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This is why you aren't friends with exes.

>>16852558

>he's found someone new
>broke up with you

He already found someone new long beforehand, he just took a while to tell you about it.

Move on, cut contact. It'll be better for both of you, mostly you.

The most hurtful thing you can tell him is you already fucked somebody else.

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There's literally nothing you can do. I have thought about trying to distance yourself from them, treating them like shit, just doing anything to make them hate me.

It's impossible if you actually love your family. If you distance yourself before you kill yourself then they'll be just as distraught and tell themselves they should have seen it coming. If you try making them hate you before you doing you'll seem out of character and suspect the same thing. Let alone actually being able to make the people you love hate you.

There's nothing you can possibly do to lessen the pain of metaphorically ripping out the hearts of the people that love you. Your parents probably won't feel worse pain in their lives, for the rest of their lives.

You have people have love you, just keep pushing on for now. Just focus on getting through the day, not worrying about tomorrow. The longer you don't kill yourself, the higher chance you'll find that thing in life worth living for. But you have to keep trying.

>>16852550

They're not guilting you into living - they make you feel guilty because your choice to kill yourself is weak and cowardly. Your life is fixable, but you don't want to put in the effort to try. The guilt is all self-imposed.

>>16852609
nothing feels worth it anymore
anything and everything I care about is going to be stripped from me

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Vaseline, some feathers, and preferably cow dung or jenkem. The Vaseline so your wrists slide easier, the feathers so you can be tickled and distracted from the pain, and the dung so you don't suffocate from the laughing because it smells nasty and you don't want to die like that.

>>16852530
The army's great senpai. Fantastic career, amazing for your health if you don't get shot or blown up. So many good habits you can pick up. Connections to be made. Personal advancement.

But if you join the army with the intent to murder people with guns you're a piece of shit and should get your head looked at.

You do it to serve your country and protect it's people. You can defend yourself, but any life you take is regrettable.

I myself plan to join the airforce before next year. My grandad was a sherman gunner. My uncle was a radar tech. Gonna be great to see how far I get.

>>16852530

Probably a bait thread, but I'll bite.

"Son, not everyone is smart enough for the space lazers and drones". Dady should have told you that.

Secondly, logic is stupid. Using logic to influence people is even more stupid. People are not machines, they don't run on logic, they are idiot happies who'll go back to the same ex that mistreated them, because of "feels" then question why it happens again. People are the beaten wives defending their husbands because "He's really nice once you get to know him". People are "ouch, that's hurt... it was just a prank bruh", then playin' pranks again because it made them feel good about themselves (even though they're dicks).

People are stupid. Logic doesn't work against stupid. It only offends stupid, because it makes the stupid realise what they are.

So, using logic against you, to tell you to stop thinkin' logically, is stupid. Because you're stupid. And I'm stupid for even tryin' to get you to see this.

But I still do it, and you'll still try to fight stupidity with logic...

Any why?

Because, without any exceptions, people are fucking stupid. Because "feels" and irrationality. It's a part of us.


Also, even without the guilt thing - I gotta ask. What is so worth defending in our cultures? A lack of affordable education for our childeren?
The ability to lose our right to be a father to our children in a divorce?
Alimony and shit?
The latest leftist, feminist, misandrist breed of women (who really have more worth defending at this point, it's only fair that they be on the front lines really)?
Dead-end jobs and a recession?
The previous generations, who was mostly to blame for the fucked economy, blaming everything on the newer generations?

Honestly, why support that?
Better off watchin' Rome burn.

>>16852570
OP up in hurr. not bait mane. I know everyone isn't smart enough for lazers and drones. My point was it doesn't make much sense for a standard on foot war when drones are the norm. I'm joinig the army for more career options. "free" college and all that jazz. I'm also joining because I'd rather die with a set of balls than die discontent with myself working a 9-5 married and with 2 kids. The Army will get me off my ass and whip me into shape. I'm also joining so I know what to do when martial law comes, I'll hopefully be prepared. I like America but I'm not patriotic or hateful to this country. The Army is just overall good if you know how to get what you want from it.

>>16852516
Borderline, family.

She's a nut, she's crazy in the coconut. What does that mean?

>>16852516
u need to sever all connections to this girl right now. she sounds like she might break into yr house one night and brutally murder u in yr sleep and get awyt with it.

>>16852523

This girl needs therapy!

>merely psychosomatic

>>16852504
>I am not a full on gay
>literally everything in your post
Choose 1. Do you live in an anti-homosexual place or something? You could move if it's such a big part of who you are.

Hard to say how you're gonna stop hating yourself without knowing what the issue is. When you grew up did people actively tell you that being gay is immoral/wrong/sinful? Or is this your own development where you've, for some reason, decided you don't like being gay?

Frankly I think all this will pass when you get some dick in you from someone you like.

>>16852518
I have periods where I'll only date girls, only jerk off to straight porn, etc. Believe me, eating pussy is always enjoyable for me and I've had nothing but good sex with women in the past. Sometimes though, I wonder what sucking a man's dick would be like, or kissing a man, or grabbing a buff man's ass like you would a tiny girl's. sexuality is weird, you know?

