.jpg (420KB, 2000x1334px) Image search: [Google]

420KB, 2000x1334px

I keep having depersonalisation episodes more often than usual.

It used to happen whenever I had an anxiety attack, but now it's a lot more frequent, yesterday it happened repeatedly and lasted long. I freak out when I see my reflection in the mirror because it looks like a stranger to me, it's as if my body and face transformed overnight and I have a hard time recognizing myself in the mirror and pictures.
When there is no mirror and I depersonalise/disassociate, it feels like a mild out of body experience, I freeze.

Please help, I can't seem to find a way to stop this, and it's getting really out of control. It happens while I'm with people and while I'm walking outside or supposed to be studying or sleeping.

File: ebd.jpg (188KB, 321x455px) Image search: [Google]

188KB, 321x455px

My ex girlfriend is mad at me and is now saying unless I meet up with her alone(so she can tell me how to make it up to her) she's going to go to the cops and tell them i raped her. that she has "evidence" from a past encounter we had recently(yes it's dumb to fuck an ex but i was lonely and shit happened) and that she intends to use something from that day to show we fucked.

i'm really freaking out here and i don't know what to do. I don't think meeting up with her is a good idea but i don't know what else to do:(.

File: image.jpg (54KB, 743x500px) Image search: [Google]

54KB, 743x500px

Is it normal/healthy to have had absolutely no mutual romantic actions by the time you were 14?

File: 1437969015154.jpg (255KB, 800x531px) Image search: [Google]

255KB, 800x531px

My parents kept asking why I never have a gf, so I finally came out to them as a spectrophile. My dad was furious and called me a 'wierdo'. I know I can never have a meaningful relationship with a ghost, but I was born this way and it's not a 'stupid phase'.

How do I convince them my sexual orientation is genuine and not just a transparent cry for help?

File: 05184b8fb565631969630d246bff47410e8eff-wm.jpg (46KB, 640x920px) Image search: [Google]

46KB, 640x920px

So I finally got a stable job, but it is third shift so I work 12am - 9am six days a week.
I am now trying to build a social life. However nothing seems to line up with my schedule. My best off hours are 3am - 8 am Monday and you can imagine how most people react when you try to throw a party at that time.

Any advice on how to build a social life on abnormal hours?

P.S. I live in Northern Virgina if you know of any places I should check out

File: BRIAN WILSON4.jpg (62KB, 728x800px) Image search: [Google]

62KB, 728x800px

I get aroused during foreplay, and shit like kissing and. I can stay hard during handjobs and blowjobs. but as soon as it comes to actual intercourse I get anxiety and lose my erection. even putting on a condom seems to make me soft. Then I have to lie and say i was tired or just keep pleasuring her until she falls asleep. I hope its not ED, but how can I get less anxious?