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For a long time I thought I had simply grown out of holding resentment for other people. I'm a senior in university and haven't really felt lingering dislike since I was in high school. I've got a lot of emotional flaws, fear of intimacy, pathological lying, overall insecurity, but hate seemed like something that I had just conquered.

Then I started working at starbucks. I could probably go on a several paragraph rant about two of my co-workers but I really don't want to indulge in that kind of emotion. In short, I have so much disdain for them that sometimes I just imagine cutting them or watching them burn up in flames. That's seriously not healthy and I really dislike myself for letting thoughts like that enter my head but oh god do that happen often

Maybe its because I'm just not used to disliking people I work with and are stuck around for multiple hours at a time. I don't know, how should I approach these feelings and go back to when they weren't a part of my life?

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is it normal for a doctor to borderline yell at you during a pregnancy scare? I went in saying I found out I had a condom break and she basically told me to get my life together and get a fucking job etc etc, I left the office crying. Made me feel like shit because I'm finally at a point in my life where I'm feeling okay, I just applied to college and i know what I want to do blah blah blah
guess I'm just a little upset and scared about the whole thing, really wasn't expecting to get eaten out about it

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I'm 20 years old and my dad left my family when I was 8. Haven't heard from him since. My mom hates guys and tells me to stay away from them because they suck, good for nothing, etc. But I talk to guys and see them without her knowing.
I let them use me for sex then after I feel horrible. When I stop hanging out with them it's like what's the point in doing anything, why even wake up in the morning. I enjoy the attention, love, and being with someone who has an interest in me. But to them I'm just another girl. I feel like shit when things don't go right between me and the guy. I also feel like shit when I have no one to talk to or be with.

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Hey /adv/, I'm looking into taking the plunge and starting online dating. But what's the best site to use? Do certain types of people use different sites? Any tips for particular sites? Any information would be helpful, thank you.

If you need some info, I'm male, 20 years old, and living in Britbong land. Pic unrelated, of course.

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>straight A student for my whole life
>work my ass off in high school
>5th in a class of 400
>get into honors program at a pretty good NYS university
>in the middle of 6th semester of college
>suddenly can't bring myself to focus on my schoolwork
>straight up didn't hand in an assignment earlier in the semester because idgaf
>only worth 5%
>whatever
>due date finally comes
>panicking like mad
>realize i have a fucking problem
>ashamed at what I did
>apologize profusely to professor
>"I don't know what happened, but I just couldn't bring myself to finish up the assignment. This has never happened to me. I have a 3.95 GPA."
>she's understably confused, but she accepts what i said and is super encouraging about me getting my shit together
>i honorably accept the 0% on the rough draft
>sign up to get free counseling provided by my university
>talk to counselor about finding a healthy balance in my life
>for a few days, i actually believe that i've found the resolve to get my shit together
>get outstanding feedback on final version of that paper
>ace next couple of assessments for classes
>spring break
>do absolutely nothing again
>another rough draft due for another class that's worth 5% of my grade
>haven't done shit
>due in about 20 hours
>already contemplating just not doing it in favor of watching TV and getting a good night's sleep instead

What the fuck is wrong with me, /adv/?
I feel like my discipline has completely degraded. I can barely bring myself to do the things that I have to do anymore. I'm completely disinterested in everything that relates to school and my future as a member of the workforce. My friends and peers are all constantly applying to exciting internships and programs, and I've just decided to take a summer class and work at my shitty old desk job at home to avoid having to exert any effort searching for a better opportunity.

I'm scared that this will get out of control. What should I do to start getting my shit together?

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>Told myself i'd kill myself if things ever got this bad
>They're this bad
>I can't do it
Like, ha!

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>Have GF of 3 years
>Hang out with other girl a lot for a few months
>Get pretty sure she's attracted to you, try to gain vanity from it, even though you wouldn't act on it because you love your GF
>Still want to know for sure she's attracted to you mainly for the thrill of it but it starts to develop a "what if" kind of thinking, get guilt from it
>Today hang out with her, she's unhappy in her own relationship, ask advice, keeps mentioning someone else she's attracted to
>Pretty sure it's me
>I ask deliberately if it's me because I feel there's some chemistry between us
>She says it isn't, it's actually a friend of mine she barely interacts with ! She says he's just a way of getting away from her relatonship which have many issues (long distance for 5 years)
>Since I'm not single don't care much from it but still my ego is hurt
>We both don't care and still consider ourselves friends, obviously she doesn't judge me since she's in the same situation.

Now I wouldn't have acted on it but I was mad. 1h after I didn't care and realized my relationship was much, MUCH important.

I confessed this to my GF. She told me it was harmless, just normal pride.

But I DID left out the part when I confronted the girl about being attracted to me. Just told her it made me mad, that I wanted her to be attracted to me. My GF told me there was a difference between temptation and acting on it and she was pretty sure I would never do it (she's right about it).