>>16852527
my older brothers are all pretty massively homophobic, I live in a pretty gay friendly area but my family in particular showed disdain for homosexuality.

I bet it's easier than writing about things you really care about, seems to me. As a job.

>>16852498
You'll be discovered and executed for heresy without due process. But yes, I imagine you could.

>>16852529
I hope you're being ironic

op here, not much left
>start using drugs to block it away
>start crying less and generally feeling less emotion
>still wont kick out bf

What should i do?

That's a lot anon. I think distancing yourself and your brother from mom is a good idea. I'm not sure escapism is gonna help you but that's of course very easy for me to say from here compared to where you are.

The entire situation seems to need outside intervention to me.

But why does your brother have to come home to that abusive situation? It's no place for a 10yo or anyone really.

>>16852568
yeah i know its not good for a 10yo, but atm there isnt actually a place he can perminantly live in wales, and my mum is trying to find a way to just go up and get him

Just hide behind 7 proxies

>>16852455
Don't. Just have your girlfriend stop engaging him, assuming she isn't enjoying the attention.

If she is, dump her that's fucked up.

>>16852455
yr plan may work and he may go to jail, but then u might for posting his dick pics...

Obviously it's something, you dense fuck. She wants to help you win. Let her in.

>>16852466
B-but the last time a girl was nice to me like this she lied to me and then rejected me.

>>16852470
And my mom pushed me into a wall. I'm not saying get over it, but a fact here is with this situation, and you must consider the immediate circumstance, is that she is approaching you. The kitty wants you to pet it. Give her your time and attention if you want to flirt and date, but aside from that, don't look a gift horse in the mouth. She is assisting you. Why resist?

>>16852428
>woman
>ever knowing about willpower
I'm laughing. Why would any of them ever need to develop willpower if they'll always have guys pinning after them and telling them they're special/interesting? They literally don't need it.

>>16852428
I hauled myself out of depression by getting a firm grasp on cognitive behavioural theory.

Does this qt talk about that? It's great shit.

>>16852451
Please crawl back into your /r9k/ hole, troll.

>>16852422
Answer this first, and everything you need will come: can you draw a caricature of the girl in question?

>>16852422
Gym

>>16852422
Ask her to fuck and get rejected. Once you know for a fact it'll never happen you can move on.

>>16852413

>how do i ask her out more

by asking her out more

>i dont want to seem needy

is it better than seeming like you dont even care about your own gf?

if i were you id just explain that becasue of the way her life runs its easier for you to just wait around cuz you're always free when she is, but not vice versa. but if you have to start making moves. just ask her to hang out every week, this isnt rocket science

OP you should consider when you want to see her. Always ask her out then. Consider how much she has been asking you out and see if you're gonna match that or not.

Clingy. Dump her. Sounds like you don't like her that much anyway.

>>16852383
Go to the ER. Otherwise there might be some free/cheap clinics around you for poor people.

>>16852391
there isnt free clinics that i know of..

do you think i can afford a fucking 500-1000 dollar ER visit? i dont have insurance.

i need solutions that are under $70 max

>>16852391

>ER

the emergency room is like 400 dollars a visit WITH insurance. dont go to the ER OP.


as for what you can do, you might have to shell out cash. though for bronchitis itself, anti biotics arent really recommended. all this being said

>there are free clinics, google to find them in your area
>there are cheap clinics (here in hollywood they are 75 dollars a visit, plus a visit, but they can bill you later and then you just never pay it)

and finally
>there are illegal drug markets

this is only true if you livei n a big enough area, especially true for close to a border. la is close to mexico so we have a shitton of drugs here. cheaper than if you had a prescription, but more expensive than if you had insurance.

but you know if you actually NEEd anti biotics, you need them or you will die.

all this being said, if your gf with insurance has a FRIENDLY doctor, you can try to finagle a prescription out of her. my mothers doctor wrote her a prescription for acne treatment and we did it all through her insurance, then i used it.

>>16852369

depends. you're treating this like its going to be a simple process, and its not. if she doesnt agree to whatever terms you are laying out (such as her being kicked out of her fucking home) then its going to result in a very long and lengthy court battle.

while the divorce stories arent as bad as they seem to be in comedies and other fiction, they do tend to favor the woman. shes not working, which implies that you take care of her. therefore when she gets divorced you have to keep paying for the life style she is accustomed to.

as for the kids, it quickly becomes a 'they need their mohter, i can take them to live wiht me at their grandparents house, where they'll have three guardians (her, and her parents) whereas anon works all day so cant be there for them!'

and t hey tend to favor that.

Well here's the back story and why I'm thinking of divorce, >>16846036

>>16852377
Well the thing is, she doesn't really have a place to go... Kinda, her mom just got out of jail for drug related charges and right now is at a Midway home. Her stepfather lives in Florida, we live in Virginia. There's really no good life that she's living. I make enough to pay rent, car, insurances and phone bill. We don't live in an apartment or home, I'm renting a basement because that's what we could afford when she stopped working because of her pregnancy. So not really a flashy life to be honest.