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I got married in February. My wife is financially well off. I am very well taken care of. I am able to pursue my passions, which mostly is travel.

I am very lucky.

But I still feel a need to fuck strange everywhere I go. My wife and I have great sex, but I can't get past it. The thing is, she trusts me 100%. Before we got married I was fucking around, but she told me I needed to stop. I agreed.

But now I'm not sure I can keep it up.

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However shifty it is, I won't risk the relationship by telling her anything. I have a nearly ideal partner, and my life will be comfortable until the end of my days because of the relationship.

So, what advice do you give?

I'm leaning to just going back to discreet affairs, escorts and one night stands when I travel. But are there any other options one sees? I really feel powerless to this need as it is now.

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I've been with my gf 3.5 years now, and we have a daughter who is 2 in may, our relationship and sex life are pretty good. Recently she started hinting, then more bluntly saying she wants to get married.

There is absolutely no way I will be getting married, and she is starting to get quite sourt about it.

I'm hoping it'll all blow over soon, but other than that, is there anything I can do to make her forget about the idea?

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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:

Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><Random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.

>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.

>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something that cannot be explained. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.

>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing

>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>

>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships.
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking.

>Brandon
Fuck off

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hey, you've got a thing there. right there. its on your chest. yeah right there. should do something about that.

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>at work yesterday
>helped this qt out
>gave her my number on back of business card
>texts me and asks when we are going out to eat
>agree to go out to a bar/lounge tonight
>we agree at 8:30
>doesn't reply to my text on whether she wants me to pick her up or if we'll meet up there
>time comes
>no reply or anything yet
>I text her that i'm here at the bar already
>still no reply
>that was 25 minutes ago

How long before I just leave? On my 2nd beer already.

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me and my boyfriend have been arguing for a couple days now, its getting really bad. when we first got together he told me he didn't tolerate weed smokers, I wasnt a chronic weed smoker so it was easy for me to stop and I haven't done it since. last night i was hanging out w some people who were smoking. I got back to my room and he wanted to see me so we can work things out. when i saw him he was yelling and got pissed because I just smelled of smoke even though i didn't smoke. he yelled that he doesn't want to be with me anymore and threw all my stuff out his room and kicked me out. hes not speaking to me at all. I've been extremely loyal to him. I just feel really bad and don't know what to do. do i stop hanging out with almost all my friends because they smoke? I feel like i have to tiptoe through this relationship because I never want to make him mad . pls help

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Found out my girlfriend slept with a married man at one point.

She knew he was married. Kept in touch via social media for a while.

I'm no saint. Not even close. But I find it pretty morally reprehensible that she did this. I'm pretty disgusted. Even I have standards I won't cross and I'm a slut.

I told her she should feel awful for knowingly betraying someone who didn't deserve it. I also told her she ought to come clean if she is truly sorry. I left it at that.

She says she is remorseful, but I doubt it. She completely let it slide and didn't feel an ounce of guilt. Also being remorseful and sorry without setting things right is pretty empty and useless imo.

I'm not upset she fucked another guy or any of that bullshit. But the fact that she would knowingly violate something so serious and did not feel bad is pretty ugly.

And I don't like ugly.

What's does this tell you about her?

What does this tell you about me?

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Ok guys. I might have fucked up badly. I need to know what to do.
I have been seeing a girl (ok, woman, she's 24) for a couple of months now. She had kinda-sorta moved in with me; she still has her own apartment, but she slept here like, five nights out of seven.
A few hours ago I found out she had been sleeping with her ex the other nights. (A mutual friend told me.)
I asked her about that, she admitted it.
I told her to get out of my apartment, and that we were done. She refused to, and said she was going to pick her stuff up first.
I told her to just get the fuck out. Her stuff could wait until I was less pissed at her.
She still refused.
And I kind of punched her in the face, and threw her out.
Then she spent like half an hour yelling at me through my door about how I was a piece of shit, how she was going to call the police and say I had raped her, and stuff like that.
She has gone away now, and I have no fucking idea what to do.
Also. My hand fucking hurts.
Help?