Was it still an honest confession ? I did tell her about the thrill, the being flattered part. But the fact is that when I confronted this girl I really expected a good outcome and the fact that it wasn't what I thought was just like I was a single guy being turned down (I mentioned that as well, again I only left out the part when I told the girl "well I think maybe I'm the one you're talking about because there's some chemistry between us ?)

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>Be me
>20 years old
>dont like to get out of my house
>just have 1 gf on my live but was a little bitch
>feel very loonely
>want a gf because feels good haave one
>Im very shy to get one
>Im a little fat guy
>whenever I get a good friend (girl), she already likes someone
>Tired to this life
>How i can be a better guy?

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TL;DR GF being annoying

>be me, 19
>meet 15 year old girl
>hit it off start dating

>fast forward
>still dating
>im 23 now, shes 19 now
>out of nowhere she starts accusing me of looking at other girls (younger)
>i havent been

>im into teens yeah, but i date her, and have been faithful

whats her issue? how do i get her to cut this shit out?

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I just understood that I'm photogenic, but nothing likely good looking in real life.
In photos, I'm something what a 7-8, but in real life I doubt it I'm even a 5.

Is there anyway to improve my looks?
I feel like shit.

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Hello /adv/
So I met this girl online 8 months ago and we have talking everyday almost since, but the thing is she lives too far, and I might have fallen for her. She has made it clear, she is not interested in a long distance Relatiosnhip, and I understand it sounds like BS to me honestly what is a long distance relationship anyways? But besides the point, the thing is this chcik is not interested in me and I am way too invested in her, and everytime she sleeps with a new guy, or talks about how badly she fucked someone, or how much she likes another guy, it affects me so much it angers me. Like today she brought up how when she goes to visit Israel soon she wants a fuck fest. It angers me so much, it irritates me, very much.

So how do I stop getting angry, and feeling bitter about the things she does?

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Hello, quick question. So my wife is a stripper, I always was able to give her the trust that it was just a job and paid the bills and not interfere with us. So money has been tight and so on. One night I found that she was not at the club and at rich man's house. I confronted her, she told me to stay out of her life and all that. Then she told me she did the same stuff at work just with a bigger cut. I said OK. I then looked at her search history one day and found spanking and daddy related BDSM role-playing stuff. Furious, I confronted her since porn was off limits for us both. Now she admits that she lied to me and over the course of a month, she was doing sadomasochism stuff with him , beating with a belt, spanking, humiliation, dog collars, calling her slave, her saying she liked to get hit..... I can't get it out of my mind and want to kill this guy. Should I forgive this because she claims it was for money or is this a deal breaker. She claims that she only got off on it afterwords and that's the porn thing and won't show me their messages.

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How do I deal with the fact I'm a monster?

I hate, hate myself and have good reasons for it.

I wish I could say "I'm a good person".

Is there a way to change myself without being someone else?

Is there a way out when you think everything's so fucked up it is irreversible, even if things magically changed to be perfect out of the blue? If yes, what is this way?

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Kush Creams vs. Lidocaine 5% Patch


Please explain why you think so.
Personal stories are always welcome, if you don't mind sharing.
What have you found to be more effective for severe nerve pain? (pharm or MMJ)

For the last week, I've used Kush Creams. Today, I'm using a lidocaine patch and NOT taking outside pain meds (no MMJ, no OTCs). The pain is 10/10 most of the day. I really need help with pain topicals, after my docs are "trying" to help -.-
I take care of the leg with pharm meds from my doc, OTCs, imaging, MMJ, and the kitchen sink (nothing dangerous-stupid).
Again, I'm only holding off on pain meds to test out the lidocaine patch (fewer variables). "Auntie Anonymous" told me to try the lidocaine patch and that it should help significantly. I have heard this a bazillion times from her :( I am in a lot of pain. Your answers may help her or me understand things better.
Thanks for your time.

QUICK RECAP:
Type of Pain to Relieve: major blunt trauma to L leg (tibia)
Muscle damage in calf
Inflammation around point of impact
Sudden shooting nerve pain between knee and big toe
-sciatic nerve branch w Wallerian Degradation (?)
Nerve damage
-(no loss of fxn of leg, basic neuro tests check out fine)
Pain: 10/10 most of the day


Type of Kush Cream: Organic Permafrost
Lidocaine Patch: each patch 700 mg lidocaine in aqueous base

ps: Took forever to write this bc the pain was...

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I'm having trouble to decide wether or not I should be homeschooled. It's my last year in middle school and my class is just horrible. In fact, my whole school is horrible. I fear that high school will be a lot worse with students doing stupid things and probably I would turn into one of them. I've been having trouble in school because of this. And I think I would ending up failing the year and probably go to summer school. Or staying back.
I want to be homeschooled so I can be independent in doing assignments and other work without things or people getting in my way.

Should I be homeschooled?