Do you need to have a mutual love at first sight spark/chemistry in order for a relationship to happen?
Is it actually possible to go from random stranger someone doesn't care about into someone the person falls in love with? Going from zero to dateable?
I know it sounds like a stupid question but since many people seem to sugest that you should constantly switch into another target until you find someone who likes you, I'm starting to wonder.
>>16939813
yes. most men tend to give that struck immediately feeling. women tend to need to be won over. this is a generalization of course. there are many different scenarios. but virtually no relationships start due to a mutual feeling of intense attraciton.
generally they'd say 'yeah they're hot' at first sight, but thats not quite the same as the instant chemistry.
>>16939813
there needs to be physical attraction if that's what you're asking
How do I stop relying on others to feel content?
I have few friends, and a girl I'm sweet on. The friends and girl I only see during+inbetween classes for the most part and the girl I ask out every now and then, but aside from that I only ever hear from them if I hit them up myself. I can't always keep going on like that. I run out of things to say, but if I don't say anything I won't hear anything.
After a few days it makes me feel lonely and depressed. Everything feels like a chore and I can't get any shit done. Eventually I'll just dive into the texting app to update my last-seen time and see how social they are (always regularly updating and very recent). Yet in that one moment that my phone/text app does ring, it all vanishes. That barely happens, though.
I know it's bad to be so dependent, and if it got out to them I'd probably become even lonelier. How do I get over it? I don't have the time, space or money to pick up shit to keep my mind occupied (and it drifted off anyway with what I'd tried), so what else works?
This is the part where I go "pls respond" and bump the thread back to a place someone might see it
>>16939801
>How do I stop relying on others to feel content?
I don't think that's something anyone (maybe a therapist, but I doubt it) can help you with. You just have to find your own happiness.
How to cover up scars from cutting? Got in a depressive episode in January and started to cut myself. The depressive episode went by but the scars stayed.
Kinda sucks cause its getting warmer and i cant show of my gains. The scars on the right arm healed pretty good and there are just some red lines left. Too bad the scars on the left side are deeper and wider.
It's so strange because cutting seems like such an awful and unreal thing to do right now - like how could anybody ever hurt themself? but thats what depression does to you.
Fuck that shit, motherfucker! Welcome to the club. Wear them with pride and don't tell people shit.
> "Where did those scars come form?"
> Someone else.
Bam. Conversation over. They never ask again. I say that because I am BP and, to me, it was someone else. Stay strong anon.
Makeup ? I tried that once and it did a decent job.
Hey /adv/, I've been with my long distance girlfriend for a while now, and I proposed to her a couple of months ago. I know what you're thinking, ldr don't work and things like that, but we aren't actually super far apart, just by a few hours. I admittedly don't get to see her as often as I wish I could, but it's still not enough to be a dealbreaker. Once we married, I planned on moving in with her.
Well anyway, right now she's going through a ton of stuff with her parents. She just got kicked out of her house, and luckily her friend was able to take her in and has promised to let her stay there indefinitely if she needed to. Since this event with her parents, she's been acting differently towards me, she has suggested we go on a break, but then later said not to go on a break, and it's all just really confusing right now. She told me that not seeing me is becoming increasingly difficult and I completely get that, because it's tough on me too. I wish more than anything I could afford to make the move out there where she lives but I just can't at the moment with the money I make.
Are things just tough right now because of what she's going through? We've never really had any kind of issues before she got kicked out. I mean yeah, occasional fight here and there but we were/are really good with each other. I have no doubts she loves me and I definitely love her too. I guess I'm just a bit scared an insecure at the moment. She is far from the type to cheat or anything like that, and like I said, it's very clear she does love me. I'm just scared right now I guess.
>>16939420
Go see her.
>>16939420
Can you make a trip up there for a few days?
Hey /adv/
I'm new when it comes to box mods and was lucky enough to get an IPV D2 and uwell crown tank
Just put in the 0.5ohm coil that came with it (stainless steel, dual) and noticed something off
I could run the 0.25 coil up to 60W no problem, but cranking the 0.5 up to 30W, the mod reads the voltage as 4v
My battery is 3.6V so I shouldn't exceed that, right? Do I just have to run this coil at a really low voltage and compromise on, well, everything? Or am I just retarded?
I ordered in some more 0.25s anyway, the reading never exceeded the battery voltage even at 70W
Anyone?
It's a regulated mod so I can't go too far wrong, surely
Help would be greatly appreciated
Basically I just want to know if it's ok to run my mod at higher than the 3.6v on my battery (around 5v to get to my desired wattage)
i need help right now, me and my girlfriend do, is there anyone here me and her could start a kik group with, we need help with our relationship.
