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I know this is the worse place to go for advice but
How do I make a friend? There's this person who I've talked to a lot on a site where I'm anonymous and they post under a name, and we great along pretty well. Recently I added them as a friend on a social media site, but when we try to talk there it's awkward and actually they haven't responded to me in two weeks or so. I don't want to initiate every conversation, because that's one-sided and I feel like I'm bugging them. I just really want to be friends or at least friendly with them, but for some reason it's not working. What can I do?
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Try being honest with them, like tell them about how you really want to be their friend, despite the awkwardness. Maybe they feel the same way?
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I can try that, but I'll have to work up the nerve. Anyone have any other ideas?
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Hand goes 'numb' before depression hits 2016-03-21 06:24:22 Post No.16941115
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So, I've noticed this since I was about 14; Generally, a few hours before I'm hit with a wave of depression, one or both of my hands will go kind of numb.
It's similar to when you're leg falls asleep, except I can feel something pulsating through them, and usually they start to get very cold. Lately, it's been my left hand. When I was younger, I just thought it may have been the way I was lying on my couch or something, but a few years back I realized the connection. It's gone all the way up to my elbow, but usually it stays in my hands.
I've never gone to the doctor about it, for the same reason I've never asked to be put on medication for my depression; a mix of embarrassment and fear.. But, do you guys have any advice on it?
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>>16941115
honestly, see a doctor
neuro and psychiatric symptoms occurring together are not something to be nonchalant about.
Don't be embarrassed, doctors see much worse things on a daily basis, and they genuinely want to help, especially with proactive young patients who have a lot left to live for and haven't drank/smoke/eaten themselves to a life of chronic disease
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Probably a brain tumor
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Hey /adv/.
So there's this pretty bitch with a nice ass in all my classes. She has severe mental issues such as general anxiety disorder and depression which makes her difficult to talk to. Guess she had a traumatic childhood as her mom died of cancer when she was young. So, my issue is that we got close after she gave me signals that she was into me but apparently she isn't. Now she doesn't talk to me but I'm still into her for some reason. I know that she's a shitty person because she will ignore me but talk to people right in front of me even though I'm sadly the only one who has ever cared for her and she has even said this. How do I get over her and not get jealous when she socializes with others?
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I've kiiinda been in a similar situation. Just look at it like this: She's got severe mental health issues, you've got a good conscious and done what you could. She apparently not fucking with you for whatever reason so just let time make you numb to whatever game she's playing and go about your business as well as you can.
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Date another girl, see if she gets jealous.
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I live in LA and I hate it for various reasons. I still live with my parents but I work a decent job and I'm saving money. I'm thinking of moving to Oregon or Colorado as my first move once I've saved over $80,000.
Would a psychology or physics degree be a good choice for mobility? Meaning I could move anywhere with them? I'm interested in getting to Europe eventually. My plan is to work while at school and hopefully the money will last until I have a degree.
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Florencia ese
If you're a girl, be my girlfriend?
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Degrees don't offer mobility unless you want to be a student. Careers and occupations offer mobility or not.
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What are entry-level jobs or volunteer positions that are related to being a lookout observer\Fire watcher?
I'm trying to get some work experience for the career in question.
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forestry degree? some sort of job experience suggesting you're a responsible person and you aren't just going to go fuck around? Why are you asking such a specific job-based question to /adv/ when you should be approaching the source of the information instead?
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Who is saying I'm not doing both? Besides, the position needs no degree.
if you want to message someone you haven't spoke to in a while who you aren't sure will respond, which of these to send?
>"hey" (non-threatening, simple)
>"hey, how've you been" (gives a question)
>"hey, I hope you're doing well. Just wanna say I saw you a week ago at the bar and it made me miss you and I'm sorry about how things were with us, I wasn't in the best place at the time but I've worked on myself and think I'm doing better. Well, hit me up if you want to catch up." (explanation)
All 3 can have their consequences, the last could be embarrassing to send if I don't get a response, but the hey might not warrant a response.
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>>16940773
don't message and move on
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Hey, how've you been?
