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>>16999404

i wish i could help but when it comes to 'i cried cuz my ships will never be canon' there isnt anything anyone can really say other than get over it.

the best we can offer is the advice to get therapy and talk it out more.

>>16999404
You need to move on, and for lack of better words "grow up"

When it comes to the emotional waves of human beans, everything is relative. Right now, not much of any real importance is happening in your life, yet relatively speaking, your emotions have adapted to this fact, and you are creating drama over things that people with a higher level of maturity see as ridiculous and absurd.

You're mind is affixing values to experiences that most of adult society would consider childish and insignificant. This is simply because you are not taking on the greater responsibilities of adulthood, for one reason or another. It may be your fault, it may not... that is irrelevant to the point... -- the point being that you need to move your life in a direction that will give you experience in dealing with greater trials and tribulations.

Your self-esteem is likely low. You fear rejection (in all ways). The only way to learn to overcome this is by dealing with it more. Practice makes perfect, afterall.

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>>be honest

You're a faggot op.

Also, there's no such thing as inherently bad or good people, there's just the shit you do. Actions are what matters, and no one of them wipes out another.

>>16999383
>there's no such thing as inherently bad or good people
>actions are what matters

This goes under the pressumption that people make decisions at all times instead of being influenced by the way they are.

Some people simply have short temper and are selfish, while others are calm and kind.

Which is to say, the course of action of different people can be completely predictable based on their past behaviours, thus confirming the thesis that the future is, somehow, fate. Therefore, being bad and good can be said to be inheritly inherited traits.

>you're a faggot

Keep in mind I never said I'm the given person when making your reply.

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>>16999373
good and bad are subjective qualities, perceived by those you are associated with. there are those who are more asocial and those who are more prosocial based on their intrinsic motivations (which could be instinct or conscious decision).

how you act is ultimately your choice, though you may find it more difficult to perform good acts when driven by asocial motivations. the real question is: what do you want? is this to do with your sense of self worth or do you think such things have a greater meaning in life?

All is well op

>>16999362
What is /avd/?

>>16999362
you're a dumbfuck if you don't manage to get the job.

>>16999355

iots not indifference.

Look traditionally guys went out of their cave hunting when they had no contact with their families for days or weeks. Prolonged non stop contact with people is tiring. We need a break.

>>16999355
>a few days

Was this a typo, or you for real?

>>16999360

Thanks for your response. This definitely makes sense and is why I leave him to it. I assume he's just sitting at home watching tv or recovering from his day. I like to think he doesn't get in touch because he knows we're fine and I don't need him to be there all the time. We also see each other fairly often, so it's not like we have anything really important to talk about. However, it would be really nice to hear from him, just to show I'm on his mind.

I'm trying my best not to let it get to me because I've known his habits from the very beginning.

Sleeping with combat knife under pillow like /k/ommando? :-D

>>16999353
how do you even cut yourself sleeping mate?

>aloe Vera

I can you were taught anything by anybody who cared.

Put some Neosporin on the cut.

Not aloe....lol.....

You put aloe on sunburn, silly.

>>16999327
You didn't mention any love interests.

>>16999333
Currently none. Last relationship with gf lasted four years, she cheated on me, I discovered it, ended the relationship (February 2015).

Think about the time before you felt this way - when you were happy. What was motivating you? What made you happy?

No, be yourself. If a girl looks or talks to you in a way that shows interest ask for her number or ask her out. If she accepts woohoo. If not rinse and repeat

>>16999281
You've got a lot to learn.

>>16999316
thank you captain obvious, that is very good advice that I can put into practice right this instant, have this rock as a sign of my gratitude

>>16999266
Are you or have you met any other girls?

That's the only way to really forget her.

>>16999324

Dated one briefly. No success otherwise.

Stop thinking of her because you know she's not thinking about you. You'll wake up one day and realize how pathetic it is.

I suppose it's the idea of control (same with cock caging/chastity/cuckholding/bdsm/ect) but taken to its extreme. I feel that a lot of fetishes and kinks are based around the idea of giving up control, or taking it, or ect-cetera.