(Picture unrelated, I just grabbed something.)

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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:

Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><Random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.

>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.

>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something that cannot be explained. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.

>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing

>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>

>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships.
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking.

>Brandon
Fuck off

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>We get it, you didn't do too hot with the ladies in middle school/high school and you missed the boat for sexual/social experimentation


Fuck. I'm not him but that's exactly it. I never got to have any wild carefree middle/highschool teenage fuck fun or anything like apparently everyone else did and it's killing me inside. To this day I still have never gotten to fuck. I'm going to be 19 in a month and a half and yeah technically 19 is still a teenager so I still have a bit over a year but I just don't know. I don't know how to achieve that stuff, I can't get into bars or clubs because not 21, I couldn't get into any fraternities so I can't get into any parties, so the only other option is to get a girlfriend. I've lost a shit ton of weight and I'm losing even more and I'm going to put on muscle, I'm wearing fashionable clothes, have an undercut, all of that, I'm even going to try to get a summer job this summer.


But god damnit all I want in life is to get to fuck, no condom. I don't want money, or drugs, or alcohol (all of which I have offered to me all the time), I don't want boats, or cars, or houses, or clothes, or food, or anything. I just wanna fuck.
It's like a nightmare I can't wake up from.


I need serious help, just what the hell do I do?
Have I been stunted by missing out on all of that? Am I pre-emptively at a disadvantage or something? Is there even anything I can do anymore?

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My girlfriend and I really want to have bareback sex without the fear of pregnancy. The only problem is we don't like the idea of all these pills and meds that fuck with her hormones and either make her fat, moody or change the chemicals in her head. She's been completely heathy pretty much her whole life. I love her too much to make her go on one of these things as well because I know what this shit does to women (it effects all of them one way or another in all my years with women). I don't like the implications of the long term potential damage it can do to one's health (especially newer, less long-term tested drugs).

Then the other options are the surgeries for the IUD's, which also....aren't appealing, especially with all the horror stories. And she's not crazy about having a thing staying inside of her.

Is there ANYTHING we can do? I've tried looking up things and various other options. I've also found recently that there's male birth control on the way and I'm not even sure how to feel about that either.

Basically, this is what we want. To be able to have sex the old fashioned way, blow a load in her like nature intended, without the fear of pregnancy and hormonal screwing around/health issues. Thank you

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To summarize, I can't figure out how to get laid on my own, I'm making friends with guys who seem to have it down, the end of the semester is rapidly approaching, if I get to the end and I feel like I'm close to, but not quite there yet, to the level of them liking me to let them know about my situation to try to get them to help me, should I tell them? Or should I wait until next semester and continue to work on them longer and then tell them?

Also finals take place May 5th through the 13th, around how long before then will people go into maximum over study mode? (which basically means all social contact is over and then they immediately go home once exams are done)

Because if I'm going to tell them it has to be before then

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People don't like me

roommates don't like me and go out without me and don't invite me. They care about each other but not me, even when I overdosed they only begrudgingly called an ambulance

I try to make small talk with the woman threading my eyebrows and she gets annoyed at me

A guy was really nice to me and seemed to like me but then when he got drunk he says he didn't really want to have me around but felt obliged to be 'accommodating'

Someone who I thought I was really close to suddenly stopped talking to me months ago

A guy who had sex with me always makes sure to let me know that he's not my boyfriend. I've never had a boyfriend, no one has wanted to date me

Someone said they would add me on facebook but he didn't accept my friend request.

All I do is smile and try to talk to people and they just don't like me no matter what I try.

How do I deal with this?

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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.

Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><Random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.

>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.

>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something we cannot explain to you. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.

>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing

>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>

>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships.
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking.

>Brandon
Fuck off