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I feel like I've grown up so fast
I can't handle how everything I experience invokes an urge to explore and understand
I have so much control over the rest of my life and I don't know what to do with it
I want to go back to feeling okay out of anxiety and ignorance
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I know the feeling bro. Just keep in mind that the rest of life will go the same pace. I like the painting by the way it really fits this topic's mood
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>>16940611
Recognise that you can't do everything at once. Prioritise things. There can be some things you want to do that you won't get around to until many years later. As long as you still actively work towards doing all the things you want, allow yourself the time to do them. If it seems too overwhelming, and if you don't handle it right, you'll just end up doing nothing.
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Ok so the story I'm about to tell you happened to a friend and for some reason, doesn't sit well with me. I don't know what it is. Just a feeling that something was unjust.
>friend l likes girl
>orbits her
>begs her to be his gf
>she says no
>eventually changes her mind to yes
>find out from Chad friend that she only held off dating friend L so she could fuck Chad.
There's something upsetting about this but I can't put it into clear words. What's wrong with that situation someone help me figure out. Should i tell friend L?
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I dunno, I guess its a bit dirty in that she didn't enter a relationship she had some interest in because she wanted to fuck chad first. But she wasn't dating him, so it's not like she really did anything wrong. I'd stay out of it, not really your problem. Focus on your own business.
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>>16940569
You can tell L if you want them to break up or have an argument. You can at least tell the girl that's fucked up. L probably should know but you should contemplate the consequences of telling him
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Wow, I feel like a dick.
Ok, so I was talking to this chick (7/10) on snapchat and we've been just talking casually for about 3 weeks. So today I message her and she was crying about "deep stuff" and I just assumed it was some period shit or she was just feeling depressed about her inevitable death or like the inevitable death of one of her loved ones.
So I just keep talking and then say
"ur still lowkey crying lol" just kinda playing around.
"Yeah, I'm kinda going through some deep stuff."
"Are u thinking about when brothers dies and stuff." (because I had thought of stuff like that before and gotten depressed and shit)
"Yeah Anon the make a wish foundation is coming tomorrow."
>oh_shit.jpeg
Then I started laughing like crazy because now I realized why her brother looked so fucked up. Then I realized I'm a shity person. Now I'm making this thread for attention which is even more fucked. Idk what to do ab this
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>>16940530
drugs: not even once.
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>>16940638
whut
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Hey. So my family is composed of some pretty unhappy people. As for myself, I think I'm okay, I'm pretty happy.
Oftentimes, though, I get to feeling down because I feel bad for my family members, or that I can't do anything to help them. I help around the house, I try to help with money, but I know it won't make much better, and it definitely won't make them happy.
How do I be there for them but not let their bad emotions get to me? I want to be happy but I can't be if I'm carrying their pain.
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You're not going to be helping anyone if you don't prioritize your own success first and foremost. If you're disciplined and hard-working now, in the future you will be better equipped to help those in need.
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If you do the best in your ability to make them happy, then you shouldn't be unsatisfied if they're still unhappy. Because you put in 100% effort, going out of your way for your family, and for their best interests. Let your actions for THEM make YOU happy. Because in the end, you're giving all that you have for your family. And that's all that matters, isn't it?
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How to meet new people/make new friends 2016-03-21 02:31:29 Post No.16940419
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Just moved to a new city, no job (yet), not in school, and I dont drink. where can I go to meet people and make friends? what do I say/do?
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Bribe someone to be your friend? Just kidding. That's a pretty tough situation to be in. You can try going to coffee shops and talking to people. Getting a job would be a massive help. If you have an environment where you are around one person for a long time eventually you'll become friends. And once you have one friend that's all you need to get the ball rolling
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several ways. pick a hobby and go to meetup.com just search all the categories and go. if you for any raeson think that you just wouldnt meet anyone there, YOU are the problem. you have to go out. dont dismiss an option until you go and hangout.
after that, hobby shops. what do you like? video games? books? movies? tv shows? board games? comics? guns? fishing supplies? pick something, then go to a store that sells that. wait in an aisle that particularly interests oyu, then wait. someone comes in, strike up conversation. not just people who look like friend material. anyone. cuz the more you talk to strangers, the more you get used to talking to strangers, and it will make talking to the people that do look like friend material easier.
conversations are simple
>at book store
>horror section
>someone comes in looking for a book
>'looking for something spooky?'