Personally, I have a rape fetish. It only manifests itself around seeing powerful, arrogant type characters though. I don’t self insert--I fantasize about them being brought low and humiliated, and rape is one of the fastest ways you can do that.

The latter. Because societal conditioning has made it so that the rude arrogant and selfish men are the most desirable.
>See Bond movies

It's fucked up. It's twisted, and it wont change for my generation. Unfortunately it's spurred this side culture of supposedly "Alpha" males on 4chan that think women want to be raped, not understanding the idea of a fantasy, but meh.

It's an issue of semantics. Most women don't really want to be "raped" in the sense that we think of, including the violence and pain. They do however crave the rush of excitement, of the unknown, being "taken" forcefully (not painfully). Basically they want to feel helpless, but secure at the same time. They want to feel like they aren't in control, but that the man doing it is "alpha" enough (strong, capable, aggressive) to control the situation.

Part of it is the the adrenaline rush, as fear does turn many people on, especially women.

The ones who also enjoy the pain aspect usually are into hitting, slapping, squeezing or pulling. As long as they are wet, you could do whatever and it would only turn them on more. I think going in dry would be the only exception.

What do you consider "not failing"?
Been in a long term/long distance relationship for 9 years now, but we live close enough to each other to see each other every other weekend or so. Probably moving in together as soon as we can afford it.

>>16999201
>What do you consider "not failing"?
Not breaking up because of reasons closely tied to the distance. In my case I'm tempted to with this girl in Portugal (I'm in the USA), I bond with her way better than anyone from my home country, and there's a real possibility of closing the distance in the next 2-4 years since she wants to do her PhD here, in the same field I do. Not only that, distance is inevitable if I succeed in my career goal of working in Antarctica.

>>16999190
What's wrong man?

Can't find any local grils?

>>16999181

no, I don't because I don't feel I'm a worthless piece of shit like you do

but I used to feel like that

>>16999183
Stellar advice, thank you for contributing.

>>16999187

since you're so fucking dense, instead of asking people not get you gifts, work on your self-esteem and get over your shitty insecurity, you bimbo bitch

>>16999139
If you don't like your friends then why does is matter. I did the same thing an now the only friend I have is my wife an my bf I talk to on ps4

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>>16999154
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>>16999139
Op, if you stopped all communication and shoes signs that you don't want to be bothered, why would someone bother you?

>>16999066
Reconnect with family and friends

Drink/party with those friends

Meet and have sex with new people

It's literally the only way. It takes time. Chin up bro, youll make it

why did she end it..

>>16999078
She and I are apart, on other sides of the world. She felt as though we were holding each other back as she wants to travel and i want a career in film.

I understand where she is coming from, but in my eyes, the idea of travelling with her was equally as appealing as any career opportunity.

I want to think she knew this...

IUD is almost fool-proof
Being limp doesn't mean there isn't sperm
Not cumming doesn't mean there isn't sperm

There is always a chance.
Sperm are crazy-ass mother-fuckers ;)

But with the IUD, chances are slim.

Next time, try a rubber.
Or just don't try if you aren't ready for the consequences....

>>16999056
>Next time, try a rubber.

Yeah, no kidding.
I barely remember doing it.
We were both trashed.

I basically got a recap the next morning, along with "This NEVER happened" because she has a bf.

Without the IUD, your odds would be about 1 in 30. IUDs are almost as effective as the pill can be (and in practice they're actually more effective, because the pill is prone to user errors while IUDs are not).

tl;dr - The odds are not zero, but they're extremely low.

Ageing is something we all have come to terms with.

Rest easy knowing that in the end, we all die.

And although our lives may look different right now, our graves will all look the same at the end of the line.

>>16999031
>Can you still be considered attractive at the age of 30 or 40?
women no
men yes
sry just being real with you cupcake

I'm also going through my crisis a little early. So what I'm doing is saving up for a breast lift + implants, working out, and taking as good care of my skin as I can. It's basically trying to beat back the ravages of time with a stick, though. Eventually, the stick's going to break, and I'm going to get wrinkly and die, just like everyone else. Hopefully my tits look nice for whoever does my autopsy, though.