((pic unrelated))
No to the kik thing, but I'd you post the problem on the board maybe we could help you two figure it out.
>being so vain that you want a fucking kik group with people to whine to about your personal problems
and here i thought /adv/ was the bottom of the barrel.
Is there a way for me to get Windows 10 for free to install on my Mac?
Are there any major downsides to installing Windows on a Mac? Will I be able to play my Steam library without too many issues? Will I see performance issues on either side if I do this?
Answering #1 would be most helpful... The rest aren't as important.
yeah, torrent that shit
no downsides other than taking up space
steam will work fine.
the performance will probably be good in windows but might not be, depends on your specific hardware
either way it won't hurt OSX performance
>>16939287
Awesome. My new Mac is pretty beastly when it comes to hardware, all in all, (for a Mac).
I'm increasingly worried about the direction of my future as it pertains to work.
My job is in heavy demand, but I don't particularly like what I do. It doesn't allow for a lot of creative wiggle room, and I'm worried that the longer I stick with it, the more I'll be stuck with it in terms of what employers will see in me.
The thing that holds me back is that there isn't much else out there in my skillset that is going to pay comparably. My company has a reputation of being one of the better paying in the city, and at the very least, I like the people that I work with, and consider them capable and fun to be around. That said, morale is low and everyone wants to leave.
It seems like I'm trapped if I stay home. But, I don't want to move anywhere because I'd really struggle without my friends and family, and I already own a home here with amazing cost of living and all that jazz.
What can I do? How do I escape this trapped feeling? I don't want to do this for the next ~40 years of my life.
Its never too late for education. Also what field of work is it so I can get my bearings.
>>16939198
Digital Media Marketing.
I'm not even sure what kind of education I'd go get to drastically change my career path. And I don't think I could afford something entry level in another path anyways.
How do I become more socially competent and less like pic related?
>>16939183
Literally practice. And not being autistic enough to ignore people's reactions when you do weird shit.
In other words, get friends.
>>16939193
>standard 4chan response
>Go out there and do....something.
please advise, is this a good deal or not?
>>16938962
Sounds like a great deal for the 18th century.
>>16938983
Adjusting for inflation, $80 in 1776 would be worth around $2,222 in current value.
That's about $185 per nig. And you're not even buying, just leasing per month.
Hardly a value proposition, in my opinion.
My disabled uncle went and scratched the shit out of his eye and now its all swollen. Im worried as fuck. Any tips on what to do?
>>16938918
Take him to the doctor before he loses his fucking eye.
Go to a doctor before it gets worse.
So tonight I am going to a club. Which has hard house and EDM music to dance to. Ofcourse, like the gentleman I am I want to talk to girls and have a fun night. But I've gone to several clubs now, but I seem to lack the ability to have a good conversation with girls I do not know.
This is how it goes so far, after I notice a girl is into me (she's dancing and looking me in the eye etc...):
> Hi, having a good night?
> Yeah! You?
> Me too! What's your name?
> Melissa.
> Cool, where do you come from? OR Cool, that reminds me of a friend of mine who is....
> Anontown OR Cool
What do I have to chat after this, or do i need to do it in an other approach?
All advice appreciated
P.S. I'm looking like a 5/10 or 6/10 by harsh judgers.
Ask them if they know Molly, hook them up with her, have a good time.
>>16938638
Sorry m8, if you're this autistic I don't think you'll get very far
Can somebody help me for a second?
I'm not a native English speaker, but I'm looking for a phrase. It goes something like Not all something, something sugar maybe? They say it when somebody appears tough and mean, but they can be nice when they want to be. I think it was something about cane, but I can't remember.
It's driving me crazy, it's on the tip of my tongue, but can't find the words.
i tried but couldn't come up with anything. sounds something straight outta louisiana good luck tho, have a bump.
Maybe:
You can't expect boths ends of a sugar cane to be as sweet?
It supposedly a chinese proverb
You follow the common social steps to do so.
Who said you're allowed to have a gf
Huh, buddy?
How the fuck do I get a job /adv/?
I've been trying since fucking febuary to get a job, im 19, ive had prior contract based work but no-one is even bothering to send courtesy letters / e-mails. I'm halfway through applying for a bigger, well-paying job, but I need something to fill the gap so I can just fucking support myself.
>no, im not saying I need something to fill the gap in the applications
Temp agency
Temping is good, but "if less than 100 people know you're looking for a job, you're not even in the ballpark."
Job hunting itself is an 8 hour a day job just like anything else. You would have one if you put in an effort.
Are you following up once or twice a week (until you get a firm answer)?