>'not really, i mean its technically horror, but i mostly read his work for the character development'
>'oh yeah, who you reading?'
>stephen king
>'oh yeah, my favorite was XX because YY. im lookiung for some ZZ though. have you checked out his book titled 'insert title here' ?
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25 yo dude that's never been in a relationship before here. The lack of sex doesn't bother me but the implications of my situation sure do. I enjoy my life and count my blessings but the fact is that nobody finds me desirable and that sucks. I can't even figure out why. Apparently I'm a happy go-lucky man. I feel bad about myself and like I'm missing out on something that everyone else is in on. What's a guy to do? I don't want to date a woman I have no interest in, I don't think that would help any, but I don't seem to really connect with anyone. Advice on how to overcome this?
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>I don't want to date a woman I have no interest in.
Wrong. You date people to find out if you have interest in each other. Fix your order and date them all.
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So then how do you filter people? Or you don't and just go on hundreds upon of hundreds of dates? Because that sounds really time consuming and expensive. How would people afford that?
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Hey /adv/ I'm a 20 year old turning 21 in May.
I've never had a job before, and the last couple months straight of applying places I haven't even got an interview. I applied to work for the city this summer since I'm a student. I got an interview this coming Tuesday.
I basically need advice on how to land this job, it pays more than minimum wage and it'd be something great to have on my resume. It's a circuit type of interview (go to different booths for different questions). I am so desperate for this job, its time to get my life moving and I'd hate it for a stupid interview to stop me.
Any advice is appreciated.
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>Dress to impress
This is probably the easiest thing you can do to improve your chances. BARE MINIMUM should be a Button-up dress shirt and pressed slacks, but a suit and tie is preferable. This lets your potential employer know at a glance that you mean fucking business.
>Don't stress
If you get stage freight easily, do something on the way to the interview to calm yourself down. Doesn't matter if it's listening to your favorite song, having a piece of your favorite candy, or whatever, just find something to put you in a good mood.
>Be prepared
Do some research on the job you're applying for. Think of potential questions that you might be asked (if you have no idea, Google "typical interview questions"), but more importantly, just be familiar with the job itself. Know what you're getting yourself into.
>Walk the walk
Good handshakes, confident greetings, and good manners/posture can get you a long ways. If asked to take a seat during the interview, sit up straight somewhat on the edge of the chair (it shows you're interested and listening to the interviewer). Be friendly and polite. "Yes Sir, No Sir/Yes Ma'am, No Ma'am"s are always good, especially if you're younger.
>TL;DR
Basically pretend that you're James Bond; Confident, charismatic, well groomed, and prepared.
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I need help with next thing :
My girlfriend has a trauma which makes her impossible to read out loud. I know it is because her father used to beat her while making fun of her reading abilities.
I want to help her going through it, I've tried a few things but she just says that she can't read it out loud.
Any idea with traumas? How could I help her without paying her a psychologist?
Thank you guys.
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So she has no problem talking before large audience? Only reading to audience?
If she can read load when nobody is present, make her read in a room alone with open doors. Make sure she knows nobody is listening.
After few practice rounds you can listen to her stealthy. Then tell her you heart her?
If this is the only problem another good solution is to ignore it.
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>>16940057
I think I will try making her read out loud when she is alone. At least for a few times before I try to be the only one hearing her.
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Would you confess to a girl you like before you went to separate universities and could meet each other only thrice a year?
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Depends on what you mean by confess.
If you mean sperg out and confess my undying love then hell no.
If you mean to tell her that you like her as more than a friend, etc, then sure. I did that once with a girl when I knew i'd be moving away. Of course, she was already taken so I didn't expect much, but I figured i'd do it and see how it goes.
Tl;dr it's all in how you do it. Don't come off as a desperate or obsessive weirdo
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as said in all animes:
to do something stupid is better than doing nothing at all