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that's a good thing i think.

Not really.. I'm very self-centered in my thoughts.

i think i feel other peoples intentions when im by self on my head so now i rub my head and it goes away mostly. it feels like when i was a kid some times.

Go see a doctor

OP here.
Also, forgot to add:
She also said that I had a difficulty forming "the big picture" and instead was focused on details, and that I had a difficulty with identifying the emotions and intentions of others.
These two are characteristic of autism (I know that), but is the selective attention part seen in autism at all? I only know this term from the literature I've read on psychotic disorders.

how does it affecct you in every day life? what made you seek help?

dude. the most important thing when in a realtionship is using a way of documenting her cycle... there are a ton of apps. you can even get some with pms'ing allerts. it's a fucking life saver!

>>17003172
oh, just DON'T tell her "calm down, you are just pms'ing." her emotions are VERy real to her atm. she will accuse you of not taking her serious or being sexist. try to just keep difficult topics for other times. and cut her some slack if she is prone to overreacting.

>>17003141
Have you never heard of PMS? It is a very real physical condition resulting from askew hormones. Some women get it light, some are bed-ridden with cramps and pain, some get painful breasts, some get weepy, some get bitchy. There is no "cure".

Take note of her cycle and give her a lot of space in the week before she's due.

>she's eager to find things you two have in common ("i thought i was the only one who loved how xyz!")
>she thinks you're hillarious
>she tries to not be too obvious about her interst
>she does the "casual touches and body contact"-thing
>she tries to spend time with you
>she finds an excuse to get your number
>she's all smiles when you are around
>you catch her looking at you, then lower her eyes and smile/blush
>you make frequent eye contact
>she hints at upcoming events you "should attend"
>she is also friendly to your friends to not make it too obvious and also to have a good impression on them, in case you ask them about their opinion on her
>she sends you a friends request or likes pics of you/comments
>she actually asks you to go somewhere she will be too
>she dresses nicely and makes an effort to look her best
>she makes low key or outright sexual comments/jokes
>she compliments you
>she gifts you something. even if it is something silly or insignificant or in a joking manner
>she tries to find out if you have a crush on somebody or a gf
>tries to mention that SHE's single
>any many, many more

>>17003129
Jesus dude, you must be some sort of love guru lol. Bet you get lucky all the time ;)

>>17003129
Speaking of what you said, what catches my interest is which ones are the main ones or the ones that's the biggest factors?

>>17003089
you're sad because you're missing out on potential pussy, end it already

Have you tried talking to her about The sex thing? And if yes, what was her respons?

>>17003113
she says she doesn't know why she doesn't want more etc but she always says you cant change me etc
a few times it lead to a agurment etc but it just even when we do have sex it just straight to the point she's starting to get mad or something if I even try foreplay or ask for it

so I've pretty much stop asking or trying to have sex now

like I think it has to end but I feel sad to then I think no keep going then I feel even worst cause Im pretty sure it needs to end

but I just don't know how to
my mind it just all twisted im i meant to be sad about breaking it off or what?

>hey guys can I have some topics to troll you with?

>>17003088
i'm ot looking for "negatively loaded"-topics per se. maybe you just love to discuss a certain book or a philosophical or moral question.

Millenials and any other generation topic honestly. I don't know, I like discussing differences and find people fascinating overall. Emotions, I could probably go on quite a while discussing. Examining it through different view points, or how events could effect different people in terms of their sensitivity. However, I'm probably one of the few that enjoy this and can keep it fairly objective. Talking about emotions or personal things will get some of the best talkers silent.

Cut off one of your ears and mail it to her :)

>>17003049
Kill someone she doesn't like and mail her the head. Or give it to her in person. Your choice.

Walk up and make solid eye contact as you say hey what's your name? Mines anon and when she tells you ask her what she's up to if she's busy ect and if not ask her if she wants to go for a walk and entertain her with your autism and if she's busy tell her that she's pretty cute and you'd love to get her number so you can take her out for coffee or something sometime you fucking loser

>>17003042
That op image is gold

>>17003048
no, it's diamonds

>>17003051
it's heavier

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>>17003025
Know the feel, it's been practically two years since my relationship of just over 3 years blew up in my face because my ex had commitment issues that decided to flare up suddenly.

Haven't even had my dick sucked since, I had other sexual partners before her but now I find it incredibly hard being comfortable having sex with anyone.

For example there is this cute short red head at work that just got hired on, I would fuck the shit out of her but whenever I think about making a move in start thinking about the hundreds of reasons I shouldnt.

I honestly think I'm just afraid of getting that close and invested in someone again.

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>>17003045
It feels like we've been walking on the same road.

Since the breakup, there have been two girls at my Uni I've been interested in....but just like you said, all the issues about getting invested again just make me distance myself again.

plus the fact that they already have boyfriends doesn't help....i see it as a challenge

>>17003069
>Going after girls with boyfriends

this only ends in heartbreak or an assbeating

>>17003006
As a girl- that looks like uterine lining to me.
You're right that it looks particularly flesh-y, but honestly I've had similar looking things happen at times and I'm a virgin

>>17003008
>virgin
How old?

Congratulations on the miscarriage! Dodged a bullet there, buddy.

>>17002997
You messed up OP.

I don't have FWB because I know that I'm someone who gets emotionally invested when sex is involved. That's just the way I am- I associate that physical intimacy with love.

In the future, don't start being FWB if you can't keep your emotions out of the equation. This of this as a breakup. You need to move on because this girl is not looking for what you're looking for.

Are you bothered by the idea of your friend having sex with another man or the thought of him being better at satisfying her than you?

>>17002997
The WHOLE point of FWB is no-emotion, no-commitment.

You've just discovered that you're in love.

It's a meme created by the patriarchy to oppress women. Thankfully society is starting to embrace feminism which will fix the major divide in men and women.

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>>17003000
If it's a meme to oppress women, why are they attached to it?

Nice trips btw, you flaming fagwad!

Masculinity doesn't exist.

You instantly think of ripped muscles, contact sports and the "alpha" males as masculinity; because that's what we're grown up to think. But that's all a facade. There is no set limit or image to what is "masculine" or not.

Do whatever the fuck you want and stop worrying if its masculine or not.

>>17002897
Please learn punctuation, the run on sentences you have typed are atrocious.
Focus on science, stop letting other people rule your life.

Thanks for the input . On my mobile so not overly concerned on my punctuation. Please elaborate on your comment .

>>17002927
Well, I don't know your occupation in life, but I really suggest you ground yourself more in your interests if you are so compelled to shit where you eat, relationship-wise. If you put your efforts into something more worthwhile, you can often find that the hole in your life you're trying to fill is better fitted for something besides sex with someone tabboo.

>>17002861
The GoPro Hero 4 is good but doesn't give you many options. Personally I recommend a Canon T5i. Super good camera. Extra lense will cost you an arm and a leg, but they're always super nice to have. Make sure new lenses are exactly what you want before you buy them. Programs that are good for editing is adobe premier and DaVinci resolve. DaVinci is technically able to edit videos but the editing interface is wonky at best, it's color editing is super good and super easy to use, plus it's free. Premier is better for actual editing, interface is super easy to use with a little bit of studying and tutorials it just becomes second nature.

Look at the rocket jump film school on youtube. Tons of good video making tips

>>17002861
Also don't worry about dollies and shit until you're really into it, a wheelchair or rolling chair is just as good.

Seinheiser and Rode mics are really good. Rode makes a battery powered, dslr mount-ready microphone that fairly cheap. Buy a dead cat microphone cover to record in the wind without too much interference.

If you really wanna drop some cash. Get a DJi Osmo. 4k, gimball, gyroscope, and super easy to use. Connects to your phone and uses an app to control the video settings, recording settings, and various other tweaks. They're super good for cinematic shots

>>17002885
Appreciate the tips anon.
The Canon T5i sounds like a great start.
The program I've been dabbling with is Sony Vegas.
I used it to chop up a few webcam videos, nothing I couldn't have done on movie maker, but it seems pretty easy to use and pretty acclaimed.
DaVinci? I'll have to check that out.
And a wheelchair! Never thought of that.

>>17002843
Fucking bigots am I right?? Let me guess that dumb bitch is voting for trump?? She should know that shes on the wrong side of history, and only delaying progress.

>>17002847
Nah, I'm European. She just has some really weird views about gay people. She's not even a hardcore Christian or anything.

>>17002851
Not very tolerant of her Tbh. She should follow Merkel's teachings and be a better, more accepting woman.